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In case you haven’t been out in public recently, or gone outside to see that your neighbors have strung lights and brought pine trees into their homes and then decorated them with baubles and shiny things, I’m here to remind you. The holidays are coming, and because they are, many of us can use a […]

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  • Emily - Wait, there are ticks on Christmas trees??! Ok, now i understand why people get artificial trees. That may be us this year!!November 30, 2017 – 10:45 pmReplyCancel

    • Kristi Campbell - SORRY!!! I don’t know if it’s true or not, but I read a story once, and there were ticks, and they went out of town and and and and…. and now I’m paranoid about this! But maybe it’s just me (except ticks do actually live in pine trees, right?) GAH. SORRY!!!
       November 30, 2017 – 10:52 pmReplyCancel

  • Dana - I’m not sure how I survived before online shopping – I love being able to get most of my gifts while in my pajamas. Unicorn farts…that is genius! One of the perks of not celebrating Christmas is that I am much less stressed in December than most people. I hope you follow your own guide and are able to enjoy the season, Kristi!

    Signed, Your organized-but-not-a-serial-killer friend Dana 🙂December 1, 2017 – 9:32 amReplyCancel

    • Kristi Campbell - HAHA now I just have to remember to DO IT. I thought of it while writing this because Tucker will LOVE that, but I need to make a note in my calendar so I’m sure to remember. And yay to not being a serial killer (not that I had any doubt). xoxo December 2, 2017 – 10:09 pmReplyCancel

  • Lisa L. - This is fabulous. So much truth. So much wisdom. Here’s to a lazy, non-sucky holiday! Cheers! xoDecember 1, 2017 – 1:21 pmReplyCancel

  • Kerry - Lovely post Kristi. May I share?

    Just thinking and talking and sharing all the holiday traditions, I always loved that CB special and his sad little tree. Many decorations are at odds with my cat since I got him three years ago. I do have a set of lights strung around the inside of my bedroom window. My ex did this and I like having them so close. I can hardly see Christmas lights anymore and that makes me sad sometimes, but my mom knows and understands and works to put some up, in only white because red are invisible to me now, all over the outside of my house in the hopes I can still enjoy them.

    Yay for all moms at this time of year and all year round, including you, even if you don’t think you’re anything but lazy about it all.

    My brother and his wife have begun the elf on a shelf thing with their two kids and I am glad they love it. Yeah, still a little creepy to me.

    We all really do just need to do what works for us and our families. Nobody else matters in this case.

    Love your point about the serial killers. Organized isn’t always a positive trait in everyone.

    I am writing a lot about Christmas tradition, but was unwell and missed participating in this one. Still, I love yours and will go read the other submissions.December 4, 2017 – 12:51 amReplyCancel

    • Kristi Campbell - Thank you, Kerry! I’d love for you to share if you’d like to! I’ve heard a few stories about how tree decorations and cats aren’t the best combination. That’s nice that your mom puts up the white lights outside – can you still see them a bit? LOL to the elf on the shelf. I think it’s really creepy but sometimes worry that I made Tucker miss out on something that so many kids really enjoy. I briefly considered getting one when he was tiny, but saw a huge display at Target and I don’t know – I just couldn’t get into it. Oh well. Probably too late now anyway! Tucker still believes in Santa although I don’t know how long that will last. I’m going to go read what you’ve written about Christmas tradition now. Sorry you missed out on this one but I’ll have another holiday prompt this month – feel free to link up one you’ve already written! December 5, 2017 – 12:37 pmReplyCancel

  • Kenya G. Johnson - LOL to unicorn fart. There’s a prank box at Bed Bath and Beyond, I really want to go back and get it. It’s says something like it’s an ear wax cleaning kit. I’m always on Christopher about cleaning his ears and I saw that prank boxes and that was too funny. I could put a gift card inside but the look on his face to that would be priceless. Ok I’m going to get it. What’s 20% off of $3.99. I have a million BB&B coupons.

    My house finally smells like cinnamon. My parents were here and they decorated the day after Thanksgiving. My mom brought me some stuff she didn’t need and they got me in the mood to decorate. So I was done on November 30th and tweaked over the weekend. I’m not usually on board until after our birthday’s mid month. But it certainly does get you in the mood to go and buy a prank box. 😉

    Future tip for undoing it all – an excellent audiobook!December 6, 2017 – 9:16 amReplyCancel

You ditch math class (and speech class, and that other class that starts first thing in the morning) to drink beer with friends before your dad gets home. Er, maybe you didn’t… but well, anyway. Your friends are people you can’t imagine not talking to 1,001 times daily even though you didn’t know their names […]

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  • Emily - This was great – so creative and yet all so true too! It’s funny bc I was thinking about blogging earlier today, how I miss it and miss having tons of things I wanted to blog about and now I can barely think of anything I at least want to write about…I’m trying to figure out my next phase of being a writer/blogger and where I want to focus my efforts (write a book? Blog again but with different focus? Only blog when it’s a finish the sentence prompt?)…we’ll
    See!November 16, 2017 – 10:49 pmReplyCancel

    • Kristi Campbell - OMG I wonder about blogging all the time. YES to blogging when it’s a finish the sentence friday prompt! Well, yes in my opinion, anyway. 🙂 November 18, 2017 – 11:02 pmReplyCancel

  • Kenya G. Johnson - Loved this! I’ll put myself in the graduated category and went to graduate school or for a second degree and constantly ask myself did I make the right decision. But we know that taking a break means you almost never go back right?

    I wish someone would invent a Naniwrimo for “summer break”.November 16, 2017 – 10:50 pmReplyCancel

    • Kristi Campbell - LOL to graduate school or for a second degree and constantly ask myself did I make the right decision because YES YES YES. For real! And yeah, the break thing — you almost never go back. But still, sometimes? I so want a break. And some people take breaks… Right??? November 18, 2017 – 11:04 pmReplyCancel

  • Kenya G. Johnson - Forgot to say that I ❤️ that picture of you!November 16, 2017 – 11:01 pmReplyCancel

    • Kristi Campbell - Aw thanks! I think I was more like 20 in it which isn’t exactly high school, but I only had an hour to write and post and find pics and and and ugh… but thank you! November 18, 2017 – 11:05 pmReplyCancel

  • JT Walters - First Kristi, beautiful picture dude.

    Second. what?? Your book is not finished?? I plan on being ur beta, if you want?

    Third, every word you write is dripping with fantastic specialness.

    Fourth. Online relationships are way better than high school because it is an introvert’s paradise.

    Fifth, Online relationships are like High School in that we do share way way too much online but the time flies by so quickly. I don’t have a blog but a Facebook page for my art. In one day, I can get so many hits it is impossible to do anything but answer them. I don’t dare ignore my account overnight either as I belong to writing and painting groups; one of which is my own.

    I don’t see the pettiness in my online friendships that I had in high school but we are all grown ups. It would have been lovely to block some people in high school as it would be in real life. Online relationships give you that ootion.

    Finally, dude I have seen way too many male members online. I saw zero in high school. I wasn’t that kinda girl. I still am not and yet I am always surprised by the photos. That part of online. I could do without.November 16, 2017 – 11:02 pmReplyCancel

    • Kristi Campbell - 1. THANK YOU. I think I was 21 or 20, so not really high school but I was in a hurry2. I SUCK at doing this. I need to take time and yes, I’d love for you to be a beta3. OMG that’s so amazingly kind. THANK YOU. 4. Truth. 5. Yes. But it’s ok to ignore your account overnight. People will still love your art. 6. Gross to the male members online. It sucks to live in a sexist society where men sending dick pics is funny but a woman doing the same would be a slut. It’s just wrong. November 18, 2017 – 11:08 pmReplyCancel

  • Dana - This is so true – I was skeptical until you made the connections. I feel like I’m a junior, and I’m happy to stay here. With you, please.November 17, 2017 – 2:27 pmReplyCancel

    • Kristi Campbell - Aw thanks, Dana, and I am happy to stay a junior or senior too. I don’t want whatever is next and was skeptical writing it because WTF but Clark made me and it’s mostly true, right? November 18, 2017 – 11:09 pmReplyCancel

  • Allie G smith - Awesome post. Descriptions, and the blogging World descriptions. I really enjoyed reading this. I miss you and I know we have to catch up soon. I promise we will!November 21, 2017 – 7:30 amReplyCancel

    • Kristi Campbell - I miss you too and yes, please, to catching up!! Sooner than later (said knowing it’s Thanksgiving on Thursday *gulp*). xoxoxo November 21, 2017 – 9:13 pmReplyCancel

  • Linda Atwell - You speak so much truth! I know we didn’t know each other’s names just a few years ago but I am sure glad we do now. Hopefully, someday, we will both make big $$$ for people to read our words. You go, girl! or if you prefer, You go, WOMAN! I’m cheering for you and your book!November 21, 2017 – 9:15 pmReplyCancel

    • Kristi Campbell - Aw, thanks, Linda! You’re in inspiration for sure on the book front! Here’s to making $$$ from people reading our words. I’m so glad to know you and hope it’ll be in real life soon!November 22, 2017 – 8:30 amReplyCancel

  • My Inner Chick - –I can def. see the connections w/ high school and blogging.
    There are the “Popular girls,” of course, the weirdos, the intellectuals, the burnouts…Kind of like the Breakfast Club, right?
    you are so gorgeous.
    Even though I have a college degree,
    I feel as if I’m still in H S. xxxNovember 29, 2017 – 11:34 pmReplyCancel

Remember those priceless moment commercials? They went something like this: Tickets for a family to go to a waterpark: $84.00 Nachos and lemonade at the waterpark: $27.00 A new swimsuit for the child who’d outgrown his: $20.00 Sunscreen for the waterpark: $11.00 Memories from a day of sparkle-filled moments with the family: Priceless Then, they’d […]

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  • Linda Atwell - His joke cracked me up!
    And I love his wrinkly arms.
    And I also loved those priceless commercials! I’m glad you are making so many memories!November 2, 2017 – 10:33 pmReplyCancel

    • Kristi Campbell - So glad you liked his jokes and OMG I so love his wrinkly arms. I miss baby-him, sometimes. Thanks, Linda! November 3, 2017 – 11:48 pmReplyCancel

  • Ivy/ zoe - Priceless. The jokes are priceless.November 2, 2017 – 10:54 pmReplyCancel

  • clark - I don’t know, I thought it was pretty funny…. (must be a Y Chromian thing, you wouldn’t understand. lol)

    I usually don’t read others posts on a bloghop until I’ve written and hit ‘Publish’ on my own… that way I don’t get all ‘oh-man-my-post-is-pitifully-out-of-it’s-league here… but with you I make an exception.
    If I’m all, like, ‘damn! can’t think of anything’ I read your post. And then I realize that there was something insightful and engaging to say on the topic, had I only the language skills (and nerve) to type it into the post.

    Good sentence fragment, good sentence finish.

    No fair taking all the good observations!

    I was, no surprise, heading along the same path, (allowing for our different family demographic)… now, I have no choice but to abandon that and go for the weird.November 3, 2017 – 7:49 amReplyCancel

    • Kristi Campbell - See, you were heading along the same path anyway, and then could’ve said “I KNEW YOU WERE A CLARK!” but yeah, I get it. I don’t often read anybody else’s posts from a sentence or a hop because they get in my head and I can’t get them out, so I get it. But now I want to know what you’d have written in the same path (although I did very love the path you ended up going down, especially the car and feeling like I was in the 80’s because well the 80’s…). November 3, 2017 – 11:51 pmReplyCancel

  • Emily - Yes, those are the best wrinkly arms!! And researching a dog?! I say, Go for it!! Dogs are awesome!!November 3, 2017 – 2:51 pmReplyCancel

    • Kristi Campbell - Yeah, we’re talking about it. It’s hard though, after you’ve had the very best dog in the world, right? Also, my allergies are worse now, and so I’ve got to actually plan this time, rather than just picking the one I see on a street corner or shelter (which is what I’ve done before). Or, not, because those times worked out pretty well, too… November 3, 2017 – 11:52 pmReplyCancel

  • Dana - I count at least five eye rolls in that last video – Tucker is going to rrrrrock adolescence! And I like both jokes – tell T I said that, please.

    Here’s to many more priceless moments!November 3, 2017 – 4:09 pmReplyCancel

    • Kristi Campbell - HAHAH to the rrrrrrocking adolescence. Truth! I’ll tell him you said so. I just don’t like the second one out of principle, or something, but yeah, he’s funny 😉November 3, 2017 – 11:53 pmReplyCancel

  • Kerry - The two of you…I just love your relationship.November 3, 2017 – 9:38 pmReplyCancel

  • Tina Szocik - I never thought of moments that change us because they’re painful as being priceless, but so TRUE!!!!November 4, 2017 – 10:17 pmReplyCancel

    • Kristi Campbell - I never thought of the ones that hurt being priceless either, until I started thinking about it, and yes, so true. Thank you for saying so. November 4, 2017 – 11:07 pmReplyCancel

  • Kenya G. Johnson - Awww to meeting bio mom and sister and comparing toes. LOL! Have you ever written a post about the meet? I’d love to read it. I know I saw pictures this summer? of you and your bio mom, wow to the resemblance.

    Off to check out Tucker’s videos – I almost typed “toes”.November 7, 2017 – 5:21 pmReplyCancel

    • Kristi Campbell - I’ve only eluded to it in posts; I should probably write about the whole experience, but I worry about the *other* people involved. LOL to the toes! November 13, 2017 – 9:22 pmReplyCancel

  • Allie - Form one work-in-progess, to another, thank you for sharing your priceless moments and memories. ANd you little video start ROCKS!!!!!November 13, 2017 – 10:55 amReplyCancel

A ninja, Snow White, and Undertale Sans went to a Halloween parade. They met up with Mario and grim reaper, and were escorted by glowing hair woman, tall creepy guy, and a Handmaid. Why Do People Like Halloween So Much? People like Halloween because they dress up, follow firetrucks and a gigantic pumpkin balloon in […]

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  • Vickie - (I got a weird message when I tried to post a comment so if this turns out to be a duplicate, feel free to delete)
    The “I don’t know the people standing behind me” photo made me laugh out loud! Love the costumes – all of them. I think my son also loves the attention expecially when people tell him how great he looks. I hope it never ends.October 26, 2017 – 10:38 pmReplyCancel

    • Kristi Campbell - Hm. I wonder why you got the error. I think Facebook comments are more sketchy than the ones down here… but yes, I hope it never ends for either of our sons! October 27, 2017 – 7:42 pmReplyCancel

  • Emily - Great costumes!! I’ll be very curious to see if my 13, almost 14 year-old “little dude” goes trick-or-treating this year. Says he isn’t sure right now. He’s at that in between age, I think? It will make me sad if we officially “age out” of the trick or treating stage, especially because I won’t be able to “share” his candy! 🙂October 26, 2017 – 11:44 pmReplyCancel

    • Kristi Campbell - Oh I hope he decides to go trick-or-treating! And that you get some candy! I remember the in between age. It was cool, then not cool, then later, way cool again… October 27, 2017 – 7:44 pmReplyCancel

  • Allison G smith - Fantastic post. For reals. Loved traveling down Halloween memory lane with you. And your costume rocks ( even though I’ve never seen the show). Enjoy Halloween, it changes fast. Only have one trick-or-treater this year😭. Oh, and Cammy’s Slender Man this year and he scared the crap out of Bear. Realty bad. I laughed my a$$ off, so I probably suck like that dad😲October 27, 2017 – 5:49 amReplyCancel

    • Kristi Campbell - LOL Allie! Slender Man IS scary. I’d have laughed, too. The dad was actually really cool – I didn’t think much about it until my niece was so upset. And thank you! You haven’t seen Handmaid’s Tale? It’s REALLY good. Like, really good. And weep to only one trick-or-treater this year! I want to see a photo though. Slender Man is cool….October 27, 2017 – 7:46 pmReplyCancel

  • Lisa @ The Meaning of Me - First, is that tall costumed person your little boy??? How is he that tall? Amazing.
    Second, I LOVE that he took his mask off to reassure the little kid. What a great young man you have – that is a sensitive and compassionate heart.
    I think you’re probably right about people wanting to be something they normally aren’t – or can’t be. That makes a lot of sense.October 27, 2017 – 11:44 amReplyCancel

    • Kristi Campbell - I know Lisa! He’s so tall. I wish he’d slow down a little bit. I can’t believe it. At this rate, he’s going to be taller than I am (and I’m not that short) by the time he’s 10. Gulp. And thanks – he’s really sweet and compassionate. One day, he’ll have to hang out with Zilla!October 27, 2017 – 7:49 pmReplyCancel

  • Kenya G. Johnson - Awww man I feel out of the loop with The Handmaid’s Tale. I’ve seen memes that I didn’t get because I haven’t seen the show. Aside from that y’all did a great job with the costumes. As for the little Tucker pictures, if I had to choose, the chubby cheeks fireman (yellow & black) is my favorite.October 27, 2017 – 1:32 pmReplyCancel

    • Kristi Campbell - It’s a disturbing show but really really good. And yeah, the chubby cheeks fireman is pretty adorable. Ach, they get big so fast! October 27, 2017 – 7:50 pmReplyCancel

  • clark - it must be fun to share make-believe with Tucker. by definition* make-up believe is always personal and one of the most protected parts of (a young person’s) life… and Halloween, at the least the one you’re showing us in the your post is a active sharing of make-believes.
    as I think about it, there (should) be a curious reversal in the authority on the make-believe, being still young, Tucker would have more…standing in the matter of the real and the imaginary allowed to show, at least for one night a year.
    very cool

    *ok, by my definitionOctober 27, 2017 – 8:30 pmReplyCancel

    • Kristi Campbell - It’s fun* for sure to share make-believe with Tucker, and you’re so right – it’s personal… and protected, I think, although I’d like to hear more about how it’s protected – is that because it’s allowed, this one night each year? Also LOL to the one I show you in my post, because there’s always so much more to it, right? *ok, by your definition ;)PS I love your worldviews. You’re fascinating and totally awesome, every night of the year. October 27, 2017 – 11:40 pmReplyCancel

  • Echo - I love Halloween, probably because I was born so close to it! Aven is going to be jealous! He wanted to be Papyrus, but settled on going as a Cheeseburger instead!October 27, 2017 – 9:17 pmReplyCancel

    • Kristi Campbell - Are you dressing up??? And OMG Aven wanted to be Papyrus???? So many people don’t know who Sans or Papyrus are. I don’t even know the story much, and Tucker only knows them through YouTubers playing the game and he loves the music (which is pretty awesome even if it’s not Lars awesome). The people who recognized him seemed cool though – totally alternative, or geeky, which is my people, and so awesome. October 27, 2017 – 11:42 pmReplyCancel

  • My Inner Chick - Tucker has come SO FAR & will only go Farther!)))
    (Because of ‘YOU.”

    OMGGggg, the Handmaid costumes are spectacular!!! xxOctober 29, 2017 – 10:32 amReplyCancel

    • Kristi Campbell - Awww…. thank you thank you thank you! Are you dressing up? Do tell do tell… October 29, 2017 – 7:11 pmReplyCancel

  • Linda Atwell - I love these memories. Especially the one where Tucker felt so bad about scaring that young kid. Empathy! It is so wonderful that he has empathy. I like how Halloween has evolved and that you are still into it because Tucker is into it. Your post made me smile BIG TIME!October 30, 2017 – 12:12 amReplyCancel

People write for a lot of reasons. I write because when I don’t, my histories gather together and stick like magnets inside of me. Combined, they’re heavy and awkward and fall down to my feet and then climb back up to churn my stomach, clog my lungs, and hunch my shoulders. I write because while […]

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  • Dana - People write…”To build a nest for the stories that stick together like magnets and sink to their feet.” Damn, Kristi, sometimes your words take my breath away. I’m glad you didn’t delete this and start over – I always appreciate your insight on social issues, and I thank you for sharing your #metoos. Because none of them are too small, or not important enough, or too long ago.October 19, 2017 – 10:30 pmReplyCancel

    • Kristi Campbell - Damn, Dana. Thank YOU for giving me faith that the bloggers in our worlds still read, sometimes. I so so so so so so sssssssssoooooooo appreciate your comment. And you saying that the #metoos are real. Gah. Love you. October 22, 2017 – 11:15 pmReplyCancel

  • JT Walters - I write about being a Mom of a special needs child too and someone referred me to you. Funny, I do not recall who because that was many years ago.

    And it has been wonderful not being alone. So thank you Kristi. You have brought so much advocacy to families of children with special needs. Thank God you write! For some of us it is just too painful.

    Love you and thank you!!!October 19, 2017 – 11:16 pmReplyCancel

    • Kristi Campbell - Funny to think how long ago that may have been… I’m glad you’re less alone because of HERE, and I understand, that sometimes, it’s too painful. Hugs. October 22, 2017 – 11:23 pmReplyCancel

  • Kenya G. Johnson - And thank you too by the way. You’re one of the reasons I stick around. I love your beginning I feel all of that, I like how you were able to write exactly what it feels like to have not written and then how it you write to see how you feel about something. Wow. Anyway sorry I’m late. Who knew it’d be so hard to write about why you write.

    I hadn’t heard about the, “Me too”. I’ve been off facebook for a couple a weeks and that’s where I find out stuff too. Excellent conclusion to your post. Last night I when I was trying to brainstorm I was reading quotes for writers, one quote was “You get to live twice”. That’s a great quote for perfect moments but not so great for so many other reasons people write.October 20, 2017 – 8:02 amReplyCancel

    • Kristi Campbell - I’m one of the reasons? That’s SUCH a HUGE honor, because I feel the same about you. I’d be so bummed if you just called it quits. Ugh to the “me too” stuff. You’re probably better off, being away from FB with all that crapola. “You get to live twice” is haunting to me, in the best of ways. Thank you HUGE for sharing that with me. I think I needed to read that. It’s really true, right? I mean like REALLY. Wow. Wow wow wow. October 22, 2017 – 11:38 pmReplyCancel

    • Kristi Campbell - Sorry, I keep thinking about this… for other reasons, it still seems to matter. It’s like if you live it twice, even if it’s bad, you get to own it or something. October 22, 2017 – 11:40 pmReplyCancel

      • Kenya G. Johnson - For the record it looks like the quote is “Writer’s live twice.” – Natalie Goldberg. I could have sworn I read one that said, “You get to live twice.” Same thing though.October 23, 2017 – 3:48 pmReplyCancel

  • Emily - Your words about why you write are so poetic and descriptive…pure beauty! And yeah, it’s amazing how we suppress certain things and yet, the #metoo movement sort of gave us permission to not only speak out, but to let those suppressed memories surface. It hurts to recall those moments (and for others, it’s more than moments and so much worse), but there is some comfort in knowing we are not alone…October 20, 2017 – 8:25 amReplyCancel

    • Kristi Campbell - Emily, SO much comfort in knowing we’re not alone but still… the whole Facebook think gutted me, and I delete “killed” me because too dramatic, even though that’s how it feels, a little. And thank you so much for the kind words about my writing!October 22, 2017 – 11:41 pmReplyCancel

  • My Inner Chick - Hello, Sweets,

    you forgot one: You write so Kim S. R. can savor and learn from your words!

    I write to “Survive.”

    xxx from MN.October 20, 2017 – 9:41 amReplyCancel

    • Kristi Campbell - I love you. Writing to survive is amazing because you know what? Your stories help in a for-real way, to help for-real people survive. And that is huge and beautiful and perfect. October 22, 2017 – 11:43 pmReplyCancel

  • Kerry - Wow. This:

    Often, one thought leads to another I thought I’d forgotten.

    Brief and so true.

    I am glad you can write about all the things you want here Kristi. Of course, inclusion and special needs children is important and mostly what this blog is, but I am happy you can use your platform here to speak about gender issues and social issues and so much more.

    I have been observing quietly this #MeToo movement. For many it goes so much deeper and not all are able to think about what they have been through, let alone to write about it for anyone to read. I admit I’ve been rather sheltered in my life, but I want society to do better, for my nieces and your son and so many others.

    Thanks for writing this.October 20, 2017 – 1:54 pmReplyCancel

    • Kristi Campbell - SO true, right? About the one thought leading to another, I mean. I do this all the time, and suppose we all do. It’s like we remember one moment and that brings us to another and another and another… Thank you for you kind words about changing what this blog is, and for sharing what this whole #metoo thing means. It’s so hard, for so many, including us who don’t “have it bad,” I guess. But it’s still ugly, and scary… OH AND you ARE doing better. You’re an amazing role model for your nieces and everybody! I know this to be true!BTW ,did you ever see/hear (hear is more important) that video from Facebook? I’d wondered, after your comment, whether you heard anything from it. October 22, 2017 – 11:51 pmReplyCancel

  • Debi - #MeToo and #youtoo and #hertoo and #mydaughterstoo and #mymothertoo and #yesallofthem. I don’t think there’s a woman’s platform out there that doesn’t include potential for #metoo. I’m just sorry we have to drag these memories into the sunlight for anyone to take the problem seriously.October 20, 2017 – 3:45 pmReplyCancel

    • Kristi Campbell - #metoo to being sorry that we have to drag them into the sunlight, but what a beautiful way to say that. Thank you. October 22, 2017 – 11:57 pmReplyCancel

  • clark - I liked your post. I liked so much that I wrote a FTSF post.

    (damn! that, implied in those two sentences, is a much more succinct expression of what it is about writing that keeps me coming back, no matter how much that ‘they will laugh or scorn’ voice in my world might whisper.)

    as always you have said, in part, what I might have; you have selected the words that shape tangled thoughts into something simple, direct, yet in no way lacking the depth of inference and meaning.October 20, 2017 – 6:54 pmReplyCancel

    • Kristi Campbell - I liked. Nope, scratch that, I LOVE that you wrote a FTSF post. And yeah, I get it. This part of it is why I keep coming back, too. The YOU the all of it. Also? I adore you and will never laugh or scorn anything you write. Here’s to showing up, to doing it, to doing it over and over, even when it feels like nobody cares. Love you, by the way. October 23, 2017 – 12:00 amReplyCancel

  • Lisa @ The Meaning of Me - I love the part about the magnets – yeah, that’s definitely what it feels like. I get that.
    I’m so glad that you wrote at first and that you write still and that I’m one of the people who got found in all of it. I can’t imagine not knowing you now and that is definitely one of the best things my own writing has brought me – some wonderful people.
    Keep writing, my friend. Write about it all.October 23, 2017 – 3:20 pmReplyCancel

Do you ever think about who you’d be if you’d been born a different gender? A different race? Born to a different family, or taken a different job years ago? Do you think about who you’d be now, if you’d said yes instead of no, or no, rather than yes? Would you still be you? […]

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  • Emily - Awww…Happy Anniversary you two!! That’s awesome and I love your wedding pics! I love thinking about “what if” scenarios…I think about them a lot in terms of where I am (or not am) in my career. I also think about past relationships — what if I ended up with so and so? So weird to think about and in fact, there is a chapter on “what if” in my memoir where I imagine a different scenario with my ex from college. I am going to try to do this prompt, because it’s a good one!September 28, 2017 – 10:49 pmReplyCancel

    • Kristi Campbell - Thanks, Emily! OMG I so hope you’ll do it. Even if it’s an excerpt from your memoir. Because so awesome so awesome. The what ifs are amazing and horrifying and all between. Also? You beat Janine at commenting 😉September 28, 2017 – 10:57 pmReplyCancel

  • jt walters - Happy Anniversary. Odd you will be spending it at Universal and then not.

    I count the things I am grateful for today like your friendship and advocacy for all parents of children with special needs. You are the right Mom at the right time for Tucker and you have the maturity only to fight the battles you have too.

    Count your blessings my friend and live a happier lufe. You did everything perfect.September 29, 2017 – 1:54 amReplyCancel

    • Kristi Campbell - We’re at home. Just got back from dinner and thank you for the anniversary wishes! And you’re so sweet! I’m grateful for your friendship, too. Also? Not perfect, but good enough is sometimes good enough right? 🙂September 29, 2017 – 9:29 pmReplyCancel

      • jt walters - Absolutely!!! And you’ll get Zelda!!September 29, 2017 – 9:52 pmReplyCancel

  • Lisa @ TheGoldenSpoons - I’m th opposite -wondering what if I had waited a little longer before getting married (at 21) and having my first kid (at 25).I think we could drive ourselves crazy with “what ifs.” There are a million things any of us could change if we could go back in time, but what would that change about our now lives & would it really be worth it? Of course, none of us will ever really know, will we?!?! 🙂 Happy Anniversary!!!!September 29, 2017 – 1:56 pmReplyCancel

    • Kristi Campbell - That makes sense, Lisa, that you wonder the opposite. I guess we all wonder about the what ifs, and yes they can drive us crazy! 🙂 Thank you!September 29, 2017 – 9:30 pmReplyCancel

  • Twindaddy - Everything happened the way it was supposed to happen. Wondering what could have been just distracts you from what has been. And it looks like everything turned out amazing for you.September 29, 2017 – 4:47 pmReplyCancel

    • Kristi Campbell - Truth, friend. I do think things are as they should be. Amazing sometimes, crappy sometimes, but the way it’s supposed to be maybe. Probably. xoSeptember 29, 2017 – 9:33 pmReplyCancel

  • Kerry - I love this line… Some feel like burnt-out lightbulbs that used to have power, but are now a simple recycling problem.

    Happy 10th to you guys Kristi.

    I will try to join in this week, as I am a pro on this particular question, was just discussing something like it earlier with a family member, but deadline and I am panicking.

    Hear you are headed for Florida. Have fun.September 29, 2017 – 8:28 pmReplyCancel

    • Kristi Campbell - I’m so thankful you noticed that line, Kerry! I love that line too, so much 🙂 I so hope you’ll be able to join in. I know your post will be amazing. The deadline isn’t until late Sunday night, so there’s time. I’d love to hear your thoughts! And yes, we’re going to Florida in a week. Thank you!September 29, 2017 – 9:41 pmReplyCancel

  • Echo - Kristi, you and I have such an unspeakable bond. We have so much more in common than anyone could imagine and a lot of your “what if’s” are my “what if’s”, but there are also so many more. I know one day we will talk for hours about all of our “what if’s”! I love and adore you, my friend!September 29, 2017 – 10:18 pmReplyCancel

    • Kristi Campbell - We so do, my friend. And honestly, I deleted half of this post because of all the “what ifs” and figured it’d gotten too boring, too much and PLEASE let’s meet in person. We WILL talk for hours. We can even head bang our tired heads (which may be more like nodding these days) to some good old Metallica. I totally love and adore you, too. Always. And *ah hem* the link up is open until late Sunday night. No pressure but I’d LOVE to read some of your own what ifs. xoxo <3September 29, 2017 – 11:30 pmReplyCancel

  • My Inner Chick - MYYY
    what beautiful people.
    That’s not fair!
    Anyhow, I love your words, your insights, your gratitude.
    So much to love….
    it’s hard to take it all in.
    xxxSeptember 30, 2017 – 12:15 pmReplyCancel

    • Kristi Campbell - You’re too kind. Oh, to be young again, right? Or, young-ish? How fleeting. Also, SO MUCH LOVE TO YOU. Always. xxxSeptember 30, 2017 – 11:04 pmReplyCancel

  • Dana - Happy anniversary! Those what-ifs can be paralyzing if you let them be…but I’ve gone through the same thought process as you have. The what ifs would replace the what ares, and the what ares are pretty damn good. Man buns and all.October 1, 2017 – 9:20 amReplyCancel

    • Kristi Campbell - LOL yes, man buns and all, Dana! It’s probably impossible to not think about the what ifs.. but the what ares are pretty lovely so… yes. Thank you!October 1, 2017 – 7:54 pmReplyCancel

  • Linda Atwell - Oh, Kristi, you touched on so many things I want to comment on but I’m going to limit it to a couple so my comment won’t become an entire POST! The first one, although this isn’t the most important one, but I loved the what if I’d realized I wasn’t fat, back when I thought I was fat line. My friend and I were just talking about that the other day. Oh, if we had just realized!!!

    I often think of life like the old pacman video game–you know, how you can choose to go one way or if you choose to go the other way you could make a difference of how many thingees you eat and if you get eaten. I don’t know if that makes sense, but yes, every decision we make changes our life and its variables in so many ways. If we turn left instead of right one day, we may not meet the person we end up with…and then every turn, every decision plays on the other decision and it goes on and on.

    Thank you for this beautiful post. And more importantly, CONGRATULATIONS to you and Robert and ten years of marital bliss. OK, almost no one has total marital bliss, son congrats on the life you’ve built together. And, best wishes on many, many more.

    I truly believe we are where we are supposed to be at this point in time. We are the mother to the person(s) we are supposed to beOctober 1, 2017 – 10:16 pmReplyCancel

    • Kristi Campbell - Linda, I love the Pacman image – it makes total sense. Every turn takes us somewhere new, for sure and it’s hard to not wonder about the what ifs, but I agree that we’re where we’re supposed to be. The mothers to the people we’re supposed to mother. And thank you for the congratulations! LOL to total marital bliss but yes, we’ve built a good life together and I wouldn’t change much! Thank you! October 3, 2017 – 9:15 amReplyCancel

  • Lisa @ The Meaning of Me - Didn’t make it in for this for a million reasons. So much of this makes me nod and understand right along with you. Our paths have been so similar. I think you must know where I live on this sort of thing – no matter what the road has been thus far, every choice, every event leads to what and who we are today. And most days that’s a great thing. It’s harder to accept and believe when life feels stalled, not quite what we want. But perhaps all of this is necessary, too.
    Great post. Happy anniversary to both of you! May you have many more great “what ifs” in the years ahead. xoOctober 2, 2017 – 9:32 amReplyCancel

    • Kristi Campbell - Thank you, Lisa! Our paths have been similar… and you’re right about it being harder to accept when life feels stalled, or there’s a scary, change-everything decision to make… But, again, as you said, maybe that’s part of it. xoxo October 3, 2017 – 9:25 amReplyCancel

  • Kenya G. Johnson - If I’d written, I think my post would have totally echoed yours! I think what ifs as often as my good days when I say “this is the life”. It may not be the life another person would want, and it may not be the life I thought I’d have, but it is indeed EVERYTHING.October 8, 2017 – 2:30 pmReplyCancel

    • Kristi Campbell - You’re so right about “it is indeed EVERYTHING,” Kenya. Yup. It really is (although so different from what I’d imagined too). xoOctober 11, 2017 – 5:32 pmReplyCancel

  • Allison Smith - Or the cruelty of “what if” questions. They will keep you up at night – so you must shut that shazam down:). Everything is as it should be (my mantra lately when the what if’s get inside my head).

    And Happy Anniversary!October 25, 2017 – 10:08 amReplyCancel

    • Kristi Campbell - Thank you! And yeah, the what if questions will totally keep somebody up at night! Gah!October 25, 2017 – 8:57 pmReplyCancel

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