Finding Ninee » Sharing our special needs and autism story through heart and humor.

A while back, I decided that although my past contains moments that I’d like to change, or do over, I worry about altering my now by altering anything that happened then. Which basically means that I wouldn’t change even the crappiest of the crappy moments or past decisions because somehow, each of them mattered in […]

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  • Kenya G. Johnson - So once upon a time before Apple had Steve Jobs you wanted to purchase stock? Wow! As for my birthday I really need to do better about mine. I’d shrug if off if I could but I’m right in the middle of mom and Christopher.

    And I always so no first. Even if I think about it and say yes later. 😉
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  • Dana - Oh, #6. I still have to remind myself of that, because I am still embarrassing myself as a seemingly wise and mature adult.
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  • JT Walters - Okay a few of mine to add if you do not mind….

    1) Love with all your heart.
    2) Be exactly who you are without apologizing.
    3) Sometimes you have to lose the battle to win the war.
    4) Forgiveness is a gift you give to yourself. Give frequently.
    5) Life in the end is all comedy. Everything even your worst heart breaking story eventually will be funny.
    6) Be kind to other and if they are no in return thast is their problem.
    7) Never react but act.
    8) Never get so mad at someone you do something out of character.
    9) Never tell your own secrets or pthers if you would like to keep their confidence.
    10) Laugh! Laugh! Laugh!July 30, 2015 – 10:49 pmReplyCancel

  • Mimi - I wish I knew how you put together such an awesome, funny, insightful post so fast! Loved this. Full of humor and good advice. #8, Celebrate! I’m going to keep this in mind as I get ready to celebrate the big 4-0 in a couple of months. Excited but nervous about gathering people together for it. I wish I knew how to just let go, both then and now. Thanks for this!
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  • Mardra - Yes. and Yes. and now I kind of want to write a whole ‘nother post, cause you’ve inspired me. But its late and I’m tired and there’s a deadline looming and YEA for Finish the Sentence Friday – I so LOVE this hop and all of the bloggers you’ve gathered.
    So – there ya go. :)
    – Mardra
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  • Sandra - I wish I listened to the tanning thing, but I can’t stop now. I know I’ll regret it when my jowls are hanging down to my knees due to excessive sun damage, but for now, man, I look good with a glow. It conceals the bags under my eyes. And your dad does owe you thousands, just sayin’.
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  • Elizabeth - “Don’t assume that you’re ever the dumbest person in the room. Even when you’re in a room of experts who are experting on Quantum Physics, I bet that you know something that they don’t.”

    Yes! I say this to myself all the time. :-)
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  • My Inner Chick - 7.The person who doesn’t love you back doesn’t know shit about shit, and knows even less about you. Let it go. It’s not you.**

    Excellent insight!! xxxJuly 31, 2015 – 2:29 pmReplyCancel

  • Tamara - Oh jeez – I have certainly cried in parking lots before! And I will again.
    I love all of these. I’ve never had a cigarette too! I guess that was at least one that I knew.
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  • ivy - I so preach many of these…especially #6… thus the I wish I was wearing a better bra after I accidentally removed my shirt on the escalator at Ikea story….
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  • Christine Organ - Great list. I especially like #10 and 12.August 1, 2015 – 9:00 amReplyCancel

  • Kelly L McKenzie - Brilliant list, Kristi. It took me a long time to get used to crying in public. Now I can’t seem to stop those tears from spilling. As for smoking – I had smoked less than five n my entire life when I got the role of a gal who smoked nonstop. This was at college. I had to come to all the rehearsals and sit there and smoke, even when I wasn’t on stage. The director “needed” my smoking to appear natural. Coughed my way through the whole experience. Hated it.
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  • Bev - Yes to all of this! #10 is so important, especially in light of going to blogging conferences this year. It’s easy to feel like you don’t know what you’re doing, but chances are you know at least one thing someone else doesn’t know. Great list!
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  • Nicki - YES! Yes yes yes.. can I say yes 12 times and then 12 more times? Number 7 is my absolute fave, but they are all wonderfully true. And I so appreciate what you say about not changing anything then because it means now would be altered and now is good, it’s where we are.
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  • Allie - I love the part about saying yes and saying no – and the sunblock and that celebrations matter:)! Hell ya!

    How are you? School starts Thursday – I know it’s a coup[le more weeks for you, but need to catch up!August 2, 2015 – 3:34 pmReplyCancel

  • Mike - Hi you! Absolutely awesome list, Kristi. I liked each one. One of very first field trainers I had (who became a really good friend) bought not only Apple and the ripest moment but also Yahoo! (right when it went public). I remember him sitting next to me that morning saying, “Hey Mike, have you ever heard of Yahoo! the browser company? I just bought a boatload of their stock because I think it’s going to be a really good deal. You might look into it, kiddo.” *sigh* I did buy Twitter when it launched! It really comes down to being true to yourself in every life aspect doesn’t it, sweetie?? Have a great day and give that little man a big ol’ hug from me :)August 3, 2015 – 12:10 amReplyCancel

    • Kristi Campbell - MIKEY! Hi hi hi friend! How are you? Gah to your friend who bought Apple and Yahoo at the perfect times. Makes me kinda jealous. And you! You bought Twitter when it launched? Wow. Good for you! Here’s to being true to ourselves and thank you so much. Hug given and sent back to you. xo
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  • Deb - Interesting. I love the part about being afraid to change the past for fear that it will render the happy present null and void. I wonder about that. How much could I alter about the past but still end up with my lovely family. Thanks for making me think. I’m in the process of writing two posts, btw… hope to actually finish this month. So wonderful to see you in July. xoxo
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    • Kristi Campbell - Deb, I think about things like that a lot. Like what if I’d not spent those years with that guy… did I need them to get here? It feels too scary to say no somehow. YAY to you writing two posts. I can’t wait to read them and loved seeing you in July!! xxoo
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  • Rabia @TheLiebers - I love your list! If I had to look back at my former self and offer some advice, I’d say “Don’t worry so much.” and “Don’t settle.” But, like you, I’m glad I ended up where I did.
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  • Michele @ A Storybook Life - Kristi, this list is GOLD. I live #8 faithfully but need to be a little better about #7 and #10. Thanks for sharing!
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In 1976, I remember watching Nadia Comaneci’s floor routine in the Olympic games. I was transfixed and wanted to be a gymnast. My dad, a huge fan of hers, had called us into the family room to watch. “But watching sports on T.V. is boring,” I whined. Her strength, grace, and beauty changed my mind […]

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  • JT Walters - Kristi,

    Your article brought tears to my eyes once again. Everyone celebrating diversity and inclusion from the atheletes to the audience to the sponsors and those who support them are all champions in my book. They have broken down the final barrier to love and acceptance of everyone. It may not be the highest rated televised event but it is a giant leap towards tearing down the last barrier to loving everyone.

    Everyone involved in Special Olympics are champions of love with grand beautiful hearts. Beautiful Kristi!July 27, 2015 – 1:56 amReplyCancel

  • Janine Huldie - Aw, Kristi this is absolutely wonderful and can see why you made the decision to share more about it here. Definitely am so happy you did as I truly didn’t know about this campaign before it, but so happy I do nowJuly 27, 2015 – 2:22 amReplyCancel

  • Dana - For me it was Mary Lou Retton. I was enthralled – and to see a small little girl have so much strength to win a gold medal? Everyone should be able to see someone they can relate to participate in the Olympics.

    These videos are awesome. There are so many talented people out there artists and athletes, special needs or not. Thanks for sharing this, Kristi!
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  • Elizabeth - I vividly remember watching Nadia Comaneci’s floor routine – and then of course I immediately needed the record album of the song she used. I played it over and over again. :-)


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    • Kristi Campbell - Elizabeth – I can’t believe you linked this video! I was trying to find that song too because I remembered it being amazing and was likely part of why I was hiding tears from my brothers. I was thinking it was Fur Elise so thank you!! Also when I played it, Tucker asked why I was listening to a sad song. Love it so much!
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  • Allie - As the mother of a Special Olympian – I love this post! Thanks Kristi!
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  • Emily - I think I saw my first special olympians when I was a spectator at the NYC Marathon. My father had run it that day and then later that evening, I was out to dinner on 1st Avenue sitting at a window. The marathon had been over for hours, but running, wheeling, walking down 1st Avenue were the marathon participants with physical disabilties and I was humbled watching them finish this incredible feat when it was almost dark outside. I almost felt ashamed eating my dinner, but I was also inspired watching these true heroes of the marathon.
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  • Kimberly - If they put their heart blood sweat and tears into it, they’re an athlete. I commend them for their discipline. They’d kick my ass at any sport — any day. Love this.July 27, 2015 – 11:49 pmReplyCancel

  • Rabia @TheLiebers - I don’t think we’ve ever watched the Special Olympics in our house, but you’re right, we should!
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  • Tamara - I may need to do that sponsored posts disclosure, because I feel the same way. I say “no thanks” unless it’s really something special.
    This is.
    My good friend has participated in the Special Olympics for most of her life. It’s very inspiring.
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  • Sandra - Yeah, I agree it’s a good sponsored post to write for. A few years ago when I was married to my first husband who was a paratrooper in the Canadian military, one of the guys’ parachute didn’t open and he thundered down. He was a paraplegic, and I knew that he had left the military to live closer to his family for support. Then a couple of years later I was watching the Special Olympics, and there he was, one of the rowers on the Canadian Men’s Team. I did sit there in awe and wonder, and couldn’t have been more proud to say I knew this person. And yeah, Nadia Comaneci, the reason I became a gymnast. Sadly, as my Olympic career came to a halt when I figured out that being in the gym 8 hours a day was cutting into my time chasing the boys. I just have to tell you, I love how you insert your little cartoons. It makes me smile. You make me smile.
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Three years and four months ago, I didn’t want to take Mrs. M’s advice. I’d spent days cleaning and moving my son’s crappy plastic brainless toys into the background, so that his appropriate educational ones were more visible than usual. I needed my house to reflect what an engaged parent I was. I wanted it […]

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  • Anna Fitfunner - That’s been our experience as well with our son; special ed teachers have so much wisdom to offer. Although, as time went on, we found that we became more discriminating in where we turned for advice. By now, with our son being a teenager, we find ourselves dispensing wisdom as much as receiving it. Ah, the life of a special needs parent! I truly never thought that I would find myself in these sorts of situations — just like your vision of Montessori!
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  • Jamie@southmainmuse - xoxo.July 23, 2015 – 10:24 pmReplyCancel

  • JT Walters - I didn’t listen to my Ob’s advice when he told me “Nothing goes as planned after you have a child.”.

    I had to have an emergency c-section and was crying over my son’s ruined birthing plan. My OB told me he acted in my and my son’s best interest and he spent a whole day dealing with the emptional fall out of that ruined birthing plan.

    It was great advice though. You never know what to expect once you gave the baby. Having a child with to rare disorders one of which only 201 people in the world have and the other with a higher infant mortality rate than all the childhood cancers combined on top of autism has taught me that birthing plan being ruined was very trivial in the scheme of my parenting.

    So I trying and take one day at a time and enjoy it with my son. The plans are not important but the love that you share with your child ever day is important.

    I was really dumb to cry over a birthing plan and to not realize the incalculable variables of being a parent which would make any predictability model impossible let alone factoring in two rare diseases and autism.July 23, 2015 – 11:20 pmReplyCancel

    • Kristi Campbell - Sorry that your birth plan was messed up – while I know that you’re right about the birth plan being trivial in the scheme of things, it’s still a bummer when things that we imagine don’t go the way we hope. Here’s to taking one day at a time!! And to your awesome boy and your awesome self!
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      • JT Walters - You are the one who is awesome Kristi and much more forgiving to me than I am myself. I was stupid and could not see the forrest through the trees and had much bigger and much much more serious fish to fry.

        Thank you for understanding! I was really wrong though!!!July 24, 2015 – 7:18 pmReplyCancel

  • Janine Huldie - Aw, Kristi I know I can’t even quite imagine, but still, I am sure I wouldn’t have wanted to take the advice given, but just hope I’d have the courage and strength like you to do it if I had to. Hugs to you and can’t ever thank you enough for always sharing all you have been through up to this point.July 24, 2015 – 2:41 amReplyCancel

  • Ruchira Khanna - Happy to know that the outcome was a success, Kristi. Mrs. M was worth all the time and energy :)
    xoxoJuly 24, 2015 – 2:45 amReplyCancel

  • Nicki - You are the most wonderful mom and person and Tucker is such an incredible kid. Every time I read your gorgeous words I feel your love and generosity and beautiful soul. Thank you for writing this! <3
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  • Out One Ear - You are so me, Kristi. Or I was so you. And still am. Maybe all mother’s who have kids that struggle in some way are alike. I didn’t believe, and sometimes still don’t—what the experts have said to me. But as time goes on (and Lindsey is now 35), it is getting easier and easier to see the things that others saw way before I could. We all have our seasons of acceptance. You are an amazing mom. I love reading your posts.July 24, 2015 – 3:54 amReplyCancel

  • Christine Carter - Oh I just love that you took those brave steps in trusting this teacher and letting go of Tucker… as he thrived in the arms of Mrs, M! I’m so so glad that hill was climbed so you could see the mountaintop of success during these pre-school years!July 24, 2015 – 5:32 amReplyCancel

  • Nandhini - Hi Kristi,
    I am in the same exact boat now, where you have been three years ago. Even I am sending my daughter who just turned three to the preschool. Your blog is such an inspiration to me and it givesJuly 24, 2015 – 8:31 amReplyCancel

  • Nandhini - It gives me so much strength and courage to pursue my goals. Thank you Kristi.July 24, 2015 – 8:33 amReplyCancel

    • Kristi Campbell - Nandhini,
      Hugs to you – sending a three-year-old to preschool is SO HARD. In hindsight though, I really am so glad I listened to my son’s teachers. He went from not really talking to playing with Legos and making little conversations for the characters. I really do credit the early intervention and preschool with the strides he’s made. He is, of course, still behind but is truly a different kid than he was three years ago. Hang in there, mama! It does get easier. xo
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  • Nina - You have the best stories, Kristi. And you’re such an inspiration not just to mothers of kids with autism but to anyone else who struggles to do her best for her kids. I’m so glad the teacher’s advice worked out well. Isn’t it awesome when we’re blessed with people who seem to be destined to meet us? Amazing progress for little Tucker indeed.
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  • Tamara - Beautiful advice and outcome in this case, but not surprisingly because you and Tucker are so awesome.
    He’s progressed so much. I can see it leaping out of the screen.
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  • Allie - Absolutely! All our teachers have been Godsends – angels on earth! I don’t know what I’d do, without their advice.

    I cried the first day, too. I was so shattered, an administrator followed me out the car, because she thought II needed a friend. Oh, it was terrible.
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    • Kristi Campbell - I’m so glad that you’ve had such a positive experience with teachers too, Allie! I know that’s not always the case so I feel extra lucky. Awww to the administrator following you to the car. She was probably right – you did need a friend. Wish I’d known you back then!
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  • Christine Organ - It’s so great that you have had kind and wise people to help you along this journey.
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  • Dana Schwartz - This is beautiful Kristi. You have to trust your gut as a mom, but sometimes you have to try out someone else’s instinct too. You are an incredible mom and human.July 25, 2015 – 2:24 amReplyCancel

  • Elizabeth - For us it was his first grade teacher and I am so glad we took his advice and had our son tested. It was hard to do it, and yet one of the best hard decisions we made.
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  • Anna - There is no such thing as a brainless toy. Not everything needs to have a cut, dried, and hermetically sealed purpose.July 25, 2015 – 3:12 pmReplyCancel

  • Lauren - I think that sharing your story can help so many others- because of your specific experience and because your story shows how hard these kinds of decisions are for parents. Should be required reading for special education teachers in training!.July 25, 2015 – 4:48 pmReplyCancel

  • Kenya G. Johnson - I love that picture. Is that Mrs. M? I think it’s excellent how far he has come. You’re an excellent mom for doing all that stuff first thing with seven more hours to go. Boy were those days exhausting! I can remember to taking Christopher to Barnes & Noble to play with the train just so I could just sit there and look at my phone.
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    • Kristi Campbell - Kenya, that IS Mrs. M!!! I hope she’s okay with me sharing. I feel like I cropped enough of her face out? He’s come SO FAR. OMG so far. And yeah, those early days. They were killer, wondering how to get through until bedtime. We used to go to B&N too!!! And a million other places.
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  • Natalia Frost - Thank you for sharing your story, it’s so hard to make decisions but we always have our kids’ bets interest in mind, sometimes the path we take ends up not being the best but we have to try. I am glad things worked out for your little one!
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  • Sandra - I find it so interesting that we (and by ‘we’ I mean all of us), as mothers, are at once so different and yet so similar. My children were not autistic, and yet I sat on the floor with the plastic toys and thought that I should have been doing puzzles or educational games. I breastfed three of the four, and the one I didn’t breastfeed has ADD. I’ve wondered and still do if it’s because I didn’t breastfeed. In the end I tend to follow this theory: If they don’t end up in juvi or jail, then we’ve been successful. I know: I’m a gem among mothers.
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  • My Inner Chick - The teachers at our school would just love you!!! xx So much better when we can all work together for the greater cause.July 26, 2015 – 4:52 pmReplyCancel

  • Emily - Oh boy can I so relate to this. I still remember so clearly the first time one of my son’s ABA therapists came to meet him in our crammed NYC apartment. I too was insistent he played imaginatively (he didn’t), although I couldn’t say he talked even a little. At the age of 2, he did not have even one word. I too wondered how we were going to fit in all those hours of ABA, plus speech and OT. No more napping I guess! I am still in touch with that first therapist, who believed in my son and brought her energy and enthusiasm to our apartment every day. She was the one who got him to utter his first word (not the speech therapist) and is responsible (in my opinion) for helping him reach his potential in every way. I am grateful she was in our life those years, and I can tell you feel the same way.
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    • Kristi Campbell - Emily,
      I love love that you’re still in touch with the first therapist who believed in your son! I feel really lucky to have had the timing work out the way that it did with Mrs. M. and am so glad that it was similar for you. I know too many people had to fight so hard to get ANYTHING. Thanks, you!
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  • Jolene @ Different Dream for My Child - As a former teacher, I so appreciate hearing positive stories about how the public school supports kids with special needs. Thanks for adding this to DifferentDream.com’s Tuesday special needs link up!
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T’was the night before BlogHer, 11:08 pm; while trying to pack, I wipe my son’s ass from a late-night BM. Wondering what to wear has become a bit of a chore, ’cause I realize my pants were each designed for a bore. A bore I am not and the last minute shitshow I know, so I write a […]

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The night before my sixth birthday, I stood barefoot on our front porch in my nightie as the sun began its descent. “Everything will change tomorrow,” I thought. “You’re not one of the little kids anymore. Six means being a big kid.” I suppose that in many ways, I was right. Six, after all, brought […]

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  • Kristi - Oh, what a beautiful tribute to Tucker, and to the wonderful world of 6! Happy, happy birthday–to birthday boy, and Mom, too!
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  • Sandra - He speaks very well. I’m not sure what I expected but he’s obviously exceeded what you were told he would be capable of. He’s delightful. And so are you. And how the heck did you know what a blow job was when you were in grade 3? I thought I was scandalous.July 13, 2015 – 12:00 amReplyCancel

    • Kristi Campbell - Sandra, he’s doing SO GREAT. Seriously. Just three years ago he called water “ah” and now, well, something clicked for him. And yeah, in third grade, a boy named Brandon told me what a BJ was and then I asked my dad if it was true – while my dad was driving. Poor guy, it’s a wonder we didn’t run off the road!
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  • Vanessa D. - I remember 6 as being the year all traces of pre-schooler vanished and suddenly I had little boys instead. Tucker looks as if he has gone and done the same thing to you.July 13, 2015 – 6:04 amReplyCancel

  • ivy - YAY TUCKER! WOW I cannot believe the vid… so cool… total sentence and total “ME!” I love that! I also love that you do roller coasters and would shoot the moon if he wanted to!
    NOW … Its about time you recognized my stature! I mean , cmon… Im 52… Tucker was six when he got his!
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    • Kristi Campbell - I know! He’s awesome!! And okay okay, I recognize your stature. What do I need to do now?
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      • ivy - oh, nuthin’. recognition is enough… Tucker is the real star!July 13, 2015 – 4:55 pmReplyCancel

        • Kristi Campbell - I RECOGNIZE! And blew you a kiss, too. Because you’re one excellent weeniebutt.
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          • ivy - 3
            is there a butt emoji?cuz yknow… thats just a three.July 13, 2015 – 4:59 pm

          • Kristi Campbell - Ivy what about this:
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  • Janine Huldie - Happy 6th Birthday to Tucker!! Emma is right behind him on Friday now and seriously just can’t believe it. We had her birthday party with her school friends this past weekend and was raging with all sorts of emotions, too. I just can’t believe how grown up our kids are getting and time is most definitely flying right by us.July 13, 2015 – 7:40 amReplyCancel

    • Kristi Campbell - I can’t believe it either, Janine! What will you do for Emma’s party? I hope it’s awesome!!! And yeah, I can’t believe how grown up they’re getting either. I wish I were younger – I’d have another baby! 😉
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      • Janine Huldie - We had her school/friends’ party this past Saturday at a Chocolate place local here. They made chocolate lollipops and fondue. She had a blast and was in her glory. But now Friday is for us and the grandparents. And I hear you on having more, but at this point I am too old and tired, too!!July 13, 2015 – 5:08 pmReplyCancel

        • Kristi Campbell - OOOH fun to the Chocolate place! That sounds fabulous! Sounds like we’re doing the same things – an early party with friends and then a family birthday with grandparents. Perfect. And yeah, hear you on old and tired!
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  • Christine - While this was beautiful and all, I can’t get past the bubble show. We were just at Dollywood in April, and there most certainly was NOT a bubble show to see! We would have loved that!
    Six is big. So is 10. And 13. And 16. So many big numbers to reach. I am astounded each time one of my kids reaches one. I’ll have kids turning 6 and 13 and 17 in the next month. It’s almost painful. And awesome.July 13, 2015 – 9:07 amReplyCancel

    • Kristi Campbell - Really? No bubble show? Oh that’s a bummer!! If you ever see it happening, please go. You’ll LOVE it. Seriously it was incredible! Maybe he travels around different cities? Anyway, sorry that you missed it. Also yeah, almost painful but awesome too.
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  • Blooming Autism - Beautifully written and a wonderful way to celebrate 6. Mine is also 6 and growing up far too fast but they are always our babies. Mine has started her new class at school today for the last week of term and now enters through a different gate to get to class that she calls “big girl gate” as shes moved to the Primary building *sob* xxxJuly 13, 2015 – 9:34 amReplyCancel

  • Dyanne @ I Want Backsies - Happy birthday, Tucker! You are a daredevil with the sweetest spirit about you that I think I’ve ever seen! Enjoy 6 to the fullest!
    Dollywood was built by the same people who built Silver Dollar City, where I am. Dolly has since added her own twist (I was there once a lifetime ago, but that’s a story for another day).
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    • Kristi Campbell - Thanks, Dyanne! He really is a dare devil and so sweet. xo Dollywood was so nice – clean and awesome. I’ll bet Silver Dollar City is awesome too!
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  • Elizabeth - Love the photos! You go brave 6-year-old!
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  • Bev - Happy birthday to Tucker!July 13, 2015 – 12:41 pmReplyCancel

  • Kerri - Six rocks and you have rocked the past six years. As I was reading this I thought of when we first met and how freaking scared we were about our not so typical children and what it means to us as moms. Tucker has defied all of your fears (and probably created new ones) and triumphed. Thanks to you & your husband. Well, really, you…. 😉
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    • Kristi Campbell - Isn’t it amazing Kerri? We’ve all come so far. Acceptance, milestones, friendship. I can’t believe it’s been almost three years (come September, for me starting this blog). Time flies, friend! And thanks so much for seeing how much he’s rocked it!! xo
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  • Tamara - That sparkler video is the best EVER.
    Scarlet thinks that being seven is a big, big kid so at least we have a whole other year of having tiny children! According to Scarlet.
    I remember thinking first grade was big and scary but when my sister-in-law got a job teaching first grade several years ago I thought, “Aww! That’s SO little!”
    I just have to keep telling myself that.
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    • Kristi Campbell - Tamara,
      Thinking first grade “AWW that’s so little!” helps because it IS little. It just feels big compared to my little preschool dude. Sigh. I’m going to go ahead and embrace Scarlet’s philosophy about seven too.
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  • Roshni - Oh gosh! *gasps* he is so brave!!
    There is much to be thankful for!! And, I’m still snickering imagining your dad’s reactions in both instances!
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  • Sarah - Six (last March) was an adjustment for me too. Now I’m (we’re) facing first grade and that’s terrifying to me.
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  • Michele @ A Storybook Life - Happy belated birthday, Tucker! Six sounds magical.July 14, 2015 – 9:53 amReplyCancel

  • Rabia @TheLiebers - Kristi, this is just beautiful! I hope Tucker had a very happy 6th birthday! He sure looks like he did!
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  • Emily - Aww, you’re making me wish my kids were 6 again! Well, maybe just for a day or two. :) Seriously though, a very sweet post! And those rollercoaster pics – LOVE!
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  • Mombo - love this post, Kristi! Tucker is so “grown-up” bless youJuly 15, 2015 – 2:49 amReplyCancel

  • Allie - This post made me smile. Kristi, he looks so grown-up. I know it’s been a year since I met him – but really looks more confident. I love the ride pictures – and he is brave! Cammy rode one scary ride at Kennywood and he let me have it, and boycotted almost every ride (even at Mall of America) – and he’s going to be 8 this weekend. And, I don’t think I knew he had an older brother. You’ve inspire me. I never did a birthday post, but may just do one for Cammy.July 15, 2015 – 8:52 amReplyCancel

    • Kristi Campbell - He IS more confident and grown up and BRAVE. Gosh this kid – I can’t believe the rides he’s willing to go on. Do a birthday post for Cammy! Tucker’s birthday posts are some of my OWN favorites (don’t know about the world but it’s my blog anyway right). xo
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  • Kimberly - This is six
    And it makes my heart happy.
    Happy Birthday Tucker.
    You are one hell of an awesome kid man. xoxo
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  • Lisa @ The Meaning of Me - Just beautiful. Perfect. And I totally get every word of it, only now mine is SEVEN. Do you know how much “girl” and how little “baby” seven means? Yeah…sigh.
    Happy birthday again to both of you!July 15, 2015 – 3:38 pmReplyCancel

    • Kristi Campbell - Lisa! I feel the same way about the difference between five and six. Five was still baby…entering kindergarten and now, it’s like LITTLE KID alert! I imagine that seven is the same. And eight. And 11. And OMG. xoxo
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  • Christine Carter - OH this just brought me to tears!!!! Absolutely precious, Kristi Rieger Campbell!!! <3 All of those beautiful memories, moments and so many dreams to come! Happy birthday MAMA. Six years of growth, joy, and meaning in it all.July 15, 2015 – 6:55 pmReplyCancel

  • Sandy Ramsey - Six looks pretty freakin’ terrific to me!
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  • Lauren Jessica White - You captured this milestone perfectly. My oldest just turned six, so this really resonated with me- so many cool new things, but so much change. On the way into camp today I felt him drop my hand… :-(July 16, 2015 – 1:35 amReplyCancel

  • My Inner Chick - I’m Six! I’m Six!
    How wonderful & fabulous & magical.
    Savor the time w/ your darling, Kristi!!
    xx love from MN.
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  • Jolene Philo - Happy birthday to Tucker! What a wonderful day for celebrating. Thanks for adding the post to DifferentDream.com’s Tuesday link up.
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  • Kenya G. Johnson - So sweet! Love that correction, “Happy Birthday to ME!” Kudos to him and the rollercoaster. I think Christopher was six when we went to Bush Gardens. As of this year he’s ready to try again but between then and now it was, “I am NEVER riding on a rollcoaster again.” Mind you he did not get on a rollercoaster. WE did. He just got on something that made him say he wasn’t getting on a rollercoaster. Ever.July 17, 2015 – 9:25 pmReplyCancel

    • Kristi Campbell - I love that correction, too, Kenya! LOL to Christopher getting on something that made him say that he wasn’t getting on a rollercoaster. Tucker loves them for some reason. Me, well, I’ll tolerate them to see his smiles but they’re not my favorite.
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  • Stacey - Oh goodness, this was so sweet. My oldest turned seven on the 10th of this month. Why is it that when kids go from five to six then six to seven, it seems like they have aged more than a year?! Thomas turning six didn’t bother me as much him turning seven has, I think in part because he had to repeat kindergarten so it meant he wasn’t quite a big kid yet. :) Now he is seven and going into 1st grade and I don’t like it, not at all. :\
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    • Kristi Campbell - Stacey, you’re so right! I mean five to six and six to seven? GAH!!! I sometimes feel like I am still stuck on two because well because for a lot of reasons and I miss TWO!!!
      And yeah, I don’t like going into first grade at all either. Hugs to you. Huge, big, gigantic ones.
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  • Sandy Ramsey - You always, always, always take me down memory lane, Kristi. I remember babysitting and my first summer job, the career I wanted and the one I ended up with, then giving it up to stay home and be mom.
    Money is nice but it’s not the end all. Not anymore.
    Wonderful words. As always.
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  • Kenya G. Johnson - You had some cool first jobs (except the babysitting). I was drafted for that one summer, it was good money $25 a week for a boy the same age as my brother to come over all day while his dad was at work. My brother had somebody to play with instead of bugging me so it was the easiest money made ever.

    I remember the BIlly Idol story. LOL!
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  • ivy - I was totally that kind of babysitter too! Worse, is that I let him stay at the second time to even after the parents asked me not to. And I have always wanted to be a limo driver. Although I hear it’s a really crap job!July 9, 2015 – 11:01 pmReplyCancel

  • Janine Huldie - I am with you on giving up the job and money for being a mom is truly the best job I could have ever gotten even in the craziest of moments I wouldn’t trade it for the world here either. 😉
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  • Blooming Autism - I wanted a change of career and during my later 20’s I trained as a nurse. Qualified in 2007, Eliza born 2009, Nursing career over 2012. It was not easy giving up something I really wanted in some ways but because it was for my child I could handle it. She needed me, no childcare could offer the right support at that time so I chose her and never looked back. I will look for my next career once the boy is at school but it will need to fit around them both, her especially. Thank you for sharing. You are an awesome mummy! xxxJuly 10, 2015 – 2:16 pmReplyCancel

  • Kelly McKenzie - Your pal Don better read this. Ha!
    You’ve reminded me of the time at 12 I babysat two little guys and they tumbled down a full flight of stairs. Backwards. Both of them. Cried themselves to sleep. Ouch.July 10, 2015 – 2:34 pmReplyCancel

  • Emily - Oh how I love your stories — especially those from the 80’s and 90’s which I can so relate to. I was an incompetent babysitter too. I used to babysit for these twin boys up the street.The parents knew how incompetent I was so they’d put them to sleep before I even arrived and told me the boys wouldn’t (or rather shouldn’t) wake up the whole time. Well, one time one of them did and he was crying and I just sat there, and didn’t even go into his room, because I had NO IDEA what to do with a crying baby. Pathetic, I know…
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  • Tamara - I didn’t know what a BJ was until college! You savvy, caddy-shack girl.
    I was 11 when I babysat and I don’t know what those parents were thinking!
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  • Bev - That picture of you in the tux is just priceless! My first job out of college paid crap and I could barely pay my bills living in Boston, but it was a really good learning experience. I’ve also had my fair share of babysitting jobs over the years, from preteen until about 4 years ago. Though I do sometimes babysit fellow mom’s kids as a swap and it’s interesting to see other family’s bedtime routines now that I’m a mom!
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  • Mardra - That was a ride! It’s kind of funny how, as parents we may worry about jobs for our children when they are too young to think about it, while still learning ourselves where the real value in life comes in. So much else to comment on too – KFC…the good old days. But, I’ll keep it short. Loved the visuals and craziness and I think you may want to delete this post before your son starts digging up these links. HA!
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  • Allie - Kristi! I totally forgot about FTSF:(. I am in Florida – it’s a long story, one which I will write about soon. Also, I’m locked out of FB. Something happened while I was on the road and I’m in no hurry to try and get my access back. It’s kind of nice, getting lost for a while. But, I do feel very out of the loop!!!

    Last night I took the kids to a restaurant where I had my first job, but it was for my dad. I washed dishes at his Italian restaurant – by hand. It was nasty (washing by hand). It was so surreal being there.

    I hope you’re doing well. Miss you.July 12, 2015 – 8:46 amReplyCancel

  • Rabia @TheLiebers - I worked at KMart. I still have my red vest and nametag. They don’t have to wear those anymore. They don’t know how lucky they are!!
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