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Is it possible to let go of being sad or upset about a big something, a little something, one of those I’m-sure-I-got-screwed-in-there-somehow something? Asking for a friend, and for all of humanity, and yes, I’m asking for myself, too. I’m sad and tired and upset, maybe more than ever. No, that’s not really true. I’ve been more […]

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  • Ryan Peter Perez - Of course being upset is what changes the world, I couldn’t agree more. Isn’t the saying…”our biggest motivation is our despiration?” When I see families walking in support of awareness, or speaking up for their children when they cant do it for themselves or when a mom looks for alternative forms of medicine because they realize that a well behaved child isnt the product of a pill. It all falls back on the fact that “Being upset is What Changes the World.” Its our duty to advocate and fight! Stay strong.February 10, 2017 – 10:11 pmReplyCancel

    • Kristi Campbell - I don’t think I’ve heard the saying ”our biggest motivation is our desperation,” but I like it and suspect that it’s very very accurate. Thanks so much for your thoughtful comment.February 11, 2017 – 8:29 pmReplyCancel

  • Out One Ear - Linda Atwell - #resist
    She was warned. She was given an explanation. Nevertheless, she persisted.
    This is my new motto.
    I love your title: Truly, maybe being upset does change the world. I sure hope so.
    We are strong together, Kristi! We are strong together.
    Hugs.February 10, 2017 – 10:43 pmReplyCancel

    • Kristi Campbell - It’s a good motto, Linda. For sure. Here’s to being strong together. And huge hugs right back.February 11, 2017 – 8:30 pmReplyCancel

  • Kerry - Facebook is one of those things. I took a mostly 45 break for my birthday today, meaning I did not read any stories starring the US pres today, but I did receive a lot of lovely HB messages on Facebook from friends. The first would have made me upset, but I got so much from friends. I see how being upset can help, but it can hurt too. To what degree do we take being upset and allow it to spur us on to action? You even deserve a late start with this place, as you are so dedicated to it come Thursday nights, but a lot of things right now are getting you upset and I’ve seen that. It’s okay. We all get it and I hope I can translate my feelings of upset into something like you’ve done here. I’m going to try. Thanks Kristi. We can feel upset together and all make a difference, somehow. You’ll see.February 10, 2017 – 11:24 pmReplyCancel

    • Kristi Campbell - I think you’re right Kerry. I do think that not feeling alone when we’re upset helps a lot. It also helps to spur action and new ideas on what we can do when it feels helpless and hopeless.
      I’m happy to read that you took a 45 break (don’t know that term) that allowed you to get all wonderful happy birthday messages from Facebook but ignore any crappy news feeds about the cray cray DT tweeting about gigantic conflicts of interest, like why it’s not okay for a business to stop carrying a clothing line that nobody wants! (oops – rant barely averted).
      Happy birthday again, friend!February 11, 2017 – 8:32 pmReplyCancel

  • Lisa @TheGoldenSpoons - I do believe it is upset people who make changes. Whether we agree or disagree with the outcome – it was people upset with the previous administration that voted for this one. Regardless of “sides,” it really does make me sad that these political times are so divisive and upset-inducing. And, oh Facebook – I almost can’t even go there these days.February 11, 2017 – 11:32 amReplyCancel

    • Kristi Campbell - It makes me sad, too, Lisa. FB is crazy. But it’s also helpful when stuff happens (at least for me) that makes me be like WAIT WHAT???? It’s like a mini-validation that I’m not crazy. Still though. UGH.February 11, 2017 – 8:42 pmReplyCancel

  • Kenya G. Johnson - I read this this morning, but I don’t trust commenting from my phone.

    I just LOVE your last line. That is the truth isn’t it? I tend to withdraw and that accomplishes nothing but making me feel sad and secluded. At the same time I need the secluded breaks from all the noise.

    Yes to hearing a baby’s heartbeat! And oh yes to seeing the heartbeat flicker when you thought you’ve had a miscarriage and the fetus is too little for the heartbeat to be heard.February 11, 2017 – 5:03 pmReplyCancel

    • Kristi Campbell - Hey Kenya, yeah, I think it’s easier to withdraw. Honestly, I haven’t paid attention the way I pay attention now like, ever, which makes it tempting to withdraw. But then I sit here and get all mad and Robert comes home and I cry about it and getting on FB sometimes and seeing other people are also not okay with certain things makes it somehow better.
      AND OH WOW. I can just imagine the elation of seeing the flicker of a heartbeat when you weren’t sure it’d be there!! MAGIC.February 11, 2017 – 8:45 pmReplyCancel

  • Emily - Perfectly said…you mentioned Facebook and seeing the upset all over Facebook and it’s so true. In some ways, it makes it harder for me because my entire feed seems to be filled with angry and upset people and sometimes I just want to turn it all off, but on the other hand, it shows that people care — and that is more important and continues to give me hope that the world will continue to change, but that there are enough people out there who will make sure it changes for the good.February 12, 2017 – 11:19 amReplyCancel

    • Kristi Campbell - I so hope you’re right about the upset people making changes. Some of what’s going on these days is simply unbelievable. GAH.February 15, 2017 – 5:36 pmReplyCancel

You’re familiar with mindfulness, meditation, and self care, but not because you’ve consciously practiced them. Decide to practice them. Sit on your floor in the quiet, hands placed just-so on your knees, and tell your brain to be still. It’ll be anything but. Should you move house for a bigger yard? Your ankle itches. Is it wrong […]

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  • Debi - Netflix is self-care. Walking is self-care. Candy Crush is self-care. My self-care is all of those things, plus also chopping bright colored vegetables and admiring them before they cook. For real. It’s weird, but it works for me. You do you! 🙂February 2, 2017 – 10:15 pmReplyCancel

    • Kristi Campbell - Here’s to Netflix and walking. And hey, if chopping bright colored vegetables works for you, go for it. We have to take what we can get in this world today for sure.February 3, 2017 – 8:26 pmReplyCancel

  • Zoe - OMG. ALL so true…remember when I went to see the monk on the mountain? He farted in the middle of the conversation then stepped outside to air out his robes!!! When I. Was teaching meditation I used to tell people distraction was normal because if youre not literally deaf, try not to hear a car drive by or some other noise….better yet …right now ….try to stop thinking about pink elephants with purple polkadots! This was great! Im gonna send the link to a few students.February 3, 2017 – 2:18 amReplyCancel

    • Kristi Campbell - I DO remember the monk on the mountain! LOL to airing out his robes. That was quite mindful of him, I’d say. I’m NOT thinking about pink elephants with purple polkadots. I’M NOT. Thanks huge for sending the link. You’re wonderful.February 3, 2017 – 8:28 pmReplyCancel

  • Kenya G. Johnson - I think the only way for me to silence “distracting” is to listen to music that has lyrics and that’s not exactly meditating is it? That’s pretty much the only time I don’t think about a million other things is if I’m singing. I guess singing and thinking of things is like patting your head and rubbing your tummy. It’s really bad that I don’t listen to anything in the car so that I can think and say things out loud for Siri to remind me of. Self care for me would be turning the radio on.

    LOVE LOVE LOVE This Is Us!!!February 3, 2017 – 10:14 amReplyCancel

    • Kristi Campbell - Hey woman. Whatever works works, right? Are you a good singer? I love belting out along with songs but I’m horribly off-key. Also I think listening to music with lyrics counts for self-care. Maybe, that’s just me but I forget all about everything in the world when I’m engrossed in a song. Tucker does the same, although he runs laps, too… which I think is his version. I keep meaning to film it.
      AND YES THIS IS US! I was sad there was no episode this week!February 3, 2017 – 9:15 pmReplyCancel

      • Kenya G. Johnson - Yes I was super disappointed now show this week. I usually watch the next day and got myself all set up with a laundry basket full of clothes and so I didn’t fold either. I’m one of those “I can sing in the shower” people. I can hold a tune but I’d never try karaoke and be serious about it.February 3, 2017 – 9:29 pmReplyCancel

        • Kristi Campbell - I did karaoke one time only. The DJ got on stage with me because that’s how badly I sucked. Why new show this week, anyway?? Here’s to next week.February 3, 2017 – 10:03 pmReplyCancel

  • Dana - Reading is self-care for me – meditation just doesn’t seem my speed. But when I’m reading, I forget everything else, and that’s just what I need!

    A woman in front of me in class at the gym yesterday farted, and it was all I could do not to laugh. That’s reason #1 I don’t take yoga.February 3, 2017 – 2:58 pmReplyCancel

    • Kristi Campbell - Reading is HUGE for me. I’d not done enough of it for the past few years but I’ve read my entire life, and am back into it again. I’m listening to Yellow Crocus right now on audio books… don’t know if you’re the one who told me about that or not, but if not you, it’s AMAZING. I’m also reading- reading The Ramblers. I think I like it but I’m not as sucked into it as I am Yellow Crocus.
      I forget everything else when reading too. AND LOL to the woman farting in front of you. Did she look embarrassed???February 3, 2017 – 9:42 pmReplyCancel

  • Rabia @ The Liebers - I’m pretty sure I’d get sidetracked by farts and crumbs too. Or else I’d fall asleep!!February 3, 2017 – 4:00 pmReplyCancel

  • Yvonne - Yay, love it Kristi! I’ve been meditating for years, and I still have times like yours sometimes! 🙂 But it is worth it, and taking a humorous look at mediation is definitely a cool thing to do! I have a feeling the Dalai Lama himself would approve!February 3, 2017 – 6:04 pmReplyCancel

    • Kristi Campbell - Thanks, Yvonne! I love the idea that the Dali Lama himself would approve!!! xoxoFebruary 3, 2017 – 10:00 pmReplyCancel

  • Kenya G. Johnson - Lol Dana! I think in yoga class I’d be meditating on not farting.February 3, 2017 – 9:31 pmReplyCancel

  • Echo - Our thought processes are so similar, hahaha! Seriously! “Take 5 minutes for yourself” and then, I have a hard time going more than 2 minutes without overthinking or worrying! It’s all just the Sanitarium in our own minds and sometimes, Whiskey in a Jar is the best little escape!February 5, 2017 – 10:17 amReplyCancel

    • Kristi Campbell - OMG the whole Sanitarium in our own minds!!!! Here’s to Whiskey in a Jar. We deserve it, mama.February 5, 2017 – 9:41 pmReplyCancel

  • Louise - Oh I loved this. I saw your prompt this week and thought about posting to it – but had a basketball game I was supposed to go to. But it had been such a long week, so I didn’t. That felt like self-care. Lieing on the couch eating Smartfood and having a glass of wine with my kids (they weren’t having wine – just the SmartFood) and watching ET. That felt like self-care.

    Oh – and there were fart jokes. Seven year old girls think they are funny too. And changing the song from Trolls to apply for those times when “I’ve got that feelin’, inside my bum….”

    Okay, by this stage this could almost have been my link up post. But I just don’t have it in me. Because – self-care, y’all. Not laziness.February 5, 2017 – 7:02 pmReplyCancel

    • Kristi Campbell - Watching ET, eating Smartfood and drinking wine sounds like perfect self care to me!!! Seriously. Here’s to fart jokes. I remember them as being funny as a kid, too, so I know it’s not a “boy” thing. Maybe it’s just a human thing until somebody farts near your food! LOL.
      Here’s to self care. If you decide to post it later, let me know and I’ll link it after the fact. xoFebruary 5, 2017 – 9:44 pmReplyCancel

  • Kerry - I love this fun window into your thoughts on self care Kristi. Walks and cuddles and deep breathing and ice cold water and so much more. Life is stressful, these days especially. Great sentence fragment this week. Extremely applicable.February 6, 2017 – 1:53 amReplyCancel

    • Kristi Campbell - Thanks, Kerry!!! Life is mega stressful. But also simple somehow right? Like we all worry about farting during meditation 😉February 6, 2017 – 11:13 pmReplyCancel

  • Allie G smith - I giggled through out this post. Momma, I’ve had the exact same experience when attempting to meditate. I don’t get it!??! But I wish I did.February 6, 2017 – 6:09 pmReplyCancel

    • Kristi Campbell - YAY for giggling, Allie!!! I am SO NOT GOOD at meditating. Maybe one day. But, probably not…February 6, 2017 – 11:14 pmReplyCancel

  • Colin - This is very funny and so true! Stuff you usually try to avoid thinking about tend to sprout up when you’re trying everything you can to space out and meditate! LOLFebruary 17, 2017 – 11:29 amReplyCancel

“Anybody can become angry – that is easy, but to be angry with the right person and to the right degree and at the right time and for the right purpose, and in the right way – that is not within everybody’s power and is not easy.” Aristotle I close Facebook without reading notifications or […]

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  • Emily - I think your dad’s advice is very wise…however, I know firsthand how incredibly hard it is to keep anger in check when it has to do with our child being left out (or teased or whatever it may be)…I have heard knitting is relaxing…January 26, 2017 – 10:22 pmReplyCancel

    • Kristi Campbell - I wonder if knitting is fun… I’m not a very crafty person but maybe it’s time to check it out. And yeah, nothing like our kids getting whatever-it-is to bring out the inner beast in parents I suppose!January 27, 2017 – 12:50 pmReplyCancel

  • JY Walters - I have so been there and realize it is about me needing everyone to love my son. He does not require it because he does not love everyone.

    Tucker will be fine with it. As Mom’s we bare their scars.

    I think the world needs to calm down about the great divider politics and focus on loving each other. We do that and we have everyone beat. Managing from the bottom up.

    Anger is not a constructive emotion but it does help creativity. But I struggle with this too because I am passionate about the world.

    Love you but Tucker will be fine. You may have a stroke but Tucker is okay. Have a date with you Mickey glass! It heals many wounds!!January 26, 2017 – 10:35 pmReplyCancel

    • Kristi Campbell - I like your idea of focusing on loving each other. That’s always a good good thing. And I know T will be fine… Cheers (from the Mickey glass!).January 27, 2017 – 12:51 pmReplyCancel

  • Allie G smith - Just take some deep breaths. I’m on a FB sabitical because it stresses me out way too much.January 27, 2017 – 6:55 amReplyCancel

  • Kenya G. Johnson - Oh that no invite and how it played out stinks! At least it was one on one, a smaller blow, easier to roll off. Did Tucker bring it up again? Love your dad’s talk. That’s one of the things that we know deep down but it’s so clear when someone sits us down and to lay out truth so we can see it clearly.January 29, 2017 – 8:46 amReplyCancel

    • Kristi Campbell - Yeah, that invite decline was hard. It turned out to be less than a party and more of a sleep-over with a few preschool friends but still. Yikes. Tucker brought it up a few times but I think and hope he’s okay after I learned what was going on from the kid’s mom….
      and Yeah, we know about the anger but so need to remember that it only hurts us. I struggle with that a lot.January 29, 2017 – 10:25 pmReplyCancel

  • Rabia @ The Liebers - I am struggling with this too. I don’t want to turn off or ignore things, but I can’t stay this engaged and still function normally! I’m struggling to find the “happy” medium.January 30, 2017 – 4:03 pmReplyCancel

    • Kristi Campbell - Here’s to each of us finding the happy medium. Sometimes so hard though right?January 31, 2017 – 10:50 pmReplyCancel

  • Dana - A big ouch to the party invite…helping our kids navigate friendships is one of the hardest parts of parenting.

    I get your anger – Matt asks me why I watch the news and get on FB if it just makes me agitated. I feel like I need to bear witness, and that my anger and frustration can be motivating. To a point, though. After that, as you say, it just hurts us. Ugh.January 31, 2017 – 3:11 pmReplyCancel

    • Kristi Campbell - UGH to the party invite. It sucked. I know what you mean about watching/not watching the news and FB. It’s like we have to know but knowing is very upsetting these days. I’m going to scream if DeVos isn’t stopped. Seriously. But she’s just the one thing I’m on right now. ALL of it is just horrifying. UGH is right. Lunch soon?January 31, 2017 – 10:54 pmReplyCancel

  • Out One Ear - Linda Atwell - Oh Kristi—I’m so angry too. And I know my being angry will not change anyone. It will change me because I will harden my heart and will avoid the news so I don’t have to hear stuff that makes me angrier. That doesn’t mean I won’t stay informed. But ten years ago, in the fall after my husband just retired, the market crashed. Big time. And every night on the news (and all day long, too), I heard about people losing their houses and jobs and going bankrupt and we were both frozen with fear and anger and more anger. The more I watched, the more fear and anger we felt. Then I realized. We own our house. We are retired. Although I was concerned about those that were suffering, the state of the economy really wasn’t affecting us and I stopped watching the news. Years later I read a book, Three Simple Steps. It talked about people’s happiness related to how much they watched the news. That most of the news predictions never came true for most people. The less news, the happier they were. Trump is a totally different situation, though.

    Having been in Mexico for the past twenty-some days, with little access to TV, my only source of media is FB and a bit of CNN snippets. I am somewhat aware of all the ugliness, but at this moment, it is distant. When I get home on Saturday, I’m sure all this ugliness with come rushing back. I am not a Trump supporter. He will never be my President. I will do what it takes to have my voice heard, but I will not let his ugliness destroy me. I know you won’t either. Hugs, my friend. Hugs.

    p.s. I am so, so sad about the party invite. Sometimes though, I think it bothers (us) parents more than it bothers our kids. Did your son ask about it later? Lindsey had those kinds of things happen, but she never seemed to be as frustrated as I was. I hope that is the case for Tucker, too. I truly hope his heart was not hurt.January 31, 2017 – 6:20 pmReplyCancel

    • Kristi Campbell - Hi Linda,
      Thanks for this. It was a good reminder to me about the crash 10 years ago. At that point, I was at the peak of my career and didn’t feel very affected and didn’t watch much of the news. I think there’s something to be said for not watching. I’ve been obsessing about all of it – DeVos, others, the horrible haters, and if I didn’t know about it all, the truth is that my day-to-day is fairly the same. The flip side though is that so many people of other religions and skin colors are being denied basic human rights and for that I feel like I HAVE to watch, you know?
      I know that so many of us won’t let DT destroy us or this country where we welcome people with special needs, with differing viewpoints, all of it.
      Hugs right back to you. Huge ones.
      Re: the invite. Tucker was upset but way less upset than I was. Later, we found out that his friend had a sleepover with a few preschool friends he doesn’t see often and that it wasn’t a birthday party party… If his heart was hurt, it was only briefly. He asked whether he could have the same boy over today after school… so he’s certainly not angry, which is a good thing…
      In all your travels… COME TO DC!January 31, 2017 – 11:00 pmReplyCancel

      • out One Ear - Linda Atwell - I know this is different. So we must stay vigilant. I hope things change soon because I can’t stand the hate this man spews. It does not represent me. 🙂January 31, 2017 – 11:40 pmReplyCancel

Yesterday, my alarm woke me at 6:30 a.m. Usually, weekend mornings are reserved for getting up naturally, sans-alarms (okay, who am I kidding – I wake when my seven-year-old wakes up unless my husband’s home, in which case I sleep as late as possible). But I woke, because I was marching for the future! Excited and nervous, I […]

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  • Linda Atwell - Out One Ear - awesome. awesome. awesome. So glad it was an incredible experience. We will win this fight agains this horrible man. (I hope). Our voices will not be silent.
    Hooray for you!January 22, 2017 – 10:11 pmReplyCancel

    • Kristi Campbell - Thank you Linda! I’m SO GLAD that I went. I almost didn’t, fearing the worst but I witnessed nothing but love and strength and acceptance there. It was a beautiful thing. xoJanuary 23, 2017 – 8:04 pmReplyCancel

  • JT Walters - I agree on DeVoss however the train which you speak of runs through blue states. There is not a train to DC for the Midwest or the South that carried Trump. Is it fair to judge based on attendance.

    Wouldn’t it have been more constructive to mobilize the Democrat vote before Teumo won instead of protesting afterwards?? When have protests ever worked in this country?

    You make a great point about Trump’s wife being an immigrant. She followed the immigration laws of this country and married an American citizen. Why is that too much to ask of everyone else? His wife is an immigrant that followed the rules and now is fist lady.

    Is Trymp so bad for women? Did Barack Obama or Bill Clinton make equal pay for women? Speaking of Bill Clinton he is an accused rapist and inserted a cigar in a young interns private parts…what selective memories everyone has!!

    No one is against gay rights although protests may turn the tide on that one.

    And the gratitous vocabulary used? Don’t you think it hurt the women’s cause? The point could be made just as readily using soft language.

    I am happy you are happy and excited. Madonna drew a target on her own back. The government is as the government is. It’s nature will not change. They had people taking pictures of protesters in the crowd.

    To me, it seems like closing the door after the horse has run out of the barn. It will not change the outcome of the very predictable election. Trump is president for the next four years and whether you like it or not, that is the reality. DeVoss will more than likely be appointed and neither of us is happy about that.

    And Barack Obama shipped a lot of brown skin people back to their country of origin or another country but that is forgotten too.

    I am glad you marched and had fun but what did you accomplish? I love you so I am asking…besides pissing off the new president or highlighting yourself to the secret service????

    Did you actually accomplish anything? Is Trump more or less likely to take a softer position on equal pay, civil rights, immigration reform or anything else you mentioned or is he more likely to have a hard stance. You realize Saudi Arabia, Sharia Law, organized the march and they do not give a damn about women’s rights. Twitter works both ways!

    What did this Match accomplish? The world no longer owns POTUS!!! That ship has sailed.January 23, 2017 – 4:58 amReplyCancel

    • Wendy Hahn - We showed the world that Trump’s presidency is not normal, is not a mandate or a blank check from the American people. We are another huge asterisk behind his title of POTUS 45. We do not agree with his agenda, including his intentions to drop sanctions against Putin and his Russian cronies. We drew more people than the protests for the Vietnam War. Donald Trump likely won’t change his behavior, but people in Congress have another election cycle coming up in 2018. We will learn from the Tea Party to call our senators and representatives, to show up at town hall meetings. We will stand together for issues that on the surface only relate to one group because we’re in this together. Diverse groups can be united in their opposition. Saturday was a pledge of sorts and men showed up alongside women.January 23, 2017 – 5:38 amReplyCancel

      • JT Walters - I am not in the Tea Party but again protests do very little to change anything and there was violence during these protests which makes them less credible.

        Showing up to town hall meetings and meeting with your Congressman will have even less effect.

        I am a woman and think we deserve equal pay but I am not certain protests are the way to 9btain equality for anyone?

        You had more people in DC than during Vietnam? Based on what? Did you sign a registers? Is the Hilary will win the election by a land slide Math?

        It looked like a DNC backed revolt. It did not look like a legitimate anything because of the gratitous language, violent threats and violence.

        I hope you are right and everyone keeps it up but I doubt it.

        Those asterisks behind Trumps (45$ may kill your causes. Where you were not targets before you may have made yourself ones.

        I am for progress but constructively for all. It also does not help your cause the organizer was a woman from Saudi Arabia where every America is treated like a second class citizen even when sponsored. It looked like Saudi Arabia attacked POTUS.

        Donald Trump was a liberal right until the liberals turned on him. Now God knows what he will do.

        The Tea Party I was told is an educational group and not actually a party. I believe they’d had IRS issues over this very topic. Even those associated will tell you it is an educational group. Still yet, they never protested a Democrats Inaiguration. I am just saying!!

        Whether you like it or not he is everyone’s president and you do not revolt against the president.January 23, 2017 – 8:37 amReplyCancel

        • JT Walters - I love liberals, Dems and everybody. I just want your voices to be heard in the most constructive possible manner for all of humanity. I do not agree with everything Trump has done either not have I ever agreed a 100% with anyone.

          I just want all of you heard. Love and Peace to all of you my friends. I admire your courage but really think some of the March killed your message.

          Best of Luck, love and peace dear friends. I want your messages heard. Enough said!! JTJanuary 23, 2017 – 8:47 amReplyCancel

      • Kristi Campbell - YES – what Wendy said! We will stand together.January 23, 2017 – 8:34 pmReplyCancel

    • Kristi Campbell - JT – Yes, it’s fair to judge based on attendance. More people showed up to the same location for the march than for his inauguration. That is a fact. Bill Clinton inserted a cigar into a CONSENTING ADULT woman’s privates. I do not condone affairs but Trump is accused or raping a 13yo girl and has too many pending lawsuits to count.
      I accomplished showing up, and for all of the frightened people, us showing up matters. I accomplished being there, which made me feel less alone as well. The ship of him being in office has sailed. The ship of him not making a mockery of the United States of America has not.January 23, 2017 – 8:33 pmReplyCancel

      • JT Walters - If you are happy then I am happy for you. I had not heard about raping a 13yo…I’ll check on that.

        My point was I thought your message was valid but could have been delivered a bit more effectively. Sorry, Palestinian woman commented to Hamas not Saudi Arabia.

        I just do not know what any protest ever produced besides anger and resentment.

        We will agree to disagree on the Math.

        You know I am neutral and have way more Democratic friends than Republican.January 23, 2017 – 9:00 pmReplyCancel

  • Janine Huldie - I cannot say enough how proud I am of all the women and men that marched on Saturday. Seriously, my heart was just so filled with love seeing all the pics and video footage I saw. Everything you said by the way, I just couldn’t agree with more and continue to hope and pray that we can indeed make a difference and our voices can and will be heard. Thank you my friend for marching and standing up for what you believe it <3January 23, 2017 – 6:52 amReplyCancel

    • Kristi Campbell - Thank you Janine!!! I’m so proud of everybody as well and my bucket of hope has been re-filled. xoxo <3January 23, 2017 – 8:35 pmReplyCancel

  • Emily - From what you and other people that I know marched said, it was such an uplifting, peaceful, unifying experience…I Do hope that the message from all the marches was heard in Washington…like is he even in touch and listening? And if he does hear, does he care? UGH. And btw, that sign: “I make the best signs…” HIlarious and perfect. My other favorite that I saw posted on social media was, “I can’t believe we still have to protest this shit.”January 23, 2017 – 12:27 pmReplyCancel

    • Kristi Campbell - Emily,
      I have no idea whether he “gets it” but feel like he heard based on yesterday’s news about his stupid ranty angry tweets… LOL to “I make the best signs!” We saw a guy with a sign saying “I love my mom” and his mom had one of the ones saying “I can’t believe we still have to protest this shit!” LOVE.January 23, 2017 – 8:37 pmReplyCancel

  • Christine Carter - I am SO PROUD OF YOU FOR GOING!! I can only imagine how powerful the experience was for you and ALL the people who showed up all over the country and the world. <3January 23, 2017 – 12:56 pmReplyCancel

    • Kristi Campbell - Chris, it was AMAZING and empowering and just overall awesome. Seriously. <3January 23, 2017 – 8:37 pmReplyCancel

  • Kenya G. Johnson - I’m smiling from ear to ear! So glad you got to experience this. Thank you for your words that support me, support us, each one of us and ALL. Love you!!!January 23, 2017 – 3:13 pmReplyCancel

    • Kristi Campbell - Kenya, I’m so happy this made you smile! Lord knows we all could use some more smiles these days!!! LOVE YOU! Here’s to each and every human remembering that EVERYBODY deserves respect, love, and equality. xoxoJanuary 23, 2017 – 8:39 pmReplyCancel

  • Allie G smith - Proud of you Kristi. I think one of the extraordinary things about the March was that there wasn’t one arrest. It was done with love, humor and class (well, except for maybe Madonna, lol). I really hope that Congress is able to hold him off on the insanity. As you know, most of my family is conservative, and they are appalled. My husband even admitted to me that he thinks Obama was classiest president that our country’s ever had. I’ll turn him by the next election cycle 😘.January 23, 2017 – 4:20 pmReplyCancel

    • Kristi Campbell - Aw thanks, Allie! I agree – the peacefulness and unity was so so obvious. People moved out of the way for wheelchairs and older people. People smiled at one another. It was life-changing. And I agree that Obama is such a classy president and man. Same with Michelle. The difference between them and this new couple? UGH. Here’s to turning him by the next election (your husband that is) <3January 23, 2017 – 8:41 pmReplyCancel

  • Mo - I marched in Chicago. Like you, I was a bit nervous about the possibility of crazy fanatics causing trouble or danger but there was none of that. As in DC, ours was a joyful group brought together by our desire to defend our country from those who threaten to destroy its foundation. The experience was truly amazing.January 24, 2017 – 12:07 pmReplyCancel

    • Kristi Campbell - I’m so happy to read that your experience marching was amazing as well. Honestly, for how anxious I was about crazy people ruining it – I saw nothing at all but love and inspiration. Zero violence, zero taunting… it was such an incredible experience.January 27, 2017 – 9:07 amReplyCancel

  • Michele Vaughn - LOVE this! I’m so glad you were there, so glad you were there with Wendy, and so glad you wrote this. Thanks for standing up. I’m proud to stand with you. xoxoJanuary 24, 2017 – 3:16 pmReplyCancel

    • Kristi Campbell - XXOO Michele! I’m so glad I was there too. And with Wendy! Here’s to standing up. To making the phone calls. To all of it. xxooJanuary 27, 2017 – 9:08 amReplyCancel

  • Dana - I’m so glad you went to D.C., Kristi – and so glad your photos were among the many that flooded my FB feed on Saturday. As for the people who don’t get it or think it was a waste of time…I’m trying to let go of my exasperation. They don’t get it because they don’t have to get it – it doesn’t affect them. Until it does. And it will.

    Proud of you for marching – thank you!!January 24, 2017 – 5:38 pmReplyCancel

    • Kristi Campbell - Here’s to letting go of exasperation. It’s hard though right? Sigh. I’m trying to not be a total brat about wanting all of this crap to affect them. They still won’t get it though. And sadly, all of this affects all of us. Sigh. It’s GOING TO BE FINE though. Right? Right.January 27, 2017 – 9:13 amReplyCancel

  • April Grant - I couldn’t march, but these marches reminded me of Obama’s inauguration. An unprecedented thing of beauty, of people coming together, of people standing together.

    This morning, I awoke to a text to meet with a state representative, who is fighting for women’s rights:

    I am pumped about the future. As unqualified and uncouth as our President is, he’s bringing forth a passion in so many people that has been simmering for years. All of the issues that this country faces will start to come to a head, instead of hiding in people’s hearts. We can do this.January 26, 2017 – 5:41 pmReplyCancel

    • Kristi Campbell - April, I like your explanation so much. That all of the horror is coming to a head so that we CAN DO something about it. I’m so glad that you were able to meet with a state representative. GO YOU and yes, we can do this. Thank you for the reminder.January 27, 2017 – 9:15 amReplyCancel

  • Kerry - Oh Kristi. I am so glad you were there, representing. I was in Detroit, on my way to Mexico for a writing workshop. It ended up being the most life changing week of my life, for my writing and my self esteem, as I traveled alone for the first time. I was so scared. I am still scared.
    I do have white privilege, I admit. I also have both visible and invisible disabilities, and so I often feel like, as lucky as I am, one cancels out the other. I’m just not sure which one it is most days.
    I am amazed what that whole marc thing turned out to be. It still makes me concerned, like nothing can stop this bulldozer which is Trump, as the world seems more and more out of control to me.
    On my way back I passed by protests in the Dallas Airport. I can’t tell you how strange it was to hear that so nearby. Then, I crossed back into Canada and heard of the shooting at the mosque in Quebec, on my way home. It is so sickening. I am afraid, as a woman with a disability, every day. I have hope and my week in Mexico was a big part of that. It’s jut hard to come back to real life after that and not feel afraid and helpless.
    I love that you wrote about this and reading a firsthand account is a nice thing. Thank you. Thank you. I know you will keep fighting. I will not stop writing. We can make a difference. XOFebruary 1, 2017 – 10:27 amReplyCancel

“Buh-bye!” I smiled at my step-daughter. “That was so adorable,” she said. “He said bye-bye! Was that his first?” “No,” I said. I didn’t add that I’d only heard him say it once before, to a toy garbage truck driver, heading to unknown dumps and mysteries around the bend of kitchen cabinets. She closed the […]

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  • JT Walters - DeVos is from my home town and I could not agree with you more. She is a Bush puppet and common chore $&ore.

    Queen of Amway profiteering, those who helped Trump get elected are profoundly disappointed with this choice. But she bought the job just like the rest of them do. Same old same old!

    You and I rarely agree on politics but we do tonight 1000% which is nice for a change.January 19, 2017 – 11:51 pmReplyCancel

    • Kristi Campbell - She’s AWFUL! OMG Grizzlies??!?!?! What a dumb ass. I’m glad we agree!January 20, 2017 – 6:56 pmReplyCancel

  • JT Walters - PS

    Don’t toss ur Mickey wine glass over this!January 19, 2017 – 11:58 pmReplyCancel

  • [email protected] - I had never heard of her until she was nominated. I have been doing some research, but everything is so skewed in one direction or the other it is hard to sort out the facts. I am a public school baby from a family of public school educators. It was very hard for me to pull my girls out and go private a couple years ago – went against every ounce of my soul. BUT, we did it because I believe there are some serious problems with the current public school system – definitely some good, but definitely some problems. (Many of those problems are on a state lever.) All that being said, I am not sure she is the right person for the job.January 20, 2017 – 9:11 amReplyCancel

    • Kristi Campbell - I hadn’t ever heard of her either and know what you mean about news sites being skewed one way or another. For me, I just watched the video of her answering and that’s what I base my opinion on. She was very obviously unfamiliar with IDEA. I also don’t like that she’s donated to discriminatory causes.January 20, 2017 – 6:59 pmReplyCancel

  • Deenie - Hey – I am with you 100%. When I was a kid there were NO kids with disabilities in my class. Not kids with diagnoses or kids getting extra help anyway. Now, 1 of my sons has an IEP and the other has a 504 and they are both in our local public schools in general ed classrooms and are fully welcomed and supported there by both staff and students alike. Yesterday I went to pick up my autistic son from school and I walked in to see him and another non-SpEd kid finishing up a scooter race. They were laughing and talking. This is as important to me as the grades he gets. This is only possible because of IDEA. Anyhoo – I too live in VA and I too am planning to march tomorrow. I’m not with any group. It would just be me and my wife. (Not only do we have SpEd kids, but we’re black and I’m an immigrant and we’re a same sex couple.) I have to march, even though, like you, I am scared.January 20, 2017 – 9:25 amReplyCancel

    • Kristi Campbell - Hi Deenie, I’m glad your sons are in classrooms that welcome and support them. I know that’s not the case for all but we’ve been really lucky with our programs here. I’m not with a group either – some friends of mine are going but nobody who lives near me and I think trying to meet up downtown is going to be really difficult. I’m glad you’re marching with your wife! PM me on FB or email me if you want to try and meet if you all want another person with you!January 20, 2017 – 7:02 pmReplyCancel

  • Emily - You shouldn’t feel the need to apologize for a post that’s more angry than political…it’s ok and I get it! I’m worried, but I’m trying to be optimistic, because I’m not sure what else to do…January 20, 2017 – 9:35 amReplyCancel

    • Kristi Campbell - Thanks, Emily. I’m trying to be optimistic too. We’ll see… *sobs*January 20, 2017 – 7:09 pmReplyCancel

  • Dana - I just watched the inauguration, and watched Trump sign his nomination for DeVos and say “, right?” He doesn’t even know or care.

    I am not marching in D.C., but I am marching in my own home. If you are, be safe, Kristi.January 20, 2017 – 1:34 pmReplyCancel

    • Kristi Campbell - Thanks Dana. I’m going to go but I’m meeting somebody so I’m not alone (because chicken). I’ll think of you marching at home and UGH “Betsy…education, right?” WHAT A DISGUSTING GROSS UGH!!!!!January 20, 2017 – 7:34 pmReplyCancel

  • Rabia @ The Liebers - My head is spinning with all that is wrong with him, his administration, and people in general. I really am scared for our country right now!January 20, 2017 – 1:46 pmReplyCancel

    • Kristi Campbell - I’m really scared for our country too. It’s truly unbelievable what he’s already doing. The people he’s nominating. All of it. Sigh.January 20, 2017 – 7:35 pmReplyCancel

  • Bev - Oh, I feel you. Having worked in special education, and hoping to enroll my daughter in an integrated public preschool program this fall, I know how important IDEA is for children, ALL children, but obviously for the children who it is supposed to serve. It angers me that the woman in charge of it doesn’t even seem to know what it is. It’s just disgusting and infuriating.January 20, 2017 – 2:57 pmReplyCancel

    • Kristi Campbell - It’s SO disgusting and infuriating, Bev. I just don’t even know what to say about it other than it’s just not right, and can’t happen. How is this happening? Sigh.January 20, 2017 – 7:39 pmReplyCancel

  • Linda Atwell - Out One Ear - Kristi: I so wish I could be at the march tomorrow but we are in Mexico till 2/4 so I will miss out. Surprisingly, there is a march in the little town where I’m staying. So I feel that we are all united in our efforts to let this orange cheeto know that we are not with him. I feel helpless, hopeless today. I also suffered from the sh*ts and had to go to the local hospital to be rehydrated. Of course, I believe my condition is fro the thought of this horrible creature running our country. The locals are appalled that he won the election. I could go on and on, but if I were going to the march, I would hope it would remain peaceful and without any violence whatsoever. I will be thinking about you tomorrow. Be safe. Be strong. Stand up for what is right and I’ll be cheering for you my friend. Hugs, hugs, hugs.January 20, 2017 – 10:47 pmReplyCancel

    • Kristi Campbell - Hey Linda! I saw on FB that you all marched in Mexico which is AMAZING and wow!!!! I’m sorry about suffering from the shits… I know that cheeto would blame it on Mexico (build a border already right) but we know you had them because how can we not purge some of our guts for what’s going on now?
      The march in DC was really peaceful, for all that I saw of it. People moved aside for wheelchairs, and for old people, and for strollers with kids. People were KIND and fabulous and just full of love. It was as it should be, at least all the parts I saw, although it was hard to see because it was a wall of people…January 21, 2017 – 10:59 pmReplyCancel

  • Allison Smith - I hate this woman, and I try not to hate many people. I strongly dislike every single cabinet pick, but I hate talking politics on the internet. I just hope that there’s enough backlash that she won’t get approved. Seriously it’s an asinine pick. I’m appalled. But not surprised.January 26, 2017 – 4:46 pmReplyCancel

    • Kristi Campbell - I hate her too GRRRRRR
      I so hope she doesn’t get approved. It’s disgusting. I can’t believe the past week. Seriously. OMG.January 29, 2017 – 7:50 pmReplyCancel

  • Kerry - I don’t get the problem around public schools. Okay, well I get it so far as that it has problems. I just see the stigma and everything wanting to go private. I think private is the problem somehow. It’s the whole me first part of America that I dislike. I know what you mean about no sign of disability in schools for so long. I was one of those kids that my mother had to fight like hell to get me into our public school. I hope you and your son aren’t messed with because of the silly leader you now have. I can understand your anger Kristi. I am so tired of feeling disgusted about all of this.January 30, 2017 – 8:21 pmReplyCancel

It was my first real slumber party. Popular girls would be there, so I shaved my legs. I got out of the shower and saw I’d missed shaving an entire line of hair along my shin. “You’re such a baby,” I said and razored off the offensive line of yellow fuzz along with much of […]

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  • Dana - I wish we lived closer, Kristi. I find in person friendships easier than online, although I do love the connection I’ve made with bloggers. But I’d rather be sitting across from you, eating lunch and chatting. I was a late bloomer in terms of friends; I have much closer relationships now than I did as a teenager.January 12, 2017 – 10:12 pmReplyCancel

    • Kristi Campbell - Dana!!! I so wish we lived closer. I think I suck maybe at the in-person ones. Maybe because they have 7yo boys or girls and they are like 37? Maybe because Tux is “like a 50’s boy,” from a mom in his class? Maybe because I just totally suck at this? Honestly, I try to not suck at this but do. I need to take lessons from you. Maybe we could have a game night or something? Seriously.January 12, 2017 – 10:26 pmReplyCancel

  • JT Walters - I think all writers are confirmed introverts hence making online friendships easier than IRL. You are my only Ionline friend I met IRL.

    Yes, I think writers understand each other better then most people even bad ones like me. Just like teachers or doctors understand each other better because they can empathesize.

    Eyebrows dude! Penciled in and it rained. Far more horrifying and traumatic until my younger brother did it….permanent marker holds up better!!

    As for what I do when I can not sleep the answer is obvious. I write.January 12, 2017 – 10:37 pmReplyCancel

    • Kristi Campbell - YIKES to the eyebrows!! And yeah, you may be onto something with the whole shared connections and empathy thing.January 13, 2017 – 8:18 pmReplyCancel

  • Lux G. - Beautiful place to be with friends.January 12, 2017 – 11:14 pmReplyCancel

  • Kerry - I love “snow that sparkles under the sun: so much, as a line, from this post Kristi.
    I suck at making friends. I have lost a few friendships that I regret, but had a lovely time with a friend visiting from far away, during the holidays. I just wish she didn’t live so far away.January 12, 2017 – 11:21 pmReplyCancel

    • Kristi Campbell - Aw thank you Kerry!!! I have a hard time with the losing friendships thing, even when it’s just distance or worlds drifting or whatever — it’s still weird and hard. I’m glad you had a great time with a far-away friend recently though. Those moments fill our buckets for sure.January 13, 2017 – 8:28 pmReplyCancel

  • Emily - I think about friendships too and how they evolve over time. I have friends from elementary school, high school and college so yes, shared history there. But, I also have newer “mom friends” that I’ve made over the last 15 years and of course there are my blogging friends like you. 🙂 I know for me, as a writer, I do tend to be open through my writing and therefore connect with people online and I think it feels safer to share that way, at least initially. That being said, I’d LOVE to meet you IRL one of these days!January 13, 2017 – 8:31 amReplyCancel

    • Kristi Campbell - Emily we HAVE TO MEET IRL. We have to. I don’t really have any friends from elementary or high school, not really. I’m friends with a couple HS people on FB but don’t really see them. I wish I did. I think it’s easier to be open in writing for sure. One of the dudes must have a DC visit at some point right??/January 13, 2017 – 8:31 pmReplyCancel

      • Emily - Maybe when Middle Dude starts looking at colleges next year…I’ll demand that he visit GW and Georgetown! 🙂January 14, 2017 – 11:01 amReplyCancel

  • Allison Smith - I am very curious about this dry cold? And I know what you mean about old friends. It’s the share history, not the geography. I feel the same way about my peeps in Florida. Have you tried inviting the bus stop moms over for wine?January 13, 2017 – 10:42 amReplyCancel

    • Kristi Campbell - Dry cold is WAYYYYY better. Meet me in Colorado in the winter, and I’ll show you? I haven’t really invited the moms for wine… it felt easier before kids maybe?? Or maybe I’m just a big fat wimp.January 13, 2017 – 8:32 pmReplyCancel

  • Rabia @ The Liebers - I definitely find friendships online are easier. IRL you have to find kids you can stand who have parents you can stand and then hope that the kids like each other. There’s just too many variables!!January 13, 2017 – 3:28 pmReplyCancel

    • Kristi Campbell - Phew! I’m glad it’s not just me and you’re so right about liking the kids, them like each other… gah. So much work.January 13, 2017 – 8:33 pmReplyCancel

    • Kristi Campbell - Sometimes I just wonder at how easy it is with some people and how it feels harder with others. I don’t know if it’s just the daily distractions or not having time alone (without kids) or what…January 15, 2017 – 8:21 pmReplyCancel

  • Yvonne - Kristi, I love all your posts, but I really, really love this one. I read it a couple of days ago on my phone and waited till I was at my desktop to comment (the speed I type on my phone I’d still be writing a comment if I’d tried it two days ago! 🙂 )

    I love the way you’ve woven the strands of past and present into this, and I loved the story about your first slumber party. I never really went to one of those, but because I grew up on an island we had to go away to school from age 14 and we used to have parties after “lights out.” Sometimes the matron caught us and we got banned from going out after school for a week or so. But the parties were fun while they lasted. One girl escaped punishment because she hid in a wardrobe!

    As to your questions about friendship. I have a mix of both. I have some friends I met online and then in person and some I met in person and keep in touch with online. One of my best friends moved to Australia so we keep in touch via Skype. I don’t think how easy a friendship is has to do with on or off line so much as with how much you relate to each other and how open and honest you are with each other. It’s possible in both situations to put on a “face” which will always end up feeling fake.

    I also think that when we feel like an outsider (like you do at the bus stop) that we tend to be more reticent and so it’s a bit of a vicious circle. I can be like that at times both on and off line and it’s not helpful really. Some friends and I were talking about our kids who at the time felt excluded from the “popular” crowd and one friend had read about how even the “popular” kids feel that they are not as popular as someone else in their group. So it’s just a universal feeling.January 15, 2017 – 10:39 amReplyCancel

    • Kristi Campbell - Yvonne, I think you’re onto something with friendship having a lot to do with how open and honest we are with one another. Maybe that’s the piece I’m looking for when examining “mom friendships.” So often, kids are there and it’s just not the same as a slumber party or anything really where there’s soul-bearing and honesty happening.
      I do know too that it’s true that popular kids don’t feel as popular as they are… and that others are “more in” as well. Thanks so much for your thoughtful comment!January 15, 2017 – 8:24 pmReplyCancel

  • Lisa @ The Meaning of Me - I remember hating slumber parties for loads of reasons. And yet turning down the invite was unheard of, so I’d go and try to make the best of it. I hated when girls would get into scary shit. Awful.
    I dread the day slumber parties start with Zilla, especially since she has such particular sleeping needs and habits. I’ve also done a bunch of reading about how negatively kids are affected by sleepovers. Fascinating. Eh…maybe she won’t be interested. Fingers crossed.January 15, 2017 – 9:21 pmReplyCancel

    • Kristi Campbell - I’ve worried about Tucker, too. He still wears pull-ups at night (Shhhhhh) and I know that might become an issue. That, and that twice/week, he comes to get me at 1am or 3am or 5am because dreams. I can’t imagine him being somewhere else for that part, scared and too shy to say anything about it. Gah. I actually loved Light as a Feather, Stiff as a Board… but some of the other stuff? Ok I maybe liked that too. But not the getting in trouble stuff. That was saved until later.January 15, 2017 – 9:27 pmReplyCancel

  • Marcia @ Menopausal Mother - I’m very close to my online friends—especially the writers. I think this is due to many factors—we share writing and being parents, and we all seem to “get” one another on a level that is quite different than the relationships that I have with my IRL friends. Either way, I’m so grateful to have them!January 16, 2017 – 9:33 pmReplyCancel

    • Kristi Campbell - I definitely think there’s something about sharing as writers where we “get” one another. For sure. I’m grateful for both, too. XOJanuary 21, 2017 – 11:13 pmReplyCancel

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