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“It’s gonna snow tomorrow? Crap! That means I’ll have to take the bus.” I was 19 or 20, and the days when the weather prevented me from riding my bike to and from work were a hardship. Cycling with work clothes and deodorant in my backpack 13.5 miles each way was good exercise. It was […]

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  • Allieq - Great post Kristi! And it’s so true, we get caught up in our “problems.” I was at Cammy’s karate graduation tonight,and I honestly thought they were making too big a deal out of it (and charging me, cha-ching, for him to “participate”). Fact is, he’s the baby, I’ve been to so many “ceremonies” and mom was tired.

    Then one instructor, from a different Dojo franchise, stood up before his class took the stage to say they were dedicating their ceremony to a family their Dojo had lost. It was a single mom, who had a child who had Aspergers. She killed her son and then killed herself. He broke down. I was in shock, but needed to hear that story, because they were asking for help for families who have special needs children. They went on to explain how…but you get what I’m trying to say. I will never feel put – out to attend anything for my children again. ANd I will help families who need respite, any way I can.November 19, 2015 – 10:17 pmReplyCancel

    • Kristi Campbell - The thing about “our problems” is that they are ours and here and LOUD right now. OMG to the ceremony about the boy who had been killed by his mom and then she killed herself. FUCK.
      LOVE YOU SO MUCH.November 20, 2015 – 9:53 pmReplyCancel

  • My Inner Chick - OOOO, Kristy,
    my heart is heavy & the world is falling apart and I’m really sad about it.
    The good news is: We can be part of the solution to change the world!!

    xxx Kiss from Duluth.November 19, 2015 – 10:23 pmReplyCancel

    • Kristi Campbell - My sweet Kim, my heart and life is heavy too.. but you’re so right. WE CAN CHANGE the whole wide world. You are. We are. xo big.November 20, 2015 – 9:55 pmReplyCancel

  • Vidya Sury - Even with third world problems where we’ve gone hungry some days and broke before the 20th of the month most of the time, when we are in a better place, we want to “give” in every way we can, Kristi. I grew up somewhat poor, but we always spared food for anyone who came to our door. Today, I am better off and I am doing all I can to contribute to making the world a better place. It makes my blood boil when people differentiate when it comes to who they help. We are all humans and that’s all that matters.

    Thank you for such a wonderful post today. Turning the TV on these days is turning on the tears. But tears won’t help, action will. Very close home, our neighboring city is in floods and parts of the city are cut off because they’re practically submerged in water. So heartbreaking to lose lives and homes in an instant like that.

    Hugs! Thanks again! Thrilled we’re cohosting together this week!November 20, 2015 – 1:59 amReplyCancel

    • Kristi Campbell - Aw, Vidya, I love your stories about feeding the world as best you can… and yes, we are all humans and and and… Turning on the TV sucks. Action matters and huge HUGS to you. So many thank yous for hosting with me this week, and the weeks that you do. You are amazing.November 20, 2015 – 9:56 pmReplyCancel

  • Janine Huldie - You really brought into perspective all those who are turly in need and most definitely worse off than we could ever be. Like you I have grumbled over certain things in the past that now seem ridiculous that I indeed did and just thankful for all I do very much have and feel blessed for it. Yet, I also can’t thank you enough for the reminder and links above to be able to help those who are most definitely in need now. Thanks Kristi for that and so much more.November 20, 2015 – 3:05 amReplyCancel

  • Anna Fitfunner - Kristi: you’ve written a wonderful post, as always. But more importantly, you’re using your pulpit to provide links for readers to reach out to those suffering true hardship, and make a difference in the world. Good for you!!!!!November 20, 2015 – 3:11 amReplyCancel

  • Ruchira Khanna - Well said, Kristi. The world needs us, our compassion cause hardships are around us…

    xoxoNovember 20, 2015 – 3:31 amReplyCancel

  • Christine Organ - Thank you for this reminder AND for the links. Such helpful informationNovember 20, 2015 – 8:59 amReplyCancel

  • Elizabeth - Well said, my friend.November 20, 2015 – 9:52 amReplyCancel

  • Emily - It’s so true how we need to remember that despite our own challenges, others have it SO MUCH WORSE. Thank you for providing this much needed perspective!November 20, 2015 – 11:12 amReplyCancel

    • Kristi Campbell - I hate that others have it worse. I hate that we have to feel guilty when our lives suck. I am ug to all of it. I know you get that. xoxoxoNovember 20, 2015 – 9:58 pmReplyCancel

  • Michele - This last week has hurt my heart so much. And perspective is everything, isn’t it? Thank you for sharing yours, and for helping your readers to do more good in the world through these links.November 20, 2015 – 2:31 pmReplyCancel

    • Kristi Campbell - Ahhh perspective. So much that it’s everything and thank you Michele!November 21, 2015 – 7:10 pmReplyCancel

  • Lola Marguerita - There are so many in need. And you’re right – we’re all human.November 20, 2015 – 5:06 pmReplyCancel

  • Pamela Morse - These are great suggestions. Sometimes people get paralyzed rather than involved.November 20, 2015 – 5:47 pmReplyCancel

  • Marcia @Menopausalmom - The news lately has been heartbreaking. I can’t even watch anymore. It makes me wish I had millions so that I keep help every single child who is living in these hellish times.November 20, 2015 – 8:51 pmReplyCancel

    • Kristi Campbell - Marcia,
      Me too. Sigh. Me, too. Here’s to your book becoming a movie and getting the millions to help all of the kids. It’s so heartbreaking.November 21, 2015 – 7:29 pmReplyCancel

  • Joy - Your compassion is beautiful. As is your global perspective. Love does win and yes, let’s change the world!November 20, 2015 – 10:30 pmReplyCancel

  • Christine Carter - AMEN girl!!! Oh how I just love this… it digs deep into my heart. I want to share this everywhere. THANK YOU for offering not only the reality of True Hardship, but offering ways we CAN do something about it.November 21, 2015 – 4:43 amReplyCancel

  • Julie Martinka Severson - Oh my. This one is going to be resonating big time. There are countless scenes from my life whirling around in my mind after reading this. Moments when I, too, thought I had it “so hard.” Forced to walk off a building. . .No more words.November 21, 2015 – 10:13 amReplyCancel

  • Lisa @ The Meaning of Me - As always, you manage to speak most beautifully. This echoes some of the thoughts in my own post – which I have to finish and post, I know. Hardship is relative, it’s personal. And at some point, everybody experiences it in some form.
    xoxoNovember 21, 2015 – 12:39 pmReplyCancel

    • Kristi Campbell - Aw thanks, Lisa. I loved your post and you’re so right – hardship is relative and very very personal and we do experience it. Still, mine feel less-than when I see families hiking for 100+ miles to try and get out of a war zone. :(November 21, 2015 – 7:31 pmReplyCancel

      • Lisa @ The Meaning of Me - My Grandfather used to say, “No matter how bad you think things are for you, there is always someone worse off.” I think that is very true. And that doesn’t mean our own trials and sufferings are less, it just helps put things in perspective. I can’t go out for dinner? OK, some moms can’t feed their family at all tonight. I think that makes me more conscious of what else is out there. And more grateful for what I do have. xoNovember 21, 2015 – 9:34 pmReplyCancel

  • Dana - I have to keep reminding myself that for all the evil in this world, there is more good. It doesn’t always make the news, but it’s there. Your posts often help me remember that.November 21, 2015 – 2:12 pmReplyCancel

    • Kristi Campbell - There so is more good. Always always. XO Speaking of good, so looking forward to writing with you next month! Thank you again.November 21, 2015 – 7:32 pmReplyCancel

  • JT Walters - Kristi,

    I am going to dare to descendent from your opinion. The USA has third world problems that are hidden.

    I have a sick child. No one helps us. As a matter of fact the government can not stand us. They hate us so before one more person is put in line to receive anything before my son who has been waiting for over a decade and a half….I say, “No, we have our own people, including veterans, who are not getting taken care of first. Obamacare is a huge part of the problem…everyone is covered who is too poor but because those who can afford to pay are refusing there is no access.

    I agree with you five ways to aid hardship but charity begins at home and there are many parts of this country which qualify for third world country status.

    As I sat in a waiting room of a major university hospital in Florida while my son who has been sick for over a month and has a rare disease. The Florida Department of Health refuses to care for medically complex children. You do not know hardship until you have walked that road alone. I did it while providing end stage rectal cancer care for my Mom alone as two oncologists insisted she did not need hospice and then when the finally did agree only a few days before she died the social worker screamed my Mother’s insurance didn’t cover it despite me citing the exact statute to her.

    I was told we were, “Too poor for humanity!”

    So at this hospital I sat next to this woman who had snot flowing from her nostrils which she wiped off with her hands. She was American and she told me she was in her early twenties. She not only had HIV but LUPUS and an upper respiratory infection as well. The government has cut back her food stamps and she can not get enough calories to survive. She was gauntly thin and African American.

    America is a third world country now. It just is not for those the live and work inside the beltway.

    Syrian refugees are not wanted in an of the other Arab States. One has to wonder why the USA, who can not treat it’s own people with humanity and compassion, would have any business taking anyone from any other country until our people are taken care of first including but not limited to our veterans who we ask to make the ultimate sacrifice and then they return to see Syrian refugees living better than veterans or Americans?

    Idealistically, your thoughts are beautiful but realistically our government could very well see the country collapse into a civil war with the Clinton $500 million aid package to Pakistan while Pakistan protected Osama Bin Laden, refugees from Jordan, Turkey, Iraq, Iran, Somalia, etc getting welfare, housing, healthcare and free college educations that far surpass what is accessible to Americans and/or Veterans.

    Refugees see America as the plaza hotel to have a lovely vacation at the expense of the people who have forged and served this country. God knows those refugees will all end up living as fat cats inside the beltway.

    I am glad you has posed this question because it now is clear to me those who suffer outside the beltway mean nothing to those living inside the beltway. The only answer is to over populated, dwindle down all the resources of those living so richly in the third world to be sensitive to those of us outside the beltway living in the third world. When inside the beltway and outside the belt way look the same everyone will finally get it.

    We have no business taking refugees when we can not care for our own people including our veterans.

    Finally, you really think the water you are drinking is clean? How much do you know about water santitation. The people who sued PG&E would completely, disagree with you but most of them are dead.

    I adore you but this and the 2nd amendment scream a serious nativity about the world we live in. The USA outside the beltway is a third world country. Actually, I have seen third world countries with better info structure, healthcare, educational systems. Americans and American veterans are treated like dirt. Until humane healthcare and a first rate of ducational system return to the USA, we have no business taking on refugees.

    Taking on refugees during wars is a haphazard practice.

    The USA needs to put Americans first!

    Or the refugees live and work in the White House limited to only moving inside the beltway. And when there is an attack on DC, then the military stays home and Obama term is over. He is no FDR.

    I love you but I love my neighbors who I see suffer everyday because of a collapsing government spending far too much money on war, sending young men home in caskets never to be Fathers. I have friends and family currently active in the military. We do not need another never ending war to keep bad incompetent weak “so called” leaders in office so they can line their pockets with money from defense or just cheat in the stock market buying before every government contract is awarded…..No More….No Thank…And you think Americans would be taken as refugees? No Way!November 21, 2015 – 4:05 pmReplyCancel

    • Kristi Campbell - JT,
      I’ll probably go out of order here but yes, I do think that Americans would be taken as refugees by many of the European countries if we needed them to take us. I also think that Canada and Mexico would allow us to flee there if need be. I am in no way trying to imply that things are perfect or even ideal here in the US because they are not. People fight too hard for health care and services, as we both know. I hate that I have to fight for my son to get what he needs. That you need to fight for your son to get what he needs and that he still does not get what he needs. You are doing very important work to try and help your own son and families with special needs members all across the country. I was merely trying to say that while I feel like I’ve had hardships, I have not had to pack up as much as I could into a backpack and hike 100 miles to safety to have my family not be blown up, and then getting turned away anyway. That’s just wrong and as a human, maybe I am naive but I think everybody deserves to not wonder whether they’ll be blown up in their sleep each night. Or beheaded.

      The USA does need to do a better job at putting Americans first but I think that we also need to view the state of the world as human affairs. It’s very likely that there will be an attack here in the next year or two. Again.

      I didn’t talk at all about whether to take on refugees but believe that we should. Also three out of five of the links I shared are for help here in the US. Giving blood, for example, is something those of us healthy enough to do so can do even when we cannot afford to help in other ways.
      PS technically, I live outside of the beltway but understood your reference.November 21, 2015 – 7:41 pmReplyCancel

      • JT Walters - First Ms.Campbell, I both hate and live your diplomacy. It must drive hubs crazy in an argument. i agree but in my lily opinion those are UN General Assembly Matters and not USA matters.

        Idealistically, I do not want any family anywhere suffering but do you realize how many fact Syrian dead refugee pictures have been put up of dead children on Facebook? i know because I have worked in the medical field and seem dead children. These children are clearly not dead.

        Realistically, I have sat in the middle of hospital and colleges and been told my son could not have services because those services were reserved for refugees. I have known refugees who have gotten free housing, food stamps and jobs while American veterans were homeless on the street.

        For the record, I know where you live. You know this and i was very clear when I made the statement about the beltway you did not live inside it or I would not have made it. I do actually love you even when I completely disagree with you.

        One final practical matter, I do not think you should tell people your husband does laundry. You may become the envy of the married world!!! You are also setting the bar way to high for the beer chugging coach potato football fan husbands.

        None of us want anyone to suffer. But that attitude has lead to Americans be loathed around the world and giving all their monies for social services, welfare, and healthcare programs to refugees. In 2000 when my son was born with a disability my mother literally said to me, “Cross the border and re-enter the country illegally and your son will live like a KING!” It is very sad but very true about the great state of Florida.

        Canada yes…but I am not so certain about Mexico especially with the drug cartels. Western Europe openly admits they hate us. They endure us but do not like us and I doubt they would take us as refugees unless an asset like a nuclear scientist, engineer, doctor…etc…

        Ugh…you are such a good diplomat Eleneanor Roosevelt!!!😘November 21, 2015 – 8:14 pmReplyCancel

        • Kristi Campbell - I wonder if there are studies about cases like special needs children getting better services when they are illegal. An interesting perspective and not something I’ve heard before.November 22, 2015 – 5:53 pmReplyCancel

          • JT Walters - Ugh..Ganhi…you did it again!!! i quit!!🙄November 22, 2015 – 6:16 pm

        • Linda Atwell - Out One Ear - JT Walters: Where are you getting your information that American’s are loathed around the world? From personal experience? Because I travel a lot and have not heard (or seen) anyone in the European countries I’ve visited disparage Americans. This is going to sound terrible, but you sound like you watch FOX news and get all your jaded info from that station. Personally, I found some of your statements outrageous, like when you say things like: the government cannot stand us, they hate us…. you should come into the country illegally and your son will live like a king… And many more, ridiculous statements that I just don’t want to waste my time to repeat.

          My husband does laundry, mops floors, scrubs toilets, washes the car, does the yard work, and he’s even learned to make Taco Soup recently (as well as quite a few other great meals)–and not because I make him or have even asked him to do these things. He feels they need to be done. And he loves me and we’ve been married over 33 years. And many of the “guys” in our circle of friends help out around the house too. Obviously your opinions differ greatly from mine. I’m sorry, but you lost me at your first sentence on both comments.November 24, 2015 – 1:29 amReplyCancel

      • Linda Atwell - Out One Ear - I totally agree with you Kristi.November 24, 2015 – 1:33 amReplyCancel

  • Lisa @ Golden Spoons - It is so hard to forget how many blessings we have sometimes. I whine about my 70s style bathroom and forget that I am blessed to have clean, running water. I complain about packing lunches and rising dinner because I forget that I am blessed to have plenty to feed my family and myself. Thanks for the reminder and the suggestions~November 22, 2015 – 4:54 pmReplyCancel

    • Kristi Campbell - XO Lisa. And you know, I still do think it’s okay to bitch about packing lunches and stuff because pain! But yeah, perspective is so key. xoNovember 22, 2015 – 5:52 pmReplyCancel

  • Tamara - YES! Yes. Actual ways to actually help. Not just think or pray. Sigh. I am a bit of a complainer. I guess it’s because I only know things one way or so, and even when I try to wrap my head around certain ways of suffering, I can’t. I only know my own suffering.
    I try to live more in the beautiful moment. And it’s hard.November 22, 2015 – 9:10 pmReplyCancel

    • Kristi Campbell - I can only know my own as well but I want to be better at the world’s.November 23, 2015 – 10:15 pmReplyCancel

  • Linda Atwell - Out One Ear - I believe love wins too. It has to! And I can’t watch much of the news either anymore. All of the ugliness is so heartbreaking.

    In the past couple of years, John and I have made a commitment to help someone less fortunate every month. We recognize that we have way more than we deserver and/or need. Besides, Lindsey has inspired us with her regular donation to an organization that sponsors kids (she’s been doing this for 16 years and counting!). Because of her comittment, we decided to make a similar one–although we vary our contributions to what feels right each month. This month we are helping a sick child: Alfie. He has an extremely deformed foot and lives in the Philippines. I don’t know if there is enough money in the world to help every single person in need, but we have to start somewhere. And every little bit helps, and for us, it feels right to know that we are trying in our small, inadequate way.

    I totally agree with you. Love will win.November 24, 2015 – 1:13 amReplyCancel

  • JT Walters - Ms. Atwell,

    While I may disagree with the hostess of this sight, I would never personally attack one of its’ participants because I disagreed with them.

    Kristi knows me well but for your edification, I haven’t traveled to other countries. I have lived in them. My information comes from living within the culture of those countries. Western Europe has had many historical critics of the USA including Salvador Dali. Tourists are always told they are loved. Live in another country, speaker their language and get back to me.

    After 9/11, within minutes of the first attack, I shut the TV off. There are a few shows I will watch on demand but I do not watch any news stations. I caught glimpses of the Conneticut elementary school shooting and the Boston bombing because I was in places that tv(s) were on and noticed atleast one of the victims died twice. We have actors portraying the dead on tv so no thank you.

    Speak for your own region of the country because each region is extremely different. I believe Oregon is famous for helping out the homeless. Go to Alaska and see how the homeless are treated or Florida? You do not live where I live. You do not know me. It is absolutely a thousand percent true that undocumented workers are receiving better benefits, kids are going to better schools and have unions in Florida that are illegal unions to encourage more undocumented workers to come here.

    So maybe before you get your 50 stamps in your passport you should get to know your own country better. And maybe instead of attacking another parent of a child with special needs, that is a special kind of evil, you should try to empathesize and understand where that person is coming from? You want Syrian refugees to move here and take all your child’s social services?

    You misconstrued, assumed and with vile disdain, not live, responded with contempt to another parent of a child with special needs to make yourself feel better.


    I feel sorry for anyone who gets a beeping helping of your love!

    Per her hubs, I was kidding her and she knew that and that is why your post is filled with self righteous hatred. Great another hateful Democrat from Oregon named Linda Atwell who uses others blogs to be a complete jerk. Had you read my post, which clearly you did not, I said my Mother said it about dragging my son across the border and in Florida it is true but I guess from an Oregon view, who does not deal with the chainsaw beheadings of the Mexican drug cartels, ignorance screams.

    As for your husband, you wouldn’t have to advertise if things were so great! No sale on you or him or your cause. Your post is the anti-marketing of your family.

    Second Amendment must stay just for those who abuse the First.November 24, 2015 – 7:54 amReplyCancel

  • Sandra - Wonderful post! And so true. I work with a woman who has had to take leave because she’s developed lupus. She has 4 children and a husband who didn’t work because he stayed home with the smaller kids. This year my unit is preparing a hamper for her, and we’ve been accumulating money for her and her family. It’s not much, and in the wake of the Syrian refugees I wish there was more to do, but every little bit helps. Thank you for the reminder.November 26, 2015 – 3:56 pmReplyCancel

    • Kristi Campbell - Aw Sandra,
      I love that you’re doing something for a woman you work with. That’s where it starts. That’s all of it. If each of us, always, did those things, the world would be so so much better. xo.November 26, 2015 – 10:44 pmReplyCancel

“You know, not making a decision is making one. It’s a way out, because not choosing an option over another means that the decision is made for you,” my dad said. “That’s a decision in itself, and one that you may regret.” “But I don’t know what to do!” I said, trying not to cry. “It […]

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  • Sandra - I think I’m first in these comments! First of all, beautiful and thought provoking as always. I’m glad you forgave younger you for saying the R word and making that statement. It’s not uncommon. And you are a strong loving mother who appreciated the gift of a child. If I wasn’t bound by a privacy thing, I could tell you a story that would make younger you just young, as opposed to downright violent, as I have witnessed.November 12, 2015 – 11:05 pmReplyCancel

    • Kristi Campbell - You are first in these comments, Sandra! Thank you so much for your kind words and YIKES to the downright violent story. Hope you’re having a great Friday!November 13, 2015 – 5:19 pmReplyCancel

  • JT Walters - I think you nailed it. Making memories which bring my son happiness and that will fortify him through life is what influences me most. I am also consumed with trying to teach him because I believe an active brain can heal itself.

    In my opinion all of these children are here to teach us humanity, empathy, unconditional love, and acceptance for them and ultimately and hopefully before we die for ourselves. Diversity is a strength even when you factor in the special needs population.

    And I must state my son brings me so much happiness and joy just by sharing how he sees the world with me. He has an awesome sense of humor! I tell him to everyday to navigate the world in silence takes genius and if he ever overcomes that the rest will be easy. He has had a pretty hard life thus far so he has strength.

    The little boy I dreamed of with light hair and emerald green eyes who hugged me when I got home from my fancy job and said, “I missed you and love you so much Mom. Come read me a book!” never materialized for me either. I grieved not having that child a bit but instead…

    I have beautiful Alex who hates hair so he has a GI haircut, loathed the Navy Seal Museum once he realized it was educational so he hoped in the closest chopper waiting to fly out. When that didn’t work he attempted to reprogram the museum electronic alarm so I took him out to run the SEAL obstacle course and he ran to the car! The wall was quite high to scale and I would not have made it up the ropes.

    My son has special needs but he is perfect because he is my son. Probably the greatest influence I and teacher in my life is my son too. Not the son I thought I’d have but the one who deals with adversity bravely everyday. Alex was right about the obstacle course. He’d have been fine but I’d have fallen and broken my leg. He has common sense.November 12, 2015 – 11:16 pmReplyCancel

    • Kristi Campbell - Awesome comment JT. You’re so right – our kids do teach us all humanity and empathy and unconditional love. And, they’re amazing just as they are. Better than imagined, even. And wow, Alex was pretty insistent about getting out of that educational Seal Museum! LOL :)November 13, 2015 – 5:24 pmReplyCancel

      • JT Walters - LOL😂 Necessity is the Mother of invention especially when it comes to get out of Museum Education….Adapt, achieve & overcome! LMAO!

        My cute son was waiting by the car for when I broken my leg on the obstacle course. He didn’t want to be in the way of the ambulance. Typical teen thinking…”My Mother is an idiot but I still love her!”November 13, 2015 – 6:51 pmReplyCancel

  • Pat B - What a beautiful and inspiring post! Looking back on our younger selves, though sometimes painful, is a good thing if there is something to learn from doing that. Sometimes it is just to learn to forgive ourselves.November 13, 2015 – 1:35 amReplyCancel

    • Kristi Campbell - Thank you so much Pat! And you’re right – forgiving ourselves is so important.November 13, 2015 – 5:30 pmReplyCancel

  • Janine Huldie - Aw, love your thoughts here, but then again I always do. Oh and you are so right that I try very hard, as well to forgive my younger self for the way she once thought, as well as try oh so very hard to see the light and magic here as much as possible, as well.November 13, 2015 – 3:11 amReplyCancel

  • Samantha Harpur - Love this! Love your blog. Will email you soon!!November 13, 2015 – 6:43 amReplyCancel

  • Robin - What a sweet post. We as adults so wish our we were oh-so-perfect in our teens/twenties. I so know that wasn’t the case. I had no idea! But got teary-eyed when I read this–never had this vision of what my son would be like but sometimes when I get frustrated w/him, it only last a few minutes because afterwards I hear him say “but mom, why would you want me to be like everyone else?”, “normal”, “average”, “typical”, “what’s so great about that?” and I know he’s right–he’s pretty awesome. Learning pace is different. Quirkiness is different. But different is pretty great too…because honestly, who aspires for ‘average”?November 13, 2015 – 8:18 amReplyCancel

    • Kristi Campbell - Robin,
      Thank you! I love “what’s so great about that?” from your son. And yeah, different can be pretty amazing indeed.November 13, 2015 – 5:31 pmReplyCancel

  • Emily - Aw, I love how you finished this week’s sentence! And, had I finished it too (I promise I’ll get back in the game one of these days!), I think my answer would have been similar..all three of my dudes have been huge influences on my life, but in completely different ways. Oh and btw, I love the meaning of your tattoo.:)November 13, 2015 – 8:39 amReplyCancel

    • Kristi Campbell - Thank you Emily!! No pressure or anything but you can still link up until Sunday at noon 😀
      Hope you have had a great Friday!November 13, 2015 – 5:38 pmReplyCancel

  • Allie - We have the same influences:). And yes, please forgive your younger self. I forgive my younger self, poor thing just had no clue, you know?? Can’t stay mad at her. And I think she would be pretty in impressed with how she turned out – and by what influences her today. P.S. I’ve been sick all week and couldn’t get it together to write a real post. Did a favorites list instead. BlahNovember 13, 2015 – 9:12 amReplyCancel

    • Kristi Campbell - Allie,
      Yeah, young and dumb for sure and you’re right – we can’t stay mad at those poor girls. I’m so sorry that you’ve been sick all week!! I loved your favorite list!November 13, 2015 – 5:41 pmReplyCancel

  • Dana - My kids are my biggest influences too, but I love what Lizzi said in her comment. You would still be the amazing woman you are even without Tucker’s influence, but he makes you even better. My kids make me better too, and I think that is motherhood’s greatest gift.November 13, 2015 – 11:25 amReplyCancel

    • Kristi Campbell - Aw that’s so so nice Dana! Thank you. You would still be amazing too. And yeah, kids making us better is pretty awesome for sure.November 13, 2015 – 5:44 pmReplyCancel

  • Roshni - My younger self would have said something similar – actually, my younger self said that I wouldn’t marry and have kids because it would just burden me and I would hate it. I smile now at that. I’m sure you do too. And, you know that you are already changing lives, one mom of a special needs kid at a time!November 13, 2015 – 2:14 pmReplyCancel

    • Kristi Campbell - Roshni,
      How funny that you said you’d never marry. Thank you for your sweet words!November 13, 2015 – 5:46 pmReplyCancel

  • April G - What a beautiful post. My angel child changed my life for the living ones and I don’t even know if they know. Hopefully, I’ll be joining you for the next one!November 13, 2015 – 6:17 pmReplyCancel

    • Kristi Campbell - Thanks, April. I can imagine that your angel child puts so much of the day-to-day in perspective. I hope to see you for the next one too! (and, no pressure of course but this week’s is open until Sunday around noon if you’re feeling inspired)
      Hope you have a great weekend!November 13, 2015 – 6:48 pmReplyCancel

  • Elizabeth - “You know there’s no such thing as alien dolphins, right?” He’s going to need to read “A Hitchkker’s Guide to the Galaxy” when he is older. 😉November 14, 2015 – 1:49 pmReplyCancel

    • Kristi Campbell - Oh Elizabeth! I will so have to have him read that when he’s older! I wonder where he heard about alien dolphins! Thanks so much and I hope you and your family are having a great weekend!November 14, 2015 – 5:19 pmReplyCancel

  • Tamara - Alien dolphins aren’t real???? I’m not positive about that, but I definitely choose to believe the biggest influencer in your life!November 15, 2015 – 8:36 pmReplyCancel

  • FlutistPride - I’m inviting you to participate in the Compare and Contrast Challenge.November 17, 2015 – 11:45 amReplyCancel

There was a time in my life when I knew everything. When I was 19 years old, I knew how to solve homelessness and poverty, where the best place was to get free beer, the liquor store least likely to card me, and where to bum cigarettes when I was out of them. I was […]

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  • Dana - Thinking you know everything is proof that you don’t, isn’t it? What you said to your stepdaughter is similar to what I’ve been thinking lately – how different my kids’ lives will be in five years. How different my life will be, although not as different as theirs will be.

    As long as Gwen never, EVER wears stirrup pants.November 5, 2015 – 10:05 pmReplyCancel

    • Kristi Campbell - So true Dana. The thinking we know is proof that we don’t! LOL to Gwen never ever wearing stirrup pants. What about shoulder pads?November 7, 2015 – 7:02 pmReplyCancel

  • JT Walters - At 16, I lived in Europe and thought I was so ahead of the curve living in Rome, speaking Italian, and completely immersed in another culture, country, continent and far away from my parents but at 19 I was in aerospace engineering school on an AirForce Base. All my classmates were Chinese and I was the only American let alone female including the professor who taught in a very heavy Chinese accent.

    At 19, I realize no matter how much you love something some dreams are just not meant to be realized at the time. Aerospace engineering for women in the 1980(s) was very difficult. But the minute I let go of that dream, I had another to pursue.

    Ironically, aerospace engineers were making approximately $250k annual at that time. Now they are making $25k. Things sometimes turn out for the best even though we might not see it immediately…in my opinion.November 5, 2015 – 10:15 pmReplyCancel

    • Kristi Campbell - WOW JT your 19 sounds incredible!!! And yeah, you’re so right. Things often do turn out for the best although it’s so so hard to see at the time. Thank you!November 7, 2015 – 7:03 pmReplyCancel

  • Vidya Sury - Ooh, hugs, Kristi! I love how we swim through different perspectives. Besides obviously adoring how you looked then, my heart melted as I read your words… what a way to embrace life!

    I know that the picture of your son sleeping is going to be etched in my mind and I’ll smile whenever it comes into focus. Hugs!

    I found this post a little hard to write because I couldn’t seem to stop – there was so much to say – I have a feeling I must have come across as a little stilted. Too much happened when I was 19.November 6, 2015 – 5:19 amReplyCancel

    • Kristi Campbell - Vidya,
      I’m so glad that you co-hosted with us this week and loved your post. The things that you were doing at 19 are amazing! You were so mature-seeming compared to me! And you’re right – so much to say about 19. Maybe I’ll do another prompt soon about a teenage year, or one in our early 20’s?
      And you didn’t come across as stilted at ALL! Thank you!!!November 7, 2015 – 7:05 pmReplyCancel

  • A;;ie - A part of me wishes I’d known you and lived close when I was we were nineteen – I think we would have had a lot of fun. And then I wise up and realize that it may have been a dangerous thing. And look at you smoking-bad-ass self, with the Goldilocks:)!November 6, 2015 – 6:22 amReplyCancel

    • Kristi Campbell - OOOH we’d have had FUN!! And maybe been arrested, so there’s that. But yeah, we’d have had fun. LOL to smoking-bad-ass-self. Ha!November 7, 2015 – 7:06 pmReplyCancel

  • Bev - Your cartoons are amazing and hilarious!
    When you’re 19, you really do think you know everything, as I’m sure I do now as well, and I’ll look back in a decade or so and realize how much I still had yet to learn.November 6, 2015 – 6:41 amReplyCancel

    • Kristi Campbell - Aw thanks, Bev! It’s so true that at 19 we think we know everything. It’s funny to look back and see how naive and YOUNG we were huh?November 7, 2015 – 7:07 pmReplyCancel

  • Janine Huldie - Yup, at 19 I totally thought I knew it all and was invincible, as well. Now, at almost 40, I know that not to be true and even know that I still have so much more to learn and am thankful for each day as it unfolds, even the craziest of days. So here is to continually learning and knowing that each and every day matters and is a blessing, too.November 6, 2015 – 6:55 amReplyCancel

    • Kristi Campbell - LOL Janine! I guess we all did then – think we were invincible and all of that. And yes, completely agree – here’s to continually learning and knowing each day is a blessing.November 7, 2015 – 7:09 pmReplyCancel

  • Lizzi Rogers - “her life, in just five years, would look so different that she wouldn’t recognize it.” – you used to tell me that, too. And I figure I still have about two years left on the five, and already you’re right. You were right then, too, but you know that (stop looking so smug).

    Life can change in years, in days, in a moment, without us ever expecting it. And I have a future of Nows and a lifetime of Nexts to enjoy. I hope I get the fulness of them.

    I hope you do, too.November 6, 2015 – 7:13 amReplyCancel

  • Katy @ Experienced Bad Mom - Here’s to a land of empathy and wonder!

    I think what you’ve shared should help me face my kids’ teen years. We were all young and hopeful and stupid and hopeful and happy and stupid as teens.

    The 80s were so rad BTW!November 6, 2015 – 9:25 amReplyCancel

    • Kristi Campbell - Katy, love the way you phrase it. “…young and hopeful and stupid and hopeful and happy and stupid…” YUP! And oh jeez.. The teen years for our own kids. Gulp.November 7, 2015 – 7:10 pmReplyCancel

  • Elizabeth - At 19 I knew my life would be different than I imagined it – I just didn’t know how different! Such a universal theme you’ve highlighted. :-)November 6, 2015 – 10:02 amReplyCancel

    • Kristi Campbell - It really is universal, isn’t it. Such a strange thing perspective is. And wonder at the future. Thank you.November 7, 2015 – 7:11 pmReplyCancel

  • Kelly L McKenzie - Oh now you were one of the cool girls that I was SO SO SO jealous of, Kristi. Man alive girl. I was at the complete opposite end of the spectrum. “How old are you?” was my nemesis. However, athough I still looked 14 when I was in my early 20’s I did get up to a little bit of mischief, every now and then. Oh alright. A Hell of a lot of mischief. My best pal and I look back on those days and agree that we are SO lucky to still be alive. You’ve no idea.November 6, 2015 – 12:05 pmReplyCancel

    • Kristi Campbell - Kelly! The whole looking back on the days and realizing that we are so lucky to be alive! Funny that you mention that. I remember once, when my friend (the one that I went to the grave yard in NO with) and I were talking and laughing about that night, her older brother (we were visiting him in New Orleans) said “we were lucky to be alive” and we rolled our eyes, thinking how old and whatever he was. Now, I cringe that we even went there! LOL :) And I’ve no doubt that you had your mischief. Whether you found it or it found you!!November 7, 2015 – 7:13 pmReplyCancel

  • Tamara - I tell ya, I wouldn’t want to go back.. for more than a day or so. I miss having dark under circles that would go completely away from one night of good sleep.
    And I thought I knew SO MUCH. I still do. But one day I’ll probably realize I knew nothing at 19 and nearly nothing in my 30’s!November 6, 2015 – 12:52 pmReplyCancel

    • Kristi Campbell - OOOH I miss looking great from just a single night of sleep too. But yeah, I thought I knew everything too. And did when I was older than 19 and will again, I’m sure. Good point.November 7, 2015 – 7:40 pmReplyCancel

  • Emily - For me, it’s strange to think back to when I was 19 because a) I feel like I don’t remember so much from that time and b) my oldest dude is almost that age now…yikes! It makes me look at him and wonder if he’ll do the same stupid things I did (I know the answer – yes) and yet as parents, we sort of have to let them do those things in order to learn…we can give all the advice we want, but I know he’s only half-listening…sighNovember 6, 2015 – 2:11 pmReplyCancel

    • Kristi Campbell - Emily,
      Yikes is right and yeah, you’re wise in knowing that we have to let them do the stupid things so that they learn. I hope that Tucker is less, um, adventurous though than I was for SURE! xoNovember 8, 2015 – 10:53 amReplyCancel

  • Lisa @ Golden Spoons - I love that last part. I was just talking today with a group of women and we were saying how different our perspective is at 40-ish than it was even ten years ago – much less 20+. Like someone else said, I think once we realize we DON’T know everything is when we have really reached an acceptable level of maturity.November 6, 2015 – 4:35 pmReplyCancel

    • Kristi Campbell - So true Lisa! Makes me wonder too, if at 60, we’ll look back and think how much we still had to learn at 40-ish. I know we’ll think “we were so YOUNG!” Sigh. xoNovember 8, 2015 – 10:54 amReplyCancel

  • Louise - Oh this is fun! If I have the energy once the kids are in bed I may join in.

    I was 13 when I knew everything but much of this rings true. I’d like to think by 19 I was getting it together – but I suspect my parents would disagree :)

    I love the old photos!November 6, 2015 – 6:54 pmReplyCancel

    • Kristi Campbell - So glad you joined in, Louise! LOL to your parents disagreeing how much you knew at 19. And yeah, 13 is a good one for “know it all” too right? :)November 8, 2015 – 10:55 amReplyCancel

  • Sandra - Oh gawd I miss the 80s. My hair was curly then not this ridiculous old lady frizz…sigh…but yes, I know where you’re coming from. But still…we got to show our belly buttons! How awesome was that!November 6, 2015 – 8:18 pmReplyCancel

    • Kristi Campbell - It was awesome showing our belly buttons! LOL
      Also FYI tried to subscribe to your feed but got a 404 – can you add me? Hope you’re ok and that your weekend is going great!November 8, 2015 – 10:59 amReplyCancel

  • Scott Hansen - I was a few years behind you, but just as misguided and confident. Great post.November 7, 2015 – 12:42 amReplyCancel

  • Mimi - I loved these comparisons between what you once knew vs. now. And then that wisdom at the end. So true. Powerful stuff ! And loved the trip down memory lane. :) xoNovember 7, 2015 – 12:58 amReplyCancel

  • Christine Carter - As always- this speaks to me on so many levels Kristi. Oh to be confident and clueless yes? But your wisdom and insight oozes from this post, even through the humor and the pictures that totally cracked me UP!! Yeah- I always tell people (and myself) when they are hurting and making BIG decisions- think about five years from now- what would you want to look back and see? What would be most important to you in how you handled this- not in this moment, but five years from now?”

    Yeah… I had no clue at 19. Madehuge mistakes. I was so lost… It would take more than five years for me to learn how to live.November 7, 2015 – 3:28 pmReplyCancel

  • Emily Nichols Grossi - Ah, the beauty of perspective! Youth versus the wisdom we gain in leaving it. Lovely, lovely!! xoNovember 7, 2015 – 4:08 pmReplyCancel

  • Angel the Alien - When I was 19 I thought I was a grown-up… and now that seems so young to me! But in the 80’s I was a happy little kid and loved Rainbow Brite and Punky Brewster and He-Man and Care Bears and playing outside in the sand and swinging on my swingset! It was a fun time to grow up! I don’t think I’d want to be a little kid in this day and age.November 7, 2015 – 6:36 pmReplyCancel

    • Kristi Campbell - Oh I loved Punky Brewster! I’d forgotten about her! And yeah, it does seem scarier to be a little kid these days.November 8, 2015 – 4:42 pmReplyCancel

  • My Inner Chick - ***What we do in the next five minutes. What we do in the all of the nexts. Matters.***



    PS. the 80s is my fave. decade.November 8, 2015 – 12:32 pmReplyCancel

  • Nina Badzin, Writer - This was a great finish the sentence! I’ve loved reading the answers. Seriously, how did we do so much without cell phones? I wonder if some ways we did MORE with less distraction and experienced things different (like road trips) with less crowd sourcing ahead of time.November 8, 2015 – 2:15 pmReplyCancel

  • Mike - Hi Kristi! I wanted to stop by for a little hello on your blog (I just emailed you before this ironically) to see latest post. I see you have that magical touch as always! For me, that horrid, false-sense-of-omnipotence and knowledge started at 15 years old when I get my first car. When I was 18 and moved on my own to Reno I got a huge crash course in reality. That QUICKLY snapped me out of it and began a really good life path. As I reading your post it also made me reflect on today’s youth oh lordy do we have our work cut out for us if we are going to have any positive influence in bringing them to the realities you and I (and millions of others through the generations) discovered. Think of you always and love you so much! :)November 8, 2015 – 10:25 pmReplyCancel

    • Kristi Campbell - Mike! What fun to see your name here, my sweet and amazing guy! I agree that we most definitely have our work cut out for us and I’m glad that you figured out your own reality early on. Sooooo so glad you stopped by. I’ll check email again now. Love you!November 9, 2015 – 3:25 pmReplyCancel

  • Eli J. Pacheco - it’s been incredible reading everyone’s stories of 19. So different than mine. You were the cool kids, apparently. But we all made it here.November 9, 2015 – 3:13 pmReplyCancel

Often, she who sits inside of depression or anxiety cannot see it. She feels alone. Unworthy. Worried. She assumes that she’s less than. A new mother may have an even harder time recognizing the symptoms of PPD and anxiety. She will likely assume that her tears are caused by hormones, leaky breasts, and sleepless nights. […]

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  • Dana - I so, so hope that the mothers who need this book will find it. And the mothers who don’t need it anymore will read it and are thankful for the light in their lives.

    Congrats, Kristi – you did good.November 3, 2015 – 4:35 pmReplyCancel

    • Kristi Campbell - Aw thanks, Dana. I so hope the mothers that need it will find it as well. And that those who don’t are thankful for their light. xo to you and YES LUNCH SOON. How’s Friday looking? Let’s DM.November 3, 2015 – 10:54 pmReplyCancel

  • Allie - Great post. I’m so proud of you, and around ticstand with you. I read your essay today and it is amazing. Like you. Love you, A.November 3, 2015 – 5:05 pmReplyCancel

    • Kristi Campbell - You are amazing. I just read your essay and wow. You and I had so many similarities. I love you, too. And I’m proud of you.November 3, 2015 – 10:55 pmReplyCancel

  • Janine Huldie - Huge congrats on being a part of this wonderful book and your except was so very powerful, real and from the heart. I now want to read the rest of it, too.November 3, 2015 – 5:47 pmReplyCancel

    • Kristi Campbell - Thanks, Janine. I really appreciate you saying so and I want to read the rest of it, too!November 3, 2015 – 11:05 pmReplyCancel

  • JT Walters - You rocked it. It is finally okay to tell women that whatever they feel is apart is okay because having a baby is a tremendous ADJUSTMENT. It is not all Gerber baby stuff and it can be very overwhelming. They key is to get help if you need it.

    Thank you for opening up about this incredibly important topic because families are sacred and your openness may be saving them or giving that timid Mother the strength to reach out for help.

    You never fall short of expectation…absolutely phenomenal!November 3, 2015 – 7:13 pmReplyCancel

    • Kristi Campbell - So so true, thank you thank you. It finally IS time to tell women that they are allowed to ask for help. Thank you!!!November 3, 2015 – 11:05 pmReplyCancel

  • April G - I’ve experienced the wildest of worst case scenario dreams. I am happy that none have come to pass.November 3, 2015 – 7:59 pmReplyCancel

    • Kristi Campbell - I still have them at times. Tucker, falling into a river or a lake or a ditch. Or me… but thank you for saying that. I really appreciate it.November 3, 2015 – 11:06 pmReplyCancel

  • Tamara - Sigh. Gorgeous. I’m going to cry at every chapter, right? I’ve already pretty much figured out that this book will impact me so deeply.November 3, 2015 – 8:33 pmReplyCancel

    • Kristi Campbell - Probably to the crying at every chapter. I haven’t read the whole thing yet – I have to pace myself. xo youNovember 3, 2015 – 11:07 pmReplyCancel

  • Bev - I’m looking forward to reading this book. PPD & Anxiety was something I definitely worried about before I had my daughter. I know several woman who have suffered — it is important that the stigma be erased. Thank you for sharing your story!November 3, 2015 – 8:50 pmReplyCancel

    • Kristi Campbell - Thank you so much Bev. I am glad it wasn’t an issue for you, so so much.November 3, 2015 – 11:08 pmReplyCancel

  • Lizzi Rogers - BOOM! Way to go, you :)November 3, 2015 – 9:32 pmReplyCancel

  • Scott Hansen - They’re finally telling expecting mothers about this.November 3, 2015 – 10:47 pmReplyCancel

  • Deborah Lovel Bryner - Awesome….I remember being terrified that I’d forget my kid in her carseat on top of the car…or hurt her…or any one of a thousand things that frightened and depressed me. I hated being pregnant. I hated delivery. I hated labor pains…pretty much the entire process with the exception of the making of the baby part…that was pretty fun. Adjusting to motherhood was not, I repeat, NOT natural for me…thanks for sharing this!November 3, 2015 – 11:22 pmReplyCancel

  • Kenya G. Johnson - Wow what an excerpt! I can’t even imagine the pain of PPD. Just early motherhood in general was hard and lonely. I remember getting something from the hospital that we received in our check out class. They urged us to keep it on the refrigerator for at least a year and it was bullet points of feelings like you list above and more. I never needed to call anyone, but I faithfully held onto it until I thought I wasNovember 4, 2015 – 9:00 amReplyCancel

    • Kristi Campbell - Kenya, I don’t even know if I had it! But I had visions of accidentally dropping him, fear, loneliness, and so wish I weren’t alone then. I wish I’d gotten what you had at check-out class. That sounds wonderful. I never needed to call anyone either but wow, I wish I’d known then what I do now, ya know?November 4, 2015 – 10:16 pmReplyCancel

  • Elizabeth - Consider this important message shared!November 4, 2015 – 10:26 amReplyCancel

  • Christine Carter - Kristi, I read the book and reviewed it. Can I just say how MUCH I COULD TOTALLY RELATE TO YOUR STORY?! Sorry- that seems like I am yelling at you! Ha! I’m just almost bordering on excitement that we have this in common. The intense FEAR… it was almost unbearable. I love you. I’m so proud of you for sharing this piece about your own experience. I’m so proud of all the women who shared their stories. It was an incredibly powerful book that left me feeling comforted.November 5, 2015 – 12:56 amReplyCancel

  • Sandra - Wow. Just wow. That’s exactly what I include in my speech to my new mothers at work when I’m talking to them about PPD. I tell them that if they ever envision throwing their baby against a wall and watching the head go splat, then they need to realize they aren’t alone in this thought, and there is an entire community of women out there to support them. Actually, I’m to start including the name of this book when I give my PPD speech. This book should be given to all new moms leaving the hospital. Your words are beautiful and heartbreaking all at once, but so many of us relate.November 6, 2015 – 8:09 pmReplyCancel

The Year 3015 She sat, upstairs and downstairs, because the house continually changed to reflect the needs of its occupants. Mom sent thoughts through their home computer, wired to her brain and to her son, below, or above. “You’re going to be late for school, Love. Have you synced up and met your body’s nutritional […]

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  • Dana - Ooooh – this was GOOD. I know this wasn’t the point, but it’s interesting that in your 3015, empathy and wonder prevail, but students still cheat. And that with all the scientific advances, people still believe in God.

    Yes, I know you made it up in your imagination, but I read it like it was real, because your words make it so.October 29, 2015 – 10:27 pmReplyCancel

    • Kristi Campbell - LOL Dana and yeah, I think kids might always cheat. Thank you!! :) HAPPY BIRTHDAY!October 30, 2015 – 3:19 pmReplyCancel

  • JT Walters - With your humor and advocacy I have not doubt there will be more love and acceptance for people of diversity.

    However,today’s individual with disabilities will be Einstein compared to humans in a thousand years. Sadly, the Greeks knew more about Math, Science, politics, and just about every subject you can think of today. We are losing information through time.

    In a thousand yearsI imagine mankind will be cavemen again if they exist at all.

    Thomas Jefferson had Aspberger’s Syndrome and his creations are all throughout Virginia and DC. Children with Special needs maybe the messengers to the future like Jefferson. What makes them “disabled” may keep them working harder to retain formation and their gene pool out survive all others.

    It is conjecture but since you asked I thought I’d add food for thought.October 29, 2015 – 10:37 pmReplyCancel

    • Kristi Campbell - You always have such interesting points. My husband and I were just talking last night about the dark ages and Plato and Rome and how so much information was lost but also so much was retained which is pretty incredible really.October 30, 2015 – 3:21 pmReplyCancel

  • Lizzi Rogers - FRIST!October 30, 2015 – 2:05 amReplyCancel

  • Lizzi Rogers - For once you weren’t in MY brain, then. I love how you jumped it around. Your comment about Plato is a good thinker, because it’s one of the thinks I thought when I read Homer – that this book, this story, has been around for millennia, and each reader, whether king or pauper or astronaut or slave, has responded in the same way to it (like the author intended) – that there are facets to our humanity which are so consistent, and so very the same (in spite of our differences) that they will endure.October 30, 2015 – 2:11 amReplyCancel

  • Christine Carter - Wow. This made me think. I love it when I read your words and they make me think. Really think. 3015 doesn’t sound so bad after all… <3 And yes oh yes, no matter the year. Empathy, wonder- and ACCEPTANCE.October 30, 2015 – 3:31 amReplyCancel

  • Janine Huldie - For the most part, 3015 sounds like a time I would like to live in, especially the wonder and empathy parts for sure. Beautiful Kristi and most definitely gave me some much needed food for thought.October 30, 2015 – 4:46 amReplyCancel

  • Allie - You are crazy! You know that? Oh to live inside that beautiful and crazy mind!October 30, 2015 – 6:31 amReplyCancel

  • Kerri - Oh I love how your mind works…seriously how you sometimes broach a prompt equally amazes me with your imagination and makes me wonder what else goes on in your mind.

    I really hope, to the depths of my soul, that in 3015 our kids are just kidsOctober 30, 2015 – 10:05 amReplyCancel

    • Kristi Campbell - You’re so kind, Kerri! And yeah, I hope SO MUCH that people are more accepting. I hope it doesn’t take 1,000 years to get there.October 30, 2015 – 3:22 pmReplyCancel

  • Elizabeth - What a fun post! So creative!October 30, 2015 – 10:44 amReplyCancel

  • Kelly McKenzie - Clever. Loved the zipping back and forward in time.
    My son taught me a valuable lesson with our hamster. Should – god forbid – the hamster get out and make a dash for freedom, scatter multiple food trails from his/her cage around the house. Hamster will make its way out from under the dishwasher and find his/her own way home.October 30, 2015 – 2:46 pmReplyCancel

  • Tamara - Well, geez. You’re on fire with this! Your brain is awesome. We should have a brain meeting. I have no idea what that means, but the Pain Creeper shows that the force is strong in that one too.
    I think human nature even in 3015 isn’t surprising. Cheaters. Lovers. Wonderers. Wanderers.October 30, 2015 – 3:23 pmReplyCancel

    • Kristi Campbell - LOL to a brain meeting and YES PLEASE!!! Pain Creeper is like the Grim Reeper. I think we need to eliminate him. Maybe Cassidy, as GROOT (crap, is that the name???) can do so for us. What’s he going to be this year anyway?October 31, 2015 – 12:00 amReplyCancel

  • Anna Fitfunner - Really cool that you are able to envision 3015. I tried to think what it would be like, and my mind froze. I wondered if we’ll even be truly human then. But of course, I won’t have to worry about that, unless the Singularity ( happens in our lifetimes….October 31, 2015 – 1:55 amReplyCancel

  • Clark Scottroger - “…He’s a gift from God, after all
    while conditions affecting daily living surely will change (as they have changed) the things that are important are the things that do not change.October 31, 2015 – 2:00 amReplyCancel

  • Sandra - If anybody can change the world and make advocacy unnecessary because everyone will be thought of as equal and important and divine, it’s you. The love you pour into raising your son and the hours you have spent educating so many on topics that are often swept under the carpet means that no matter what dumbass may try to bring down society with dumbass comments, people like you can be counted on to beat them down with reason and proof of the power of acceptance. I was going to add stuff about beating the living crap out of those people but I thought I’d quit while I was still sunshine and light.October 31, 2015 – 9:33 amReplyCancel

    • Kristi Campbell - Aw sweets, you’re always sunshine and light to me. I like that you want to beat the crap out of people who are dumbasses!!!November 1, 2015 – 10:26 amReplyCancel

  • Out One Ear - Linda Atwell - How in the world do you come up with this stuff??? I want the 1000 years from now to be RIGHT NOW! No more making fun of others, no more bullying. It should have never been allowed. Of course this piece speaks to my heart, just like all your other pieces. I just posted a piece about my cousin who is the same age as me and was bullied all through school. The sad part is, he is still bullied (on occasion) as an adult. I get livid every time I hear one of his horrible stories. Anyway, I love your 1000 years from now predictions. I hope they come true. Sooner than that. Hugs to you and happy Halloween to you and your crew.October 31, 2015 – 6:18 pmReplyCancel

    • Kristi Campbell - Linda, I want the 1,000 years from now to be RIGHT NOW TOO. People making fun of others, and bullying them just sucks. There’s no reason for it and that your cousin continues to be bullied as an adult breaks my heart. Why can’t we all be better? Why can’t people realize that kindness goes so far, and lasts so long, and that so does the opposite?! People remember the feeling of being picked on forever. Sigh. Hugs back to you and thank you. We did have a fun Halloween – Tucker was a GI Joe Ninja guy and had a great time. Of course, this morning, we have way too much effing candy… 😉November 1, 2015 – 10:29 amReplyCancel

  • Lisa @ Golden Spoons - Love what you did with this – only I hope we don’t have to wait 1000 years for the empathy and wonder and laughter and acceptance. :-)November 1, 2015 – 3:41 pmReplyCancel

  • Emily - Oh how i loved this…and how I wish we lived in 3015 now…we’re getting there and I hope we don’t have to wait 1,000 years for the Land of Empathy and Wonder…November 2, 2015 – 2:30 pmReplyCancel

    • Kristi Campbell - I wish we did too, Emily! I hope we don’t have to wait 1,000 years either. We need it now!November 2, 2015 – 7:41 pmReplyCancel

  • Roshni - This reminds me of the whole Back to the Future thing and how people imagined 2015 to be SO much more advanced! Well, always good to hope! :)November 2, 2015 – 4:02 pmReplyCancel

    • Kristi Campbell - Roshni,
      I love that movie! And yeah, we do really expect people to be more advanced than reality. Thanks for the reminder!November 2, 2015 – 7:43 pmReplyCancel

There once was a middle-of-the-night when I called my dad, awake and sweaty, shaking from a terrible dream. In it, a man had climbed through my window, the same way that my roommate’s boyfriend had done countless times. Instead of having to listen to moaning while faking sleep, this dream brought blood and horror. The […]

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  • Out One Ear - Linda Atwell - YES! YES! YES! YES! YES! YES!YES! YES! YES! YES! YES! YES! YES! YES! YES! YES! YES! YES! YES! YES! YES! YES! YES! YES!YES! YES! YES! YES! YES! YES! YES! YES! YES! YES! YES! YES! YES! YES! YES! YES! YES! YES! I could go on and on and on and on. We are IDIOTS if we keep doing the same damn thing and expect something different. Other countries have one or two acts of violence and make changes. We seem to value our right to bear arms more than our fellow human beings. I just don’t get it. We have too many gun deaths in our country. I’ve been screaming this ever since Adam Lanza (and before) and yet nothing happens. I hopes, with all my heart, we can make some changes. Thank you. Thank you. Thank you.October 22, 2015 – 10:15 pmReplyCancel

    • Kristi Campbell - 1. I SO ADORE YOU LINDA
      3. Calming the eff down but we are idiots if we think it’s going to be okay the way things are. I hate it. I hate that Tucker knows what a lock-down drill is. I don’t get it. People all are like “I be protecting my family!!!” Which is SO STUPID because your own family is more likely to shoot one another accidentally than they are to protect one another from violence!!! FREAKING CRAZY!!!!
      SIGH I hope so, too.October 22, 2015 – 10:32 pmReplyCancel

      • Out One Ear - Linda Atwell - YES! YES! YES! YES! YES! YES! YES! YES! YES! YES! YES! YES! YES! Again and again and again. Like you said, infinity google. I like that! It maddens me that people now are suggesting teachers should be armed. I don’t know what people think will happen under these circumstances–but it likely will not turn out the way they envision this. More lives, more loss, more devastation. The scenario you used about the gun you wanted and your conversation with you dad is so spot on. None of this makes sense to me. I adore you too. I am truly sad that we cannot, as a nation, come to some REASONABLE conclusions regarding guns.October 22, 2015 – 10:54 pmReplyCancel

        • Kristi Campbell - Infinity Google is a Tucker expression after I taught him the “real” Google meaning but YES YES YES. Teachers? Armed? SO FUCKING crazy ridiculous because again – good people with guns? NOT the same and doesn’t work and argh!!! We havetohaveto find a way to figure this out. I do NOT get it – the people who think they’re able to protect their families. How many stories in the news are that? NONE. How many a brother accidentally shooting? TOO MANY.October 22, 2015 – 11:17 pmReplyCancel

          • Out One Ear - Linda Atwell - I’ll stop, because I could go on and on. I think these mad individuals are thinking we are still in the wild, wild west and they want their good ol’ shoot outs with the good guys against the bad ones. THAT’S FICTION. IT’S THE MOVIES! IT DOESN’T HAPPEN THAT WAY IN REAL LIFE. Most people will be so caught off guard and even if they weren’t, imagine the police arriving on the scene and shooting both the good and the bad guy because they CAN’T figure out in a matter of life and death seconds who started what. Well, I thought I could stop venting, but I guess my mind won’t allow it. Thank you for letting me go on and on and on. I hope we are not doomed Kristi. I truly do. But I’m a bit discouraged about this issue right now. Especially after traveling internationally and not hearing about one loss of life by guns in the countries I traveled. I realized I’m biased in my opinion, but we need to wake up. PLEASE WAKE UP AMERICA!October 23, 2015 – 12:46 am

          • Kristi Campbell - Linda, feel free to go on and on… America (and the world) NEEDS to wake up. Thank you for your passion and your words. The thought of your image of cops shooting both is chilling, and very realistic.October 23, 2015 – 8:40 pm

  • Janine Huldie - Beautifully written and just couldn’t agree more that it is most definitely time for a change. Thank you so much for being brave enough to share and speak your mind here us this today, Kristi. Hugs to you!!October 22, 2015 – 10:26 pmReplyCancel

  • Dana - When James was two years old, I had to bring extra clothes to his preschool in case they had to shelter in place. Two men with guns were killing randomly – sniper-style out of the back of their car.

    I hate that this is the reality in which our children have grown up. Guns do make it too easy – I completely agree. It’s such a complex issue, and I don’t have the answer. But we have to talk about it, and make some changes. Regardless of where you stand on gun control, I can’t imagine anyone would argue that things are just fine the way they are.October 22, 2015 – 10:51 pmReplyCancel

    • Kristi Campbell - I remember that although I was in Colorado at the time. I remember friends’ sisters RUNNING into Home Depot because of that guy. It’s time. It’s time to change.October 22, 2015 – 11:19 pmReplyCancel

    • Considerer - I remember you telling me that, and I remember being so shocked :(October 23, 2015 – 2:18 amReplyCancel

  • Angel the Alien - I’ve had similar dreams. Last night I had a really vivid dream that I was in college and I was in some sort of really crowded auditorium, and a guy with a machine gun was holding us all hostage. The dream seemed to go on for hours, and I was so scared and trying to figure out how to hide so that he wouldn’t notice me, because he kept randomly shooting people when he got mad. I’ve also had the dream where people broke into my house and shot my dog and then me. (Seeing my dog get shot was the worst part.) Its like having PTSD even though I haven’t really experienced any of those things, just knowing that they exist is terrifying.October 23, 2015 – 1:10 amReplyCancel

    • Kristi Campbell - Angel, I’m so sorry that you have similar dreams! That’s awful and scary and I know exactly what you mean about feeling as though you’ve got PTSD without any of the “stuff” actually existing. Dreams are powerful and fo real feeling.October 23, 2015 – 9:06 pmReplyCancel

  • Kerry - Greetings: from someone in Canada, I wanted to participate in this too, because although we have less gun violence, the issue is still important to me. The examples you use help show how it is affecting your own life. Well said.October 23, 2015 – 4:38 amReplyCancel

    • Kristi Campbell - I’m so glad you participated and yeah, the whole issue is important, so much. Thank you.October 23, 2015 – 9:20 pmReplyCancel

  • JT Walters - I am going to be daring and give you two responses here and even have a descendent in opinion.

    First response is it is time people learn to love each other and celebrate living together.

    I living in an area where everyone especially the criminals are carrying a concealed weapon. I would hate to leave the law abiding citizens defenseless because criminals are not going to be affected by gun control. As a matter of fact, illegal gun sales go up and are more lucrative for merchants each time stricter control laws go into place. We see many more shootings.

    I grew up with someone with was a serial rapist and murderer. Your story was interesting in that he got the dog too and set the body on fire. No need to despise of a body after char. In the later years around him, after he was a convicted rapist set free, and we have plenty in society as well as murders, there were many times I wished I had a gun.

    Second response is better education about guns is probably what is needed. The NRA should write you a big fat check for your post over mine because people will see it and run out and buy guns. But good stewards of firearms do not shot other human beings unless they have absolutely no other choice and rarely do they take the kill shot. One rule of using a fire arm is never shoot anything you do not intend to eat.. A neighbor got a bob gun and shot a blackbird with a friend. The parents made them clean it, cook it, and eat it. Gun safety super important and is taught in the south at a very young age. Guns are not kept in u drew ear drawers here..

    A gun is like a sword or machete. It is a tool which can be used for good or evil. It is up person who holds the tool. That is where learning to love each other and celebrate living together becomes so important. People will always find away to commit mass murder whether it be by massively poisoning people, using machetes to go house to house to chop heads off or shot each other.

    Responsible gun owners value life and should not be penalized by gun control laws which will have no effect on criminals. Now I do agree tougher laws on children using guns unsupervised by adults or even gun registration laws need to tightened up so the NRA can send me a check too! If every hunter taught a child how to hunt including, using a weapon, killing, cleaning and eating only what you kill…the world would be a much better place. Our hunter culture is fading and violence is the after math.

    I still love you and hope you still love me even though we may not agree on this point.

    JTOctober 23, 2015 – 4:58 amReplyCancel

    • Kristi Campbell - Not shooting anything that a person doesn’t intend to eat is good advice. I do not suggest that outlawing guns is the answer. I suggest that the US needs better laws to control them.October 23, 2015 – 10:16 pmReplyCancel

  • Lizzi Rogers - “We’ve evolved. It’s time to know that if Evil enters your home, or your life, Evil is more prepared to kill you and yours than you are prepared to kill it. With, or without, a gun. ”

    Just STUNNING! And so so very on point. Because no, I think most people would be less prepared, and would deliberate over whether it was the tv or their life, and would hesitate, and there would be the moment they would have needed to use, were they going to. I just hate that it’s SO easy to kill someone there…you have to really be deliberate about it here. And it’s effort, and that in itself must be offputting.

    As to temper…yeah, I’ve been to those flashpoint moments, and who knows how I’d be at flashpoint and armed…I can’t vouch for that. I think I wouldn’t own a gun based on that point.

    This is so good, so thought-provoking…and I’m sorry to hear that you lost a friend to gun violence. Kinda illustrates one of the points I made, about just HOW MANY people are affected by every death. :(October 23, 2015 – 6:04 amReplyCancel

  • Susan Zutautas - Makes me so glad that I live in Canada with way stricter gun laws. I’m terrified of guns.October 23, 2015 – 7:03 amReplyCancel

  • Rabia @TheLiebers - We really need a lot of intelligent discussion going on around this subject. I don’t think taking away all the guns is the answer, but there are a lot better answers than not doing anything!October 23, 2015 – 9:38 amReplyCancel

    • Kristi Campbell - We so need that discussion and I thank you so much for giving this topic yours, Rabia. Truly. My mom’s husband is a hunter, and my dad taught me and my brothers to shoot. BUT something’s effing wrong. Totally.October 23, 2015 – 10:18 pmReplyCancel

  • Emily - Those were very powerful examples Kristi…you’re right – a waiting period, a cooling off period, something that possibly — no wait — MOST LIKELY could have prevented those deaths. It may not be the complete answer, but it’s a start and a start is what this country needs.October 23, 2015 – 10:15 amReplyCancel

    • Kristi Campbell - Thank you Emily. And yeah, I think a cooling off period is a place to start although I have no clue how to help make that happen, except to write it and shout it.October 23, 2015 – 10:19 pmReplyCancel

  • Elizabeth - Brilliant. Simply brilliant. One of your best pieces. Powerful, succinct, pointed. Well done my friend!October 23, 2015 – 10:43 amReplyCancel

  • Kerri - I love your take on this, thank you so much for adding your voice to mine. You are so right, the importance of that waiting period is really a cooling off and give you time to think. Awesome views here my friendOctober 23, 2015 – 11:53 amReplyCancel

    • Kristi Campbell - Thank YOU for thinking of it and for allowing me to add it to FTSF because IMPORTANT and huge and so so overdue. xOctober 23, 2015 – 10:40 pmReplyCancel

  • Allie - Great post Kristi. Your voice can tackle any subject with an empathy that transcends controversy! You are a rock star.October 23, 2015 – 12:55 pmReplyCancel

  • Mimi - I love this post. The way you weave your own experiences with guns into your overall message about them is stunning. You’re a rock star!!October 23, 2015 – 1:13 pmReplyCancel

    • Kristi Campbell - Mimi. I have no words to express my gratitude for your comment. Thank you. I *know* and for real, thank you.October 23, 2015 – 10:42 pmReplyCancel

  • Emily Thrasher - Unfortunately gun control will not necessarily prevent suicide from guns. My mom recently ended her life this way and she used a gun that was not registered, in her name or anyone else’s. I guess you would call that a stolen gun.
    I really loved “It’s time to know that if Evil enters your home, or your life, Evil is more prepared to kill you and yours than you are prepared to kill it. With, or without, a gun.” If your determined to kill yourself or someone else, gun control is not going to stop them. It’s a sad truth.
    Thanks for sharing this post! I enjoyed reading it and it made me think!October 23, 2015 – 1:58 pmReplyCancel

  • Sandra - So shitty that there even needs to be a specific link up for posts on gun violence, but such is the world we live in, and there wasn’t one word I disagreed with. I too have gone to a shooting range (my husband was military, we used to get to go to these high tech sites…anyway, I digress…) and I loved the feeling of that riffle ramming against my shoulder as it fired towards my target.
    And yes, it’s totally sad that your son knows what a “lock down drill” is.
    Obviously making guns more difficult to acquire does slow the perpetrators, but in Canada gun laws are more stringent, and we too have mass murders. My husband always says, “Locks don’t keep the bad guys out. They keep the good guys, who aren’t even trying to, from getting in.” He says it more eloquently, but you get it.
    Thought provoking, riveting post. I agree, let’s keep writing and educating on gun control!October 23, 2015 – 2:13 pmReplyCancel

    • Kristi Campbell - Sandra!! My husband is retired Army. So much so many we have in common, and I love that those things continue to reveal themselves.
      I like what your husband says, whether you wrote it perfectly or not, because yeah, I get it. Thank you thank you.October 23, 2015 – 10:48 pmReplyCancel

  • Richard Rumple - Okay, Sis, you know I love you. This is one topic where we must agree to disagree, to a point. First, I’m for more restrictive gun control, but not gun elimination. I took qualification courses and was subjected to a background check by the state police to get my concealed weapon permit. I would be for the same thing for initial gun ownership.

    However, just Monday, a couple of hoods came through our neighborhood knocking on doors. My wife, having just exited the shower, didn’t answer the door. A lady three doors down did. The hoods forced their way into the house thinking she was the only one home. They were met with three grown adult males that attacked them. One of the males was shot in the back during the melee. My wife has gone back to keeping her pistol handy and not opening the door without it. Lord only knows what would have happened to her if she’d have opened the door Monday.

    Now, we live in a good neighborhood. The criminal element has grown bold today. They are coming into good neighborhoods and attacking because there’s nothing left worth stealing in theirs. Any person over 60 is a prime target. They must be prepared as the average police response time is over an hour unless a shooting takes place.

    Guns are not the source of violence. People are. Children have grown up in the streets instead of in the home. Children having children, but no learned responsibilities to pass on, have created an “anything goes” society that is focused on getting what it wants regardless of who gets hurt.

    Society has got to change. Core values must be re-established. Mind doctors, who flaunt their excuses for criminal acts, must change and start defining the lines between right and wrong behavior. Otherwise, the next shooter, hears the doctor’s words, finds validation in his feelings as he finds similarities between his life and the criminal being discussed, and proceeds along a violent path feeling it’s the correct path for one in his situation to follow.

    It all starts at home, but it is also the responsibility of society to provide acceptable social norms and guidelines. The old “spare the rod and spoil the child” expression may have been more accurate than originally believed as we can see where our permissiveness attitudes in raising children have led us.

    I feel your pain, understand your feelings, and wish it was as simple as eliminating guns. Unfortunately, my wife, after three instances of either break in, physical attack, and possible victim, in less than two years, feels much more comfortable knowing she has something to help her defend herself when at home alone.

    I do too.

    Luv ya!October 23, 2015 – 2:42 pmReplyCancel

  • Lisa @ Golden Spoons - A powerful post on a difficult topic. If I had a magic wand, all guns would magically vanish from this earth. They cause too much pain and sadness. If nobody had guns, nobody would need them for protection. That said, I have family who have served in the military and who are currently police officers. I have friends down here in the South who are avid hunters (gross!). I also have a cousin who died far too young because of a gun and an “accident” with his girlfriend. I don’t know what the answer is. I just know that it makes me very sad that my kids had to endure a lockdown drill at school (again) yesterday because of the “just in case” and because of what guns (and the people who had them) have done.October 23, 2015 – 3:07 pmReplyCancel

    • Kristi Campbell - Lisa, I so so get that. Because if NOBODY had one, what would the world be? Sadly, the whole 2nd amendment makes people think that it’s some type of affront on them personally to question gun laws. And yet, my 6yo knows that people randomly kill children??? WTF???
      I’m so so sorry to read about your cousin. Sigh. I guess talking about it comes first?October 23, 2015 – 11:07 pmReplyCancel

  • Don - I’m sorry, I’m still picturing you in your towel post shower…what was this about again?? Lol.

    No, you done good here, lady! Lock down drills make me sad. Like we’re prepared to face the fact that a deranged fuck will come into a school with our kids there and we’re teaching them how to accept this? No. There should be no drills, there should be answers to making sure the drills aren’t necessary.October 23, 2015 – 4:00 pmReplyCancel

    • Kristi Campbell - LOL douche, and I don’t know whether to love you more for either but thank you and yeah, lock down drills kill me. Fucking shit that we’re supposed to teach our kids where to best hide? You’re so so right. Here’s to doing whatever THE FUCK IT TAKES to making the drills aren’t necessary.October 23, 2015 – 11:09 pmReplyCancel

  • Gretchen - Wonderfully put, Kristi. And I’m so sorry for the loss of your friend.

    I am getting increasingly frustrated with people who meet every discussion about rational, reasonable and practical gun control measures with “Don’t take my guns!” I haven’t heard any of us suggest taking guns. Better training for potential gun owners. Eliminate automatic weapons being sold. Register to buy bullets. Prosecute people who don’t properly and responsibly store their guns. Simple as that. Most responsible and level headed gun owners agree with most of these things.

    Sorry to rant here, your article was spot on. I’ve considered buying a gun when we’ve had break ins and crimes in our neighborhood. But what your dad pointed out? That’s exactly true. In actuality, I most likely wouldn’t be able to have it handy in an emergency. And with children in my house there is no way I would keep one loaded and not locked up.October 23, 2015 – 4:04 pmReplyCancel

    • Kristi Campbell - Gretchen, thank you thank you. And yeah, I’m so sorry for his loss as well. For his mom. For all of us who never got to see how he may have impacted the world. Sigh.
      I agree with your frustration about “DONT TAKE MY GUNS!” because really, that’s not what most of us are saying, right? I mean not wanting our kids to know what lock-down is is different from shooting an animal for food. YES to eliminating automatic weapons. Yes, to registering to buy bullets. I’d never have one here, either. THANK YOU.October 23, 2015 – 11:12 pmReplyCancel

  • Tamara - Yup, you and Kerri really nailed it so much. How it’s not black and white. It’s not that we’re all either on the side of NO ONE SHOULD HAVE GUNS, or EVERYONE SHOULD. There has to be a middle gray area. I have to believe it. And other countries manage it.
    I say.. I could never have one. Could never see one.
    But I’ve never had someone break into my window at night and I’ve never had someone hurt one of my children.
    Because.. I just don’t know.
    But I know we need change.October 23, 2015 – 4:13 pmReplyCancel

    • Kristi Campbell - Tamara,
      Gah. I don’t know what the middle gray area is either but I know it’s somewhere between the 2nd amendment and the banning.
      I know.
      I know exactly what you mean.
      I know that I want to say thank you.October 23, 2015 – 11:17 pmReplyCancel

  • Darwin Steckelberg - I disagree that we’ve evolved, given that violence is so prevalent these days. There were times when kids had hunting rifles and shotguns in their vehicles parked on school grounds. There were times when schools had shooting ranges and took marksmanship classes in line with math and English. We didn’t have mass shootings all over then, so what’s changed?

    It used to be that two school kids who had a beef with each other would meet after class and duke it out. Now, in this day of “zero tolerance”, kids get suspended for making “finger guns” or in one case even biting a Pop-Tart vaguely into the shape of a gun. If one kid picks on another and the victim dares to stick up for himself, the victim can expect to be punished just as severely if not more so than the perpetrator. Even the slightest aggression must be squashed before acted out–where’s the outlet for all the pent up emotion?

    Kids are so buried in their electronics they can hardly communicate with each other if there’s not a smartphone in each other’s hands. They play video games where they get online and gun down random strangers from all over the world ad infinitum. There’s no emotion in any of it–it’s robotic.

    When there’s a mass shooting, we have multiple 24/7 news outlets broadcasting the shooter’s face, name, and biography for days. Hardly a peep for the victims. The next aspiring social reject looks up to these shooters, relates to them and their stories of not fitting in, and looks at the body count as a “high score” to beat.

    We pass “feel-good” laws to create things like “gun-free” zones. How does that stop someone who’s already bent on committing far worse crimes like murder? The nutcase who shot up the theater in Colorado actually picked that theater over others closer to his apartment because it was marked as a “gun-free” zone.

    “It’s time to know that if Evil enters your home, or your life, Evil is more prepared to kill you and yours than you are prepared to kill it. With, or without, a gun.” — Sadly, that’s true in most cases. But not all. If you do not want that responsibility, so be it. Some of us are prepared to defend ourselves and our families. Outlawing guns isn’t going to keep them out of the hands of Evil. It’s just going to give them better odds of finding unarmed victims.

    I’m with Richard Rumple for restrictive gun control, but not gun elimination, because guns are a tool that are used everyday by law-abiding citizens to successfully defend themselves from violent perpetrators–Evil, if you will. Again, you won’t hear about that on the 24/7 news outlets, because it’s not the sensational headline that grabs attention and ratings. How is the person who is weaker, smaller, handicapped, and/or outnumbered supposed to defend him- or herself?

    I don’t have the time to write near as much as I’d like about this topic, because there are so many factors, in my opinion, that contribute to the state of violence and mass shootings today far more than just the availability of guns.October 23, 2015 – 4:27 pmReplyCancel

  • Ruchira Khanna - Jeez! those examples are just perfect for man to attach himself to a weapon of mass destruction!

    Sometimes progress of mankind is questionable 😛October 23, 2015 – 4:38 pmReplyCancel

  • Roshni AaMom - Whenever I hear the argument ‘guns don’t kill people…’ this is EXACTLY what I think!! Kristi Rieger Campbell, you’re is so right on point, as usual!! #gunsense #BlogsUsingTheirVoiceOctober 23, 2015 – 4:50 pmReplyCancel

  • Jennifer Hall - It’s time to talk about gun violence….and it’s time to stop shaking our heads muttering “I can’t believe it happened again” and then continue to just sit on our hands. An election year is coming up so one thing we definitely gotta do is VOTE with this issue in mind.October 23, 2015 – 5:24 pmReplyCancel

  • Christine Carter - *Stands at laptop with a slow resounding clap* PERFECT. This is just PERFECT. I absolutely love how you described these events, all tragic and all real…

    So very real.

    It’s up to us to work on the words, but dammit! Lets get those guns under control NOW.

    Your message is powerful. Thank you for speaking out and for speaking to this ever-present dire situation in our country. It’s just too easy to get a gun. Period.October 24, 2015 – 2:41 pmReplyCancel

  • Kenya G. Johnson - I love that meme. Perfect point! I have a whole unpublished draft that I wrote on Friday. I went to Starbucks and everything. But I just couldn’t find the words to conclude it. I didn’t intend to link up and then I was fired up about a man who killed a 4 year old when shooting at her father’s vehicle. This was over road rage. I was so upset to hear that. Too damn easy! >:-(

    Anyway, maybe I’ll publish it some other time but I hope the conclusion is inspired by another senseless crime.October 26, 2015 – 11:39 amReplyCancel

    • Kristi Campbell - Oh Kenya, I hate that another child died from a gun. It’s just so completely awful. :(
      I look forward to reading yours if and when you publish it.October 27, 2015 – 3:35 pmReplyCancel

  • Emily Nichols Grossi - Yes to this, Kristi! Thank you for writing so powerfully about this topic!!November 1, 2015 – 10:15 pmReplyCancel

  • My Inner Chick - —We took all of the guns from Kay’s house 10 years before he shot her, but he found another one.

    I’m not sure what the answer is, but our country DEF. needs to DO SOMETHING.

    Instead of doing NOTHING.

    I’m mad as hell.

    xx hate guns in Minnesota.

    PS. We need extensive background checks and LONG waiting periods.November 4, 2015 – 5:45 pmReplyCancel

    • Kristi Campbell - Oh Sweetie. That you took them out and that he got another one. Too easy. Not long enough waiting. Sigh. I don’t know the answer either but I know with all of me that we have to start doing some of the things. Longer waiting. More control over ammo. Starting anywhere is a start.
      HATE GUNS everywhere.November 4, 2015 – 8:22 pmReplyCancel

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