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Just before drifting off to sleep, my son rolls over to check that I’m still there and grips my hand more tightly in his. I like to think that he’s locking my presence into his dreams. Sometimes, while lying in the dark or playing in the light, I think about all of the things I […]

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  • Janine Huldie - Aww, I keep telling myself this too as I don’t want to ever forget this time or what my girls were like either when they grow up, because as crazy as it all is this really is (as Billy Joel sang) “The Time to Remember”.
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  • April Grant - I would love to keep my babies babies, but looking at them now, the joy that I see of them growing together. I hope it stays that way.
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  • Allie - Amen. Yes to it all! I want it all, but it is so bittersweet. I cannot imagine my children as old, I just can’t it given vertigo:(. And I too hope to be really, really super-duper old. I have to be.December 18, 2014 – 10:14 pmReplyCancel

  • Dana - Five minutes ago, I hugged my not-so-little but still little boy, and I breathed in deep as if to save that moment. I can’t save it, but I can remember. Love this, Kristi – made me sigh big (in a good way), as your posts often make me do.
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  • Emily - This post appeared at just the right time for me. I just found out a few hours ago that my across the street neighbor tragically died suddenly (I don’t even know the circumstances). She was in her 60s and had 2 kids as well as 2 grandkids. When things like that happen, it really shakes me up and of course I immediately think of my own kids if something were to happen to me. And when you said this, it really rang true to me: “I want to live long enough so that I feel okay when leaving. I don’t know that there’s ever a time that any parent feels okay leaving this life but I have faith that some of us manage to do so in peace. That we leave knowing that we did enough.” That is a beautiful statement and I truly hope I leave knowing I did enough. I believe my mom died feeling that way and that also gives me peace in return.
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  • Heidi N. - you always make me cry! thanks for the timely message as we all get so caught up in the holiday craziness, I’m also dealing with a sick Dad who must be thinking all of this himself as he waits on more test results from doctors…I too have a hard time thinking of my special boy as an adult, we always want to do more, get him ready for the real world as best we can, protect him for as long as we can, savor as much as we can. Happy Holidays.December 18, 2014 – 11:08 pmReplyCancel

  • Kerri - wow. just wow. thank you for getting it, as always. that it is so important to remember the NOW. that we need these memories for when we are cleaning puke, when we are dealing with IEPs or when we worry about the future.
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  • Out One Ear - Linda Atwell - Beautiful! I’m so glad you tell yourself to remember. I used to do that all the time and still, I can’t always remember, but I try. I like to try to remember the smells, the smiles. But you have even one more thing–the writing. You will have that. Always. Forever. And you’ll be able to come back and reflect and again, remember.
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  • Anna Fitfunner - I’d like to think that we are enough. We have to be, our kids won’t have another chance. That can be a great weight of responsibility, but somehow I remain optimistic that we’ll muddle through it. I’m not really sure why I think that way. I suppose that’s what makes me an optimist at heart. I think that you are a optimist as well, in all of the versions of Kristi that you’ve shared with us on your blog. Happy Holidays to your family and you!December 19, 2014 – 3:12 amReplyCancel

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  • Susan Zutautas - What a beautiful post!
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  • Vidya Sury - And as usual, your post made me cry! So beautiful, Kristi. It is what every Mother wants in her heart, no? Hugs! Your boy is beautiful. And looks so much like you. Each time I see a parent with a child who looks like him/her, I marvel at the miracle, the joy of creating another human being and nurturing them.

    Your post got me all choked up. Right now, I am already freaking out over the fact that he only has another 4 months left in the school he’s been going to since grade 1. Whether or not he feels sad, I know I’ll miss it. ♥ How quickly life goes on!
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  • Rachael Boley - This is absolutely beautiful!!! Something I think about daily!December 19, 2014 – 9:17 amReplyCancel

  • Shailaja/ The Moving Quill - This was so incredibly beautiful. Can I just say that this is all exactly what I want for my child too? I know that sounds cheesy, but it’s true. What a lovely set of wishes.
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  • Kelly L McKenzie - For this prompt I briefly mentioned I could have written about how I want to be looking back on my life from an old age. And then I moved on to pie crust. Just TypiKel. But there’s more to it. My sister lost a dear friend two weeks ago to a 5 week battle with cander. She was 68. I learned this week that a good friend of mine is also threatened by it at 64. She’s had a biopsy but hasn’t told me the results and there’s been no word from her family. I’m thinking the news isn’t good. Some of us like Mom reach 92 but the majority of us don’t. Thank you for the reminder to treasure every single day.
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  • Kim - I love this post and so agree!!
    When my boys were younger I spent many days just hoping to make it through the day instead of treasuring the time. Now that they are teens I try to make the most of every minute because soon they will fly away:(
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  • Mike - This was absolutely incredible, Kristi! I really like the hand holding through Tucker’s mind before falling asleep. That struck a chord in me as I’ve worked really hard the past 4 months to fill my mind with happy, repetitive thoughts before falling asleep. It’s SO awesome how you are thinking, feeling and envisioning this beautiful tomorrow that both you and Tucker will have! It only gets more beautiful each and every day. I think about getting old too and always hoping and praying I will be in good health with my wits about me. Loved this post :)
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  • Kenya G. Johnson - Oh this one got me all gushy flash forwarding to knowing my old man son. Wouldn’t that be so cool!

    I love though how you’ve put remembering this moment into perspective. I’m starting to see that “in the blink of an eye” people talk about. :-(
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  • Allison - YES, love love. It is perfect, so perfect. xo
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  • Tamara - well now you made the entire blog world sob into their sweaters!
    I think of that so often. Every time a whole day goes by and I haven’t been present once. Shame on me.December 19, 2014 – 2:01 pmReplyCancel

  • Michele @ A Storybook Life - Kristi, this is such a timely post. It seems like this is the time of year when we’re supposed to be making memories, but it’s so easy to get caught up in the to-do list that the memories themselves fall by the wayside. I hope we are all fortunate enough to know our children’s children, and to be able to tell them stories of when their parents were little. That kind of family storytelling is priceless. (And although I know you’re thinking about how much of Tucker’s story to share here moving forward, the fact that you’ve written down so many memories makes it more likely that you’ll remember them — writing things down ingrains them on your memory in a unique way!)
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The original Star Wars movie came out when I was a little kid. My dad, my brother and I couldn’t wait to see it and went to the theater one Saturday afternoon thinking we’d be among the coveted first to watch incredible life-like “how did they DO that?” 1977 effects. You know, like this. After waiting in […]

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  • Out One Ear - Linda Atwell - I remember the year Lindsey realized Christmas, Santa, etc., was a big thing. Cabbage Patch kids had just come out. I had to fight a bunch of other ladies to get my daughter one and make her dream come true. So I totally understand: this. is. a. big. huge. deal. Not only for Tucker, but for you too. Enjoy. Enjoy. Enjoy.

    The Sesame Street Live looked fun and if that would’ve been available when my kids were little, I would’ve loved to have taken them. Glad Tucker enjoyed. This is what Christmas is all about (to me) making memories with our kids. You can never go wrong with the memories.

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  • Kristi - You are that COOL mom! I’m so happy you were able to take Tucker to see the show.

    Sounds like private swimming lessons are a good idea. What a scary experience for you! I’m glad the lifeguard was there and everything is OK.
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  • Kerri - I’m so glad he had fun at Sesame Street and how can you not be thankful for a birthday party where you kid didn’t drown? Holy crap you must’ve freaked!!! Good job mama, holding it together
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  • Lisa @ The Meaning of Me - Kidzilla loves her Legos, too!
    So glad you had fun at Sesame Street – doing those things together and making special memories are the things that really matter.
    Hooray for “getting” Christmas. Isn’t it absolutely wonderful???
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  • Janine Huldie - My girls were totally like this for Frozen on Ice recently. They were completely on cloud 9 and even got asked if we could go again. So, glad Tucker got to have this experience and awesome that you got complimentary tickets, because the tickets for Frozen were definitely not free and truly wish they were.December 15, 2014 – 12:27 pmReplyCancel

  • Kim - Oh – there was a time (like last year!) that advent calendar would have been a hit here!!! This past summer my oldest son decided to get rid of ALL of his Legos – this was a collection he had worked on for over 10 years. It was hard for me but I let (and helped) him sell them all.
    Thanks for sharing the calendar!!!
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  • Tamara - I love Sesame Street Live! My good friend was the director of one of the big ones so we got backstage passes to meet Elmo, baby.
    And I’m so old I went to the Star Wars Ice Capades as a kid. I even got a nose bleed there. And a fake lightsaber.
    I was just telling Scarlet that story this morning!
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  • Anonymous - I would really really really (did I say REALLY?) appreciate being entered into the drawing for these tickets. I have 3 children ages 3,5, and 7. My 5 year old also has special needs. BTW I love your posts. They let us know we are not alone!! If we win great. If not have an awesome holiday. Thanks for writing!December 15, 2014 – 2:56 pmReplyCancel

  • Chronicallysickmanicmother - I find it hilarious when they don’t like the costumes getting close to them.

    Star Wars advent calendar! AWESOME!
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  • Dana - We never saw Sesame Street Live, but we did see The Wiggles in concert. Loved it then, so glad I don’t have to go now.

    I can see why the characters can make Tucker uncomfortable – they can be scary. Gwen had a friend years ago who was TERRIFIED of the Chick Fil-A cow. As in she ran screaming out the door. Poor kid.
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  • Mike - Yes, MY jump-in-after-Tucker needle pegged just reading that pool scene! I’m so glad you got him signed up for swimming lessons. We were in the water always on the boat during my childhood. I hated the swimming lessons but wow did it make myself and two step sisters expert swimmers. That’s so awesome you played hooky and went to see Sesame Street! I love it when parents do this with their kids because what happened in school that day will never be remember (assuming it’s a normal day). Sesame Street with mom will be a memory of a lifetime! Just like I still remember right where my dad and I were standing when he told me he was taking me to Star Wars on that Wed May 25th opening night! Good post, Kristi :) Good luck to whomever wins the tickets!! :)
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    • Kristi Campbell - Yeah, I was freaking out a little bit. I was THISCLOSE to jumping in but then the lifeguard did…sigh. And yeah, I learned to swim young as well. Honestly, I didn’t realize how much help he’d need to do so and am glad we’re going to pay a fortune to get him private lessons…
      And YAY to Sesame Street Live being a memory he will cherish!! I hope so!!! I love that you remember your dad telling you that you’d be seeing Star Wars in 1977!!!
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  • Emily - We have great memories of taking the boys to Sesame Street Live – it’s a great show and I’m glad Tucker enjoyed it. (my boys were never big fans of the costumed characters up close either). And, I definitely get your excitement over his excitement about Christmas — that’s awesome!
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  • Michele @ A Storybook Life - Now that’s an awesome tradition that your dad started and you’re carrying on with Tucker! I would think it’s an ultimate compliment to a parent when their kid remembers something so fondly to do it with their own child. :) It’s also a good reminder to me, the slave to the “schedule,” that surprises and a change from the schedule can be the source of great memories.

    I’d love to be entered in the giveaway — Teddy is currently obsessed with his good friends Elmo and “Ernie and Burp.” (Whoops, he learned about Bert and burping the baby on the same day.)

    And I’m excited for you that Tucker is getting into Christmas! Great Advent calendar. :)December 16, 2014 – 3:50 amReplyCancel

  • Silvana Dextre-Heim - I would love to be entered for the sesame street live contest!December 16, 2014 – 4:26 amReplyCancel

  • Rebekah - Yes please! My older daughter is ob.sessed. with Elmo! So fun!December 16, 2014 – 9:03 amReplyCancel

  • Elizabeth - I seem to recall that we got pulled out of school to see Star Wars too! Of course, by the time Return of the Jedi opened, I was working for the theatre (at Tyson’s Corner – it is gone now, lol!) and got myself in on opening day. :-)

    I have done lots of sharing so people can enter for those tickets – I hope whoever wins them has a great time!
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  • Clark Scottroger - very, very cool parental thing to do! (Make Tucker the envy of his classmates is all you did! lol)

    Note: I’ll take the tickets, provided they’re to the exact same show, so I can (imagine myself) getting up at a certain point and going, “hey dude! you scare my friend?? you think that’s funny?! take off that f%&%^& goofy-assed hat and I’ll show you something funny… yeah, I’m talkin to you!!”

    …maybe not, huh?December 16, 2014 – 10:47 amReplyCancel

  • celeste noelani - That is AMAZING about Tucker getting that it’s Christmas this year. I hope it’s a wonderful one for you all.
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  • Amy Neumyer - I absolutely love your blog and would love to win those tickets for my family! Thank you!December 16, 2014 – 7:51 pmReplyCancel

  • Beaumont Angela - Hey!! Id love to win tickets! Thanks & love your blog!December 18, 2014 – 2:42 pmReplyCancel

  • My Inner Chick - What a doll face!
    Merry Christmas, sweet, sweet girl. xxx
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  • Asd-Dr - Great post – I remember the Star Wars movie opening too and I didn’t get their first either. I love the Star Wars Advent calendar – I think I am going to have to get one for next year for my girls.December 18, 2014 – 8:25 pmReplyCancel

I don’t consider myself as being particularly wimpy. I am the eight-year-old who slept on a board placed on her bedroom floor for six weeks after taking a dare from her brother to jump off a six-foot retainer wall at the elementary school that left me unable to walk home. During the 80’s and 90’s, I […]

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  • zoe - Heroism and bravery are really all about the circumstances we find ourselves having to adapt to aren’t they? Either way… yours and Tucker’s willingness to adapt to whatever you all deal with has made ya all brave… just face it your brave, sister!December 11, 2014 – 10:18 pmReplyCancel

  • Emily - Yes I agree – we are all brave and wimpy at the same time. Sometimes I’m brave and other times, total wimpy wimp. And when it comes to our kids, on the one hand we have to be so very brave no matter what but on the other hand, we can also be so afraid. As you know, I can relate to your feelings so well, with ALL of my kids.
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    • Kristi Campbell - I’m totally wimpy – and was when it came to this post that I redid today a bunch of times because I tried to write it on my phone (damn the deadlines)… and thank you so much Emily. I know you can relate and I’m so lucky to have you as a friend.
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  • Anna Fitfunner - I wouldn’t worry too much about labels or assumptions that people make. Tucker will grow to be all that he can be, because he has loving parents and a fundamentally positive outlook on life. And your stepdaughter. Well, that’s a tougher one. She’s old enough to make her own choices, including the really horrible dumb ones. I think that you can resolve to do the best that you can. It will have to be good enough.

    I don’t think that you need to be concerned about being brave or a wimp. As you say, we are both. And that is okay.
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    • Kristi Campbell - Thanks, Anna!! I am trying to not worry about the labels so much… but sometimes it’s hard because so many other people need a label to define him if that makes sense… thanks so much and you rock as always.
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  • Dana - I am brave and wimpy too, Kristi – I think we all are. Being a mom makes us unbelievably courageous and incredibly terrified. I know the uncertainty about Tucker’s undiagnosis amplifies the brave and wimpy, but I think you are doing pretty awesome.
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  • Kelly L McKenzie - Some days I feel strong enough to take on anything and other days I can’t even face a dog walk. However, I take great comfort in knowing that I’m not alone. Most folks are like this I find when I get to know them. My motto is to “take it one day at a time.” Now if I’d only remember to practice it …
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    • Kristi Campbell - Kelly,
      You saying that some days you can’t face a dog walk is SO SO COMFORTING – thank you!!! I miss my dog so much and want to get another but I also remember that there were mornings and nights when I just didn’t want to go and didn’t enjoy it and couldn’t face it… You’re not alone. Which means I’m not either.
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  • Lisa @ The Meaning of Me - Brave is what you call it when the proverbial shit hits the fan and you stand there and let it fly in your face anyway. I think. Sometimes you just want to run away from it screaming “eew eew eew” though, right? And it’s not necessarily a wrong choice, either.
    I think this may be my favorite thing of yours – which I’ve probably said before – but it’s all so true. I like knowing that you’re the same as me – that many of us are the same. No matter what our thing is in life, we all feel like we could conquer anything some days and really just wish someone else could do it on others. Normal. Human. Reality.
    Meanwhile, I can’t tell you how I laughed at “advanced maternal age” because I found it the most hilarious thing about my pregnancy. I mean, OK, I guess I was but did they really need to put the big freaking orange sticker on my file??? Honestly. Like how my body felt for nine months wasn’t kind of a clue…December 11, 2014 – 11:40 pmReplyCancel

    • Kristi Campbell - I think you’re right. And I love your explanation that standing there while it flies in your face anyway. Because YES. That. And OMG I so so so love that your stupid orange stamp was the same as mine because yes – really??? I mean REALLY??? To AMA!!?!?
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  • Out One Ear - Linda Atwell - Now your site is working again! Huge bummer. I left a very creative message and now it is gone. Let me try to recreate…
    I am a coward and I am brave too. I am 1001 different things. You always write stuff that makes me think, makes me relate to you in such an incredible way. I was at a writers workshop and the host asked us to tell them about ourselves and of course I started off that I’m a wife and mother…but I really don’t let just those two things define me. I’m a writer, an entrepreneur, an insurance adjuster, a gardner, a traveler (and I’m happiest when I’m on the road)…. anyway, I don’t want to be defined in one specific way. I shared a post today about a grown woman who did want to be identified in a certain way (not that she ONLY wanted to be identified in one specific way) but I could relate. Special needs, developmentally delayed, etc., are one part of her, but not all of her. Anyway, I digress in this response in a way that I didn’t digress during my first response (an excellent one I might add that will not be so excellent this second time around).

    I too am incredibly dumb and shockingly smart. The older I get, the less I realize I know. So when I’m shockingly smart–I LOVE IT! Anyway, your post is excellent and I love reading everything you write.

    p.s. hope things are better with your stepdaughter. I don’t expect a response here. And as far as a Lindsey update: she is doing better every single day. Not great yet, but moving toward great. Happy holidays to you and your adorable family.
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    • Kristi Campbell - So sorry it wasn’t… maybe, it wasn’t working because I was typing this post from my phone while lying in bed with Tucker waiting for him to sleep knowing the deadline was coming and hating the post but then finding a way to edit it that was okay enough? Because sometimes good enough is right?? ?
      And thank you Linda. I adore your words so much, here, and at your place. And well to the stupid step daughter… we don’t know anything new except for that Tucker absorbs more than we think because yesterday, my husband and I were talking thinking that Tucker was drinking his “ba” (and yes he’s five and whatever) and all of a sudden he said “Cameron is my stupid sister???” Holy crap. I guess it’s time to watch what we say…
      I’m so glad too to know Lindsey is doing better every day… and huge big Happy Holidays to you and yours!! xoxoxo
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  • Mike - Kristi, as you know I see you as a hero always…neither brave nor wimpy but a constant of goodness every day. I know you may not feel like that but we are always our own worst enemy. Cliché, yes…but true. Shall we use the word brave then I see you have already and will continue to climb life’s biggest mountains. You will stand in front of the fastest, most intimidating oncoming trains of this ether we all share. There will be days where you hang on to a branch by one arm in the fiercest of rapid rivers. Yet, you will always survive and you will always be my hero. Apprehension or trepidation or a bit uneasy you might also find yourself at times. Wimpy never…in my book. xoxo, Mike :)
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  • Nicki - I love this post so much Kristi. So true. So honest. Life and parenthood make us want to run and hide, and also scream F*ck yeah I can do this because I’m AWESOME! And you are. Thank you for telling it like it is. xx
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    • Kristi Campbell - Aw Nix, you’re the bestest. I hated this post because I wrote it in 20 minutes on my phone but now I think it’s almost okay after editing and that you saw its potential is HUGE to me so thank you so so much!! You are AWESOME. xxoo
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  • Janine Huldie - You are right no matter how brave I am still a wimp myself at times, but then again you are right we all are just a bit.December 12, 2014 – 3:09 amReplyCancel

  • Ruchira Khanna - Woh! I am the first one!

    Kristi, times always test a person, cause one thing is for sure…time will not be constant and this time will leave you more experienced and definitely not a coward!

    I can feel your compassion when it comes to allowing Tucker all by himself venturing into the playground etc.

    I pray the universal energy guide you in this journey. hugs xoxoDecember 12, 2014 – 3:13 amReplyCancel

  • April - Sometimes just living life is courageous enough. I remember when people asked how I finished law school while single and pregnant and I didn’t really have an answer. I wasn’t sure if I should’ve made the decision to just drop out of the world or what? What was my option? Get a job? It would be just as much work, and would be no good with the mounting law school debt and no degree. Bravery doesn’t mean that you have to be spokesperson everywhere you go. B
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    • Kristi Campbell - April,
      I will not say “I can’t imagine” to finishing law school while single and pregnant because it drives me nuts when people tell me that they can’t imagine how I do it… but I will say that you did good… and that it’d have been easier to have crawled under the covers. I know what you mean though and yeah, bravery doesn’t mean we have to be the spokesperson. Thank you for that reminder.
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  • Tarana Khan - When it comes to any challenge my son has to face (now or in future), I am a wimp too. Can we help it if we worry ourselves silly about our little angels?
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  • Elizabeth - It has been my observation that your bravery is a bigger part of you than any fears.
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  • Allie Smith - I know I’m wimpy, especially about scary and violent things (I cannot listen to stories about medical procedures ever- or watch violent movies!). But overall, I think I have a courage that is borderline delusional. Gets me into trouble sometimes;). I thinks its because as a teen I was scared of everything. One day I decided, enough was enough. It was time to kick a little a**.December 12, 2014 – 2:16 pmReplyCancel

    • Kristi Campbell - UGH to the ugly medical stuff – I’m a total wimp about that too unless it’s happening to me or a loved one and by a loved one mostly I mean a REALLY close loved one… here’s to kicking a little ass.
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  • Mrs. AOK - I don’t think you’re wimpy. I think you’re a Mom with a big heart, worry, in some freakish way, is love… no? I’ve written a few posts on worry and anxiousness, and what I have gathered, I’m not alone, many of us worry about the what if. It’s somewhat instinctual, well I believe.
    Anyway, you shouldn’t sale yourself short, you’re doing everything you can, and doing it with love. I think it’s quite commendable to share your story, because you never know who you’re helping.
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  • Tamara - I love the last line. I’d like to believe I have the courage to imagine my own.
    I always see my kids as so much braver than I am. And then I wonder if I used to be more like them, and it’s slowly disintegrating.
    Or maybe I used to be afraid, and it’s slowly building back up.
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  • Kim - I think you are incredibly brave!!!
    And, for the record, I would love to see Tucker’s Lego advent calendar!!!
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  • Seana Turner - It isn’t to face the uncertainties of life. Especially when we anticipate painful moments for ones we love. I’ve had my own share of struggles in this area. Fortunately, times always get better, something surprising happens, and a new season begins. In the meantime, isn’t it nice to draw courage from our friends (blogging and otherwise!), family, and God? Sending you warm thoughts:)
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    • Kristi Campbell - Seana, yes, you’re so right that we do draw so much encouragement from friends (online and offline), family and God. So much. The painful moments are hard but yes, we do get through almost mostly always stronger… thank you!
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  • Sandy Ramsey - I think being a mother has made me a wimp. I can look back at some of the crazy things I did years ago with barely a care about consequences and would never in a million years think about doing them today. It’s my kids. I just don’t take chances anymore..because, like you, I’m afraid of their being here without me. On the other hand, it’s made me the fiercest of warriors in matters that I would never have guessed would make a difference. Life is crazy. That’s what it is.December 14, 2014 – 5:33 pmReplyCancel

    • Kristi Campbell - Ok so I saw that you’re focusing on other things but did you delete your blog???? I just tried to go and got an error (I’ve had errors this weekend so am not sure what that means) but yeah, being a mom made me a wimp too!! I used to do SO much and now? I can’t risk it because my baby boy needs me more than he needs anybody else (or so it feels and I try to not jynx myself by saying that but yes)… here’s to being warriors!!
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      • Sandy Ramsey - I did pull it down. A lot of people asked me why I didn’t leave it up but it wasn’t free space. I’ll start another after the beginning of the new year. I just thought it was time to do something different. I had no idea what I was doing in the beginning and wanted to change so much it was just easier to start from scratch. Most people think that makes me crazy but I’m still here…it’s just my first blog that’s gone. I intend to hang around with the great people I’ve gotten to know for a long time! So you’re not quite rid of me yet!December 15, 2014 – 6:30 amReplyCancel

  • Katia - Wow. Once again WOW. So profound and as always so relatable. You’ve perfectly put it. I agree that we all have 1001 faces. This is why most of us are good and bad and brave and not so brave at the same time. And oh my god, yes, it takes courage to imagine greatness. To allow yourself. It is so much easier to duck behind fear. I love how you think, and live and write and I’m proud to be your friend. I can totally see that eight-year-old girl in you. :-)

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  • Chris Carter - YES!!! We ALL need to have that kind of courage! Because really? There is greatness in us all to be imagined. I hate that some limit themselves in fear…

    Oh wait. I have done that too many times to count!

    BUT- what has come toward me, I have battled with the courage needed. As have you, my friend.

    And we continue to build amazing strength to take the next bold step into the unknown. You, me, and ours and them.
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  • Brittnei - Loved reading this! I didn’t write something this week, but I do believe you explained this so perfectly! You are brave. Well, at least I think you are, for whatever that is worth. I see a woman who is fierce in her ability to explain the complexities of this life in a way that can relate to so many in the world. :)
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  • BritishMumUSA - As I said before you are an amazing mum, and a BRAVE woman!!!! We can chat when ever privately, you have my contact info…. The school that both my children attend, middle and high school have an inclusive program so children with a LD are included. What my children have learned growing up with LD children is that in the end we are all human and deserve the same respect. They hold each other up and bring each other up. It is beautiful to watch. My daughters have gone to bat for them too… Your son will develop awesome friendships and go a long way!!! Your daughter will make the right choices…. :) Sending hugs and love!!!!
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  • Angel the Alien - Tucker is growing up in a pretty good generation, as far as having special needs goes. He has a mother who loves him unconditionally, and who will help him to learn about his brain and make it work for him, and who will advocate for him and teach him to advocate for himself. I think he will do things that are above and beyond what you can imagine! :)
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  • Kenya G. Johnson - I’m scared of a lot of things but I do have the courage to believe in the best future for my son and love it that you said it first!
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It seems like just about everybody in the First World has an Elf on a Shelf.  I watch elves misbehaving on Facebook, in blog posts, and on Twitter. Oh, you forgot to move the elf last night? He got into your wine? He wrapped himself in toilet paper? Uhm… maybe you’re missing the point. It’s possible that I read too much […]

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  • Joy - We don’t have an Elf on the Shelf and I guess I wouldn’t buy one! :-) What is the purpose of it, anyway? Please enlighten me!December 3, 2012 – 11:41 amReplyCancel

    • admin - Joy! Of my daily joy! The purpose of the elf is to terrify your kids into behaving for Santa. The idea is that he flies to the north pole every night to report to the big jolly guy on whether your kids have been naughty or nice. Then he comes back and perches himself on a shelf. It’s supposed to be fun for the kids to spot him each day in a different place. It probably is fun for families who have less ridiculous moms than I am. I get the idea, and think it could be cute in a Big Brother is always watching YOU kind of way. I just think he’s ugly. And scary. In a scary clown kind of way. But maybe it’s just me.December 3, 2012 – 11:48 amReplyCancel

      • Joy - Okay, I understand. We do not have this tradition here (maybe you read my about page by now?) ;-) and are not familiar with the Elf. It sounds like a nice idea but I don’t like his appearance either. And as you can see you are not alone out there! I might have too google for Elf on a Shelf is creepy and have some fun!December 3, 2012 – 12:02 pmReplyCancel

  • Frances - No, you are not alone. The Elf is super creepy and teaches the wrong message. We don’t even do Santa here, because the idea of a fat guy in a red suit entering your house at night is really creepy, too. When my kids see Santa at the mall, they look away and quickly walk past – even though they know it’s just a guy wearing a costume. We do talk about St. Nicholas – how he was a real person known for his spirit of generosity. My kids get that.December 3, 2012 – 1:33 pmReplyCancel

    • admin - Wow, I never thought about that Santa is be scary too. Big fat guy coming down the chimney…Thanks so much for commenting!December 3, 2012 – 5:59 pmReplyCancel

    • Joy - I like what you wrote about the “big fat guy”, tee hee! ;-)
      We celebrate St. Nicholas on December 6. He comes to your house (you can rent him) and tells the kids about the good and bad things they did in the course of the year and gives them some small presents, nuts, and tangerines.
      Historically, we celebrate the Christ Child on December 24 but it becomes more and more common to celebrate Santa instead. Unfortunately, we like to adopt a lot of traditions from the US (obviously we like you guys very much ;-) ) like e.g. Halloween which is something I am not too excited about. We have our own culture and traditions and should not forget about them.December 4, 2012 – 1:02 amReplyCancel

      • admin - You’re right. You should celebrate what’s traditional in your culture. So are you renting St. Nicholas this year? Sounds fun!December 4, 2012 – 10:28 amReplyCancel

        • Joy - Probably not. Sunny is already afraid of the one that is coming to kindergarten each year!December 4, 2012 – 10:33 amReplyCancel

      • mdbc77 - i love the idea of having santa give the kids a good/bad report!December 4, 2012 – 11:19 amReplyCancel

        • Joy - You can read more about it in my blog! :-)December 4, 2012 – 11:29 amReplyCancel

    • Pam - I totally agree. We always taught my son that Santa wasn’t real. He always knew we were the ones who brought him gifts. I felt convicted about this when my niece was 12. She was the one who argued with all the kids when they told her Santa wasn’t real. When she discovered the truth she was hurt and betrayed. She couldn’t believe that her parents would lie to her like that, and thought, what else have they lied to me about?

      That was enough for me. I wasn’t going to lie to my child about a fat guy coming to our house.December 7, 2014 – 7:55 pmReplyCancel

      • Kristi Campbell - Aw, Pam! That’s sad that your niece felt so betrayed. We’ve actually been talking about Santa but you bring up a good point. Maybe we need to reconsider that.
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  • Courtney - Ha! I love your drawing! We do it, and yes, I paid for it. I do understand those who don’t. It’s fun, and honestly, it has helped my son believe a little bit longer. He has been poking holes in the Santa story since he was 4. Ours sits up high, most of the time. He does not help the kids behave better, but it’s fun to get creative with him. :)December 3, 2012 – 1:44 pmReplyCancel

    • admin - Courtney, I know you do it and I’ve actually had this post in draft mode for a while waiting until it got closer to Christmas to publish. When I saw your post, I almost scrapped it because I love that your seven-year old still believes in the magic. In the end, though, I had nothing else to write today so I used it. I’m relieved that it didn’t offend you! And I’m really glad that Elf brings your family magic. Maybe I will warm up to him when Tucker starts “getting” Christmas better.December 3, 2012 – 5:58 pmReplyCancel

  • mdbc77 - i almost bought one of those elves a year or so ago, but i took one look at the price tag and thought, uh no i am not paying thirty bucks for that thing! i, too, feel it is creepy and a total waste of time! my cousin called me a few days ago to ask if we had one and said she was going to get one for my kids (her kids are teenagers now) and i asked her if she was coming over every night to stage a new “elf-tastrophy” for me. we have not yet received that elf as a gift from her!

    i don’t like to tell my kids that “santa’s watching you” because i think that is creepy, too. but, we have been making regular “phone calls” to the jolly fat man this season. surprisingly, it works wonders when your five year old son is misbehaving at the store. i kind of wonder what the folks in ear-shot think when they hear my husband say, “yes santa i’ve got a little boy here who’s not listening….” it would be really funny if someone came over and asked him for the number though! lol.December 4, 2012 – 11:24 amReplyCancel

  • Meredith - Your second graphic made me laugh so much! That is SO creepy–and so funny :)December 4, 2012 – 2:32 pmReplyCancel

    • admin - Thanks Meredith! Glad it made you laugh! He really IS creepy! :)December 4, 2012 – 3:08 pmReplyCancel

  • Robin Jingjit - Exactly! It’s weird and there is NO WAY my boys wouldn’t touch it. Plus, we don’t do santa/any magic characters as real in our house, so it wouldn’t fit for us either. We talk about/watch movies/read books about Santa and he’s fun for them, too, but they don’t think he’s actually coming.December 4, 2012 – 6:06 pmReplyCancel

    • admin - Thanks, Robin. It’s such a relief that I’m not the only one who thinks the elf is nuts. Thanks so much for commenting!December 4, 2012 – 7:10 pmReplyCancel

  • Stephanie @ Mommy, for real. - I am with you 100%, and so is my daughter! When we tried out this little tradition two years ago, we nearly drove her into therapy. It scared her to death, and she refused to be anywhere in the house without us for weeks, just after having laid eyes on him for all of ten seconds. (She immediately hid under a blanket and wouldn’t come out.) FESTIVE FAIL.December 4, 2012 – 10:14 pmReplyCancel

    • admin - Stephanie, that’s funny! And reaffirming, somehow. :)December 6, 2012 – 9:54 amReplyCancel

  • MomboMombo - must admit – never heard of it! Living off the grid is good at times…December 5, 2012 – 4:25 amReplyCancel

    • admin - Indeed. He’s a creepy asshole.December 6, 2012 – 9:54 amReplyCancel

  • Rachel - You KNOW I love this post!December 6, 2012 – 6:37 amReplyCancel

    • admin - Ha! I love how you called him a “pint sized weasel” on your blog!December 6, 2012 – 9:53 amReplyCancel

  • Angel The Alien - I don’t really “get” Elf On The Shelf. Not only is he creepy, but the story doesn’t make sense… he’s clearly a doll, and people buy him, so how can he be magic? I saw a blogger who did something different… she made this tiny little door that can be propped up against any wall or piece of furniture, and she says it is a magic door for the elves to go in and out of when they want to spy on the kids.
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  • Frances - My kids are already scared of Santa, so we don’t do anything Santa-related here. But I read the Elf on a Shelf story to my son yesterday for the first time. I asked him, “Do you think this is real?” He said no. He asked why someone would write a book like that. I explained that the same people who make the doll also wrote the book and they were trying to make as much money as possible from the books and dolls. He asked for another story. We will not be welcoming any elves into our home.December 8, 2013 – 9:42 pmReplyCancel

  • Kristi Campbell - Angel,
    I don’t really get it either but agree that it’s weird…I like the tiny door idea!
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  • Kristi Campbell - Francis,
    I love that you explained that they are just making money from it!!!!
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  • Mytwicebakedpotato - I am SO with you! Creepy little voyeur and tattle tale! No thank you! I really think that was one of my best decisions to avoid him like the plague! ;)December 8, 2013 – 11:48 pmReplyCancel

  • shelli - geez – psycho much? There is a very lovely story that goes along with elf on a shelf – its the CHILDREN who love it and the CHILDREN are what matters at Christmastime. Anyone who sees a doll and thinks violent images needs some serious therapy or has simply watched too much tv!! Sorry that you have such a Bah- Humbug approach to Christmas and that you think we all live under a rock (which we dont)but MY opinion is that he is adorable, and although i dont own one (because i dont have small children anymore)I certainly WOULD get one if my grandchildren wanted one here because i think hes cheery and festive – and that is MY opinion :) God Bless you all on this very Merry Holiday and throughout the new year!December 9, 2013 – 9:52 amReplyCancel

  • Joyful Me - Who has the energy to do that? Not me. We just put our tree up tonight and I’m almost done with my holiday cards. We are lucky if the laundry is folded. I do not have time to move an elf around and make him be amusing. Creepy? Maybe just super annoying.December 21, 2013 – 9:57 pmReplyCancel

  • Tarana - All types of dolls scare me (except stuffed animals) and so an elf would never make it’s way in our home, though I’ve seen some cute ones people have put up!December 22, 2013 – 6:00 amReplyCancel

  • Judith - Playing IT with your kids – oh my, youth traumas. I saw IT at 13 years old and couldn’t brush my teeth over the sink for weeks. Anyway, that elf looks proper creepy and is definitely never being invited into my home – thanks for the heads up!
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  • Joy Christi - I don’t do EOTS either, mostly because Im lazy and we also take pride in having our children afraid of US, vs. Santa, elves, Easter bunnies, etc. :)
    I like your “It” idea!December 23, 2013 – 5:55 amReplyCancel

  • Emily - Hahahahaha!! That picture of the elf with the bloody knife – hilarious! We’ve never done the Elf on the Shelf…by the time I heard about this trendy Xmas tradition, my kids were too old to believe in the creepy elf. I agree – he’s one creepy dude. Is he a dude or a dudette? I’m with you – no elves in this house!
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    • Kristi Campbell - You’re so lucky your kids were too old! I resurrected this post after hearing kids at the bus stop talking about their elves and thought HOLY CRAP would I get one for Tucker (probably if he asked). :)
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  • Nicki Gilbert - I so appreciate this post, Kristi, thank you! I am so confused by the Elf and think he looks EXACTLY like he does in your drawing. And yay for your blog :)! xxDecember 9, 2014 – 5:03 amReplyCancel

  • Janine Huldie - Hangs my head in shame, because we do have one but in my defense it isn’t the one you have in the pic above and was the original they were selling way back. Kevin’s mom bought it for us before we had Emma and the past two years has kept the girls mostly well behaved for the month of December – so he can’t be all bad if he can magically do that at least in my eyes ;)December 9, 2014 – 6:21 amReplyCancel

    • Kristi Campbell - Janine,
      I will never judge you or any parent that gets their kids to behave during December! I’m just a baby who thinks that the elf is creepy! :)
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  • Allie - Honestly, it was fun the first couple of years, but not anymore. I had a friend who went over the top with her elf doing crazy stuff and posted it on FB. Of course their kids told me kids, who wanted to know why their elf was so lame. I refused to join the madness, but Rich felt they would be scarred. The elf went mad – one time with a sharpie. Mom was not pleased. It’s well know in these parts that mom hates the elf. I think he’s aging though, he’s back to more sedate “watching” and there have been no complaints…December 9, 2014 – 7:25 amReplyCancel

    • Kristi Campbell - The elf went mad with a sharpie! OUCH! See? I’m smart to not have one then right? Also, who am I kidding… we all know that if Tucker actually wanted that creepy thing in our house that he’d get to have him…
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  • Kenya G. Johnson - So glad I didn’t read this in the middle of the night! Yes I agree that he is creepy. My dad said he looks like he’s related to Chucky. I agree! I just clicked on a FB link crepp/funny something like 10 naughty pictures elf on the shelf doesn’t want you to see. Google it! So glad I’m not in the minority thinking he’s a creep.
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  • Kerri - I have been quite clear on my views of the freaking Elf. I think the one perk of Tucker and Bridget is that we never, ever, like ever, have to deal with the Elf for them. Unfortunately it is the one negative Abby comment!!!
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  • Chris Carter - This is hilarious and yes- I totally get your take on it!! My kids LIVE for their Little Kris Kringle…. he isn’t scary to them- he is a giver of good.

    Our Elf doesn’t do stupid nasty things, and make a mess in our house. Our Elf gives encouraging notes for the kids every single day they wake to go look for where he has hidden with his precious words!!

    My kids feel like Little Kris is part of our family. I had no idea it was going to take off like this a few years ago, when my friend got us the Elf.

    Last summer, my kids were talking about Little Kris and how they wish he could just stay in our home all year long.

    When Cass was so sick last week, Little Kris watched her play games and he watched a movie with her too. (Parents can touch the Elf, not the kids. So Cass used a velveeta box top to safely have the Elf sit upright to do these things with her all day.

    It’s kinda precious. :)
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    • Kristi Campbell - OOH! Your elf gives notes of encouragement?? I love that idea!! Ok if Tucker ever asks for an elf – that’s what ours is doing. And awwww to Cass using a cheese box top to have Elf sit up and watch a movie with her. I LOVE that.
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  • Lisa @ The Meaning of Me - Kristi, I just love you! :D
    I was firmly situated in your camp until very recently. I definitely saw no merit. But then Kidzilla happened. And an Elf came to live in their classroom at school. And she was so enamored of the idea, she started wishing an Elf would come to our house. And so…one did. St. Nicholas dispatched her, though, and she is here to help Zilla remember how important good behavior is – not because of Christmas gifts, but just because (it’s a thing we’re working on in school…long story…buy me a coffee and send me an email) good behavior is important all the time. Our elf does not do nasty things like poop chocolate kisses into jars on the kitchen counter or dump out the breakfast cereal container, whatever. Our Elf just quietly reminds Zilla about speaking sweetly and kindly and leaves a little praise for things done well.
    Do we need this crutch? No, not really. But it’s been a particularly rough spell and we saw no harm in having a little help from the Christmas magic. She’s going to be past all of this far too soon. Sigh…December 9, 2014 – 10:54 amReplyCancel

  • Susan Zutautas - I never did like or see the purpose of “Elf on a Shelf”. Last Christmas I had to ask someone what the hell this elf thing was. Some years I don’t get out much :) I never thought he was creepy though but after reading your post I think he is. I watched Chucky when I was pregnant …. talk about creepy and terrifying.
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  • Sarah - Glad to know I’m not the only hold-out. I don’t actually find the little fella creepy, I just can’t get on that bandwagon. And the more people on it, the more I hear about it, the more resistant I become. I get that way with popular stuff.
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  • christine - No elf in our house. While I agree, he is a little creepy looking, I don’t really like the whole someone is watching you to see if you’re good in order to decide if you are getting presents. We get presents because it’s a celebration.

    Instead of the elf, we have three wise men looking for Jesus. They do move to a new spot each night, and the kids have fun looking for them. Nothing creepy about it, especially since both little kids, completely independent of each other, said on day 1 this year, “Yeah, I know you are the one who moves them.” It’s still fun to do. :)
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  • Dana - Your drawing of homicidal elf just amped up my fear of dolls and clowns to a new level. If one of those maniacal things every makes its way to my house, I am beheading it and burning it immediately.
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  • Kim - I’m right there with you – I think the elf is beyond creepy and I’m super happy that my boys had no interest in the elf when he became a big deal a few years ago. Plus, knowing how lame the tooth fairy was at our house, I’m pretty sure that the elf would have sat in the same spot forever!!!
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  • Twindaddy - Toy Story must have been a horror film in your eyes.December 9, 2014 – 2:29 pmReplyCancel

  • JT Walters - No Elf in our house. Alex wanted Santa to go to weight watchers the elf seemed a little ridiculous.December 9, 2014 – 3:10 pmReplyCancel

  • Pattie - That creepy thing came out in 2004 – my daughter was 19 – so I was spared any of this nonsense. Even if this had been around when she was little I can assure you that she would have thought the thing ghoulish. Can you blame her?
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  • Joy Christi - I love your picture of the ELF! Too funny! I agree he’s creepy, that’s the only thing I LIKE about it hahaha. I’m way too lazy to move it every day, we both know we would never keep up with it. It’s a cute idea, congrats to the parents who DO actually do it, and to the people who post hilarious pictures about it, but I’m with you. Pass.December 9, 2014 – 4:10 pmReplyCancel

  • Rena McDaniel - Yes!!!!!! I’m so glad to know that I am not the only one out there that thinks that thing is as creepy as hell!December 9, 2014 – 4:11 pmReplyCancel

  • Clark Scottroger - I totally agree. The season is, ambiguous at best, crime and punishment, favors curried from a recluse, seen only by chance, who sanctions impersonation…. 2 words: ‘he knows when you are sleeping’December 9, 2014 – 4:15 pmReplyCancel

  • Tamara - haha! I do think they’re creepy.
    I’m not for or against them, but I have no desire to have one here. It’s fun to watch them unfold on Facebook, though. People are hilarious.
    I do love making magic, as you probably know from my many posts, but it’s just not the way we do so.
    Doesn’t mean it will never happen, but I’m not pulling for it, by any means!
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  • Elizabeth - I am so with you. There is no elf in our house. I just knew it would not be a good fit. ;-)
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  • Michelle - I am right there with you…RIGHT THERE. It’s creepy. it’s creepy and it’s a spy. I fail to see how this inspires Christmas spirit.
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  • Lisa @ Golden Spoons - I so agree! I really can’t stand the elf. I wrote a post kind of like this a couple years ago and people called me a monster and assumed that I must have had a terrible childhood since I was ruining the magic of christmas for our own children. It was my first experience with haters and I couldn’t believe how passionate people were about it! Of course, several agreed with me, too. Anyway, I agree and we DO NOT have a creepy elf!!!!! :-)
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  • Mike - I had absolutely no clue about the Elf on a Shelf until I read this post!! And now I wish I hadn’t!! Not because of you or because of your blog…but because dolls like that freak me out. Thank you, Kristi. Please don’t mind if I call you at 4 a.m. your time because I’m having nightmares lol :)
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  • Brittnei - When I saw this floating around, I knew I had to stop over and comment! I definitely see what you are saying and I used to think the same thing about my dolls when I was growing up. If we did celebrate Christmas, there would be no elf on our shelf either!
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  • Lana - Every time I see one of these elves, I thank God that my kids are too old for it. I agree – totally creepy and weird! Although I will admit some of the things people come up with for it are definitely creative.
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  • My Inner Chick - YES!
    I agree.
    he’s a little pediphile. (is that spelled correctly?)
    my kids are older.
    I think I shall scare the shit outta them w/ this little creepy, ugly, freaky dude.

    xxxxxxxxxxxx KISS from MN.
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  • Sandy Ramsey - I have no elf. I have never had no elf. I will never have no elf. The end.December 14, 2014 – 4:38 pmReplyCancel

One summer, when I was about six and attending day camp, a girl who was a few years older and eons cooler than I was, asked me whether my hair got darker when it was wet. Then, I was the shyest of shy, had few friends, and sported that kind of little-kid white-blonde hair that is […]

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  • Dana - We are more alike than different – mothers, kids, People. Except for the underwear and yoga pants – that’s why thongs were invented, Kristi.
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  • Mike - Ha, this was awesome. Btw…ironic as I was thinking of you today while driving to work and had planned to email you. I’ve been doing a lot of “getting by” the past 3 months but hoping soon for a little bit more than that. It’s hard to allow “getting by” sometimes because we put so much unnecessary pressure on ourselves. Luckily, I’ve been blessed with some incredible superheroes in my life during this time both here in Reno and online. I do wear underwear under my sweats…I mean, hello? Now off to wet my hair…I always have my glasses off when I get of the shower and I’ve never paid attention. BRB!!

    Ok…yes it is darker when it’s wet. Vewy, vewy interesting doctor :)

    Awesome post, Kristi :)
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  • Anna Fitfunner - Yep, that’s me. Living the superhero life.
    Thanks (again!) for bringing a grin to my face as I read your blog post. Time for me and the cape to grab a cup o’ joe and save the world once again!December 5, 2014 – 3:07 amReplyCancel

  • Janine Huldie - Aww, I loved the his and you are so right we all just get by during the good, the bad and the ugly, too!December 5, 2014 – 3:09 amReplyCancel

  • Jen Kehl - You ARE a super hero! My super hero. No matter what, you keep it together, and I know how hard that is! I can’t wait to rejoin the world when I am finally able to emerge from The Matrix cause I miss you tons! TTTx10 <3December 5, 2014 – 3:44 amReplyCancel

  • karen - LOVE your post, and so true. There are so many nights when I go to bed and wonder how the hell I made it through this day or week, then Dino is so happy and loved. I realize that doing the best I can is all that matters. Our kids don’t want perfect moms, they want their moms and think we are perfect just the way we are.
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  • Lisa @ Golden Spoons - As usual, you have hit the nail on the head my friend!! I love this so much. Earlier this week, someone at work told me “You always look so put together! I don’t know how you do it with three kids.” I thought, ” I don’t do it! I don’t think I look put together, but I KNOW I don’t FEEL put together. My head is spinning with all the to-do’s and all the I didn’t-s.” But, I just said “Thanks!” and moved on with my day. You are, indeed, a superhero and this post reminds me that I am too, so thank you for that! XOXO
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  • Allie Smith - When people ask me, “How do you do it?” I always laugh and say, “You’re kidding, right?” And I agree with you, we’re all basically the same, just different problems. When the problems are “ours,” they seem extraordinary:)! The universe has a secret scale = everyone has burdens, it just depends on the context, I guess. I wouldn’t change my struggles with anybody!December 5, 2014 – 7:26 amReplyCancel

  • Kenya G. Johnson - No underwear with the yoga/sweatpants? Um awesome? No, can’t pull that one off. I’d rather you be able to tell I’m wearing bunched up granny panties. Ok that’s gross too. I don’t like thongs so I try to find the no line underwear. But if you wear a shirt that covers your butt then no one is the wiser.

    People who know me IRL especially when we are doing photography events, tell me that I am so cool. A cool under pressure kind of girl. It’s probably the worst way to be really, it’s not healthy to hold in all the things that make you want to scream. This flawed and perfect woman takes long showers and leans against the shower wall trying to think about nothing.

    You’re were a nicer kid than I was. I wanted to fight the girl that put water on my hair to see what it was going to do.
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    • Kristi Campbell - HAHAH to the granny panties, Kenya! Those are known here in this house as “period panties” as well. Um yeah… moving on. Cool under pressure is good, mostly, I think, although running around to the side of the building and crying or punching the wall is okay too… I know that shower feeling… that one where you just let the water take your brain as much as possible (and your hair too). Ugh that you know that mean girl who wanted to put water on your hair. Whats with that anyway???
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  • Kerri - Awesome my friend. We are all more alike than different. We all pick up puke the same way for example. :)
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  • Kim - I love this!!! Sometimes I feel inadequate when I see other moms that seem to do so much more and to do it all better but you are exactly right – we are all getting by and we all have our little “issues.”
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  • Sarah - Yes, we’re all superheroes, panties (I love the word panties) or not. (Maggie came home from school and said, My teacher doesn’t call them panties. She calls them underpants.–Makes you wonder about the conversations.)
    Anyhow. yeah I hate that comment. It can feel demeaning or conciliatory, like you poor little thing.
    Best to avoid.
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  • Rebecca - Hilarious pictures, Kristi!!! I feel like I know that woman ;)
    You hit this one on the head, BIG time. Love your humorous writing style, love your views, and love you! I completely agree that we are all wearing our superhero capes but thank god we can laugh at ourselves regularly, because motherhood is ridiculously hard!December 5, 2014 – 2:50 pmReplyCancel

  • Elizabeth - Hahaha! Love this! I need a cape – I can do anything even go out with concealer dots under my eyes, if I am wearing a cape!
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  • Scott Hansen - I used to get this question a lot when the twins were younger. People would say, “I don’t know how you do it.” I just do. Having two infants/toddlers/twins is my normal. It’s just life. You find a way.December 5, 2014 – 3:48 pmReplyCancel

  • Stephanie Smith Sprenger - I love this SO much! What a fantastic idea. (I freaking hate you because I know you just pulled this out of your ass last night and it would have taken me a week to put it together.) I laughed at the part about kissing your friends being unexpected. Hee hee. And that story about your wet hair made me sad. That girl who ran away sucks.December 5, 2014 – 8:14 pmReplyCancel

  • Tamara - It is a ridiculous question, isn’t it? I remember my friends who had suffered a terrible tragedy were asked that a lot. And they were asked how they go on. They would answer, “There is no alternative is there?”
    Some of us wear those capes more often, I should think.
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  • April - We are definitely more alike than different. We ARE just trying to make it and hopefully our children come out of the other side as a relatively healthy and happy adult. Great post hun! But I like your IRL story better. :)
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  • Nicki Gilbert - Ok, I feel like I want to comment on every sentence you wrote here because YES! First about the connections and interactions, then of course no underwear under yoga pants… obviously! (I just had this conversation with someone who appeared horrified to hear I wore mine sans underwear but then she said the more she learns about me the more she loves me, so I took that as an endorsement lol!). And yes, we ARE superheroes and we are awesome. And we’re all hanging in. More alike than different. Thanks for this wonderful post, Kristi. And I hope, hope, hope everyone is feeling at least a little better in your house! xxxDecember 6, 2014 – 4:02 pmReplyCancel

  • Echo - You are right, my friend. We get by! We may trip over or own doubts or catch our cape in the car door, but we get by.
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  • Alison Lee - You’re absolutely right, Kristi! I wrote a post recently, titled “I Don’t Do It All”, because I don’t. I am embarrassed, when people say to me that they’re amazed I have four children, still blog etc. That’s because I have a very supportive (and helpful) husband, a housekeeper 5 days a week, and awesome in laws. I really don’t do it all. None of us do, because it’s not possible. We just do what we can. Yay to us regular and special needs mamas!December 6, 2014 – 11:29 pmReplyCancel

  • Kelly L McKenzie - Thank you. My husband died shortly after our daughter’s third birthday. Our son was 16 months old. I cannot tell you the amount of times someone has said to me “How do you do it?” At first, I responded with a smile and a quick “there’s no choice.” Over the years that evolved into a more breezy “Hanging on by a thread here. Just like you. ” Initially I was quite daunted by the 3 year old preschool phone list. Every single child had two happily married parents’ names beside their number. Except mine. These same folks recoiled in shock when I’d say “Her father passed away in January.” Or so I thought. Over the months (and yes happily over wine) these parents became my friends. I learned their lives weren’t all happy-happy sugar coated land and over the passing years many of them have also been dealt potentially crushing challenges. Everybody wears a cape. In order to see them we just need to get to know them.
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    • Kristi Campbell - Kelly… sigh. I hate what you went through and even me, in writing this post wants to say “holy SHIT how did you do it?” but really, what I think that means is “holy SHIT, you are strong, and amazing, and I’m sure that you had nights of tears while hiding in your closet screaming to the world about how unfair life is. But also moments thanking life for being amazing. For the friends that you kept. For the sanity that you kept. Here’s to our capes. Here’s to seeing all of them.
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  • BritishMumUSA - Oh Kristin, You are so correct on this one. No one has the market on doing it, we all just do it. After what I have been through with my teen, I thought I was all alone until one day a very brave mom approached me and asked me about what I had been through with my daughter. I confirmed I had, and then she divulged to me that she was going through it as we spoke. I was never alone, and that day two years ago I made a promise to never let her think that she was alone. We have grown to be best of friends. Who would have thought in my 40’s I could get a best friend!!!! Parents rocks and sucks… We are there in the thick of it no matter what. I would not have it any other way, I am just glad that I realized I was not alone, and I was able to help another parent realize it too. :) Thanks Kristi…
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    • Kristi Campbell - BMU – I need to hear more about your daughter. I think that might help me A LOT… I’m so glad that you found a friend who was going through the same thing! I am so so glad for both of you and so glad that I know you in this huge internets place. And yeah, we all just do….
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  • My Inner Chick - Remember that Nike ad: (((Just Do It.)))

    So simple. So true.

    I mean, what else can we do…except do, live, survive?

    —this post reminds me, and I shall NEVER forget, of a mom who lost all 4 of her children in a fire.

    A woman asked her, “How do you do it? How are you surviving?”

    She simply said, “Because God is who He says He is.”

    Krisi, I love how your powerful, honest, authentic voice educates others!

    Thank you. xxx
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    • Kristi Campbell - JUST DO IT. And so true. I mean, there are those who can’t and that’s awful but a different subject. For those that are (us), what else can we do but do? And we’re fucking awesome for doing it, right???

      Wow to the “Because God is who he says He is…” Just, WOW. I’m not sure I’d be able to be there… truly. Ever. xxoo
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  • Roshni - I never thought of it that way but you’re so right that none of us really consider ourselves as superwomen! We just do what we have to do!!
    Hey, hope you enter the British Airways giveaway on my blog!
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  • Christine Carter - I can’t tell you how much I ADORE this post Kristi!!!! My favorite… I am completely moved and lifted by your gorgeous words and message. YOU are such a gifted writer with such a powerful voice for GOOD. YAY us MOMS!!! Btw- I ALWAYS wear underwear. No thongs- hell no. And I can’t imagine nothing covering my southern parts. Just can’t. :)December 9, 2014 – 2:30 pmReplyCancel

  • Kristi Brockett Brierley - Yes, yes, yes! One of my pet peeves is the phrase, “I couldn’t do what you’re doing. ” Sometimes the only real option is to just keep plugging along.December 9, 2014 – 9:02 pmReplyCancel

  • Ashley Fuchs - This is so great, Kristi! I would love to share it with my readers. And of COURSE my show is called “The Incredible Adventures of Malleable Mom!” Because incredible can mean amazing or aaaaaaaaaaaaaaahhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh!depending on which part of the roller coaster ride you are on, right?!
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  • Mrs. AOK - Lovely post! We’re all doing it, we do it in our own way, but doing it nonetheless, and sometimes, yes, it’s nice to be seen for what we’re doing. However, we don’t do it for the affirmation of others, well, most of us, anyway. :)
    I actually love a good mismatched sock day.
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  • Becky Holland - wonderfully written. I love what you said “we should just remember that we’re all awesome and horrible. We’re all flawed and perfect, all at once, every single day.” so true.
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  • Brittnei - I can so identify with what you are saying! Some people are quite mean when they don’t understand something you say or they might have never heard of what you are doing or saying before. I usually take that as a learning opportunity to learn a new perspective or what someone means. Though I may not choose what someone is saying, I can usually understand where they might be coming from, especially when it’s a parent or another woman talking to me. :)
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Thanksgiving reminds us to be thankful for all that we have, all that we are, and all that we’ve been. It’s a time to think about what we want to do, and who we want to be tomorrow and forever. It’s a time to reflect and to remember that every single person that you pass on […]

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