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In light of recent news, I’m re-posting something that I wrote in March of 2013. I’m making a few changes but leaving it mostly as it originally appeared. *** One of the first conversations I had with my then future mother-in-law was when she told me that “the homos” were going to Hell. “God does not […]

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  • Courtney - I am a Christian and I firmly believe we were created in His image. That being said, all people are created by God. What parent creates people to condemn? No one. We love. God is love and we need to accept all love. Lovely words and sentiments!March 28, 2013 – 8:26 amReplyCancel

    • admin - Courtney, so right that we need to accept all love. <3March 28, 2013 – 8:36 amReplyCancel

  • Outsmarted Mommy - Bravo! Family is family, love is love end of story. Great post!March 28, 2013 – 8:28 amReplyCancel

    • admin - Family IS family! Thanks for commenting.March 28, 2013 – 8:36 amReplyCancel

  • Allyson - Amen!March 28, 2013 – 8:47 amReplyCancel

  • Janine Huldie - Said perfectly Kristy and couldn’t agree with you more on this!! And loved the pictures being clear (seriously you nailed it perfectly!!).March 28, 2013 – 8:54 amReplyCancel

    • admin - Thanks Janine!March 28, 2013 – 9:20 amReplyCancel

  • Maura - God is love! Love this… I will shout too!March 28, 2013 – 9:23 amReplyCancel

    • admin - Thanks, Maura. Maybe if we all shout, something will change…March 28, 2013 – 5:30 pmReplyCancel

  • HouseTalkN - AMEN! I love this. Thank you.
    Years ago, in the classroom, one of my students proclaimed that she loved and would marry her bestie. A classmate informed her that she couldn’t love her friend like that. She replied, confused, “But, I do.” Couldn’t, wouldn’t, shouldn’t. Love is love.
    And, remember, “They will know we are Christians by our love.”March 28, 2013 – 9:37 amReplyCancel

    • admin - Love is love! Thanks so much for visiting and commenting.March 28, 2013 – 5:30 pmReplyCancel

  • Robin - That is what really bugs me about this whole “issue”–why it is even an “issue”. Why does anyone CARE what others do???? Who someone choses to love is NOT MY BUSINESS! Who I choose to love is and ONLY who I choose to love! My son has an amazng new wife who happened to be raised by two moms!March 28, 2013 – 10:24 amReplyCancel

    • admin - Robin, I have no idea why people care what other people do when it comes to love. It makes zero sense. Congratulations on your new daughter-in-law!March 28, 2013 – 5:31 pmReplyCancel

  • Henriette - Amen sista! One of my favorite post ever! :-)March 28, 2013 – 10:33 amReplyCancel

    • admin - Really? Wow. Awesome. Thanks!!March 28, 2013 – 5:32 pmReplyCancel

  • littlemisswordy - Great post! I agree with you wholeheartedly. Thank you for sharing your point of view. The whole idea of forbidding a union born of love is crazy to me!

    I wrote my thoughts in my most recent post here:

    Glad to have found your blog!March 28, 2013 – 10:56 amReplyCancel

    • admin - Wow, your post is amazing. I just commented there, too. So glad we found each other.March 28, 2013 – 5:33 pmReplyCancel

  • Elizabeth - I couldn’t have said it better! Family is Family! My sister and Bestfriend are great parents! My Aunt was an awesome Mother not only to her kids but to others. She was more of a mother to me than my own was.March 28, 2013 – 10:59 amReplyCancel

    • admin - Thanks for sharing, Elizabeth! Good parents are good parents and bad parents are bad parents. Sexual orientation has nothing to do with either one.March 28, 2013 – 5:34 pmReplyCancel

  • Ellie - Just nominated you for the Liebster Award! –

    Great post, btw!March 28, 2013 – 11:03 amReplyCancel

    • admin - Really? WOW, thank you so much! I’m so honored!March 28, 2013 – 5:34 pmReplyCancel

  • Kerri - Oh my sista-from-another-mistah this is why I adore you!!! First, you thought about it enough to have clear pictures. Because just like race shouldn’t matter neither should your ‘orientation’. Gosh I hate that word.

    What I do not get, and will never be convinced of, is why ‘they’ think because a person is a lesibian or homosexual they do not deserve to be parents or count as a family. Yes, lets let children not be adopted, stay in foster care, be abused because that is such a better alternative.

    Family is family. Period. End of Story.

    My facebook post the other day was: If Dick Cheney and President Obama can agree on this issue does it mean that hell has frozen over or that the Supreme Court and better yet people should just wake the heck up!!!

    Love this post in case you were wondering!!!March 28, 2013 – 11:31 amReplyCancel

    • admin - I know…the word “orientation” is weird. I have no idea why the whole world can’t just judge everybody for the type of person he or she is. It’s 2013! Time to leave discrimination behind already.

      And hahah to your Facebook post! Love it! Mwah!March 28, 2013 – 5:36 pmReplyCancel

  • Jennifer P. - Yes!! Let gay people get married!!its so stupid that they can’t. I love how you said family picks you up but sometimes leaves you when you need to learn to pick yourself up.March 28, 2013 – 11:46 amReplyCancel

    • admin - I really liked that line, too, Jennifer. Thanks for noticing it.March 28, 2013 – 5:37 pmReplyCancel

  • Rachel - Ah, I got me some drawings! Wait, I’m supposed to have a serious response to this heartfelt response? Oh, ok, by all means…I love that you are going to be loud. I love how you so elegantly turned this post from a conversation about religion to one about family. That is absolutely where the heart is to be found in this debate (why it’s even a debate is beyond me). There are a million other arguments FOR gay marriage, but the one about family is the most profound and beautiful. And a gay family can also exist WITHOUT kids too!March 28, 2013 – 12:16 pmReplyCancel

    • admin - Nah, you can talk about the drawings. And crap! I forgot the picture of the family without kids! DUH.March 28, 2013 – 5:38 pmReplyCancel

  • Jen - I like the boobies the best. And you. And everyone. I like everyone and boobies.March 28, 2013 – 12:49 pmReplyCancel

    • admin - I’m flattered that you like my boobies best. For real.March 28, 2013 – 5:38 pmReplyCancel

  • Misty @ Meet the Cottons - someone on my facebook recently posted: whatever floats your boat, as long as it doesn’t sink my ship. i wondered if they had posted it because of DOMA. are we really that fearful of folks who are different than us that we fight and argue to get this outlawed? i hate that we live in a society that places so much emphasis on passing laws to limit the freedom of others. aren’t there way more important things to worry about? i want to shout, just because it’s legal, doesn’t mean you have to partake! did you read my post about pork from about a week ago?

    i decided when my kids came along that i am pretty much ok with anything, because i never want their choices in life to drive a wedge between us. i just want my family to be happy and healthy.

    thanks for posting this topic!March 28, 2013 – 1:00 pmReplyCancel

    • admin - Misty,
      It’s amazing how we become so much more relaxed and grateful for what we have once we have a baby. I can’t believe that there are laws that are discriminating. It makes me sick.
      And I don’t remember reading about pork, and I thought I’d seen ALL of your posts. Going back now…I must have missed one.March 28, 2013 – 5:42 pmReplyCancel

  • suzie - I agree 100% love and caring is what its all about the other stuff really doesnt matterMarch 28, 2013 – 3:46 pmReplyCancel

    • admin - Suzie! Agree. And thank you.March 28, 2013 – 5:43 pmReplyCancel

  • Julie DeNeen - I wonder if we compiled all the blog posts on this topic, how many there’d be? Loved the photo, loved the message, loved the love. :)March 28, 2013 – 5:52 pmReplyCancel

    • admin - And here I thought I was being original. There are some amazing posts going around about this. Including yours, which I loved.March 28, 2013 – 5:56 pmReplyCancel

  • Linda Atwell - Out One Ear - AWESOME! I couldn’t of said this better. And I was raised in a Southern Baptist Church that did program me for many years that certain lifestyles were a sin. Fortunately, I no longer believe that way. I now believe: Love is Love. You go Kristi!March 28, 2013 – 6:27 pmReplyCancel

    • admin - Thanks Linda! I’m glad that love won over your programming. My husband was raised as a Southern Baptist, too. He also supports gay marriage and equal rights. YAY.March 28, 2013 – 6:54 pmReplyCancel

  • Jean Heff - Another great post, Kristi! I have started thinking a lot about what the parents of my children’s future friends are teaching them right now. Will my kids be the only ones in class who were raised to be accepting of all relationships? This post made me feel better about it.March 28, 2013 – 9:46 pmReplyCancel

  • @facethesun - Being heterosexual does not make you good at being married or good at raising children. Loving your partner and being committed to your family is what matters. Adult people who are in committed relationships should be allowed to marry. And they should be allowed to raise children even if they are the same gender.

    And you are right. Love makes a family. A child is better off with two same sex parents who are involved parents, or one single person who is an involved parent, than with a heterosexual couple that is neglectful or abusive or otherwise dangerous. I am an aunt raising a nephew. We are a family. I am the person who has committed to doing the best that I can to give him what he needs. He means more to me than anything or anyone. We are a family.March 28, 2013 – 10:00 pmReplyCancel

    • admin - You are so right that being heterosexual does NOT guarantee good parenting. Bad parenting happens. Great parenting happens. I am so glad you commented here, because it’s just sick and sad that there are still people out there who do NOT know that family is family no matter what. I talked to some of them yesterday. It’s amazing. Thank you. I’m glad your nephew and you have each other, because YOU ARE FAMILY. Already.March 28, 2013 – 10:31 pmReplyCancel

  • Stephanie @ Mommy, for real. - Oh, I loved this. My brother and his partner just got engaged in New Orleans a few weeks ago. They are planning to have a wedding in two years when his partner is done with grad school. I really hope things have evolved significantly in two years, so that they don’t have to fight and struggle to be treated with equality. You are so right- this should NOT be an issue. I’m going to refrain from jumping on my soapbox and let your beautiful words speak for themselves.March 28, 2013 – 10:04 pmReplyCancel

    • admin - Stephanie,
      So much I feel like I know about you and then this. Congratulations to your brother and his partner! I hope that by the time they get married, that people are as shocked as we are that we used to limit interracial marriages. And you ROCK.March 28, 2013 – 10:33 pmReplyCancel

  • Mama Meerkat - I love this post. Though I would also include the mish mash of blended/split up families, but I suppose that is harder to draw because the possibilities are endless!March 29, 2013 – 8:09 amReplyCancel

    • admin - You’re so right that the possibilities of blended/split-up families are endless. I suppose the point is that family is family. No matter what they look like.March 29, 2013 – 9:08 amReplyCancel

  • Dana - I read your post the other day, but saw you on a link up right next to me so I had to come back and comment. It is all about family, and I wish that people would stop worrying about other people’s and concentrate on their own. And as for clear skin color – isn’t that what most children see before they learn to let differences define us? Great post!March 29, 2013 – 8:53 pmReplyCancel

    • admin - Thanks for commenting, Dana. It is all about family. Sad that so many people forget that…and also thanks big for noticing the clear skin!!March 29, 2013 – 11:03 pmReplyCancel

  • Jeni - Love is family and family is love. Period.March 30, 2013 – 4:50 pmReplyCancel

  • Joy - Very well said! I agree to every single word!April 3, 2013 – 3:10 amReplyCancel

  • Jessica - AMEN!April 24, 2013 – 10:04 pmReplyCancel

  • Kristi - Yay Jeni, Joy and Jessica! (I hate this new comment thing too). Amen to all of you! :)April 24, 2013 – 10:40 pmReplyCancel

  • TheSocialButterflyMom - Also, I feel like the people who don’t want abortion of babies are sometimes the same ones who are against gay marriage and families. This is so contradictory: there are so many gay couples (and probably even singles) who want to be parents and who would love to adopt. Let’s have a bigger parent pool to choose from so that biological mothers who feel like they can’t raise their baby could give it to someone(s) who could.May 3, 2013 – 7:26 amReplyCancel

  • Black Jack Dold - I totally disagree, God doesn’t want us except things that we know are wrong in our minds, God would not have made man and women if that were so. God does how ever love everyone and wants us to love everyone. But he doesn’t want us to sin over and over, I believe it to be wrong and a sin, just like all other sins that tempt us to sin. You can love someone without a sexual content, when you bring sex into it there is your sin. And God wants you to resist all sin, so for me I can’t say it’s ok to lie with the same sex, that would make me a sinner to except that life still.July 2, 2013 – 1:46 pmReplyCancel

  • Elizabeth - Awesome! I was just having a conversation with my son the other day about the difference between faith and religion. You describe it perfectly!
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  • Lizzi Rogers - #LoveWinsJune 28, 2015 – 6:57 amReplyCancel

  • Lizzi Rogers - #LoveWinsJune 28, 2015 – 6:57 amReplyCancel

  • Jena Schwartz - I want that t-shirt.June 28, 2015 – 10:29 amReplyCancel

  • My Inner Chick - I am a Christian. I love Jesus.
    My God is pure, unequivical love.
    My God WOULD NOT be on a street corner screaming- “I HATE GAYS!”
    He would be holding up a sign saying- “I LOVE YOU.”
    You are not here to JUDGE….You are here to LOVE.
    You do not need to condone or give our self-righteous speeches…
    But you do need to SHUT UP if you are spreading hate and division and ugliness.
    And you do need to “LOVE.”
    So, do it.


    Love your passion, Kristi)))!!!June 28, 2015 – 10:53 amReplyCancel

  • Allison Crter - I love you, so much. This post echoes exactly how I feel – thanks for writing it, friend!
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  • Vanessa D. - With all of the negative events and negativity swirling around the internet seeing this decision made in the US was a huge bright spot in my week. One marked by the perfect hash tag, because Love does win, and I do believe God loves us all.
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  • ivy - There is so much to agree with here I will just say for a weeniebutt you’re pretty smart.June 28, 2015 – 4:12 pmReplyCancel

  • Sarah - Yep.
    I am struggling these days with accepting that others have different opinions than mine and that that can be OK. I stuck on one side of this issue.
    But I know rationally it’s not right for us all to agree. We wouldn’t want that world. I’m just stuck.
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    • Kristi Campbell - True Sarah that we wouldn’t want a world where we all agree. It’d be nice though if we could all accept one another and not worry about what other people are doing. When you say you’re stuck – you mean because you struggle with it being right for gay people to marry?
      Kristi Campbell recently posted…My God loves gay people. And lots of other people, too.My ProfileJune 28, 2015 – 7:59 pmReplyCancel

      • Sarah - Sorry, not clear. I’m 150% pro gay marriage. I agree with everything you wrote. I’m struggling because I want everyone to agree with me even if I know that’s not fair.June 28, 2015 – 8:55 pmReplyCancel

        • Kristi Campbell - No sorries ever Sarah, I just wasn’t clear. Also while I know that the world’s opinions are diverse and important they’re NOT (in my opinion) important or valid when they support hate or discrimination. I mean, I think it’s fair to want everybody to agree with you when your opinion is one that accepts and LOVES and shares love. It’d be different if your opinion was one of hate and race and wanting to bring a gun to a church, ya know??? Also fuck when we KNOW we’re right it’s hard to listen. I’ll listen to anybody ever but will never listen to hate or prejudice or anybody who thinks we’re not the same more than we’re subtly different.
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  • Kenya G. Johnson - Correction: Old enough to be very very very young grandparents 😉

    I love this post! Love is love. I wish that was the solid topic that was going viral instead of all the hate.

    Have you ever seen the video (I can’t remember where it was live) but it shows something like an xray screen and all you see is two skeletons kissing, hugging, dancing or whatever. Then the couple separates and comes out from each side of the screen. Sometimes they are mixed races, same genders etc. It a beautiful message that we are all the same under our skin.
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    • Kristi Campbell - Kenya I love your corrective that we’d be young grandparents!!! i so want to find that video of the skeletons – I haven’t seen it but it sound PERFECT. Because we ARE the same, I mean I know that my growing up experiences were different from yours and from many people’s but the whole life and life and LIFE thing is so much the same.
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  • Sandra - This made me smile, and as much as I disagree with your mother-in-law that God doesn’t love the homos, I did have to giggle because I could just picture the conversation, and the word ‘homo’ is a word my mom would use too. I think you did a beautiful job of describing your mother-in-law as someone with strong moral values that she believed in, but was still quite lovely. And well, at this point, maybe you’re starting to know me just a little, but you had me at ‘dipshits.’
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  • Lisa @ The Meaning of Me - I love that you’ve said very much of what I have been thinking. Beautiful when you wrote it and still today.
    I had a conversation with a dear friend yesterday (whom we both know and love) and one of the points was this – much like yours – why is this such a huge thing when we have other issues to deal with like terrorism and poverty and violence? Why are we stuck on this? And yes, we were on different sides of the issue. I say so what? We can differ in our beliefs, in our opinion, and still agree that in either case the best way to be is kind, compassionate, and understanding. If we are on a side of an issue and expect everyone to see ours as “right” we aren’t accomplishing anything. That’s just as bad as oppression, isn’t it? Live and let live is what my Grandfather always said and I think he was a very wise man.June 28, 2015 – 8:02 pmReplyCancel

    • Kristi Campbell - Well of course now I’m wondering who the friend was but obviously you and that person are awesome but yeah, exactly… why do the haters CARE? I mean what does it mean to them? NOTHING. And yeah, to the different sides thing – I mean, love is love, and if we can’t accept one another now, how in the world am I going to ask the world to accept my little boy? Because that’s what it boils down to, for me… plus, love is love. And your Grandfather sounds so so wise. xo
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  • Dyanne @ I Want Backsies - If I could write as well as you do, I would have said the same thing :) How my neighbors love doesn’t affect (AFFECT, not effect – did you notice I know the difference?) how I love. How they worship doesn’t affect how I worship. How they keep their lawn obviously doesn’t affect how my yard looks, either, although THAT probably should, because ours looks pretty shaggy.

    I love your pictures, especially the boobies.
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    • Kristi Campbell - Um “if I could write as well as you do” DUH sweetie YOU DO YOU ARE YOU WRITE and we all just share our truths and that you share yours makes the world better!!! Also YES I love love love that you caught the stupid “effect” because DUH. :)
      My yard looks like crap.
      But YES to what you meant and mean and to YOU and to the boobie pics. 😉
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  • Tamara Klein Bowman - Too much goodness, acceptance, love and sparkle here today. I do want the shirt. And the cartoon. And all the quotes.
    I can’t imagine a world in which God doesn’t love all he (she?) created, and I also can’t imagine being part of this world and giving a flying **** about trying to stop people from marrying each other.
    Sheesh, people. What does this say about you???June 29, 2015 – 1:16 amReplyCancel

  • Stacey DeHaven Gannett - Oh that is absolutely beautiful! I could never find myself following a God who didn’t love all of his/her children, no matter the color, sexual preference, faith, or any other reason under the sun, moon, and stars! I am all about love, especially for my beautiful gay children, whom I want nothing but happiness under the sun, moon, stars, and beyond!June 29, 2015 – 3:19 amReplyCancel

  • Allie - I love this momma! And I could not agree with you more. Love is love and family is the who love and care for us. AMEN!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!June 29, 2015 – 8:58 amReplyCancel

  • Michele @ A Storybook Life - I’m so glad you reposted this, Kristi! Beautifully and forcefully stated. “Family is the people that give a shit when you fall down.” Also, love is love. Hell yeah. I love this.
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  • Kerri - I remember and LOVE this post. I’m so glad you reposted it for new readers.
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  • May - “She died loved, if not agreed with.” Great line for this topic (and all topics in life really) for isn’t that absolutely an example of grace?! All grace is unmerited, but miraculously it is offered to ALL.
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  • Clark Scottroger - …you write outloud the things that (most) people, or at least (and this I will say with certainty) most clarks think and, and! you pick the words that imply so much of what we feel and may not have the vocabulary (emotional or intellectual) to express.

    ya know?June 29, 2015 – 11:25 amReplyCancel

  • Cary Vaughn - Thank you for sharing your thoughts on this. I so grateful that I have a very supportive family dispite them living in a very conservative town in North Mississippi.June 29, 2015 – 5:41 pmReplyCancel

  • Blooming Autism - Fantastic Piece :) xJune 29, 2015 – 9:29 pmReplyCancel

  • Roshni - The baby in all those pictures looks a little smug! 😛

    It’s a wonderful post, Kristi, and I don’t understand people who just don’t live their own lives without worrying about how people they don’t even know live theirs!!
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This past weekend, my husband and I took our son to the local waterpark for Father’s Day. I wanted the day to be perfect. Of course, perfect days don’t really exist except in memory, and almost-perfect days contain moments of worrying about when the back yard will get mowed and the seemingly endless other to-do’s. […]

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  • sara - Sounds perfect to me! (:
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  • Elizabeth - Really lovely post, my dear!
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  • Erin Johnston - Oh I love your descriptions of memories of Tucker- it always paints a visual in my head!June 26, 2015 – 4:06 pmReplyCancel

  • Kerri - He will know that he is loved. You forgot that you know that you are loved as well. I cannot think of anything more perfect.
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  • Allie - Kristi, you write so beautifully. I was with you on that roadside in Colorado. I could see the sky. And as for the filter of memory, yes. And I needed to be reminded, because three week sin to our road trip – it’s anything but the best memory. But by September, this will all be magical.June 26, 2015 – 4:49 pmReplyCancel

    • Kristi Campbell - Allie!! Thank you for mentioning the sky in Colorado. This post came hard for some reason but that part of it was always in mind. I love that you saw it. And yes, to your trip. It’s more amazing than not, and I send wishes and hopes that the crappy moments are soon forgotten.
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  • My Inner Chick - **In that moment, I knew God and time and just how large and small each of us truly are**

    Somebody once said, “Our purpose as a writer is to make people “FEEL.”

    You. Always. Make. Me. FEEL.

    This is MUCH appreciated, Kristi. xxxx
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  • Kenya G. Johnson - That is pretty perfect. Starry nights and fireworks are always AWEsome. I can’t believe those two pictures are just a year apart. He really looks like a big boy now, not a baby. I know you hate to hear that, I sure did. Even now – they go through stages.June 26, 2015 – 7:01 pmReplyCancel

    • Kristi Campbell - Kenya, I SO HATE TO HEAR that but yeah, I get it. He really is starting to look more kid-like and less baby-like. *sob* But it is how it is right? And yeah, starry nights and fireworks. AWEsome.
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  • UP - Sounds perfect to me.
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  • Emily - I never really thought about certain memories being perfect in retrospect. It’s really so true. I suppose we have some perfect moments interspersed between lots of imperfect moments, but our “kind” memories (I love how you describe memory as kind) help us remember the perfect ones.I’ve been thinking lately about summer vacations because I know a few families around here who have taken or are about to take “big” vacations with their kids to places like Italy and Israel. My first thought (after envy) is that my kids are usually such high-maintenance travelers that I wouldn’t want to spend the money on such a “big” vacation if they were going to whine, fight and complain the whole time. But maybe I wouldn’t remember that part of the trip and only the good moments — all five of them? (ha), Or, maybe other people’s kids are better behaved and they don’t worry about that crap? Food for thought…no “big” vacations planned for us anyway, but maybe someday….
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    • Kristi Campbell - Emily,
      I get your reluctance for the “big vacation” as my brother and his family have been planning a tip to Orlando for forever and invited us forever ago, but I’ve been reluctant to book anything because well for a lot of reasons that I know you get. xxoo
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  • Sandra - You continue to amaze me with your charming optimism. I remember reading your blog years ago (like 4-5 years ago?) and even then, in the midst of learning of your child’s autism and possible developmental delays, you were a shining star, like the ones you described in this post; a beacon of hope for those who also had children who would take a little longer to speak and point to the calendar knowing when their next birthday would be (that one is gonna suck, kinda). Your purpose on this earth continues to be about teaching your child AND those who haven’t quite figured out yet how far love, compassion, and endurance will take their children in this big ol’ world.
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    • Kristi Campbell - Sandy – you are so so sweet! And yeah, this kid of mine is utterly inspiring really and a lot of the reason I started blogging in the first place (it’ll be three years in September). THANK YOU!
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  • MJM - Awesome piece my friend, and so very true. Now I know there’s no such thing as a perfect day, one without any problems/issues whatsoever, but as cliche as it sounds the times spent with my family and friends were pretty darn close, regardless of what was happening around us.June 27, 2015 – 2:10 amReplyCancel

  • Tamara - Memories are so kind that way! Every year we long for spring and summer, even though it’s sticky, hot and buggy and full of buggy diseases!
    I mostly remember the ice cream.
    I think knowing you are loved, and that you love, are pretty perfect indeed. Nothing better.
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  • Kelly L McKenzie - Lovely memories! And the best part is that when Tucker is older he’ll look back and remember as well.
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  • Sandy Ramsey - Sounds as close to perfect as any of us can hope to get. I think Tucker would probably agree. It’s a gift to be able to know that there were some less than perfect moments in a day, but be able to pull the spectacular memories forward making it all worth remembering.
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  • Mimi - Loved this Kristi! Two beautiful memories that show how hindsight enables us to embrace the good and let the rest dissolve. Love all the vivid details and beautiful language. You painted a couple of stunning pictures with your words. Thank you! xo
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  • Michele @ A Storybook Life - I love this sentiment – it’s so very true that the happiest parts of a day shine brightest in our memories of the day. Although remembering the less-happy parts can help us appreciate the good times all the more, too. In any case, I hope you and Tucker get lots and lots of fireworks this week, plenty of cake to go around, and no bug bites on the butt. :)
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  • Lisa @ The Meaning of Me - Yup, I think you’re right – all the details that might makes these things less than perfect fade. We’re left with the best of it all.July 1, 2015 – 7:00 pmReplyCancel

By the time I had my son, I was an expert regarding what being a mother would entail. I’d glow while pregnant, women in the grocery store would unexpectedly grip and bless my stomach, and, once my baby was out and about in this world, I’d have a tribe of neighbors and mom friends. Years […]

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  • Anna Fitfunner - Hey there! Not sure that the post needs all that much editing over time. I think that you’ve captured the angst that all of us feel when trying to engage our neighbors. Especially if we’re the mom of a special needs kid. I admit that, while I’m friendly with parents of kids who are neurotypical, my clique (If we ever were exclusive enough to make it a clique. Which we’re not) is mostly made up of parents of special needs kids. They get me. I get them. It’s how we roll.
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    • Kristi Campbell - Hi Anna! I love your “They get me. I get them. It’s how we roll.” I’ve made a couple of friends through Tucker’s typical kindergarten but not that I could say we’re a clique or anything. If I belong to any, they are the special needs mom ones and blogging community ones!
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  • Allie - Oh Kristi, I know you’ve had a tough time with the “mommies” and I’m so me sorry for that. And you make me feel especially lucky, because I did find a typical mom (and in was just the two of us the first year at the bus stop), who embraced me and my family. Just be yourself -you are a warrior and I love you and they could learn form you. And if they’re still assholes, seriously, they are not worth you time or your words. I say **ck them!June 18, 2015 – 10:48 pmReplyCancel

    • Kristi Campbell - Allie,
      No need to be sorry! I think the bus stop moms bonded years ago – most have kids who are a little older so they’ve had more years at the bus stop than I have. Love your “I say **ck them!” :) You’re awesome and I adore you. I hope you’re having an amazing trip!!
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  • Janine Huldie - Aw, said perfectly and I have been so fortunate since Emma started kindergarten to become friendly with a few of the moms on my block with kids similar in age who go on the bus and feel blessed by that. Oh and by the way, one more week here and so cannot wait for the end of this school year now as you I have been so busy and rushed a bit myself the last 2 weeks.June 19, 2015 – 2:08 amReplyCancel

  • Bev - I too can’t see my yard from my kitchen window! 😉
    I feel very fortunate that I live in an area where it’s pretty easy to randomly meet moms at the playground (my friend who lives a couple towns over in the burbs said this isn’t really the case where she lives). Because I live in a city where people are constantly moving in and out, I feel like it’s harder for these types of mom cliques to form. I’m sure by the time my daughter is in school I’m sure a good number of her classmates will have only lived in the area for a couple years. But I do know these things happen — last year there was actually an article about the mom cliques in one of the Boston suburbs. It was reading about high schoolers!

    I’m glad you were able to find your tribe, even if it wasn’t quite what you had envisioned. I find that life never is really what we expect it to be!
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    • Kristi Campbell - Bev,
      YAY that it’s easy to meet moms at the playground for you – that makes me happy. Maybe the longer Tucker is in the same school, I’ll get to know the bus stop moms better. There was an article about mom cliques in the Boston suburbs? Wow – I’ll bet it was fascinating (and maybe horrifying??). And yeah, life really is rarely what we expect!
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  • April G - I’ve never paid much attention. There once was a mommy clique that I worked to get in, but it was too much “work”. I called it a day quickly. I’ve met my own mommy friends and they are all over the place.
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  • Erin Johnston - LOVE IT! SOOOOOO TRUE!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!June 19, 2015 – 11:04 amReplyCancel

  • Michelle - I avoided writing about mommy cliques just because I had so many bad experiences with them, and I didn’t want to offend the people who weren’t so noble with me, even vaguely without Identifying information, because they blog. The best one I found offline was MOPS, but my kids outgrew that, and those people were more acquaintances than friends, but it was fun. Every meeting was like a convention where you learn something, you get free swag, free food and the option to buy stuff like a book. But I’m glad you found your tribes, and I”ll admit, my blog too has given me a slew of supportive people in my life who I truly appreciate. And that PAC sounds like it was one of the best things to happen for you and your son. I wouldn’t regret a moment of it. Bonding time in that age group is just like your fantasy of watching kids play outside from your window. It’s an illusion. I think I spent the kids toddler to preschool years just cleaning up after their messes, and while I cleaned one, they made another, and then I’d get behind and desperately beg someone to watch them so I could clean and sleep, and no one would, so I cried a lot, with vomit inducing migraines, during that “bonding” period. It will be in my book.
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    • Kristi Campbell - Michelle,
      I never heard of MOPS but I’m guessing it’s too late as my son is almost six. I actually had a hard time writing about mommy cliques – I had some great ideas but then didn’t really know what I wanted “out there” ya know?
      And yeah, PAC was amazing for both Tucker and for me – finding a group of moms who get it was huge!
      I can’t wait to read your book!
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  • Echo - I am not a “MomCliquer”, well, offline anyway! Offline, I found that I don’t quite fit in with the other moms my age. I do things a little to different for their liking. I have, however, found a very awesome and diverse Mom-Clique online full of wonderful women that I adore and trust! You should know, you are one of them!
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    • Kristi Campbell - Aw thanks, Echo! And I know what you mean about the online community being so accepting and wonderful. I’m not sure why that is – maybe we get to know each other better than we would at a playground through writing? I’m glad you’re in my clique!!!
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  • Michele @ A Storybook Life - “I’d probably join a knitting or mom-gambling club while gracefully balancing my career, breastfeeding, and tending to gorgeous flowers in the yard.” Bahahahaha. Funny how we knew it all when we were pregnant.

    I’ve found a great mom tribe at our neighborhood daycare (I prefer “tribe” to “clique,” as clique brings back shudders from middle and high school, when I most definitely wasn’t in one). It’s been wonderful to have those moms there as our kids have grown from infancy together, and I really value having them nearby for impromptu meetups with and without the kids. But I’ve also met so many other WONDERFUL moms along the way (like you!) whom I’d be lost without. We find ways to find our people — and they don’t all have to be next door.
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    • Kristi Campbell - Michele – RIGHT!?!?!? The Bahahahah yes! We did know it all when we were pregnant. I kinda miss those days!
      I’m so glad you’ve found a great mom tribe (and agree that “clique” is uglier and less supportive than the word “tribe”) in your hood!
      I’m also so so glad to have met YOU. Here’s to not being next door. And finding community anyway.
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  • Emily - I’m not sure what this says about me, but this is my favorite line of this post: “There’s also the fact that a lot of my neighbors are assholes.’ It made me smile, maybe bc a lot of my neighbors are assholes too. I guess that’s what happens when you live in a suburban town with 1/4 acre lots – there’s bound to be a few assholes mixed in. :) But, I’m off topic as usual. I so get the whole mom clique thing and I also get how tough it can be when you’re feeling like you don’t have a clique where you belong or where you want to belong. I’m glad you found your village – it really helps.
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  • Tamara - I’m totally in a few! I have the one from my hospital birth group with Scarlet and it was such a tight and intense situation that I didn’t even bother to make friends when I had Des. Oops. Luckily preschool and daycare have made new ones.
    I’m also part of the kindergarten moms group. We’re very inclusive and open – we only gossip about.. ok… one person.. once… but it’s definitely an awesome feeling to have them.
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  • Sarah - The special education groups are the best. That’s a silver lining.
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  • Bianca - Hi Kristi
    I’m glad you found your tribe! I too had the impression that I would quickly find my village, based on so many sitcoms & romantic comedies…yeah…no.

    I’ve had a few bad experiences with mom cliques. I was in a mommy & me class on the ritzy side of town & the moms would give me the stink eye when I rolled up in my Honda amongst all their mercedes & BMWs. I thankfully found a few true mom friends in the midst of all these moms I met.

    Sadly, we had to move 5 hours away from them. I’m grateful I can still visit several times a year & that we have Facebook & the phone until we see each other again. However, I’ve been out here for almost a year & I still haven’t met anyone I can call a friend. I have plenty of acquaintances, but no one I click with that much. Ah well.June 19, 2015 – 7:14 pmReplyCancel

    • Kristi Campbell - Bianca,
      I joined so many mom groups when my son was tiny! They all SUCKED. I’m sorry that you had to deal with the beotches at the mom clique mercedes circle but so glad you’ve found your tribe now – although sad that they’re so far away!!! I’ll happily be in your tribe?
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  • Lauren - Kristen this is great, thanks! I had such a hard time making friends when I first had kids… I will never forget I had a babysitter once take my kids to the local playground and a mom asked her to join the local mom’s group- something that had NEVER been offered to me after hundreds of playground trips… Thankfully I found my people- and I’m glad you found yours, too!June 19, 2015 – 10:14 pmReplyCancel

  • marcia @ Menopausal Mother - My favorite Mom cliques are the ones on the internet—all my bloggy friends like you!
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  • Kristi Campbell - Me too! Although I do have one IRL friend from PAC who is totally awesome. But yeah, other than that, YES!
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  • Sandra - Ah yes, the infamous mommy cliques. I tried and failed because I am fiercely competitive, and would happily watch as my son clobbered other children for the toys at the Mommy&Me groups. I don’t think cliques are thing overall, I wasn’t very good at them in high school either. And yet, I’ve never felt more welcome and more at home as I did and do when I’m with my online friendlies. As for the comment about not seeing your backyard from your kitchen and the neighbours being assholes, well, that had me laughing out loud…give me one dirty word in a post and I focus on that one! Seriously, you are such a gifted writer, I enjoy each and every word.
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    • Kristi Campbell - Sandra,
      I tried and failed for three years! Once, I went to this mommy and me playgroup and everybody was really young (and I had my son when I was 40) and they were all talking about how to save money on baby food by making their own (yuck). Online friends are so awesome and supportive! Glad to be able to call you one of mine!
      And yeah, some neighbors around here are total assholes! Thanks so much for your awesome comment!
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  • My Inner Chick - AWWww, YEs, darling.

    I remember a mom saying something like, “Oh, my son is soooooo fabulous and brilliant that I don’t even need to go to his school conference anymore!”

    And I’d be like, “I can’t be your friend!”

    The thing is, it doesn’t change much. Some moms will still say,

    “My son made it into Harvard and Princeton, too, and he’s AWESOME and Smart and pure perfection.”

    And I’m like, “I can’t be your friend!”

    LOOOOVE from MN. xxxJune 20, 2015 – 4:50 pmReplyCancel

  • Dana - I have lots of circles of friends, with varying degrees of closeness. I like it that way – too much dependence on one or a few friends tends to lead to problems. For me, friendships have to be easy. Of course you need to work to maintain friendships and make the effort to get together, but if I have to change who I am or how I act…forget it.

    I have been very lucky to meet some awesome women who I get to share this parenting journey with, both online and in person. Very lucky.
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  • Mimi - I loved this Kristi. I’m so glad you’ve found a clique at home, and I’m glad to now count you among my online friends. I understand those feelings you had after having Tucker. I experienced similar things after having my oldest in NYC. My daydreams did not in any way sync with what became my reality. Over the years I’ve had different groups and at this point I’ve found a place where I feel comfortable, but there are still moments of questioning. I think they’re just part of life though. Agree though it’s wonderful to have a village. So glad you are part of my online one. XO
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  • Kerri - I think every mom goes through that feeling, where they realize this mommy clique is worse than than the high school cheerleader clique. Rather than becoming one of the sheep, the smart moms steer clear and find their own clique to grow with.

    You, my friend, are one of the smart ones.
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It’s hard to believe that it’s been only 48 hours since I was stressed out about having my almost-six-year-old son’s first birthday party. Because his birthday is in July, and falls on a holiday, and also because he’s never really cared about having a birthday party before going to some, we’ve taken trips, gone to […]

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  • Mary Hill - I know what you mean by stressing over birthday parties. I am glad Tucker got a real one this year and he rocked it. Sounds like a great success!
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  • Nicki - This post fills me with joy, Kristi! Of course I KNEW Tucker would have a blast, and that his friends would love it, and that it would be the “best birthday party ever” but so wonderful to read that that is indeed how it went, and that you had fun too. For all the stress our kids’ birthday parties create for us, it’s so hugely rewarding and worth it when they are over and successful :).
    Rock on Tucker! Big birthday love to you all.
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    • Kristi Campbell - Thank you Nicki!!! It was so awesome. I already miss it and I so thank you for your KNOWING it’d be amazing and for reminding me to not stress and well of course tons and tons of love back at you. You still in Amsterdam? Please tell me you’re having a blast? Unless you are not of course.
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  • Kerry - Sounds like a super fun party.
    Those things always cause more anxiety beforehand, but the actual event turns out great.
    My sister was in tears the morning of her son’s first birthday party, having a house so full of guests and wanting everything to be perfect.
    Having family and friends there is all that matters. Those bouncy castles, a pool, pizza and cupcakes would make it fun for any child, or adult for that matter.
    Happy Birthday to your little boy and hope you have a great week ahead.
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    • Kristi Campbell - Kerry, it was truly a perfect party! Everybody had such fun and it was truly worth it. Aw to your sister – it does cause anxiety! We want so badly for everything to go well and for our kids to have fun and and and!! Thank you so much for the birthday wishes!
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  • ivy - BEST PARTAAAY EVAAAAAAAAAAH! WOOHOO! Man I wish I coulda been there! I so woulda rocked that superhero theme! Does Tucker have a favorite superhero? Mine is Silver Surfer…. man of concscience yet cool enough to surf the cosmos on a freaking surf board!
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    • Kristi Campbell - Ivy – it was awesome and I so wish you could have been there! You’d have rocked it! Tucker’s favorite superhero is Iron Man right now, although Spiderman and Hulk are up there too! Silver Surfer – I don’t think he knows that one yet but love that he’s a man of conscience and surfs the cosmos! So cool!
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  • Lizzi Rogers - Ahhh so glad it all went well :) Perfick.June 15, 2015 – 6:00 amReplyCancel

  • Dana - Yay! I am so, so happy for both you and Tucker. Best birthday party ever is quite the accomplishment! I will admit that while I usually am thankful that the stress of planning kids’ bday parties is behind me, I do miss the joyous exhaustion that follows a day that makes your kid deliriously happy. Enjoy every second of it.
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    • Kristi Campbell - Dana, thank you! It was such a fun day and weekend. This is the last week of school too so there’s more fun stuff – end of year performances, ice cream trucks at school… it’s pretty awesome! And I definitely will enjoy every second :)
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  • Kenya G. Johnson - Best birthday party ever has got to be the “bestest” compliment. I’m so glad everything went well! Lol to the back of the head pictures. You can still share them :-)June 15, 2015 – 7:11 amReplyCancel

  • My Inner Chick - YOU rock!
    Tucker rocks!
    It is beautiful that you have one another, darling. xxx
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  • Janet Ochs - I’m so glad it went well and that Tucker had a great time! I’m looking forward to the day we can do that with Chris.June 15, 2015 – 10:05 amReplyCancel

  • Kristi - Hurray for a successful party! I’m so glad it went well and everyone had a great time.June 15, 2015 – 10:09 amReplyCancel

  • Michele - YAY – you did it! I’m so glad that it went so well and that Tucker and his friends had so much fun. Though, really, with you running the show, I don’t think that was ever in doubt. :)

    And now you get to celebrate all over again in three weeks – the plus of an early birthday party!
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  • Jena Schwartz - This makes me so happy, for all of you!June 15, 2015 – 11:22 amReplyCancel

  • Vanessa D. - Way to go Tucker and Mom!

    I’m so glad everyone enjoyed the party.
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  • karen - We just had AJ’s 6th birthday party last weekend and it IS stressful…and expensive. Since he’s our only we make sure to give him what he wants, plus I want to get to experience it all too!!!

    Tucker looks so thrilled with it all! Sounds like he had a awesome party and will have great memories.
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  • Kathy Tyson - Awesome…for all of you!!!June 15, 2015 – 12:34 pmReplyCancel

  • Christine Sass Organ - That is so great! So happy for you.June 15, 2015 – 1:05 pmReplyCancel

  • Pattie Thomas - I am so damn happy that Tucker’s party was a success! Your posts about your boy always make my heart swell. Six! Six? The years go rolling by… <3 you.June 15, 2015 – 1:35 pmReplyCancel

  • Tamara - Turns out you rocked it too!
    It gives me confidence for our big day/weekend coming up. So much to celebrate this time of year.
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  • Christine Carter - OH that is just WONDERFUL NEWS!!! YAY FOR SUCCESS!!! I am just soooo happy it all turned out GLORIOUS!!!June 15, 2015 – 1:59 pmReplyCancel

  • April G - Such a sweet post. Of course you and he rocked it. You are his momma and you’ve been great. So glad you had a good time.
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  • Emily - Just so happy to read this. I know it sounds cliche, but this post made my day, truly. Hooray for rocking birthday parties and most of all, I’m so glad that Tucker had FUN!!
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  • Scott - I’m glad it turned out so well! Happy birthday to your little man!June 15, 2015 – 6:33 pmReplyCancel

  • Beth Siebert - Kristi you are such an awesome Mom and Tucker rocks everything. I am so glad it went well for all of you. Your victory is all of our victories especially for those who will never be there for the kid party.

    Now don’t get yourself into the bigger is better every year because this year’s party was perfect.

    I bet you are exhausted, happy, elated and a bit relieved. Any video?

    Same thing happens when Alex is having a great time. I am so busy enjoying watching him having fun somehow pictures either do not get taken or they are of the back of his head too!

    Congratulations!June 15, 2015 – 10:40 pmReplyCancel

  • Mimi - Thank you for this awesome update! Tucker is so lucky to have you as his mama. I’m beyond thrilled that he had a ball and that it was such a success!! Congrats!! Happy early bday to Tucker! xoJune 16, 2015 – 12:00 amReplyCancel

  • Echo - YAY! I am so glad that it was a success!It feels good, doesn’t it? All the stress before melts away when you see them happy!
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  • don - Awe. I hate kids’ parties, but I love you and I’m glad that Tman had a blast with his friends. Was this at some facility that you rented or what?? It looks awesome. Nice work, momma. Also, you look great the next day, so you must not have worked hard enough.
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    • Kristi Campbell - Don! LOL to hating kid’s parties. I liked this one but maybe because it was Tucker’s first with friends. And yeah, we had it at our gym (Lifetime Fitness – it’s a chain so maybe you know it) so they did all the hard stuff. They even cleaned up after pizza and cupcakes so I win. And I love you too Mister. Good to see you here – I miss your crazy self.
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  • Sandra - Totally awesome blog post, and honestly, the “journal entry” kind are my fave (because I’m nosy and want to know how other people rock their world). Let me tell you, I wasn’t even at Tucker’s party, and I can’t tell all the way from my home here in Winnipeg, Canada, that you hosted the best bday party ever. I have four kids, and never, ever have I done anything close to what you have accomplished. Special needs children or not, there were a ton of people, so my hats off to you darling, you are the Queen! You do realize the little sweetheart is going to expect you to top this next year :)
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    • Kristi Campbell - Sandra, good to know that you like the journal entry blog posts – I always feel like mine are boring but maybe I need to rethink that! Thank you for your super kind words and encouragement – I really appreciate both! And haha to him expecting me to top this next year – you’re probably right!
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  • Jessica Drummond - Yay! Sounds like a splendid day for Tucker.June 16, 2015 – 1:59 amReplyCancel

  • Lisa Moskowitz Sadikman - Happy (early) birthday Tucker and a big high five to you Kristi for putting on what I hear was “the best party ever!” I love the pic of him in the pool. We do and want so much for our kiddos and when it all works out, it’s like winning the lottery. xxJune 16, 2015 – 4:23 amReplyCancel

  • Blooming Autism - Fantastic photo’s, thank you for sharing. Never doubted you could both Rock it :) xJune 16, 2015 – 8:34 amReplyCancel

  • Kerri - WOO HOO Go MAMA!!! you did it and it was awesome and incredible and I am so freaking happy for you
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  • Valerie Newman - I’m glad the first party was a success!June 16, 2015 – 8:38 pmReplyCancel

  • Allie - Yay Kristi! Yay! So excited that everything went well. But, I kind of new it would. I remember the stress, I do, but I also remember the “what was I worried about?” about feeling. And I love that you followed up with a mom and Tucker water park date. You are the coolest mom!June 16, 2015 – 10:31 pmReplyCancel

    • Kristi Campbell - Allie! I heard you met Mimi today! How awesome (and I’m jealous of you both) and also, yeah, I am in the whole “what was I worried about?” part right now, although it also seemed I had a LOT to worry about at the time :)
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  • Christina Amore - So happy everything went well, and Happy Birthday to Tucker!June 16, 2015 – 11:05 pmReplyCancel

  • Sarah Lowe Banner - Oh man we love you guys :)June 17, 2015 – 1:26 amReplyCancel

  • Lisa @ The Meaning of Me - I love love love this post and you know why because we just did the same thing this weekend – same day, even, because you and me? We rock. Like rock stars.
    I am so happy that the party went well and Tucker had a wonderful time. I am also so happy that you guys went a bit overboard for yours, too. 😉
    Love you all!June 18, 2015 – 1:57 amReplyCancel

    • Kristi Campbell - Lisa we so so rock like rock stars who rock! I’m glad that you had your party this weekend too and that you also went overboard! I can’t wait to hear more about it! Love YOU all!! xxoo
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  • Elizabeth - So glad it went so well! We were the same way – celebrating privately for years until he asked for a party. He wanted a dinosaur themed party and like you we went overboard and he rocked it! :-)
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My parents were big believers in camping. Each summer, they consulted maps, weather patterns, calendars, and the neighbor’s availability to water our many macrame-potted ferns. They made plans, and the five of us loaded up into my dad’s green Scout International named Homer, complete with a CB to converse with truckers to get the 10-4 on […]

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  • Dana - I did not go camping as a kid, and therefore I detest it as an adult. S’mores are awesome though.

    The party will be awesome. How can a Superhero party not be? James had one when he was younger too. I understand be stressed about it though – you will survive and Tucker will have a blast.

    I’ll be thinking of him when I too am sniffling in bed tonight. I shove a tissue up my nose so I can get some sleep…have you tried that? It’s very classy – Matt loves it.

    Jeez, this is the most all over the place comment ever. Sorry!
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    • Kristi Campbell - S’mores ARE awesome. Camping can be but it’s also a ton of work and better in Colorado than here because here has bugs and snakes more than Colorado and I’m terrified of bugs and snakes. Of course, Colorado had that rattler… huh.
      I HAVE tried the tissue up the nose! It’s brilliant AND sexy. Win win for sure.
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  • Reta Jayne - Awww. I bet his birthday WILL be fabulously fun. . . & I can SO relate to those bedtime moments. . . The irritation followed by a realization of what a blessing that moment really is. . . Those are the moments to live for. . .
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  • Allie - Oh honey, please don’t put so much pressure on yourself. I am confident that every summer has been awesome in Tucker-World:)! And I know his party will be perfect. And honestly…he probably won’t…well you know where I’m going:)!…remember this summer. I just quizzed H&A and they don’t remember the road trip from 2011 – and they’re 14 &10! Just take it day by day.June 11, 2015 – 10:20 pmReplyCancel

  • Emily - I’m so impressed that your family went camping. We never did, but always stayed in fleabag motels, which in some ways is close to camping? Anyway, I totally get you being stressed about the party. I always used to say that throwing my kids birthday parties was more stressful than planning a wedding. I guess it’s bc you so want all the kids to have fun and then you also worry about the parents…I just think it’s awesome that tucker wants a party and is so into it. As long as he has fun, nothing else matters.:)
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    • Kristi Campbell - Fleabag motels are totally close to camping! Except you know – no bugs and dirt and stuff. I’m so happy that he’s totally into his party! This is a first and the way I see it, totally counts as a milestone!
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  • Kelly L McKenzie - Stay here forever Mommy? I bet you just melted and clung to that bed with all that you had. What a wondrous phrase. From anyone. And doubly so from Tucker.
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  • Nicki - My mom had a CB – don’t ask me why but I only remembered now reading about your dad and Homer! And also… vaginas.
    Everything about this is so right… especially the author and the amazing mom, friend, person she is!
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  • Lisa @ The Meaning of Me - Oh my word your Dad’s line – that is HILARIOUS! I think that’s the best parent line ever.
    As for the birthday party…are you seriously having Tucker’s first ever real birthday party on Saturday??? Guess who else is doing that? Us! For Zilla! And yeah, we might be a bit overboard, too. I’m over it. They’re so worth it.
    I feel so much the same some days…did it today…where all I can think (and unfortunately sometimes say) is PLEASE stop talking. You talk from the minute your eyes open until the second they close at night – and even then you sometimes keep going. But if she ever stopped? Can’t even.
    I’ve been everywhere you took us in this post…well, except camping. No freaking way. Camp Marriott is roughing it enough for me.
    I love your post – as always – and I love you! <3June 12, 2015 – 12:54 amReplyCancel

    • Kristi Campbell - Happy happy birthday to Zilla, Lisa! And yes! Tomorrow (even though his birthday isn’t for three more weeks). YAY that they’re on the same day!! I hope you and your family have a very excellent time and that it’s even better than you hope it to be. No camping for you huh? I don’t think I’d camp out here in VA – too humid. Too many ticks. I love you too and can’t wait to hear about the partay!!
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  • Janine Huldie - I am wiping the tears away and it is just moments like this with both my girls, too that make me know that for all the crazier moments, it is truly all worth it and than some.June 12, 2015 – 2:04 amReplyCancel

  • Anna Fitfunner - You will totally get this summer right, along with many more to come. You so have this. Plus Tucker has really good instincts; he will help you get there even without Homer and that musty tent smell.

    Okay, that’s enough about poop, gas, and vaginas for now!

    😉June 12, 2015 – 2:13 amReplyCancel

  • Kathy Tyson - You already got it right. Beautiful.June 12, 2015 – 2:19 amReplyCancel

  • Christine Carter - Oh this is just so beautiful… you always grab my heart and wring it out, Kristi. Always. Yes, my dear friend. You get a lot right. This night, this party, this boy… all of it. <3June 12, 2015 – 2:50 amReplyCancel

  • Ripped Jeans & Bifocals - Oh my. Zack’s birthday is in July, too, and we’re in a quandry about the party. And my other son, Kyle, always tells me he wants me to “stay with him forever.” So sweet. It was so great meeting you. So excited to see you again next month!!!June 12, 2015 – 3:53 amReplyCancel

  • Considerer - I hope the birthday party goes really well. It sounds like your summers were a mixture, but the good bits stayed, and that you’re determined to create good bits for Tucker. I think he’ll remember, and good for you. And YAY FRIENDS! That made me smile huge that he wanted to invite so many people.
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  • Dana Dominey Campbell - SO, so beautiful… “Stay her forever mommy,” is HIS sweet voice… heart-melting!June 12, 2015 – 7:15 amReplyCancel

  • Katy @ Experienced Bad Mom - Oh my word, treasure those words forever, Kristi! I wish you the best with the party and I hope for good weather and good attendance. It is only now with my second child still having birthday parties that I feel like I get it right. Before, with my first, birthday parties were stressful because I worried too much. So I hope you can learn from my errors, be flexible, and go with the flow whatever that day brings!

    I had to laugh at the CB. We spent 2-3 weeks in a RV every summer, which was way better than a car I bet. But I mostly recall reclining in the back reading book after book while my parents seemed irritated that I wasn’t looking out the window taking it all in.
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    • Kristi Campbell - Thanks, Katy! Here’s to being flexible and the kids (and the parents) having fun! HAHA to the RV and your parents being irritated you sat in the back and read! Also sounds way more comfortable than our deal – the Scout (Homer) was so packed that we couldn’t even sit up – we had to lie down on top of the gear!
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  • Kerri - Oh my friend you got the night perfectly right. And the party? I’ll be sending good vibes your way. You are braver than I am
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  • Ivy Walker - My birthday (s) are august. Ive had exavtly two parties! 30 &50! You got it right sister! Can I come!?June 12, 2015 – 10:12 amReplyCancel

  • Kenya G. Johnson - Beautiful Kristi! Even when we wing it I think we get it right. All our kids want (now) is for us to be there (accessible). You did give me slight anxiety about the party. Is it the kind of party where the parents hang out somewhere – helicoptering? Finally on this end I think we are all done with the snuffy allergies. I don’t know when I stopped clearing my throat. I just realized I hadn’t in a while when reading this.June 12, 2015 – 10:41 amReplyCancel

    • Kristi Campbell - Kenya,
      Yup. It’s at our gym (Lifetime Fitness – not sure if you have those down there). There’s going to be an obstacle course, a bounce house, superhero cape making, swimming, pizza and cupcakes. Each kid has one parent staying. So yes, helicoptering although I’m okay with that during the swimming part because Tucker can’t swim yet. It’s got the beach entry so super shallow 1/2 but then it gets deeper…
      I still have the snuffly allergies!
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  • Kristi - I hope Tucker has a wonderful birthday party–and a wonderful birthday in July!
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  • Mimi - Kristi, it’s going to be an awesome party! And can’t believe how we both wrote about our boys and their beautiful hard earned voices. ESP via cyberspace. Thanks for sharing your fond memories about camping. I’m not much for the woods, but I understand the benefits and hope my children learn them with summer camp. Haha. Can’t wait to hear about the big soirée. Have a ball!!
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    • Kristi Campbell - Mimi, I loved your post! I love that ours were so similar. May the Force be with you and Mr. B all summer (and all lifetime) long. So hey – Tucker hasn’t seen Star Wars yet. I was wondering if it’d be too violent but maybe not since Mr. B has seen them all?? HAHA to Summer Camp! Thank you!
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  • Valerie Newman - Happy Birthday to Tucker. I’m loving the poop, gas and vaginas story. Ours were all about the farts. lololololJune 12, 2015 – 1:57 pmReplyCancel

  • Sandy Ramsey - Well, you’ve done it again. I have tears. They are good tears, of compassion and happiness. You are a great mama to Tucker and I have no doubt you will move heaven and earth to make sure his birthday party is nothing short of amazing. You are such an inspiration, Kristi. I love you.June 12, 2015 – 2:05 pmReplyCancel

  • Jena Schwartz - Gah, that photo of you! And his words. Your words. Love this.June 12, 2015 – 3:14 pmReplyCancel

  • Gretchen - This is beautiful, tearfully heart swelling-ly beautiful. And a reminder for all of us to soak up those moments when our kids want us near them. I am constantly worrying about what I’m getting wrong as a parent but those moments, the lying in bed answering random questions moments are the ones we’ll remember. That they’ll remember. Thank you for this…
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    • Kristi Campbell - Aw thank you Gretchen! I so appreciate your kind words! And you’re so right – those moments at night, when we can just relax and not worry about all of the to-do’s and listen to questions like why skeletons don’t have eyeballs, that’s what we’ll remember. xo
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  • Erin Johnston - Oh, sending you tons of virtual hugs for a great party – I know it will be great!June 12, 2015 – 5:29 pmReplyCancel

  • Marcia @ Menopausal Mother - “Stay here forever, Mommy.” THAT just melted me.
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  • Sandra - Well I’m slowly getting back into the groove of blogging. This is definitely a blog hop I’ll join next week. Your writing is exquisite and you know the precise moment to tug on my tear ducts. PS: I. Love. Your. Dad! !!!!!June 13, 2015 – 12:23 amReplyCancel

    • Kristi Campbell - Sandra,
      I think you’ll really like this bloghop. It’s not just a linkie dump party – everybody visits a bunch of blogs and it’s a great group. Looking forward to you joining next week! And thank you for your kind words about my writing. I love my dad too! He’s awesome :)
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  • Erin Gaynor Putman - I love everything about this. The skeleton eyeballs, the birthday party, and of course, the amazing, “Stay here forever.” I am in that place where I pray and dream of skeleton eyeball questions. You give me/us hope. XoxoJune 13, 2015 – 3:27 amReplyCancel

  • Julie Martinka Severson - Oh Kristi, love this. If there’s ever a day where I hear one of my kids say, “I think my Mom got it right” about anything, I’ll die a happy woman. That photo of you and the caption is priceless.June 13, 2015 – 12:50 pmReplyCancel

  • Dana Schwartz - Oh this post is so great Kristi! I’m cracking up at your camping memories and then nearly crying at your son’s sweet voice asking you to stay with him forever. Gulp!! I hope his party is fabulous, it sure sounds like it will be :)June 13, 2015 – 1:12 pmReplyCancel

  • Elizabeth - “Stay here forever, Mommy” – it just doesn’t get much better than that!
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  • Tamara - “If I hear one more word about poop, gas, or vaginas, I’m leaving you all on the side of the road!”!!!
    With Scarlet also turning six in early July, we do our parties in late June before everyone, including us, goes away.
    I’m totally stressing. And totally digging it too. There are eight more days of school, but who’s counting? A wide summer is still ahead.
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    • Kristi Campbell - Don’t stress, just dig. Our party yesterday was totally awesome (said with the Valley Girl accent which you may be too young to get but trust me it rocked). We have 5 more days of school. Countdown, baby.
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  • Lisa @ Golden Spoons - I’m not much of a camper. Sleeping on the ground (albeit inside a tent) with no electricity and no running water just does not sound like fun to me! :-) As for the rest of it, you get it right a lot, Mama! If only we really could stay forever.
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    • Kristi Campbell - I’m no longer much of a camper, either, Lisa, but I used to be and kinda miss it (but not here in VA where there are too many ticks). And yeah, if we stayed forever… xo
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  • April G - I feel for Tucker. I haven’t been able to sleep at all because my sinuses have been completely closing up as soon as I lay down. Ick!

    Can you do summer wrong? Enjoy your time together and he’ll remember them. :)
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  • Allie - AMEN sister! I seriously could not agree more. And why is there always a hot side kick for the super heroes and they never get any “powers” until the sequel – Yes, talking to you Gwyneth/Pepper Potts!June 4, 2015 – 10:16 pmReplyCancel

  • Lisa @ The Meaning of Me - Oh, absolutely. This is very true and while it seems trivial, it’s really not. It’s a big deal when kids try to find that hero, role model, etc. to identify with and get nothing. A society so far advanced and we still can’t come up with decent strong heroes for women? Honestly.
    On a lighter note, Iron Man is one of my favorites – him and Batman. Guess I go for the regular guy with lots of cool stuff model. And both are sort of dark, brooding, mysterious. OK, and cute. Let’s be fair. 😀June 4, 2015 – 10:45 pmReplyCancel

  • Janine Huldie - We just had tears tonight over our favorite stuffed animal being ripped in one spot. I did what any mom would do and sewed to fix it for now. Never mind that I don’t see, but still I did my best and thank god it was, because smiles reigned once again here, too.June 5, 2015 – 2:05 amReplyCancel

  • Kathy Tyson - Super !!!! I have similarly had the wtf response when my boys had similar comments. Let’s get the super powers for te ladies, Marvel!June 5, 2015 – 2:18 amReplyCancel

  • Ruchira Khanna - This was such a cute post, Kristi. And have been there for such talks where I mostly land up crossing my fingers and toes (if possible) with the hope that I said something that he actually wants me to say 😛
    Hugs to Tucker :)
    xoxoJune 5, 2015 – 2:56 amReplyCancel

  • Reta Jayne - Yes! The world DOES need more girl superheroes!
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  • Dana - Hell yes! I had Spider Woman underoos when I was a kid, and my sister had Bat Girl. It never occurred to us that these characters were just made up (as opposed to male superheroes, hah!)…but then again, we didn’t have any brothers to tell us differently.

    I bet there is a start up campaign somewhere with female superheros who are just as awesome as male ones. But in terms of main stream media? Nope. Girls get princesses – don’t get me started on that!
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  • My Inner Chick - –Brilliant.
    have you sent this off anywhere else like HUFF Post?
    It muuuuuuuuuuust be read by everybody.
    Also, I want the Super Hero Women to be big boned, not like Barbie Dolls!

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    • Kristi Campbell - Hi Kim!
      I haven’t… I feel like it needs some editing – as always, I waited right before the deadline of FTSF to write it… but thank you for thinking it’s Huff Po worthy!!! And YES! Screw Barbie Dolls and their stupid weird proportions!
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  • Kenya G. Johnson - LOL he must have needed that cry and that answer was just the last straw. Poor thing. I can’t wait until he’s old enough to watch Avengers so he can meet Black Widow. She’s pretty cool and strong. Maybe you can pre-mom it and see if he’s ready for it. It’s PG-13. On another note of “girl stuff”, Christopher used to hate when people would say he looked like me. One day I asked him why that made him mad. He said, “Because I don’t want to look like a girl.” I had to tell him that he didn’t look like a girl no more than I look like a boy.
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    • Kristi Campbell - OOH Black Widow, huh? So there IS a cool girl superhero?? I’m going to have to check it out. My husband was talking about Avengers but I think Tucker’s still a little young for it. Maybe not, though. I’ll have to watch it and see if it’s maybe too violent.
      Aww to Christopher not wanting to look like a girl! So cute!
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  • Tamara - Just gorgeous.
    As a superhero lover, and a mother of both a daughter and a son – both superhero lovers, I think a LOT about all of it. The powers, the colors, the role models, the messages. And I worry I’m ruining it all.
    And Tucker is just so adorable with his thoughts and the tears he clearly needed to get out!
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  • Julie Jo Severson - I love your blunt honesty with everything you write Kristi. And, wow, can I ever relate to feeling like a failure in not understanding fully the emotions and tears of my children.June 5, 2015 – 11:04 amReplyCancel

  • Christine Carter - Oh what a story!! And I am just blown away that Disney and Marvel have really failed to produce more supergirls with increidble superpowers!! That is just WRONG. SO wrong!! Bless Tucher’s heart!!June 5, 2015 – 12:12 pmReplyCancel

  • Lisa @ Golden Spoons - Well, of course I love this!! With three daughters, we are not into superheroes at all in our house. I think the fact that there are no good female superheroes is a big part of that. (Of course, they don’t know Wonder Woman because she was from when we were kids – the show anyway – but you are right – she has crappy powers compared to her male counterparts!)
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  • Rabia Lieber - *Slow clap* Awesome job, Kristi. Well said. Girls and boys need both types of super heroes to look at while growing up!June 5, 2015 – 4:22 pmReplyCancel

  • Letty Leal Evans - You are really discrediting Wonder Woman here. She has super human strength, is telepathic, and actually can fly after being hit by a feather by Hermes, and this is on top of her many other abilities. She has all the powers of Greek dieties for goodness sakes. In addition to Wonder Woman, there are several X-Men female characters that possess very impressive powers. Plus there is Hawkgirl, one of the very first super heroines, she uses a mace! Not to mention the new Thor is a female. There are plenty of female super heroes, all you have to do is look. 5, 2015 – 4:30 pmReplyCancel

  • Lisa @ The Meaning of Me - I had to come back because A) I love the comments here and 2) I remembered a girl – that character in Kick Ass or something? Pretty cool.
    I did love Wonder Woman, by the way…she was pretty tough.June 5, 2015 – 5:02 pmReplyCancel

  • Stephanie Smith Sprenger - I totally loved this, but it also made me really sad. And I think it’s a really important and problematic issue.June 5, 2015 – 5:19 pmReplyCancel

  • Nicki - I recently saw a few moments of an X-men movie in which January Jones was some kind of ice girl – her superpower was so lame and so was she. Infuriating!

    “Why cant the super strength-having Mega Hero also have boobs and be a mom?”

    LOVE what you are saying in this awesome piece. And also that Tucker asks which Spiderman is your favorite… That is so incredibly perceptive, because really that’s what superheroes are right, different aspects/facets of ourselves? Different egos. And that makes your question even more important!
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  • Anna Fitfunner - I agree with Letty below. There are some superheroines. It’s just that they tend to be more recent, and don’t include the standards (Superman, Batman, Spiderman — all “man”). I really never understood that. Maybe it had to do with gender roles in the 1940’s and 1950’s when these characters were being created? In any case, it’s great that Tucker is beginning to sort out gender identification at such an early age! There are a lot of kids on the spectrum that don’t really concern themselves with such socially sophisticated topics, so it’s a win for your family even though a meltdown was involved!June 5, 2015 – 8:48 pmReplyCancel

  • Kelly L McKenzie - Hmmmm … great point! I played with Barbie Dolls and we always had to put them in the fridge in the summer. Why? Their faces were melting in the heat! Noses were smushing over to the side. Horrific. I think you and Tuck are on to something. The world needs a “proper” superwoman – one who can fly and do all the super cool stuff and withstand any kind of heat.
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  • Marcia @ Menopausal Mother - Amen to this! Bring on the superhero females with extraordinary powers— but they DON’T have to look like Barbie dolls—just ordinary folk. :)
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  • Kristi - I did appreciate The Incredibles, but I think you are right–the vast majority of superheroes are men. No wonder it’s always the guys in my home that discuss the question, “If you could have any superpower, which would it be and why?”
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  • A.J. Goode - There have been a few powerful superheroines over the years — the Phoenix, She-Hulk, Rogue, Storm, the new Thor, etc — but you’re right that they seem to be more about looking pretty than crushing the villains.

    However, I remember an issue of Fantastic Four when Dr Doom realizes that Susan, The Invisible Girl, has the potential to be the most powerful member of her team. She had threatened to put an invisible force field inside his heart and expand it until his heart exploded.

    So she’s a pretty powerful superhero, but only after the bad guy threatened her baby. I think all of us Moms can relate, so maybe motherhood is the strongest superpower of all?June 7, 2015 – 7:09 amReplyCancel

    • Kristi Campbell - AJ-
      I have to check out Invisible Girl because I’ve never even heard of her!! But yeah, sucks that she only got powerful after some superMAN threatened her baby. I mean, that part is cool because true but why couldn’t she kick butt before then???
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  • Emily Nichols Grossi - This is fantastic, Kristi, and so very true. I think about the recent backlash against Scarlett Johansson’s character -Black Widow- deriving her strength from her sterility. As is she couldn’t just be strong and amazing on her own. Go you, Superheroine!!June 8, 2015 – 11:35 amReplyCancel

  • Allison carter - I love this post!
    But, alas, I feel like this will happen when women and girls stop dressing up as “sexy ” for Halloween. Let’s keep trying though, together. Changing the world through words will be our superpower!
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    • Kristi Campbell - Thanks, Allison! And yeah, quitting the sexy Halloween would certainly help. I mean, I understand women and girls wanting to look pretty and sexy but the whole slutty nurse? Not so much. And in a world when our magazine covers are airbrushed and photoshopped and and and… well yes. I LOVE that changing the world through our words being our superpower!
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  • Ashley - I LOVE THIS! You are so badass, Kristi! “KRISTI?! KRISTI CAMPBELL?!” 😉 hahaha it was SO awesome meeting you and spending time with you this weekend. You are one in a million. XoJune 8, 2015 – 11:54 pmReplyCancel

  • karen - A MILLION TIMES YES!!!! I am finding the same thing with AJ, he sees the world as boy vs girl and I never raised him like that. I am trying to get him to see it as anyone can do whatever they want.
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    • Kristi Campbell - Isn’t it interesting, Karen? I seriously have always told Tucker that girls and boys can do anything and yet, he’s convinced that boys are better superheroes because the shows he watches (and he doesn’t even watch many so even weirder but a lot of them were in Lego Movie) make the boys cooler with cooler powers. Argh.
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  • Kerri - First I HATE it when an innocent game meant to draw us closer to our children end up smacking us in the face.

    But you are so right, there ARE girl superheros and they are not just eye candy. Hell they can poke your eye out with their stiletto. You just can never find them in the toy store, much to Abby’s dismay
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  • Aussa Lorens - At least we have Katniss :)June 11, 2015 – 3:37 pmReplyCancel

  • Comic Book Guy - This really is’t fair to the women of comics. I really think that what you are really lamenting is the world and the culture your son (and yourself) has been exposed to – it’s a lack of popular attention, not a lack of strong female superheroes that is the problem.

    It is unfortunate that most of the recent movies have featured male heroes (but look at movies in general), however, look at the comics world and you’ll quickly discover a vast array of extremely strong and capable women, many equal to or greater than Supes, Bats, or any Avenger. The new Thor, who is female, many female X-Men, She-Hulk, Power Girl, and The Invisible Woman – who is commonly considered by far the most powerful of the Fantastic Four.June 11, 2015 – 8:06 pmReplyCancel

  • Jolene @ Different Dream for My Child - All I can say is “My thoughts exactly!” The sexy girl costumes have bugged me for years. Thanks for adding this link to’s Tuesday special needs link up.June 11, 2015 – 8:14 pmReplyCancel

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