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    Finding Ninee: NINE-ee, an airplane, in TuckTalk. Dedicated to finding humor and support for my son with delays of “The Middle World.” The spectrum exists but an autism diagnosis does not. While you're here, I hope you'll find a bit of humor, some perspective on what it feels like to be a special needs mom, a lot of compassion and some random stupid-looking drawings that I hope will make you smile.

Our Land- Found: Purpose and Joy

Today’s Our Land was written by the lovely Kerith Stull, from Brielle and Me. I “met” Kerith a while ago and have to say that I love her outlook on life. She’s funny, smart, warm, and shares stories on her blog about her family, herself, and her daughter Brielle (more about her below). Kerith shares insights […]

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  • that cynking feeling - Fabulous attitude, Kerith!
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  • Dana - Brielle has a fabulous smile – it’s contagious! Thanks for sharing a little of your story, Kerith. I hope your book is a huge success!April 16, 2014 – 8:29 pmReplyCancel

  • Tamara - I think I’ve seen Kerith’s blog before.. I know it because I would never forget Brielle’s smile. For sure.
    I want to read so much more now.
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  • Emily - I can see how Brielle’s smile is infectious just by seeing her in these beautiful photos…Thank you for sharing this. For those of us with our own parenting challenges, I know I have moments of “why me” or “why him?” but after reading this, I am inspired by your outlook and will strive to have less of those moments and remember your very insightful observation that transient moments of happiness are quite different from eternal joy.
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  • Lisa @ Golden Spoons - Brielle’s smile is infectious and joyful, even in these pictures. You have a wonderful attitude and outlook. Thanks for sharing your story!
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  • Considerer - I had a measured, considered comment brewing, but I just love her SMILE too much to not just say that – WOW!
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    • Kerith Stull - Haha… Well, maybe if you think of that measured, considered comment you’ll share. But, for now, thanks!
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      • Considerer - The measured and considered comment starts by thanking you for your frankness, Kerith, in sharing all this. It adds to the ‘voices’ of special needs mom bloggers I’ve read, and it helps to hear it.

        It makes me wonder if you need to be a particular brand of unselfish to a)parent at all, and b)parent a child with special needs (though the latter, I guess you never know until you have one, and it becomes a necessity), and whether or not it redeems the mourning for the ‘normal’ child who was expected (I never promised that the considered comment would be easy to take).

        Because for all Brielle’s awesomely gorgeous smile and the joy which just shines out of her, you still say it’s not easy (I know – parenting PERIOD isn’t easy, but I assume (perhaps wrongly) that it is particularly complex in the instance of having a child with special needs).

        So in the end, I guess I’m keen to know, is it worth it? Because given the genetic heritage which might get passed on (if I’m ever lucky enough to manage to hang onto a baby in the first place) I worry that it would end up being disabled somehow, or damaged, and whether or not it’s fair to even pass on. Or whether there’s a good reason we’re unable to have kids, and whether that’s right and appropriate, given the child we might generate.

        Sorry – quite a lot here, but I’ve been mulling.
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        • Kristi Campbell - Lizzi.
          It is always worth it. Even when we grieve and worry and consider and feel bitter and horrible and life isn’t fair, and it’s HARD and it wasn’t supposed to be this HARD and it’s not FAIR and “why me?” and why why why and and and… (deep breath)…
          it is always worth it. There is nothing like it. You do NOT need to be a particular brand of unselfish. It comes with the job and trust me, I was selfish for 40 years before being blessed with Tucker.
          We do mourn the kids we’d dreamed of. We do. For me, how can I not mourn an almost 5 year old who can’t properly say his own name? How can I not feel bitter and sad and and and and and…
          and yet. it’s SO much more than worth it. It’s everything. It’s everything that matters. These kids, they are everything that matters. all of us, are everything that matters, and they are in the all of us.
          Nobody is damaged until the world damages them. And the world damages all of us by not accepting us. Our differences, our needs, our fears, and our import.

          That’s my 2cents. I’ll be interested to see how Kerith chimes in. But it’s so worth it. Every day.
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          • Considerer - Thank you – that helps.

            And now, the slightly Bigger Badder ask…

            …what if you thought they probably might be born with something wrong with them, due to inheritance, and you had them in purpose, anyway. And they were.

            What if it was your own fault, rather than just an accident of birth or a virus or whatever it is which makes these things happen?

            What if you were concerned that your child probably would have some kind of additional needs at some point – would be genetically predisposed to be broken in some way…would you still have them?

            That’s my current sticking point.
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    • Kristi Campbell - I want to hear the measured, considered comment too :D
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  • ALlie - Kerith,

    What a beautiful piece! I strive to have a similar attitude, and as the years progress, I’m happy that I managed to do so most of the time. My special needs child is 13, and I have to provide a similar level of care for him. You are doing an amazing job – it’s evident from the beautiful smile on your daughter’s face.
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    • Kristi Campbell - Allie, I think that some days, it’s easier than others to have a great attitude. It’s hard to watch our kids struggle with things that aren’t “fair” or expected, I think. And I agree that Kerith is doing a great job!
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  • Natalie DeYoung Ricci - Now I’m a little weepy after reading this. What a wonderful smile she has.
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  • Michelle @ A Dish of Daily Life - What an inspirational post and Brielle has a beautiful smile. I can’t pretend to know what you go through, Kerith, but I found your post touching. I think having children draw a level of love out of us that we never knew we had…we would do anything for them. Brielle sounds like an amazing kid.
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Saying goodbye can be hard but music helps

While some goodbyes are more difficultly said than others, I’m of the opinion that all goodbyes are hard. At least, they are for me. Even in the uncomfortable situations in which I find myself counting the minutes until I’m able to leave, there’s always a final question in my mind that maybe, by leaving, I’ll […]

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  • Kenya G. Johnson - I skimmed! I had heart palpitations that you were saying goodbye to blogging with no warning ;-) Whew!
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  • Emily - I am terrible at good-byes too…especially when we are at a party. My husband always tells me to start saying good-bye about 30 minutes before he actually wants to leave because he knows I’m a pro at the “Jewish good-bye.” (which takes forever..). Anyway, great songs and I’ve always enjoyed reading these twisted mix tape posts…maybe when Jen restarts them in the fall, I’ll consider participating once in a while….
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  • Chris Carter - AW!! I know this has been a BIG deal and wonderful link up for so many bloggers!! Sad to see it go, but I’m sure it will come back with a MIGHTY PUNCH in the fall!!
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  • clark - thank you as well, for being one of the hostinae to bring the chance to hang out, musicistically-speaking.

    (shit, that Breakfast Club reference, think it might be a little too… historic? lol)

    (you realize that you have the initial wholesome appeal of Molly with the dark, who-the-hell-would-have-the-nerve-to-dare-you inner clarklike female of Ally)

    see you at the next detention
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  • Quickstepp Melissa - Damn….no you didn’t go The Dance on someone!? Awesome way to end it. Loved the American Pie dad singalong image!
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  • Kir - “The Dance” is one of my favorite songs and I just adore Garth. That song brings me to tears whenever I hear it (DAMN IT, this mascara!)

    and those texts were funny and adorable! Plus your original song was very well written.

    See you in the fall.
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  • Tamara - Oh no! I’ll miss Twisted Mix Tape!
    At least I have your goodbye song to keep me warm at night.
    And cute Tucker cameo!
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  • Twindaddy - I HATE goodbyes….
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  • Kerri - HAHAHAHA I absolutely love Tucker video bombing your goodbye song. Thanks for enjoying my mixed up tapes. BTW they are your fault for inviting me to join. You know what a screw up I am!!! See you on the flip side of the mix tape in the fall
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    • Kristi Campbell - Kerri, he rocked the video bomb, huh? I kept thinking maybe I should redo it, and almost stopped when he started hollering about the lights being off (God forbid ALL the lights are not on ALL the time).
      HAHA to it being my fault that you joined and messed up in the first place. Guess you have a point!
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  • Allie - I am horrible at goodbyes when they are long distance. I love far form people I love and whenever we visit, I’m a total mess when it’s time to say goodbye. And then we he the really tough and sad goodbyes…
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  • Lizzi Rogers - LOVE the Tucker VidBomb at the end. That’s AMAZING :D April 15, 2014 – 5:16 pmReplyCancel

  • Angel The Alien - I tried to listen to the whole American Pie song, but after four hours I had to pause it! My favorite, of course, is the one you sang!
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    • Kristi Campbell - Angel no big deal on not listening to the whole thing! It’s a (even before I was aware of music and likely before you were born thing) about the deaths of rock and roll musicians Buddy Holly, Ritchie Valens, and J. P. They all died in a plane crash, which is why the whole bye bye thing. And YAY to the mine being your favorite of course :D
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  • Louise - Your duet with Tucker is awesome.

    Or you might be a duo. I’ll let Jen be the official last word on that nuance…. She appears to have expertise.

    In unrelated thoughts – could Jen pull of Marilyn for Halloween? Inquiring minds and all that…

    I love your send off. I love that you guys did this hop. I’m sad it’s taking a break. But I get why.

    I’m trying to think of it like high school – in the “Have a Great Summer!!!” yearbook signing kind of way.

    I love your two other musical choices, though sorry that The Dance brings mixed memories.

    As for American Pie – forgive me for not watching the whole video? I love the song; I love the album; I can sing bits of Vincent, so … pass?
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    • Kristi Campbell - Nobody ever has to listen to the entire American Pie. We all get it. It’s really only the best, on a road trip, in like maybe 1992, taken with my dad, and singing along. Because then? 8 minutes seems awesome. :D
      I love that we did this hop, too, and I’m big sad. But also get it. And we will be back. I love the yearbook signing analysis. Here’s to an amazing summer and I know we’ll still connect this fall!! xoxoxo
      F@K yes Jen could do Marilyn for Halloween!!! GAH! :D
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  • Bianca @ Rant Rave Crave - That was the first time I actually listened to the lyrics of The Dance. Now I know why so many people told me I should listen to it when I had a really bad breakup. Also I like your little ditty there. Elton John would be proud :) April 15, 2014 – 9:48 pmReplyCancel

  • Jean Baldridge Yates - Amazing. Amazing I found any one else who likes Garth Brooks. Whom I ADORE. . I know nothing of the twisted mix tapes except from reading Clark this AM, BUT IF IT IS ABOUT MUSIC, I am there!!! jean xox
    love your blog–tried to vote for you and found you on the Mommy Blogs but…how do I vote? April 15, 2014 – 11:25 pmReplyCancel

  • Anna Fitfunner - Nice duet with Tucker! (Duet, not duo, right?) April 16, 2014 – 12:51 amReplyCancel

  • Jessica - This is so awesome, especially your own song! Hi Tucker! :) I have fond memories of singing with my dad in the car to “Chantilly Lace.” “Oooh baby, that’s what I like!” LOL Music is so awesome.
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  • Jen Lauren Schneider Kehl - Yes! I get my own song and get to be photobombed by the awesome Tucker! Also, I can’t believe you still had those texts!! Duets – like Jen & Kristi awwwww…….
    Thank you so much my friend, as you know, I couldn’t have done this without you!April 16, 2014 – 2:40 amReplyCancel

  • Jacqueline Tierney DeMuro - Great. Just great. Literally laughed out loud!April 16, 2014 – 4:41 amReplyCancel

  • Nicole @ Work in Sweats Mama - Sometimes a song says it best. And, that’s the best graphic EVER! And goodbyes suck. Hard.
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  • Kelly L McKenzie - I’m in the throes of goodbyes a lot lately what with my two going to uni across the country. While I’m a quiet mess on the way to the airport I keep it hidden. They are so aware of the impending separation that they don’t need soppy mama in the mix. I always say as we part “This just means it is closer to the time we see each other again.” Helps me – and I think it helps them. BUT. Goodbyes are hell. Yes. Hell. Each and every time.
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  • Cathy Harlow - You are so awesome!!!April 16, 2014 – 12:48 pmReplyCancel

  • Stephanie Smith Sprenger - I want to start every morning listening to you sing original songs with Tucker in the background! I am in a much better mood now… Way to do the TMTT finale proud… :) April 16, 2014 – 2:16 pmReplyCancel

  • Stephanie Smith Sprenger - Oh, and that Garth Brooks angel/devil drawing is one of my all time faves… just so you know. :) April 16, 2014 – 2:17 pmReplyCancel

  • Kimberly - Oh I love you…despite your love of country. It’s ok. We all have those awkward stages. You’ve grown out of it right?
    That song made me smile. I needed that today :)
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The time I was abducted by aliens and could change my past

Last night, I was abducted by aliens while I slept.  One minute, I was peacefully slumbering in bed, and the next, I was standing outside, on the sidewalk, looking at two creatures that I knew were from outer space. Whether it was the glass of wine I’d had before bed or that they’d done some […]

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  • Janine Huldie - Love how you ended this and think you are right about just being thankful for the here and now, but also have to share I had my ex in high school stolen by my skanky ex-bff right before our senior prom. So, was totally shaking my head on that experience!!
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  • Dana - Only you could make green alien men profound and heartwarming at the same time. I completely agree with you, Kristi – I wouldn’t change my yesterdays. Except for the one I wrote about for FTSF.
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  • Chris at Hye Thyme Cafe - OK, I’ve set out cookies for Santa and carrots for the Easter Bunny – now I’ve gotta keep beer and Doritos on hand for the little green guys?!? Ummm, just in case … what flavor Doritos was it that they took???
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  • Angel The Alien - Aliens are so smart, aren’t they? Did you tell them I said Hello? ;) April 10, 2014 – 10:59 pmReplyCancel

  • Don - Is it wrong that I was reading this and hoping that there’d be some probing? Yes? Okay then, that didn’t happen then, probably.

    Lol. How cool would it be to be our same selves only younger? Awesome is how!!!
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  • Linda Atwell - Out One Ear - sweet! I was with you all the way. Sorry about the missing Doritos and Beer. :-)
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  • Michelle - That was awesome! Love the drawings! If I could turn back time, I’d probably tell my junior high and high school self that things get better and I’d probably not have worked so ridiculously hard for companies that I didn’t own and in the end, didn’t care how much I put into my job. Then again, I probably would, because that’s just how I roll. I care too much sometimes.
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  • Misty - hillarious as always! i’d so love to be your neighbor!
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  • Real Life Parenting - Those skanky, boyfriend-stealing bitches are everywhere! lol Funny, I actually started my post (but then completely changed it) with funny stuff I wish I could go back and say or do to past boyfriends. …. You and I had a similar wave-length on this one :)

    Loved your little green aliens! And that nosy neighbor? Pretty sure I lived down the street from her as a kid!
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  • karen - LOVE the creativity babe! you are right, everything is as it shoudl be, one change could effect it all and life could be so terribly different.

    terrible aliens for taking your beer.
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  • Jennifer Steck - There are some profound quotes in your post that really resonated with me, Kristi. “If there’s something I want to change, I need to look at the tomorrows instead of the yesterdays”. It was so much fun, but filled with incredible insights that I love. I am who I am because of what I’ve gone through. So are you. :)
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  • Lisa @ The Golden Spoons - Aliens, humor, life lessons, and love all wrapped in to one post – only you, my friend!! I love what you did with this and totally agree – we need to focus on tomorrows, not yesterdays. I have my moments, but, in the end, wouldn’t want anything to change my right now.
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  • Kat - You make a very good point. I’ve been through some shitty things in life but I’ve also had a lot of great things happen too. Getting rid of the crap might mean that the good might go to. Our experiences make us who we are and, for the most part, I pretty much like who I am.

    ps. Any aliens who like Doritos and beer are okay in my book :)
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  • Echo - This was so much fun to read and I love the illustrations! I probably would have offered them Doritos too!
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  • Twindaddy - I’d love to be 10 years younger too!April 11, 2014 – 9:33 amReplyCancel

  • Tarana - We really are who we are because of every little moment in our lives. Those aliens were right! Even if we were to change the slightest thing about our past, we might turn into completely different people.
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  • Tamara - I like your take on it! I like your Metallica shirt.
    I’d like to come to the playground with you, wearing clean clothes, and being oddly buff, and ignore other moms. Can I?
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  • Deb @ Urban Moo Cow - I really loved the sentiment here. It’s something I think about often. There are a couple of things I would definitely change but like you I wonder where that would leave me. Thanks for the profound thoughts and funny drawings today!April 11, 2014 – 11:52 amReplyCancel

  • Chris Carter - Okay- so did you really have this dream? Or are you that creative and witty and brilliant to come up with this one? SO adorable, funny and as always powerful.

    I can’t stop laughing at your neighbor with the binoculars!!! “Harold!!”- Omygosh HILARIOUS!!!!!

    I love this message- ultimately, every single piece of who we are and how our lives unfold is critical and worthy of keeping.

    Oh yes indeed.
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  • Kelly L McKenzie - I’m loving how so far most of the FSTF posts are coming up with the same conclusion – we are today the sum total of our past experiences. So very true. At the same time I am stunned at your revelation about the stock options buyout offer. How could they think anyone would leap at that? Stunning.
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    • Kristi Campbell - Kelly – I really like how so many of us decided that we wouldn’t change anything either! And yeah, the stock options thing – sadly, I know people at other companies who did choose to buy theirs and lost their money. Of course, there were always the stories out there about the one guy who invested $5K and made $100K to make us all at least think about it. Glad I didn’t though, I’d still be bitter!
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  • Nicole @ Work in Sweats Mama - There are definitely things I look back on and wish I’d had the wisdom and experience to know then what I know now. But, I’ve come to the same conclusion as you. I don’t think I’d really change a damn thing because every moment, mistake, and decision has led me to where I am today. And I wouldn’t trade my husband, my daughters, my family, or my friends for the world.
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  • Barb Taub - This was so funny. And touching. And is it weird that I identify with the aliens? It reminds me of the way that I know — really know– what’s best for my kids. And we all agree that I know. Only difference is that they don’t come to see my wisdom (as you did with the aliens) and so they go off and do their own thing anyway. And they’re usually right. I guess that makes me the neighbor instead of the aliens.

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    • Kristi Campbell - Barb, it’s not weird at all (ok maybe just a little bit but I’m okay with weird) that you identify with the aliens. Was it the Doritos or the beer that helped? ;)
      HAHA to being the neighbor instead of the aliens. I vote that you get to be the aliens instead of the neighbor!
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  • Rachel - Well, you know I would love to be 10 years younger. It’s fun to think about (George and I were JUST talking about this last night) but you are right. We are exactly where we are supposed to be. As always, beautiful takeaway and kick-ass drawings, Kristi!April 11, 2014 – 1:14 pmReplyCancel

  • That girl ryan - AH! teach me how to draw like this? I love it, especially the aliens, i want to take them home.

    This story could honestly be written in a child’s book. It’s full of morals and good teachings…almost bible like. You could call it, “Ninee’s New Testament”.

    You could probably even take your stock options and use it for publishing. And of course I will be your manager and book you on the Oprah show.

    Yes, this is a great idea, call me when your ready.

    All giggles aside, loved this. The pictures just made it too lol.April 11, 2014 – 2:10 pmReplyCancel

    • Kristi Campbell - Girl Ryan, I’d LOVE to teach you!! And I like the aliens too. I wish they were real, I like them so much. I’d even buy extra beer and Doritos. And I freaking LOVE “Ninee’s New Testament” and thanks for getting me on Oprah. That’ll be awesome fun. Don will be so jealous because we’ll be famous. I’ll get to work on it!
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  • Kenya G. Johnson - Love it when you have illustrations! For a moment I took ten years off my life to be here just as it is but then I realized the last ten years have really been so much more of a learning experience than the first 33! Wow huh? Oh and I would have been so pissed to date the same boy for all of senior year securing him for the prom just to have a skank steal him. So did you get another date?
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    • Kristi Campbell - Thanks, Kenya! And it’s true that we learn more during the “older” years, isn’t it? What’s up with that? And yeah, that dumb boy sucked for dumping me right before prom. For a skanky freshman too! I didn’t get another date, and missed it out of spite which, in hindsight was sortof dumb…sigh.
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  • Jodi Flaherty - Well Since I just visit Don of All Trades, I think he may have your beer & doritos…..

    Kidding, aside this is an awesome #FTSF Loved your illustrations!
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  • clark - “…it is our experiences that make us who we are. That changing a single one creates a ripple throughout time and space, and that, in the end, it’s simply much too risky to change anything.

    way to Time Travel buzzkill, yo

    lol, but I agree with you (yeah, how like is that?)
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  • Sarah Shaw Almond - Hee hee Kristi-you make this thought-provoking, cute and heartwarming all at the same time! Love the alien guys, and I love the message of this post. :-) April 11, 2014 – 3:39 pmReplyCancel

  • Lizzi Rogers - BWAHAHAH I LOVE the little drawings. The small alien is wise. And also, are your neighbours Abner and Gladys Cravitz? Yow!

    SO much to like about this post. But sorry your beer and doritos got ‘gone’dApril 11, 2014 – 4:30 pmReplyCancel

  • Sarah Wilson - How fun is this post?! I love it and the comics to go along with it. Made my morning! Do you live in the Denver area?April 11, 2014 – 5:13 pmReplyCancel

  • Bianca @ Rant Rave Crave - Those are some cute aliens! I know changing the past would affect the future & makes us who we are today. However, I do have to agree with you when you were thinking the playground mamas could suck it. ;) April 11, 2014 – 5:55 pmReplyCancel

  • Stephanie Smith Sprenger - Bwahaha! I I needed a funny drawing fix. And I SO wish I could go back and use all my amazingly clever comebacks. I lay awake at night having confrontational fantasies- is that weird? ;) April 11, 2014 – 6:29 pmReplyCancel

  • Lizzy - Muddle-Headed Mamma - Loving those aliens, Kristi, and Harold’s mum too! You’re such a great artist. Fantastic post – a very good reminder that our tomorrows are more important than our yesterdays :) I’m lucky in that none of the mothers in the playground near where I live are particularly buff or glowing or clean clothed (self included!) xxx
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  • Lisa C Cadigan - Love this, Kristi :) April 12, 2014 – 12:15 pmReplyCancel

  • Sandy Ramsey - It is fun to toss the idea around a little…the thought of changing something in the past? But there’s that whole time/space continuum thing that would change everything else, including the really, really good stuff! I love this and I really love the fact that drawing Kristi is wearing a Metallica tee! XX
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  • Times Squared Humour Blog - Hilarious yet profound. Love it!
    I’m with you on looking to the future instead of the past. To be truthful, I have no interest in going back to high school days, working like a madwoman days, and marriage breakdown days. I can honestly say I’m happy with what I have today, and that’s all I need.April 12, 2014 – 8:53 pmReplyCancel

  • Kimberly - You know that game “Draw Something/This”? I should not be allowed to play that game. But you? You’d nail it.
    I completely agree with you in that our experiences shaped us. I do however wish that I could go back in time and call in sick the day that stupid asshole kid who thought it wasn’t cool to use his inhaler at school so he had a massive asthma attack and he stopped breathing and then I picked his fat ass up and then fucked my back up.
    Yup, someone else could be the hero. Not even lying about that.
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    • Kristi Campbell - Kim, I used to be completely addicted to Draw Something! I used to take screen shots on my phone of my favorites and save them. I think I got bored with it or something though as I stopped playing like a year ago. Maybe time to get re-addicted because it’s much healthier than that stupid bastard Candy Crush.
      Ugh, I didn’t know that’s how you fucked up your back – I don’t blame you at all for wanting to change that one!
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  • Jessica Rapisarda - There’s actually something pretty poignant at the heart of this post. I, too, sometimes wish that I were a younger version of myself, a younger mom. But you’re right, you can’t go back and you can’t change just one thing. And I’m not sure I’d trade my snack chips for youth anyway (I really love my chips). April 13, 2014 – 1:08 pmReplyCancel

  • Michelle AKA Dribbles and Grits - I feel the same way. There’s a lot of things in my past I didn’t like and things in my present I don’t like that I could change going back in time, but I’d be afraid I’d mess things up even more. I’m better off being back in time already for the future if that makes sense. If not, try more wine. If that doesn’t work, it probably doesn’t make sense.
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  • Mytwicebakedpotato - I wish that I could go back and tell my younger self…
    - you aren’t pretty when you drink too much and throw up by train tracks
    - not everyone will like you and that’s okay
    - it’s okay to be different

    Thank you for this ;) April 13, 2014 – 10:34 pmReplyCancel

  • Lana - Hi Kristi- I’m so glad I found your site. My sister has a 15 year old on the autism spectrum – I will be forwarding this on to her. I just started blogging and I’m having so much fun finding other moms in blogland. This post made me laugh AND think, which means it was great! Have a great week!
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    • Kristi Campbell - Hi Lana,
      Thanks so much for finding it and for passing it along to your sister. I’m so glad you’re enjoying finding people in blogland – it’s really an amazing thing. I have made so many great friends and really look forward to getting to know you, too! Thanks again!
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  • Jean Baldridge Yates - came over to say hi and LOVED this!!! You are profound, and funny! jeanApril 15, 2014 – 12:07 pmReplyCancel

  • Kate Hall - I love the ending of this. Great post! I love how you explained why you didn’t think the past should change rather than just saying – I wouldn’t change anything. Love the old lady neighbor too!April 15, 2014 – 10:54 pmReplyCancel

Our Land: Unbreakable

Today’s Our Land was authored by a woman known on the interwebs as Cynk (Cyn K – clever, right?). While I honestly can’t remember where we found one another (Twisted Mixed Tape, maybe?), I’m so glad that we did. She (like me!) assumed she’d be “forever childless,” and, after becoming a mother and seeing how […]

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  • that cynking feeling - Thank you so much for letting me join the ranks of Our Land contributors. I’m honored to be included in this diverse collection of voices.
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    • Kristi Campbell - Thank you so much for sharing your story in Our Land. I love that your husband’s family was so open and accepting of Philip. I hope the whole world reads your words and realizes that it’s time to accept autism. You rock!
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  • Dana - I remember enough about mythology to know that Athena is the goddess of wisdom. Peter’s cousin is aptly named; she’s clearly a wise woman who knows what (or who) is really of value. Thank you for sharing your story, Cyn!
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    • Kristi Campbell - Thanks, Dana and awesome connection to Athena, the goddess of wisdom. Here’s to a bunch of people realizing who is of value!
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  • Kerri - Oh my, I am that parent. The one that is so afraid of my child breaking something. But in truth I am that way with my older child as well, wanting her to be polite, respectful and a good person when it comes to other persons and things. BUT I think the difference is with Abby I can expect her to behave and Boo? Well, I just hope she does.

    I think it is freaking awesome that the aunt/cousin put you at ease. I always tell people when they visit we have nothing unbreakable. I am now going to add except our children cause the Husband can defend himself :)

    Oh and by the way…I always pronounced you “sink” oops I much prefer Sin (o)k(ay) :)
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    • Kristi Campbell - I am too, Kerri. It’s the worst at my dad’s because they have this gigantic mirror on the wall that’s heavy as *%$# and of course Tucker is fascinated by it. Completely. He actually (knock on wood) hasn’t really broken anything though. I think it’s awesome that Aunt Athena put her to ease as well and I’ve always thought of Cyn as pronounced as “sink” too but I think that makes sense because her blog is really “that sinking feeling” just spelled cooler!
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    • that cynking feeling - You can call me sink anytime.
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  • Emily - I like that Aunt Athena…a lot.:)
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  • Sarah - I love when a preconceived notion (or worry) turns out to be wrong in the best way possible. Isn’t it wonderful when you realize this person you are related to, and that you love, is also a genuinely wonderful person?
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  • Janine Huldie - I am totally that parent, too and just so thankful for people like Athena, because I always worry that my kids will break something when I go to a new place with them. So truly is nice when I am somewhere and don’t have to have these types of worries.
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  • Lisa @ Golden Spoons - Such a sweet story and a reminder about how we can be so quick to judge and slap labels on other parents without knowing the full story. Thanks for the reminder and for sharing your story!
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  • don - Hooray, a cyn k siting on Our Land! Lol. I love me some Philip stories. He and Tucker would be great running buddies.

    I think we all worry (well, I don’t, but I thin all normal parents do) about how their kids are going to behave in a new place and around new people. They’re very unpredictable little buggers, aren’t they?
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    • Kristi Campbell - Dude Philip and Tucker would make awesome running buddies. With you as their coach of course. Maybe. Hm. Something like that. And yeah, to the whole thing.
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  • Anita Davis Sullivan - There’s nothing breakable but children… how wise. xoxoApril 9, 2014 – 3:17 pmReplyCancel

  • Twindaddy - I guess this makes me a helicopter parent. I feel like I need to be there to stop Baby C from sticking the next lose object he finds in his mouth. Sigh…
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  • Lizzi Rogers - She sounds like an AMAZING woman. How lovely :D I hope you all had a gorgeous time visiting with her.April 9, 2014 – 6:48 pmReplyCancel

  • Gary Sidley - Touching post (no pun intended!). I know from personal experience how difficult it is to relax when my kids were around other people,or in someone’s house. I guess that discomfort is magnified many times for kids with special needs.
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    • Kristi Campbell - It really is difficult to relax with kids in other people’s houses with young children. When those kids don’t understand boundaries and have issues, it definitely makes it more worrisome. Thanks, Gary.
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  • Tamara - Whoa, I got chills from that quote! And Athena is the best name ever. It’s the name of my new puppy, after The Who song, and I do value her more than things..which is good..because she likes to destroy things.
    Anyway, a beautiful story.
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  • Michelle - There’s nothing breakable in this house except my children and my husband. I LOVE that. Really, what else is important. I have to say I used to worry about “stuff”…no more. I just don’t care anymore. “Stuff” is a distraction from life. This was beautiful! And thanks for helping me out on twitter the other day…I found the answer!!
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    • Kristi Campbell - I used to worry about my stuff too, Michelle, but you’re right – it’s just stuff. And a distraction from life. Thanks, Michelle!!
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  • Athena Kalevas Kovalcik - Wow…i feel like I just won a Nobel Peace Prize. I am humbled by your comments! People are more important than things…things can be replaced….We hope the Kazaroffs come for Easter!April 10, 2014 – 11:45 amReplyCancel

  • K - LOVE this post. So often it feels as though others don’t understand, when in reality there are so many amazing people in this world, and I think oftentimes people “get it” more than we realize. (: My to-do list is exploding but I’m so glad I took a moment to stop by tonight because this is just what I needed. Thanks for sharing!
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  • Sandy Ramsey - Oh, how you must have loved Athena! Good for her and how wonderful that must have been for you. You are so right. More people like that her are needed in this world. I know her words make me want to be better at it all. Great, great, great post!
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  • Rachel - When I was a special education teacher, field trips always had me so on-edge. When we were in familiar places, I could anticipate the things that were not going to go as “expected” for my kids. The same wasn’t true in new environments. One time, we went to the Museum of Modern Art, and one of my kids decided he wanted to step on one of the sculptures. When I pulled him away, he screamed and his voice reverberated against the walls of the gallery. I think people thought I was hurting him! In these situations, you do just want empathy. You want people to see the child like you do, as unique and curious and, sometimes, needing guidance.April 11, 2014 – 1:24 pmReplyCancel

  • Kenya G. Johnson - That WAS awesome. I was feeling tense when you guys changed houses. I love Athena’s words, “Nothing breakable … except my children.” Glad she made you relax Cyn, loved this post.
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  • Kimberly - I don’t think that you should have the label of “helicopter mom” since you are protecting your son from harm. The “helicopter moms” at my son’s school drive me batty. Sure, I don’t know them and I shouldn’t judge but hell, if the kid’s tights are looking like they are sagging a bit or if their hair starts to unravel out of a pony tail, so be it. Don’t yell for them to leave the school yard because you notice it. Those kids get so embarrassed that their moms hover like that. Those things don’t matter, whereas safety does.
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  • Allison McGrath Smith - This was a great post, I have goose bumps. I hover with my son too, especially when it’s a first visit. I’m always told to relax, which is easier said than done. Perhaps is it had been expressed in a manner similar to Aunt Helen, I maybe could relax. But probably not:)…April 16, 2014 – 6:33 pmReplyCancel

10 Reasons I’m Thankful for Other People’s Stories

I’m thankful for other people’s stories. Last night, I had the opportunity to participate in the Listen To Your Mother DC Show rehearsal. Honestly, I wasn’t feeling all that great when I left for it. I was tired, having dealt with my son’s waking up at 1:30am and standing over me whispering “Mommy?” after I’d […]

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  • Lizzi Rogers - Ahhhhh beautiful. And yes – SO much more powerful when read/heard in person. As evidenced previously.

    I’m glad the rehearsal went so well, and that you’ve met such wonderful people through it :) April 7, 2014 – 5:56 amReplyCancel

  • Dana - You already know how I feel, but reading this got me even more excited for the show. When I’m feeling like my writing isn’t good enough, I will remind myself if what you said here. It’s my story to tell, and it’s important. It matters. And in thankful that you always help remember that.April 7, 2014 – 7:00 amReplyCancel

  • clark - there is something about real reality that has a certain quality…not affecting the experience but definitely affecting the …energy/excitement/something-osity of event.
    (the old Latinians had an expression, sine qua non which I think of when trying to reconcile the real world with the ‘sphere. while certainly obvious on one level, the fact is, for many of us, the real world is being made more… realer (at least to the extent of variety and range) by virtue of the virtual world.

    ya know?
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  • christine - Oh Kristi, I am so excited for you! You are a perfect person for this show. (I can say this, since I have seen you “in person” on a vidchat. I can tell, you are a great in person storyteller.)
    And after this raving review, I shall have to look into getting tickets to the show in Indianapolis. I love stories, both the telling of and the listening to.
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    • Kristi Campbell - Christine, you really should go to the show near you and audition next year. I honestly did not realize how amazing it’s going to be until listening to these amazing women share really powerful stories. I felt unworthy of course but am so happy to be able to participate in it!
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  • Lisa C Cadigan - Kristi – I love hearing your stories (and i love your drawings :) ) So honored to have sat at the table with you and everyone else there last night. It’s already been an empowering and beautiful experience. Much love.April 7, 2014 – 7:34 amReplyCancel

  • Kenya G. Johnson - I’m glad you had a good time. Love your end – our stories matter as do we.

    And isn’t it something how stressed out we can get thinking nobody can fill our shoes in our routine and then it goes just fine ;-) April 7, 2014 – 7:39 amReplyCancel

    • Kristi Campbell - So true, Kenya, thinking “no way will husband be able to xyz” and then it’s fine! Ha. And yes, our stories are important, and ours, and they should be shared and documented. I know Christopher’s children will one day cherish his chronicles and your writing. It’s important!
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  • Janine Huldie - I love that you are getting this chance and sounds like you had a great time. On a side note, my girls still look for me to put them to bed, too and I always feel guilty if I have to be out of the house at bedtime for them and rarely am, but still could relate to that.
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  • Misty @ West KY Mom - do people ever complain about your use of swear words? i, for one, find swear words to be a very good means of communication. when someone drops the f-bomb, buddy, you know she’s serious!

    Listen to Your Mother sounds like an awesome experience. if it ends up on youtube, please post a link! and kuddos for having the guts to get up and speak in front of a group! are you going to share with us the story you’re telling for the event??? i’m all ears!

    oh, and i started a new blog. felt like the other one should be mostly about “family” stuff. the new one is my attempt to share what our school experiences are like. did i mention that i’m really starting to dislike public school?
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    • Kristi Campbell - I’ve only had a couple of people complain about the swear words on here, and I’m always a little surprised because I was raised in a house that swore, really. People at work swear, I swear but also don’t want my son to so do watch my language around him.
      And it will be posted on YouTube, so I’ll definitely share the link. We are supposed to keep our stories that we’re telling a secret but it has to do with Tucker ;)
      I love your new blog, Misty!! It’s great! Ugh to starting to dislike public school. I’m really nervous about kindergarten next year already, and have already considered what to do if it doesn’t work out well. Hope you can get things to where they work better for P.
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      • Misty @ West KY Mom - the folks in her school building are great, i don’t always feel like we are on the same page, but it’s a great bunch of people. our schooling options are pretty limited here, so home school is pretty much our only other option. sad, but true. can’t wait to see the performance!
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  • Tamara - I’m so with you on the “f” word. Not sure why I didn’t write it out there, though.
    I’m so thankful for other people’s stories, and other people’s stories of motherhood. I know for a fact it helped shape me into a blogger.
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  • Callie Feyen - I loved reading this, Kristi. And I LOVED meeting you and listening to your story along with the rest of the cast. It was a special evening.
    PS- Those cartoons at the beginning of this post made me laugh so hard I cried a little bit. :)
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  • SArah - Fuck, fuck, fuck, fuck, fuck, fuck, fuck. You’re definitely not the only one! Such emotional relief on one simple word.
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  • Cary Vaughn - Loved the pics. The ‘mommy typing frantically at computer at 1 am’ pic made me smile.April 7, 2014 – 2:10 pmReplyCancel

  • Lori Lavender Luz - What a worthy thing to be thankful for, other people’s stories.

    Also, LTYM can bring other synchronicities and reconnections :-)

    I’ll be cheering for you from out here, and waiting eagerly to see the video when it comes out.
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  • Lanaya | Raising Reagan - Wait .. what? Me time at 1am isn’t acceptable? LOL!
    Isn’t it crazy? Rey has gone through this phase as of late to be up every fucking night at around 1:30am. Of course, Brian is through his REM pattern which makes me want to stab him even more because I have to get out of bed and deal with Rey. Oh the craziness!!!
    I just love you mama!

    xoxo
    Lanaya
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  • KeAnne - Welcome to the LTYM family! I’ve been reading you for a while, but this is my first time commenting. This is my second year co-producing the show in NC, and it has been a wonderful, life-changing experience. I look forward to seeing your show video!April 7, 2014 – 7:16 pmReplyCancel

    • Kristi Campbell - KeAnne, thank you so much. I can’t begin to express how amazingly powerful Saturday night’s read-through was, but as a producer, you must already know what I’m just discovering. I can’t wait to see all of the shows! What an amazing idea and concept.
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  • Parenting Tips - I love reading other stories from other people’s blogs. It helps me realize that we all struggle in one area or another, I can possible brighten someone’s day with a simple comment or virtual hug, or can related to their story and give them words of encouragement.

    I too have been in your situation where I had just drifted off to sleep only to hear my youngest son crying because he was having a bad dream or wanted his mama. I am usually the one to get up no matter how much sleep or lack of sleep that I get because I stay home with him during the day.April 7, 2014 – 7:22 pmReplyCancel

    • Kristi Campbell - We really do all struggle in one way or another, and we share more commonality than differences, I think. The thing is, sometimes, I think bloggers get caught in thinking they need “niches” and while that’s true to an extent, it’s also meaningless because it’s all of our stories – the similar ones, and the different ones – that really bring us together in our uniqueness, in my opinion. Thanks so much for the visit and the comment!
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  • Kristi - Everyone has a story, and we can all learn from the stories of others. It sounds like you had a really great time, and I’m glad that things went well at home in your absence.
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  • Christine Carter - Oh this sounds SO AMAZING!!!!! I am so glad you got out of the house and took that big BIG courageous risk to leave the boys at home and let go of your motherhood job for this experience! SO grateful they did okay without you! I remember those days… and yes, just tonight I was out to dinner with my bestie from college, and Cade wouldn’t let go of me to leave and Cass was all “MOM! Don’t GO!!”- and I thought about them going to bed with my ‘love on me mom” and those nighttime routines that are so significant to them, and me.

    It’s good for us, really. And in the end, good for them too.

    I have heard so much about this… oh how I would LOVE to be a part of something so powerful!!! I am SO glad you are, Kristi. SO glad. XOApril 8, 2014 – 4:53 amReplyCancel

  • karen - Great post and so true…knowing you are not alone, that other mothers are just like you…even if all our kids are different…we are pretty much the same. We love our kids, but need time for ourselves, we need to be connected and feel
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  • Kate Coveny Hood - We’re so thankful for you!!April 8, 2014 – 3:23 pmReplyCancel

  • zoe - weren’t you the one who was so worried they might not want you to swear at this thing? Just Answer f*** yeah.April 8, 2014 – 5:31 pmReplyCancel

  • Lady Lilith - I also really enjoy the community aspect of blogging. I have made so many wonderful friends and contacts.April 9, 2014 – 12:22 amReplyCancel

  • Kimberly - It’s incredible right? You can read the stories, but to hear them from the mouths behind the actual words, you can feel them.
    It’s amazing.
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    • Kristi Campbell - YES YES YES, exactly what you said. I can’t wait to see yours on You Tube. I wish I lived close enough to come see your performance live because you’re going to be amazing.
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  • La Dale Reina Johnson - Saturday was so awesome! I’m still thinking back on the stories that made me laugh, and continue to make me laugh, and I’m so thankful for the stories that made me cry, as they made me feel like I wasn’t alone. That was one huge run on sentence to say I’m blessed, honored, and over the moon to be in the show with you and the other wonderful, awesome ladies!April 9, 2014 – 1:56 pmReplyCancel

  • Denise Farley - ….yeah but how many people say (draw out first syllable) “fuck me”? LOL

    There is power all around us. And you’ve reminded us.
    April 10, 2014 – 10:17 amReplyCancel

  • Rachel - I’m so glad you had fun, Kristi! And you got to have a happy ending to this story.April 11, 2014 – 1:27 pmReplyCancel

  • A Morning Grouch - I LOVE THIS. It’s so important to share stories, and to listen to them. Great post.April 18, 2014 – 12:13 amReplyCancel

  • A Morning Grouch - Also – sort of dumb but my jaw dropped a little at your “read them out loud” bit. Hah. SCARY THOUGHT …but yea.. maybe….April 18, 2014 – 12:14 amReplyCancel

What’s the big deal about autism?

What’s the big deal about autism and special needs anyway? Well, for one, according to the CDC, 1 in 68 children are on the autism spectrum, and 1 in 42 of them are boys. They also share data that says one in six (ONE IN SIX, friends!) children have some type of developmental delay. That’s […]

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  • Janine Huldie - Awareness and acceptance is truly what we all need and I think you are truly awesome, as well as amazing for all you have done to promote this. Seriously, Tucker is so lucky to have you and is just an mazing little boy, too! Hugs :)
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  • Sandy Ramsey - Aaaand, she does it again! You are a superhero! Don’t argue.
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  • don - Tucker is lucky to have you on his side!!

    It’ll be interesting to see what becomes of all these great little ones when they grow up, for sure. We all need to figure out a way to make sure their lives are meaningful. You’re a great mom, Kristi. You were given Tucker for a reason. Imagine if he’d been born to somebody who didn’t love him as much. That’s tough to think about I bet. You were made for each other.
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    • Kristi Campbell - It really will be interesting to see what becomes of them and how the world accepts them. I know it’s different now than it was when we were kids and they were all just in homes or whatever which seems really dumb but I guess it was the way it was. And thanks for the great mom and me being given Tucker for a reason stuff. I agree that it’d be awful for him to be born to a family of assholes.
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  • Robin - I just found your blog this week; congrats on your viral post. I was sucked into it. I too wonder what’s the deal? I too have a son, he’s 9 now, and has so many gifts. I was happily going about life aware of his super-strengths and weaknesses (and nut allergy also…), but in a label-less world, until late in 1st grade the school forced a label on us. As with any kid, some things they excel at, some thing are harder for them. But labels appear to be the only way they qualify for help in the US–and like you said, this is more the norm for boys, so why this is the case baffles me. Really look forward to joining your community of like-minded mamas….April 4, 2014 – 6:26 amReplyCancel

    • Kristi Campbell - Thanks huge, Robin!! The labels suck, but you’re right – they do help our kids to receive support so maybe the label doesn’t matter as much as the support? Gah, I don’t know. Tucker actually has an educational diagnosis of autism and his developmental pediatrician has reluctantly given him one so we could get better speech therapy but she’s said she “doesn’t know.” While that’s frustrating, I’m also trying to not let it bother me. If he gets speech and OT for his fine motor stuff, and we’re working on his social things…does the diagnosis matter?
      Thanks so much for the visit and the comment. I look forward to getting to know you better, too!
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  • Misty @ Meet the Cottons - you’re always so awesome!
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  • Tamara - I laughed at “Boob Man” and cried at “My Baby.”
    And he always will be..both, I guess, but the first is too icky to think about?
    Tucker is the luckiest boy in the world! To get you as his mom.
    I’m lucky enough to meet you and call you a friend, even an “in person” friend. Soon.
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    • Kristi Campbell - I’m lucky to call YOU a friend and hahah to him always being a boob man. Not sure how I feel about that but yeah, he’ll always be my baby for sure. Can’t wait to have “real” photos from YOU to put into a collage!!
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  • Michelle AKA Dribbles and Grits - I loved the post. I also love that someone with your attitude is writing for Autism Speaks. Once upon a time, the autistic community wasn’t too fond of them because they made autism look like a terminal disease. They used to at least. I’m glad they are getting with the program to have someone like you writing for them.

    I just had a friend on Facebook tell me that he swears autism is part of our evolution, that it’s making us better people. That the future will hold a society of Aspies as the norm. I honestly think that wouldn’t be a bad thing because most of the issues an Aspie deals with are coping in a world that is unlike them.
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    • Kristi Campbell - Michelle, Thank you – writing for them felt great, and the amount of shares the posts got felt great as well knowing that I’m for acceptance of autism. From what I understand, there is still some controversy about them and I know some people in the autistic community are still not fond of them, but they are the biggest autism organization that I’m aware of so…anyway, thanks! I appreciate the support and your kind words!
      That’s interesting that somebody told you that autism is part of our evolution. I’ve not heard that theory before!
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  • Kate (Shakespeare's Mom) - What an amazing post. I love the way you say that Tucker is your “definition of love.” Just the other day I was talking to a friend whose grandson has been diagnosed with autism, and I said that while of course it would present challenges for his parents and for him, that really what it means is that he just experiences the world differently than we do. And as you say, with the number of children being diagnosed increasing, we are all going to need to learn how to support and interact with them just like we would for anyone, with any life experience or perspective that differs from our own.
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    • Kristi Campbell - Kate – yes! Exactly what you said! An autism diagnosis is not the first thing parents want to hear from a doctor or an evaluator but you’re right – they just experience the world differently from the way we do. It’s not a bad thing and supporting them is so so important. Thanks huge for getting it! And congratulations on Scary Mommy!
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  • Kerri - Here’s what the big deal is about autism….it’s not about the autism it’s about acceptance. And that my friend is what you do so well. You advocate not for Tucker but for every child.
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  • karen - once again I am sobbing…what a beautiful post babe. “definition of love” is when I started crying and “my baby” made it worse.

    every child is so unique and different, every child has special abilities, skills, ways of learning, as a special education teacher and reading specialist it’s my job to learn how to adjust my lessons to fit them, not make them fit my lessons.
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    • Kristi Campbell - Sorry for making you cry, Karen!! You’re right that every child is unique and different and each deserves love and kindness. I adore the fact that you’re a special education teacher and reading specialist. I know I’ve told you that before but truly – such a great calling.
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  • That Girl Ryan - Does Tucker know he has THE BEST MOM ever? I can’t wait until you can show him all these posts one day. You are a rock star.

    I saw the excitement over your posts this week and I am thrilled for you. You deserve the recognition.

    PS: Where can I find the shirt, “Boob Man”? I will make it my life goal to have a boy one day to put him in that shirt.April 4, 2014 – 9:49 amReplyCancel

    • Kristi Campbell - Girl Ryan, Thank you sooo much! And re: the shirt “Boob Man” – I can’t remember where I got that one but I know there are funny ones at tshirthub.com. Tucker also had:
      I’m cuter than other babies
      I still live with my parents
      Lock up your daughters
      I suck, therefore I am
      Sucker
      and a onesie that said Recently Evicted. :D
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  • Kelly L McKenzie - Oh those pictures just say it all. They do. He is one very special little man. Love the “a friend” ones the most.
    Keep on fighting Kristi. Keep on fighting.
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  • Chris Carter - Oh that sweet boy!!!! I adore those pictures!!! Every child is different and has special needs. EVERY child. Truly. And all moms are called to their purpose to embrace not only their own children, but those of other moms- with both honor and respect for their unique place in this world.
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  • Jessica - My question is, why is this so common all of a sudden? Is it because of some environmental/chemical/whatever change or has it always been there and we just didn’t recognize it? If it’s the latter, than yay to people who are starting to figure this out. We should realize people’s brains all work differently, regardless. But if kids are having issues because of the former, I am concerned. I’m not saying these kids aren’t amazing and beautiful and special just like everyone else, but we should be concerned about what’s in our environment and how it affects us. I obviously lack the information to really understand this, but if you have any insight, I’d appreciate it. And either way, education and understanding are key to acceptance. Whatever the reason, we need to accept people as they are and give them the support they need to overcome any sort of hurdle in their lives. Great post, and awesome job keeping the conversations going on this. :)
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    • Kristi Campbell - Jessica,
      I don’t know the answer to that but there are theories of both an environmental change (some people believe vaccines are the problem – I’m not one of them), and ones that people are being diagnosed earlier and better. Honestly, I don’t have a clue why there are so many more being diagnosed, and I agree with you that it’s concerning and that we should – as a society – try to figure out what’s going on AND figure out the best way to support these kids moving forward.
      Thanks so much for all of your awesome sweet comments and encouragement, my friend.
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  • clark - So much of the world is personal and the biggest shame is that more people don’t understand that…really understand it, to the level that your reality is as real as any reality.
    I feel bad for the people who are only able to live in a reality as defined by others, fortunately for Tucker you are one of those people who know that the world that you know is the only important world and while that does not mean that we can wish for a million dollars or fly (without machinery), it does mean that the people in our lives are so, way better for our choice and strength in knowing the best world.
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    • Kristi Campbell - I love your words “your reality is as real as any reality,” Clark. Brilliant as always. Here’s to the worlds that we know being full of import and no doubt due to the Rogers and Scotts!!
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  • Dana - If I could sew, I would make you and Tucker matching super hero capes. Actually, I’d make them for everyone in Our Land – it will be the required uniform.
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  • Piper George - Until I became a mother I never really knew anything about autism – now I seem to know so many parents who have a child who is being/has been assessed. I don’t get why there seems to be more and more kids receiving a diagnosis these days. Is it because in years gone by we didn’t know what to diagnose and they were just labelled differently or because there are factors in our environment that are causing more issues or just because now we can recognise and work with children who need more help in one thing or another? I do know that these are just kids, and thats it. Loved, playful, learning, special, just like any other child.
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    • Kristi Campbell - Piper,
      Honestly, I’m not sure why there are more kids these days. There are differing theories out there, some lead to environment, some to vaccines, some to more appropriate and earlier diagnosis. I have no idea but yes you’re right – they’re just kids. thanks so much!
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  • Ruchira Khanna - Kerri talked about milestones today and I agree that these are just man made. We start each life by putting accelerator on his/her life. Gotta live life on your own terms and if such souls are daring to do that (tucker, boo andmany more) they brand them!

    I don’t agree with the above terms and am with ya!
    TGIF :) April 4, 2014 – 4:44 pmReplyCancel

  • Lisa @ Golden Spoons - I just love you! And Tucker! (Is that weird? – I don’t mean it to be weird!) Even thought I have never met him, I see his beauty and energy and personality through your words. I hope – I wish- that’s what others would see, too.
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    • Kristi Campbell - Lisa, HAHA no not weird. I feel the same way! I’m so grateful for you and the entire blogging community. Many nights it’s you guys who have saved me from sadness and loneliness. xo
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  • Teresa Kander - Awesome….I love the pics of Tucker showing who he REALLY is. And he is blessed to have you there to advocate for him.
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  • Tarana - He looks like an amazing kid, and that’s why we need Autism Awareness. So we can get to know him better. Love those pics!
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  • Stephanie Smith Sprenger - OK, your collage made me cry. In fact, I am having a hard time typing through my tears. xoApril 4, 2014 – 8:59 pmReplyCancel

  • Anna the Flutist - Why do “autism organizations” not listen to autistics? They have the personal experience and are therefore one of the most valuable resources of information.April 4, 2014 – 10:10 pmReplyCancel

  • Marcia @ Menopausal Mother - Tucker is all things beautiful. Such a lucky boy to have such a loving mom. The collage you did here is just amazing. It’s so cool to think one day he will look at all these amazing things you have written and shared about your journey with him, and he will be so proud to have you as his mother! XO
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  • Kat - Those who have never been the parent of a child on the autism spectrum can never truly understand the “big deal” about it. The most we can do is listen, try to understand and, above all, be supportive. You are obviously Tucker’s biggest supporter and trumpet your love for him to the hills. He is such a beautiful, lucky boy :)
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  • Kerith Stull - Love this. Truly touched my heart. And that one idea…. shouldn’t autism in boys be more of the norm now that the rate is so high… Wow. Never thought of it that way. Hate to think about autism being the norm, but it is an interesting thought indeed.
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  • Echo - Kristi, you are truly an inspiration. I don’t know how you do it. Tucker is so lucky to have you in his life, advocating and spreading awareness for him and all of the kids in the world.
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    • Kristi Campbell - Echo – I just read your post and talk about inspiration!! I’m totally inspired to go to the gym now. And honestly, Tucker deserves a world that will love and respect him. I just want to get a few people to not be so freaked out by the word autism, ya know? And thank you!!!
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  • Kenya G. Johnson - Love how you put the pics together. I’ll go share the article again just in case it didn’t take. It’s a new day anyway ;-)
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  • Lisa @ The Meaning of Me - You’re like the best mom ever, Kristi. The pictures are fantastic – Tucker is fantastic.
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  • BB - Seeing a generation of such fantastic parents rise up to confront the issues that developmentally disabled children face has been a true joy to me. Thank you for being an advocate for your son. Thank you for understanding him.

    It will make all the difference in his life.
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  • Katia - Ever since reading your post from last week (or was it a couple of weeks ago) where you’ve mentioned the “what’s your challenge” initiative, I’ve been thinking about autism differently. I think that the terminology “on the spectrum” implies that there’s an “us” and “them” and within “their spectrum” there are different shades and colours whereas “what’s your challenge” groups us all together, the way we should be. This week’s post just further solidifies this in a perfect blend of emotions and statistics.
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  • Kate Hall - I love those pictures – the Boob Man made me laugh. He is so precious. I just think it’s awesome how you’re raising awareness and being a voice for people who need to hear you, who need support. You rock!April 7, 2014 – 11:03 amReplyCancel

  • Kimberly - Boob man…hee hee.
    I had no idea that those statistics were incredibly high especially among the boys. My nephew is on the spectrum. It has taken years to get him tested (his mom was in denial that he had problems in development…which is totally understandable because it is a scary thing). He is such a beautiful soul…who does get a lot of flack for being “different”. No one knows his story or who he is as a person. It’s sad…but the ones who love him know :)
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  • Michelle - Congrats on the viral post – you deserve it! That was a great one! I always love what you write! And Tucker is an amazing kid…great things ahead for him!
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  • Rachel - I know I’ve written this before, but he’s very lucky to have you as his mom. You are such an advocate for him and for all kids with Autism.April 11, 2014 – 1:30 pmReplyCancel

Why spread autism awareness?

Whether you, or your child, have special needs, autism, a differing ability, or are typical in all of the typical ways, you, and your child are important. Worthy. Worthy of love, opinions, outbursts, understanding, empathy, forgiveness, and acceptance. Acceptance. In order to accept those that we may not fully understand, we must first be made […]

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  • Deb @ Urban Moo Cow - Super proud of you.
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  • Emily - Perfectly said and I am so proud of your 40K FB shares! Going to check out your other post right now!
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  • Janine Huldie - Very proud of you indeed and couldn’t agree more you nailed it hitting this one out of the park :)
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  • Jen Kehl - You are amazing. Just so….really breathtaking. I have watched this journey of your go from denial to acceptance so gracefully. And now to being the voice for so many moms who are scared and uncertain. I am so proud to know you, and know so many people are blessed when I share your words.
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    • Kristi Campbell - Wow. TTT x infinity right back at you, Jen. Thanks for being there for this journey, and thanks even more for getting it. I’m proud and blessed to know you and call you a friend.
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  • Cheairs - Beautiful….thank you!!April 2, 2014 – 5:04 pmReplyCancel

  • Dana - I am so proud to know you, Kristi – you are moving mountains with your words, my friend.
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  • Debra Cole - Such an important message. #Autism awareness.April 2, 2014 – 7:35 pmReplyCancel

  • Lisa @ Golden Spoons - So happy for you Kristi and so happy that your beautiful words are being shared with so many people. It WILL make a difference – YOU make a difference.
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  • Tamara - Heading there right now, my sweet!
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  • Krista - So happy to see your beautiful words shared with so many! Congratulations! Tucker is so lucky to have such an awesome mom! *hugs*April 2, 2014 – 10:02 pmReplyCancel

  • Angel The Alien - COngratulations on having your writing featured on Autism Speaks! I bet you’ll get lots of new readers now. :D
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  • Angel The Alien - I read your articles on the site just now and was going to comment, but the comments are loading slow as molasses, so I came back here. Great articles! I loved the one about the things you wish you knew about autism. I hope that helps a lot of parents who are first learning that their child may have autism, to realize that it isn’t the end of the world, and that they and their child can still have a great life.
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    • Kristi Campbell - Thanks for reading them both. I’m glad you liked them and I, too, hope that a parent is helped by the reminder that life will be beautiful even if it’s a bit different from what they planned on. And just as well you didn’t comment over there yesterday – something happened to their site and I saw some blog friends comments got “eaten” (and so did some of the FB shares which is such a bummer). Thanks again!
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  • Lizzi Rogers - *dancing with happiness and watching you CHANGE THE WORLD*

    Kid, I’d make you a star, but you ALREADY ARE ONE.April 2, 2014 – 10:16 pmReplyCancel

  • Linda Atwell - Out One Ear - AWESOME! Sharing. :-) April 2, 2014 – 11:04 pmReplyCancel

  • Stephanie Smith Sprenger - I am SO proud of you and thrilled that you’ve accomplished so much this week! Much love to you…April 3, 2014 – 1:28 amReplyCancel

  • Christine Carter - #Autism awareness. Kristi has such a powerful message.April 3, 2014 – 2:22 amReplyCancel

  • Jennifer Steck - I’m so glad that people are more open and willing to share such important information. It can make a difference and you are, Kristi. :)
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    • Kristi Campbell - I think people realizing that autism is different in every person and that, for parents, life will still be amazing would go a long way toward acceptance. Thanks so much for the encouragement, Jennifer!
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  • Jessica Herndon - Beautiful post, Kristi.April 3, 2014 – 7:40 amReplyCancel

  • Sandy Ramsey - Kristi, I never get tired of reading what you write. Your passion and strength are incredible and you know what? People hear you, they listen!! Every word you write is important and the way you do it, in a REAL and approachable way makes so much of a difference.
    I’m so proud of you and all the words you have put out there in the name of autism awareness! XX
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    • Kristi Campbell - Sandy – what an amazing compliment. Wow, thank you. I’m blown away and completely flattered. I hope people listen because Tucker, and everybody, deserves acceptance. Hopefully a few more people will stop and think before assuming something the next time they are in a situation where they may be thinking of judging. XO friend.
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  • Melissa @ Home on Deranged - One of the best parts of this piece for me was the notion that maybe, just maybe, we can lay off each other in the judgy department. If my kids are acting out, I have no doubt people are running a list in their head. I’ve been guilty of it. Doesn’t have to be that way, though.
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    • Kristi Campbell - Thanks Melissa. It’s really easy to judge and I think it’s really natural. However, since having Tucker, and having somebody call him weird, I’m committed to not judging others. Because the truth is, I don’t know their realities. Somebody being rude or bossy may have just found out she’s ill – or something.
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  • Jean Baldridge Yates - this is so exciting for you, congratulations! You are rocking it! Hug your son for me! April 3, 2014 – 11:03 amReplyCancel

  • Jennifer Anzin - Thank you for sharing. Love your blog too.April 3, 2014 – 11:37 amReplyCancel

  • Sarah - Thank you. Off to read now.
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  • Jodi Flaherty - So very proud of you and the spread of this so important message, Kristi! Congrats, and very well said!
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  • The Pink Roller Coaster - 40,000 Facebook shares?! Wow. You are doing important work, my friend. I’m so happy your writing is being shared with soooooooo many people! Congrats!
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  • Kelly L McKenzie - Amazing. Here’s to another 40K shares Kristi! I thank you for the reminder to not be so judgy and the need to say hello to both tired mom and child. Jumbo hugs for both you and the Tuckster.
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  • Jessica - I love these articles, Kristi! You are so right on. Everyone deserves to be heard and understood, especially those who don’t have the kind of voice that many may be able to understand. I bet these kids would be glad to know they have your voice! I was thinking about it the other day, and of my friends with boys, I think about half of them are on the spectrum (and yes, they are all very different). That’s just IRL, so not to mention the kids of parents I have “met” online. No doubt we need to talk about this — for understanding, for treatment, for possible prevention. This is a super important issue. Nice job, girl, and congrats!
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  • Michelle Liew - The world needs to learn to really, truly, embrace people for who they are.April 3, 2014 – 4:26 pmReplyCancel

  • Lizzy - Muddle-Headed Mamma - I totally agree with Lizzi’s comment here, Kristi … you are CHANGING things. Your writing is educating people (I know for a fact your blog has educated me) and helping your readers view things from a different perspective. And in helping your readers view things from a different perspective, in turn they will help their children to do so too so that maybe the next generation will be more empathetic and aware that their reality is not the only reality. That’s so fantastic that your posts got shared so many thousands of times! I’m sure your words will be read many hundreds of thousands of times in the future too. xx
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  • Dan Murphy - A wonderful, heart felt post.

    What really caught my attention? Your phrase, “Today. Tomorrow. This life.”

    That’s right, our understanding, caring, and advocacy needs to be for the long haul. Not just for World Autism Awareness Day.April 3, 2014 – 6:10 pmReplyCancel

  • Courtney Conover - This post was beyond moving, Kristi, and beautiful in every way. (I’ve come to expect nothing less from you. ;-)

    Super congrats on your posts being recognized by Autism Speaks!!

    You go, Girl! <3
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  • Mike - I just read your guest post and it was fantastic as always. As was this post too, Kristi. So very, very proud of you and Tucker always :)
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  • christine - Oh, Kristi. You are doing wonderful, positive, helpful things. I’m so glad your articles are getting such publicity. You have a great way of explaining your world to those of us who aren’t living your life. Rock on, Sister!
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  • Michelle - I have to read the post you wrote for them, I did read the 10 things one. All people are worthy…YES!
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  • A Morning Grouch - 40K??!! ROCKSTAR! Awesome post. Understanding each other’s struggles and stories is critical for less judgement, more connection. Awareness is needed . Thanks for sharing.April 18, 2014 – 12:18 amReplyCancel

My Kid Forgave Me

You know “the look.” I think everybody does. Sometimes, it’s privately shared with a friend when somebody says something to remind you of a personal dialogue. It’s shared with a spouse, hoping to convey “get me out of here” or “stop being such an ass.” It can be shared with a sibling, when a particular […]

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  • Linda Atwell - Out One Ear - Oh Kristi: I hated it when mother’s of typical kids said, “all kids do that!” No. They. Don’t. Not in the same way. My son didn’t do things the same way. I could reason with him. I could communicate better with him. Of course I love this whole piece, but I was sad for the part when your son was unable to communicate. Broke my heart. But then I especially loved the part where you shared how we hold grudges and that hit home for me right now. Sometimes I get mad and I tend to be a grudge holder. I love what children teach us. What you teach us. Thank you.
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    • Kristi Campbell - Linda,
      It really is annoying when people say “all kids do that,” isn’t it? Because they DON’T. I mean maybe they do a little, but like you said, it’s very different. And yeah, I have a tendency to hold grudges a little as well and want to not. It’s just not really worth it and if my son can be generous enough to forget that I disappointed him almost right away -what an awesome thing, huh?
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  • Janine Huldie - I am so thankful for our kids’ resilience and ability to forgive, because there have been times here when I do something to upset or annoy them (like making them go to bed after a long day) and they truly get angry at me from these things, but I truly doesn’t take them long to forgive and forget. And then they always come back and hug me and tell me they love me. So trust me, you aren’t alone in this and I too know the feeling here at times, too.
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    • Kristi Campbell - I’m so thankful for kids’ resilience too Janine. So much. I love that they’re so easy in forgiveness and I want to be more like that myself. :D
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  • clark - (I will write) Good Post (but that is not what I would say but) none of the other standard things apply… (wait! alright, I’m going to go with)

    I can identify with how you feel…

    (hey, thanks… not sure the form of the thing that would be represented by this thanks, but screw it)

    hey thanks…
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  • Sarah - I’m having a hard time believing in that resilience right now. Maybe because I’m not feeling particularly resilient. This was a wonderful story and lesson I will ponder this week.March 31, 2014 – 9:13 amReplyCancel

  • Kimberly - Oh I love you and Tucker. This is such an important lesson for all of us. Kids forgive and we should do the same. Life is too short for stupid things. I’m sorry though that you had a difficult time in understanding him. You both understand love and share it immensely. It takes time to learn one another and to have patience. That is what Tucker is telling all of us…patience and forgiveness. xo
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    • Kristi Campbell - And my lovely Kimberly, I love you and Chunky! Here’s to patience and forgiveness. More of it, for all of us. I think we can drink to that, even.
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  • Kerith Stull - I totally get that frustration with interacting with Brielle, almost every time she signs something to me. Yes, she’s a fairly fluent signer. BUT… she has fine motor issues that make her signing “Brielle signs” that are difficult to interpret, even for an “experienced communication partner” – aka Mom. Because Tucker forgave you for not understanding (and even if he hadn’t), show yourself a little forgiveness, too!
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  • Kristi - Kids are resilient, and kids do forgive freely. I hope you catch that commercial soon, though, for your own peace of mind. Two of my children had trouble with speech, and I could relate to your dismay (and Tucker’s frustration) over words without shared meaning. It took me weeks to figure out “Mimi annanas, pshew!” was Mumford the Magician’s, “Ala peanut butter sandwiches!”
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    • Kristi Campbell - Thanks, Kristi, it helps to know that other parents had a hard time deciphering their kids’ words. Usually, when other people can’t understand Tucker, I know what he wants. Not that time though and I just felt so badly for him! Poor kid.
      And how adorable that Mumford the Magician’s is peanut butter sandwiches!
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  • Emily - I am a big grudge holder. Huge. It’s bad, I know. As for resilient kids, I couldn’t agree more. Aside from one kid going through the challenge of his life, I’ve got another who just got cut from a sports team he was so hoping to make. He deserved to make the team and was better than many of the other players but politics (yes politics!) got in the way and kept him from getting selected. I thought he’d be crushed forever but he was laughing and “over it” the next day, which is more than I can say for myself. I’m still stewing about it!! So glad you learned this lesson – it’s a great one…
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    • Kristi Campbell - Emily, I am too, in some ways. It depends on the situation really, but even when I’m good about it, I’m not as good as Tucker is about it. That sucks that one of the dudes wasn’t chosen to play because of politics! I’d probably hold a grudge over that one too.
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  • zoe - resilience is a spectacular thing and I suspect something Tucker has had all along… don’t forget though that he also has a new found awareness…. I used to with my kid hate those times because they usually showed up like this one as an awareness of a limitation (his or mine) but the great thing about it was that it translated to other awarenesses of his surroundings and things he wasn’t previously registering… lovely post- Sorry for the heartache though.
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    • Kristi Campbell - That’s true, Zoe, that he has a new awareness…thanks for the reminder of that and thanks for getting it!
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  • Considerer - Oh no! I hate that you felt this way – you don’t suck. The situation sucks. Tucker knowing he can’t make the words he needs and that you can’t either – that sucks, but YOU DON’T. I promise; look at the wonderful, gorgeous rest of the weekend you gave him.

    LOOK AT YOU CHANGING THE FREAKIN WORLD FOR YOUR BOY.

    You. Don’t. Suck.

    And if ANYONE dares to give you that ‘look’ – the one like you do, or like he does, tell me and I’ll come and pound on them when I’m over there. Start me a vendetta list – I will thump them ALL.

    (Wait, you were talking about forgiveness…drat!)
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    • Kristi Campbell - HAHA to coming to thump them if anybody else gives me the look! And dude, check you out with bolding and italics in a single comment. It’s like a superpower and way cool. And thanks for thinking I’m changing the world for my little guy. If I change just a teeny tiny part of it and one person is more accepting of him, it’s better, right? I mean I want more than one extra person to be nice to him, but you know what I mean. :D
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      • Considerer - I got skillz

        And you ARE changing it. From where I sit, you’re doing amazingly at it, with HUGE impact on people’s minds and hearts, and it’s incredible, and I still think you’re one of the people who’s the most ‘doing ACTUAL REAL THINGS with her blog’ people I know.

        At all.

        So there.

        (and believe me, I WILL thump them.)
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  • Tamara - I know that Des is developing typically and it’s not quite the same, except that he’s 1.5 and this happens a lot in our house and his whole demeanor changes when I DO get it right. And obviously that happens more and more as we both grow and his words get better and so does my understanding.
    The resilience…that’s magical. It really is.
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    • Kristi Campbell - You know, I didn’t even realize 1.5 year olds were supposed to talk more than mine did??? Dumb me. So hey you’re getting it right. I promise. Plus, you’re freaking awesome. And yeah the resilience, yeah. Magical. Huge big magical.
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  • Natalie M - Your posts really mirror true to me, thanks for sharing. I really relate to you pain at not being able to understand everything. It’s so hard, my little boy gets frustrated when I don’t do what he wants and he can’t communicate that to me, but he soon forgets and like you say moves on. But all we can do is our best and then hopefully it will get easier over time.March 31, 2014 – 3:16 pmReplyCancel

    • Kristi Campbell - Natalie, you’re right, it’s hard when we can’t understand them – so hard. But, I think there’s a message there somewhere about them moving on…I want to move on, too!
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  • My twice baked potato - I remember sitting in a puppet show at the local library with my son. He was unimpressed with the marionettes that all the others loved…all but one other boy that was sitting with his mom across from us. Both of our boys were agitated by the noise and the crowd and couldn’t wait for the show to be done. As moms, most likely both special needs moms, we gave each other the look.
    It said so much.March 31, 2014 – 3:44 pmReplyCancel

    • Kristi Campbell - Ahh, the look – glad there was another special needs mom there to share it with you! Back when we did more community events, nobody shared the look with me – they just judged. I’m still hurt and sad about it. It was messed up. :(
      Here’s to you and all of us who are out here, trying to raise awareness!!!
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  • Dana - I remember reading somewhere that forgiveness is a healing gift we give ourselves, not the person we are forgiving. Kids just seem to know that, and then somehow they forget as they grow. I know that doesn’t lessen your sadness about not understanding Tucker, and I’m sorry for that. Oh, and I don’t think I’ve ever said “All kids do that,” but I know for certain that I will never say it in the future.
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    • Kristi Campbell - I like that it’s a gift we give ourselves, and it’s weird, because this post brought up a lot of other stuff for me, that I guess I need to get into in another post, or private writing, of something. When Tucker was tiny, there were so many moms who were just so mean and I’m still angry and hurt and had forgotten all about it until you (thank you) wrote that you weren’t sure you’d said “all kids do that” but won’t. I won’t bore you with my psychobabble about me me me, because the important part is that I appreciate you and your willingness to listen. I know you get it because your son is friends with a boy on the spectrum, but still, I feel like you’d get it anyway, because you’re just awesome. And I thank you for that.
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  • Jennifer Steck - I can’t imagine the frustration of not being able to communicate what you want to say or to see someone we love feel that way, Kristi. Your post made me cry. I don’t know Tucker, other than what you have shared, but I want so badly for him not to ever feel that way again. Thank goodness for his resilience. This won’t be the last time, but he will know that he has a mother who loves and will fight for him.
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    • Kristi Campbell - I’m sorry it made you cry. Your post made me cry too so maybe we’re even? I want so badly for him to never feel that way again too…and thank you so much. Here’s to his resilience! xo
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  • Angel The Alien - Kids really live in the moment, don’t they. Maybe that is the key to pure forgiveness… they really don’t hang onto their anger or sadness for long. In one moment they may be upset, but the next moment they are blissful because you’re reading them a story or letting them have a Gogurt or something. They don’t dwell on what happened yesterday. Not until they’re a little older, anyway!
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    • Kristi Campbell - I think you’re right that kids living in the moment is key to their pure forgiveness. I wish that we could all just hang onto that for longer, and not worry so much about what it means when somebody says something, worry that we made somebody angry, and I so much just want to hang onto that a little longer – for me and for my kid!! Thanks, Angel!
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  • Katia - The most beautiful thing I’ve read in days. I feel like we experience and feel things similarly. I would’ve been devastated too. Heck, I am just reading this, but yes, they forgive and move on and it’s us who dwell. I think that it’s because they view these things as isolated incidents in the moment they occur whereas we with our life experience tend to view everything as symbolic of something else, as a tendency, as part of a process. I’ve had moments like that with Ben when I had no idea what he was referring to and I get how devastated your felt especially when he tried to form the word with your lips. You’ve described it beautifully and the pain will go away but this testament of how much you love your son in a post will remain.March 31, 2014 – 10:12 pmReplyCancel

    • Kristi Campbell - I feel like we feel things, and experience them similarly too my sweet friend! I love how you put that they just view things as experiences and that we tend to put them in categories of stuff that comes with other stuff, because I think you’re right. I never really thought about it like that. I like it. And yeah it did suck that he was trying to get me to say whatever it was, but again he moved on and I should too. Thanks, you. xo
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  • Eli@coachdaddy - I think your son saw that you tried. Your best. No forgiveness required.

    It reminds us that sometimes the kids give their best and it doesn’t result in victory. But they tried. Their best.

    No forgiveness required.

    This is a beautiful piece.
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  • thedoseofreality - Bawling. The way you described it is exactly how this parenting gig feels so much of the time. Man, it is tough. Your sweet Tucker is so lucky to have you on his side, though. You get him, even when you can’t exactly say it.-AshleyApril 1, 2014 – 9:14 amReplyCancel

  • Mike - Wow, this was a good read, Kristi, despite the hurt that you felt for not understanding what Tucker was trying to say and for the frustration that Tucker felt…only temporarily. That part about him telling you not to say “sorry” was amazing in of itself. All kids, including Tucker, are so resilient to so many things especially at a younger age. And despite his frustration in the moment he quickly moved on displaying his incredible unconditional love for you. It will be interesting to see if that was one of those big life moments (of many had and so many more yet to come) for the both of you in future communication or missed-communication. Thank you so much for sharing this with us :)
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  • Lady Lilith - I love it when kids try to act all grown up and and big.April 1, 2014 – 3:57 pmReplyCancel

  • Lisa @ Golden Spoons - Sp glad I am finally catching up on some blog reading! This is a beautiful, but heartbreaking story. I am always amazed by the resilience of children. At the end of the day, Tucker knows how much you love him and that is why he is able to forgive so easily. Forgive yourself, too, friend because you are a wonderful mother and Tucker is lucky to have you – even when you don’t understand. (HUGS)
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  • that cynking feeling - Oh, if only I could learn to forgive and forget as quickly as your son.
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  • Danielle M. McCormick - Love this post Kristi!
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  • Debra Cole - Oh my… I loved this. What a sweet, sweet boy. So heartbreaking for you, I can imagine. But so bittersweet in the lessons we learn from them. xoApril 3, 2014 – 1:29 amReplyCancel

  • Allison Barrett Carter - This was such a special post to me. My children aren’t “special needs” but this still got me in the center of my heart. I get it, I do. Thank you for this.April 3, 2014 – 6:30 pmReplyCancel

  • A Morning Grouch - Seeing our children struggle hurts our hears as much, if not more, than theirs. So hard. April 6, 2014 – 12:04 amReplyCancel

Red Rocks Concerts, The 80′s, and a Mullet

The 80′s and 90′s were good years to be young. When I was in high school, each year, from May to September, my friend’s and my preferred activity was getting drunk going to concerts at Red Rocks. It almost didn’t matter which band was playing; simply being there was a blast. Back then, we were […]

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  • Rachel - Where to begin? 80′s forever! Hilarious: pictures, “man-child boyfriend”, mingle = briefly falling in love. I’m jealous that your mom let you stay out over night to get concert tickets. Is it weird that I’m still jealous now?March 27, 2014 – 10:23 pmReplyCancel

    • Kristi Campbell - Um, Rachel, to be honest, I’m not sure my mom realized that I was camping out to get concert tickets. My dad certainly wasn’t. I just said I was spending the night at a friends and that we’d be going to the concert from her house.March 28, 2014 – 4:05 pmReplyCancel

  • Kelly L McKenzie - Pass the baby oil. Did you bring iodine? I forgot. Thankfully all the guys left their thongs at home. Yes – I’m with you that is a damn good thing.March 27, 2014 – 10:23 pmReplyCancel

  • Emily - Now THAT is what I call great historical (and hysterical) material for a blog post…I think I’m actually jealous that you have stories like that to draw from. You may be scarred, but at least you’ll never be stumped for things to write about…start writing a memoir ASAP!!
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    • Kristi Campbell - HA Emily! And yes, I suppose being scarred for life is worth being able to tell you about the day mom’s boyfriend who was only a few years older than I was wore a THONG to CC Reservoir. Sheesh! I need to do something on a book – or really want to anyway. I think I get hung up on wanting to write fiction when really maybe that’s not what I’m actually any good at. Are you actively promoting your memoir?
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      • Emily - No, I’m not promoting my memoir because it’s not published yet — still trying the traditional route of finding an agent, etc. No luck yet, but not giving up!
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        • Kristi Campbell - Ok shows what I know about the lingo – sorry. I actually meant whether you’re “pitching” (is that right?) to agents, and stuff. Like whether you’re still working on it, or “promoting it” – does that make sense?
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  • Mike - You always have my undivided attention with the 80′s, Kristi! Thoughts (and comments) swirling in my head about your mom and the boyfriend.

    Concert. 1983 Day on the Green at the Oakland Coliseum. My best buddy drove down from Reno for it. I have pics of that! Had all of our booze as we waiting in the line for the gates to open with our 12 pack. Not knowing that everyone had to toss their booze at the gate. Needless to say the two of us slammed a 12 pack in about 5 minutes upon finding out. Best buzz ever until 7 p.m. that night when it all started wearing off and the main event hadn’t started yet.

    Journey, Triumph, Eddie Money, Bryan Adams…Journey’s final stop on their world tour. They played for 4 hours until midnight. Incredible :)
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  • Kate (Shakespeare's Mom) - Oh. Mah. Gah. You poor thong. Oops! I mean thing. This story really sounds like it could be straight from an 80′s movie. I could feel your teenage embarrassment, and the picture is priceless.
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  • Lizzi Rogers - FRIST!March 28, 2014 – 2:02 amReplyCancel

  • Lizzi Rogers - Glad you prefaced this with so much fun hearing about the concerts, because THAT ENDING! Aiiieeee! March 28, 2014 – 2:07 amReplyCancel

  • Kate Hall - OMG!!! That is hysterical! I’m picturing the Oxford hanging over the triangle exposing his rear on ultra-conservative beach and can’t stop laughing! And your reaction – hilarious! March 28, 2014 – 4:46 amReplyCancel

  • karen - Blaaaaah, I agree man banana hammocks are just nasty…shivers as I try not to think about them. I would have hid under the blanket too…((HUGS))
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  • Dana - That was an awesome story to start off my Friday. I mean, not awesome for teenage you, but awesome for me who it didn’t happen to. Now every time I thong about it today I’m going to smile. I mean *think* about it.March 28, 2014 – 6:52 amReplyCancel

  • Nicole @ Work in Sweats Mama - So much awesome and wrong in one place! I thought it was bad when I saw an older gentleman with the generous beer gut strutting his stuff in a Speedo at the aquatic center last night. My two year old, who’s obviously a total genius, kept asking, ‘Mommy, what he doing?’ Even at her tender age, she easily recognized that this man had no business wearing so little! But…your mom’s BF takes back the award for sheer stupidity with a stringy vengeance!
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    • Kristi Campbell - HAHA to your two year old knowing something was off. Hopefully, she’ll never see a man thong and realize what’s TRULY ickily off!!
      And yeah, mom’s boyfriend had some awards due for sure. My bet is that one of them has been a Darwin, at some point!!
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  • Real Life Parenting - Wow, he had some balls … and you probably got a bit of a glimpse of ‘em too!! Blurg! I thought it was gross enough to see my mom’s boyfriend (who became my stepdad) without a shirt on when he wore normal swim trunks … can’t imagine the scarring in my brain and eyeballs if I had ever seen him in a thong. Gag.

    Sorry you had to go through that, but, once again, it’s made for great entertainment for the rest of us!! ;)
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    • Kristi Campbell - EW thanks YOU for making me wonder if I saw the balls and blocked that shit out of my head or not and NO I will NOT be exploring that in any future self meditation moments or anything else. Gross. HAHA to being grossed by your step-dad’s bare chest. Guess I won this round of nastiness gross outs huh? ;)
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  • Giorgia - I miss 80′s too!!March 28, 2014 – 8:09 amReplyCancel

  • Claudia Schmidt - OMG, I agree man-thongs are so gross! And, I love your drawings, they’re so fun!
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  • Welcome to the Bundle - Are you kidding? You had me at “empty gallon-sized milk jug.” I nearly doubled over at the sailing accident. Then you threw in the “manchild boyfriend” and his butt cheeks. This is the kind of traumatic childhood experience that is an eventual writer’s dream come true. Hilarious!March 28, 2014 – 10:26 amReplyCancel

    • Kristi Campbell - I think it’s funny that you relate it to a writer’s dream come true. Mostly because so often, I sit here thinking “I’ve got nothing” and then remember all the embarrassing horrible shit my parents (and ALL parents) did and are. Thanks much for the visit and comment!!
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  • Michelle @ A Dish of Daily Life - You have the best stories ever! EVER! And your drawings are absolutely hysterical. Would you believe I grew up in Golden, went to school in Boulder and never went to a concert at Red Rocks? Bizarre!
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  • Tamara - Oh. My. God. I’m assuming your mom doesn’t read your blog? I’d love to hear her version of things!
    And Everclear!!
    My husband has seen Phish a lot a Red Rocks. I’ve never even been to CO although there were a few near-misses.
    I want to go. With you!
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    • Kristi Campbell - She actually does read it sometimes, and I’d love for her to read this one and let me know what she remembers. It’s not like I haven’t given her a hard time over the years about this same incident. Maybe I should invite her to reply!! She just had hand surgery but I’m totally going to and thanks for inspiring the idea.
      And I want to go to Colorado with you!! I can show you all around like my little sister (wife) :D
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  • Stephanie Daigneault - I never lived in Denver but I went back and forth between Phoenix and there when I was working to hear you describe it I feel like i did! I ran into the most fantastic mullet I had ever seen when in Hawaii and usually when I see something so amazing I try to get a photo, but this guy was so skillfully elusive I could never get one! That was years ago and I still wish I had photographic evidence! Great post!!
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    • Kristi Campbell - I’m bummed you didn’t get a photo of that mullet, too! Because it must have been amazing! They really were cool in the 80′s and I even encouraged my then bf (and first husband) to grow his hair longer in the back. I did. :D
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  • Elaine A. - So glad my parents stayed married. ;-)

    Also, I’ve heard Red Rocks is amazing. My college roomie lived in Colorado after college for quite a while and she LOVED going to concerts there!March 28, 2014 – 11:25 amReplyCancel

  • Stephanie - This is hilarious! And the pictures? I want to know how to do that.

    I would love to hear your mom comment on this.March 28, 2014 – 11:30 amReplyCancel

    • Kristi Campbell - Thanks, Stephanie. I’m going to ask my mom to comment or write her version of it. We’ll see what she says!! And the pictures? Photoshop, a lack of any real artistic talent, and a mouse because I have found that finger drawing on my laptop is just not the same. :D
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  • Teresa Danner Kander - Loved reading about your concert experiences. The man thong story….oh man!! I was traumatized FOR you!!!March 28, 2014 – 1:36 pmReplyCancel

  • Joy Christi - Oh good LORD that would be terrifying for anyone, but your MOM’S DATE?? Ugh. I hope she’s made it up to you since then, that’s well, I don’t even KNOW what that’s like. That is officially it’s OWN THING. New saying: “I’m as uncomfortable as a kid looking at her mom’s date in a thong.” There is no comparison!
    I doubt this is comforting, but I JUST posted my 80′s prom picture on my FB page, complete with a MULLET and giant AquaNet mall-wall hair! March 28, 2014 – 2:43 pmReplyCancel

  • Chris at Hye Thyme Cafe - LOL – So, is that you or some poor innocent bystander on the right in the pink bikini gaping in horror?? ;) Lucky for him, that was before everyone and their uncle had a cell phone with a camera and access to Facebook/Twitter/Instagram …
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    • Kristi Campbell - Chris, it’s totally meant to be an innocent bystander on the right and THANK YOU for noticing!! I sometimes feel like I spend so much time drawing this crap and nobody sees any of the little details so I very much appreciate you doing so!
      And HAHAH to it being the days before cell phones and Instagram, etc. So right (and it’s weird that I sometimes miss those days, right?). :D
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  • Her Royal Thighness - What a hilarious story! Thank you so much for the laugh this morning! I hope mom’s taste has matured by now. Wow … a man in a thong? It’s 2014 and I’ve still never seen that. The image of him walking around with that oxford shirt, looking half naked is not one I will soon forget. That can traumatize a girl for life!March 28, 2014 – 4:37 pmReplyCancel

  • April Grant - OMG! I think I would’ve thrown up right then and there! Ewww! I’m not hot for man-thong now unless the behind is AWESOME! And I find that rare! March 28, 2014 – 5:27 pmReplyCancel

  • clark - I can address the issue of Red Rock (I know that John Tesh played there once… back when I decided that Entertianment Tonight would be my sole source of news and current event, from what I recall, he brought the house down)

    …the thong story…. two words: ayiiee! (I remain in awe of the Federico Fellini meets john Hughes nature of your growing up experiences… man!)
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  • Robbie - Wow..I cannot get that image out of my head…ick! ick! ick! Concerts sound fun though!
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  • Ruchira Khanna - hahaha…I am laughing hard just imagining you covering your face with your shirt and that guy in thongs….errrr!

    seriously, we have grown up Kristi :)
    Are’nt we glad!March 28, 2014 – 6:47 pmReplyCancel

  • Yvonne - Oh, my gosh, that would have been an embarrassing experience for a teenager. Loved your drawings. And so cool that you saw all those bands at Red Rocks (not that I know what Red Rocks is, but it sounds fun!) The only one of those bands that I ever saw was U2 – but it was a great gig in a tiny nightclub way before they were famous.
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  • Lisa @ Golden Spoons - One thing I love about you is that I never know what to expect when I visit here! :-) Man things – gross!
    Lisa @ Golden Spoons recently posted…Concerts, Conferences, and Canines – Oh my!My ProfileMarch 28, 2014 – 8:36 pmReplyCancel

  • Marcia@ Menopausal Mother - Dying laughing here!!! Geez, I remember guys down here in Florida wearing shiny satin speedos to the beach—-you could see EVERYTHING in those nasty “swimsuits”—that were really underwear. Gawd, no wonder you were scarred for life–a thong is way worse. Thanks for the 80′s memories of concerts—you saw some great groups!
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  • Jennifer Steck - Another Red Rocks Fan!! There is no place like Red Rocks to see a concert. I can’t believe you saw U2 there. What an incredible experience!
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  • Katia - Man thongs are very. Very. Very. Wrong. I would even go as far as paraphrasing Taylor Swift in saying that there is a special place in hell for men who wear thongs and a special place in heaven for people who had to witness this as children. I kind of feel bad toward child Kristi and her brothers for getting a kick out of this post but as always the illustrations were awesome and the storytelling made me long for the 80′s.March 29, 2014 – 3:30 pmReplyCancel

  • Julia Starr Arnold - This is so funny I don’t even know where to begin. I did NOT see the post going that way when I started reading> HAHA!.March 29, 2014 – 7:15 pmReplyCancel

  • Sarah Almond - Oh my, I’ve been to two concerts in my life, and I can’t say that I’ve ever seen THAT! Fortunately I’ve lived a very sheltered life.

    On one hand, kudos to your mom for trying to get her groove back. On the other hand, boo for being permanently scarred from that experience!

    A man thong is very wrong… That could totally be a haiku!
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  • ben - Waaaaaaaaaaaaaaaa! Hahaha I can see the lighter that you’ve been waving.
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  • Alexa - I am laughing OUT LOUD at this post! Thank you for the laugh this morning. I can only imagine the horror. It also reminded me of when my sister was an exchange student in Germany her senior year in high school, and her host family took her to a nude beach. Can you imagine??? I guess you probably can!
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    • Kristi Campbell - OMG Alexa, your sisters host family took her to a nude beach!!?!?!???? That sounds unbelievably awful! Yikes! At least with my own mom, I could make fun of her but a host family, I’d have dug a hole in the sand!
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  • Jen Lauren Schneider Kehl - Ahhh!!!!! One more reason why I know we were always meant to be! I drove a 240sx!!!! Also, this is hilarious and exactly what I wanted to read right now :-) You know how I feel TTTx1billionApril 1, 2014 – 1:04 amReplyCancel

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