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    Finding Ninee: NINE-ee, an airplane, in TuckTalk. Dedicated to finding humor and support for my son with delays of “The Middle World.” The spectrum exists but an autism diagnosis does not. While you're here, I hope you'll find a bit of humor, some perspective on what it feels like to be a special needs mom, a lot of compassion and some random stupid-looking drawings that I hope will make you smile.

Our Land: Autism and a walk through a forest

Today’s Our Land was authored by my IRL BF Joanna, who I met through Tucker’s PAC (Preschool Autism Classroom). Her son Michael was officially diagnosed fairly early on, and, as many of you know, Tucker was not. I was lost. Confused. Alone and lonely and Joanna was the parent that I bonded with. At first, […]

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  • Kerith Stull - Oh my goodness… I see that forest and just want to cry, too! What a beautiful and heartfelt description of brokenness. Can I please send Joanna a hug??
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    • Kristi Campbell - Definitely can send Joanna a hug, Kerith. I think the thing I love most about this piece is that while the forest is confusing and can feel like brokenness, she and her son really had an amazing connection of absolute love – a really meaningful exchange.
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  • Kerri - First, the next time I am in your area you need to invite Joanna to our play date. :)

    But can I say that sometimes I hate the forest? That is is so hard to be in that moment you cannot see the trees because you are battling the landscape with all your might. Joanna I think you need to allow yourself to cry. To piss off your husband and your friend. Because you just need to. This life isn’t what we planned on. The bonus is you know they will get it. It might take them a moment but they will.

    And if not, Kristi will punch them in the nose for you :)
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    • Kristi Campbell - Kerri, absolutely to having a playdate! Of course, the FIRST step in that would be that you actually let me know you’re coming before you’re like HERE and stuff… ;)
      And yeah, they WILL get it. But (scuffs toe in dirt) I might have been that friend. Maybe. Just saying. But I’ll punch other people in the nose! :D
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  • Katia - What a beautiful love letter to your son, Joanna. You write so beautifully and with the forest metaphor you’ve made your struggle so relatable, almost palpable.The bags under the eyes broke my heart.

    What I love about Kristi’s blog is that even though I think I understand the special set of challenges that comes with the territory of raising a special needs child, whenever I read a post on this topic, I realize that I don’t and that there is still a lot to learn. The part where you talk about how you initially thought that an “I love you” from your child is all you needed felt extremely relatable, even familiar and I knew that this would have been my reaction to a similar situation. I’m glad that your “I love yous” are still being delivered, although in the most unexpected ways. “Unexpected” has been the defining trait of parenting for me, in the last four years, that I’ve been doing it :-) April 23, 2014 – 10:50 amReplyCancel

    • Kristi Campbell - I agree Katia about Joanna’s writing and the forest metaphor. Also, can I just say that you’re awesome? That you care so much and are learning about special needs kids means you’re doing your children, and the world, a great service because you already are willing to accept and embrace. That’s huge.
      And yeah, I think that “unexpected” is something ALL parents can relate to – whether special needs or not. The fact that none of us had any idea what parenting was like before we became parents is what makes us all more similar than different. xo
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  • Michele - What a beautiful post about genuine LOVE. And great pictures of such a cherished friendship!
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  • Janine Huldie - Neither of my children have autism, but bath time here is absolutely awful and can relate to having more then a few of our daily baths turn into all of us crying, because neither of my girls like getting bath water in their eyes. So, that alone has left me feeling quite helpless and definitely upset, too. But I loved how this ended for both you and Michael and I think moms in general could very much relate. Thank you so much for sharing.
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  • Sarah - The forest metaphor is so well-used. So apt for so many situations. Joanna, I also appreciated your honesty about fights with your husband. Having a child with special needs adds another element of stress to a relationship. I’m so glad Michael and Tucker have each other!April 23, 2014 – 12:13 pmReplyCancel

  • Michelle Liew - That trek through the forest is a tough one many will not undetstand unless you’ve been there, done that. Wonderful metaphor!!
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  • Emily - As others have already mentioned, the forest metaphor is a great one. I used to pray for that “I love you” too and even though he’s older and can express himself extremely well, using words to express emotions doesn’t come easy. However, you are so so right that love is felt and shared and does not need to be spoken with words. Thank you for that important reminder.
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  • Linda Atwell - Out One Ear - These boys are absolutely adorable…and precious. It is so hard when our kids don’t communicate the same way as we believe to be “typical.” There are so many times that Lindsey doesn’t seem to “get it,” but then she does. She suddenly does. And there is such relief (on my part) because we are finally, finally, finally on the same page. Often it is only for a moment, but that moment is so special. Joanna did an incredible job with this piece, taking me along on the journey. I wanted to cry too. Thanks for sharing Kristi.
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  • Kimberly - I am always trying to find ways to understand what my nephew goes through and this metaphor is so beautiful. He is such a precious child with a heart of pure gold.
    Each child has intricacies…each one is different…and different is beautiful. xo
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  • Lisa @ Golden Spoons - I love the metaphor of the forest and I think it is a beautiful description of a difficult struggle. Thanks for sharing your words with us, Joanna. Both the boys are precious and their friendship is such beautiful gift!
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  • Michelle Liew - Well said. Love is felt, not constrained. And EVERYONE can feel it. April 23, 2014 – 2:59 pmReplyCancel

  • Tarana - This is one of the most beautiful pieces of writing I’ve read in a long time. I hope your days are filled with bright sunshine as you navigate that forest.April 23, 2014 – 3:05 pmReplyCancel

  • Tamara - Please tell me that Michael can come along on our photoshoot!
    This is such a beautiful and vivid way of describing this “forest.” I felt like I could understand so much more.
    I hope the light shines in a lot, in this forest.
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  • Christine Carter - What a gorgeous and vivid post about the pains and the intense joys of being a mother- whatever struggles your children may have. LOVE knows no bounds… <3April 23, 2014 – 5:07 pmReplyCancel

  • Joanna - Thanks to everyone for the amazingly kind and supportive comments(and hug), I am sort of blown away! I am deeply touched that so many moms/parents can relate whether your child has special needs or not. And, of course, thanks to Kristi for giving me the chance to share my story via FN, and … well, the intro was super nice too! Thanks again.April 23, 2014 – 5:25 pmReplyCancel

  • Dana - I remember reading about autism in college, and the textbooks talked about how children with autism don’t make personal connections. Granted that was twenty years ago, but how wrong that was. Is. But hearing it from you, Joanna, is so much more powerful than reading any textbook. Keep defying what we “know” about autism – we all need to know something new and hopeful.
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  • Angel The Alien - I’ll never believe anyone who says people with autism can’t feel empathy. People might not be able to verbally communicate that they feel your pain, or they might not know a “socially acceptable” way to show that they feel your pain, but they do feel it and they do care. Michael sounds like a very sweet little boy. I’m glad he has a mama like you to guide him through the enchanted forest!
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Thankful for the Moments

It’s been almost four years and nine months since Tucker was born. Early on, I was fearful. Of dropping him, of not being worthy of him, that he might stop breathing, that he was too thin, that he wasn’t sleeping enough, and a thousand other things. I kept track of how often he ate, how […]

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  • Out One Ear - Linda Atwell - Awesome! You know, I loved every cycle of my kids lives. It’s weird, but when they were babies, I was ready for them to be babies. When they were toddlers, same thing. However, when someone would bring younger (or older) kids over to our house–I sometimes felt a bit overwhelmed because I ended up liking the age my kids were at the moment. Does that make any sense??? I guess what I’m saying is that I was most comfortable with the ages my kids were at any given time and even though I enjoyed them younger (and older), I didn’t want to go back to any of the earlier stages. Somedays I was in a hurry for them to move onto the next stage–well, at least until the mouthy teenage stage came into view. Well, enough of that senseless babble. Happy Easter to you and your family. You’re post is out early! Good for you.
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    • Kristi Campbell - Linda,
      I love that you loved every cycle of your kids lives and I totally get that. I guess I’m just not there yet, as Tucker is only 4 1/2. I want to be there though, when I have your perspective, because that’s really the best way to be, right? And it’s totally not senseless babble, it’s perfect. Happy Easter to you and Lindsey and Nick and I so sos so hope Nick is on the mend soon…. xo
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      • linda Atwell - Out One Ear - I sure hope you knew I was just thinking and writing and not judging in any way shape or form. I know we all have our unique paths in this life and in raising our children and it will be just that: unique for each of us. I applaud your path. You have so much love. I was in such a hurry when my kids were little. I think I liked their new stages because we were working and saving and spending and juggling and life seemed so hectic. I had a business at the time and worked 80+ hours a week–in addition to dealing with Lindsey’s specialness. I don’t think I took as much time as mothers do today. I envy all of you and that you recognize time is precious. Enjoy every single moment. p.s. the last thing I would ever want to do is offend any of my support out there. Not that I think I did, but I sure hope I didn’t. :-)
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  • Sarah - What a handsome boy and what worthwhile moments! Inspires me to write one in the same theme!
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  • Tamara - I like the way you worded that! We certainly have our own brand of Passover/Easter/Both/Neither over here. The purists would say we ruin both, but I say we relish both!
    Anyway. I loved this and all of the excitements of one special day.
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  • zoe - You gotta love a guy who can rock a spider man shirt at an egg hunt! Why would anyone think that weird? He wasn’t sportin a halloween costume! He is so stinkin cute.. I love the newborn photo… they are perfect then… perfect size, perfect smell, perfect everything… On the dressing thing… my boy wore a bright rubber clown nose and a pair of bright yellow boots over PJ bottoms for almost a month. Insisted on wearing that getup no matter where we went and like you… I pick my battles… I have great photos of him in that nose! I love them! Kind of like what you said about being so aware in the beginning and later…April 20, 2014 – 4:42 pmReplyCancel

    • Kristi Campbell - Zoe, I love that your son wore a bright rubber clown nose and yellow boots over PJs. That’s just plain old awesome! And good for you for going with the flow…I so know what you mean about picking your battles!
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  • Dana - We just came from Easter dinner with my in-laws, and are heading to my parents for a late Passover sedar. I’m thankful that I can be a part of both families, each with their own traditions. Happy Easter to you Kristi!
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    • Kristi Campbell - Happy Easter and Happy Passover, Dana! I love that you get both – that’s perfect and your kids will have their own traditions based on the combination of events that you guys all celebrate now. Pretty awesome, if you ask me!
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  • MyTwice BakedPotato - This is truly one of my favorites :) it all goes by so fast and it is a reminder that whether good or bad, this too shall pass so frickin’ (couldn’t swear on Easter) live in that moment :) April 20, 2014 – 5:03 pmReplyCancel

  • Lizzi Rogers - FRIST!

    Your son has SUCH beautiful eyes. *happysigh*

    Love your Thankfuls of him, and glad you’ve been having a wonderful Easter.April 20, 2014 – 5:06 pmReplyCancel

  • clark - what a an excellent young life form you have there, Mrs. Kristi!

    (you can tell I write compliments a lot… but I suspect that you know that by ‘excellent life form’ you know that I mean, a child that clearly knows how loved he is by his mother and no matter what, that will never change for him (that second part is what I meant by ‘Mrs. Kristi’)

    lol
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  • Kristi - What a beautiful post. The moments are fleeting, but your child is always your child. I sometimes notice my kids’ younger selves in their grown-up expressions.

    Happy Easter!
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    • Kristi Campbell - Aw, I love that you still see the little selves in their grown-up expressions. I sometimes see Tucker’s little baby face in his now, too, which I just love.
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  • Sarah Rudell Beach - I love that comment about how in the moment we knew their total time of sleep to the minute, but now we don’t remember when they even stopped napping! Great post, mama :) April 20, 2014 – 6:42 pmReplyCancel

  • Lisa @ The Meaning of Me - What beautiful photos, Kristi, and such beautiful moments to be thankful for. I LOVE the Spider Man thing. Go Tucker! Wouldn’t you rather wear your comfy PJs to a social event? You know you would – I certainly would! If I could get away with PJs at work I’d do it. :)
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  • Angel The Alien - He’s so cute! Glad he had fun at the Easter party! Time definitely flies with little kids… I’m already finding that with my baby nephew. He lives across the country and I barely get to see him, so when I am with him, I have to treasure every moment and try to get six months worth of love into a couple of days!
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    • Kristi Campbell - Angel,
      Bummer that your baby nephew lives across the country but I have no doubt that you do an excellent job of getting six months of love squeezed into a couple of days!
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  • Drun Kenman - Wait…you don’t have to do ten? You only have to do as many as you can think of?April 21, 2014 – 12:45 amReplyCancel

  • Christine Carter - OH what a precious PRECIOUS post of moments!!!! I am so with you on those fearful first days, months, turned to years for me… every waking moment…constant attention…needing to be in that moment. And yes oh yes… The seasons start to melt together… it gets worse. Trust me on that. It goes soooo fast.

    I love that you had such an awesome Easter with Tucker!! I love all the hurdles and victories you continue to celebrate with him- moment after sweet moment.April 21, 2014 – 2:01 amReplyCancel

  • Brittnei - Aww! I totally know what you mean about how things have changed! JR just turned 2 almost a week ago and wow he has grown so much! With him being my first like Tucker is your first, I can totally see what you mean about the concern of every tiny thing and each moment being so monumental. I try to hold onto so much of it by writing a letter to him about what he’s up to lately in a blog post each month :) I haven’t been around for a while. We lost our baby so I took some time away to grieve. It’s great to be back and to read what’s new with you at your place. :)
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    • Kristi Campbell - Oh Brittnei. I’m so so so sorry that you lost your baby. That’s so hard…I know, because I’ve been there too. There’s really nothing anybody can say to help but please know that I’m thinking of you and sending prayers, peace, and virtual hugs your way.
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  • Michele - You are so right – at the beginning, every. moment. matters. And then the blur takes over, and trying to remember what happened yesterday, a week ago, a month ago, seems almost impossible. I love posts like these that help bring me back to the here and now. I’m glad you and Tucker had such a wonderful weekend!
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    • Kristi Campbell - Thanks, Michele, and it’s funny how the blur takes over, isn’t it? We get so caught up in the worry or wonderfulness of the moment, and then, it’s gone.
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  • Melanie - Love his joy in those photos! What a cute guy. I feel the exact same way – the first year just flew by with my baby boy and I was SO in the moment, both worrying and enjoying, and now I feel like real life is catching up. Thanks for the reminder to live in and enjoy the moment! Happy Easter!
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    • Kristi Campbell - Happy Easter Melanie! And yeah, we really do get so caught up in the worrying and enjoying and then boom! It’s already a new age, with new worries and wonderful moments!
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  • Sandy Ramsey - First I just have to tell you how much I love the photo of you and Tucker. What a gorgeous moment and you ate glowing. I realize that so many of my blogging friends ate taking real steps to prioritize and take time to enjoy the little moments more. I know I am with you 100%. This post especially made me realize just how fast time is passing and I don’t want to miss the moments. I really, really don’t! Thanks for more perspective, my friend :) April 21, 2014 – 10:12 amReplyCancel

    • Kristi Campbell - Sandy, time does really pass so quickly, doesn’t it? Sometimes, I feel like I am missing them. Others, I think “oh jeez, three more hours until bedtime? Now what to do??” which is part of why I wanted the reminder to cherish the hours because the year will be over before I’m ready for it. Thank you so much!
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  • Nicole @ Work in Sweats Mama - What a beautiful post, Kristi! Thank you for sharing your memories and the precious moments with your son. I think every mom feels the same. My youngest is turning 2 this Friday, and I’m reeling. It just goes so damn fast! Thanks for the reminder to immerse ourselves in the now. Because it is soooo wonderful!
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  • christine - I miss every single age that my kids aren’t in while simultaneously loving the ages they are. Every age has wonderful bits to it. New things are learned, new personality traits emerge, more fun is possible. I do miss them being babies and toddlers, but I don’t want them to go back. I love the ages they are now. Really, I kinda just want to be a Duggar and have every age at the same time. :)
    Looks like Tucker had a lot of fun this Easter. Good for you, letting him wear Spider-man.
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    • Kristi Campbell - Perfect way to describe it, Christine, missing all of the ages while loving the ones they’re in because you’re right – each age has so much loveliness to it and you are much closer to being a Duggar and having multiple ages than I am! Just saying ;)
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  • Allison McGrath Smith - What wonderful things to be thankful for:)!April 21, 2014 – 2:44 pmReplyCancel

  • Kenya G. Johnson - That was sweet. Love his morning hair! – And that first picture where he’s obviously smelling the milk ;-)
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  • A Morning Grouch - Being in the moment, relishing it, that’s what life is all about. Some times go by fast, others slow, but the moment is what we have (and sometimes, the recorded memories, like on a blog ;) ) Glad you had a great Easter :) April 22, 2014 – 12:41 amReplyCancel

  • thedoseofreality - Isn’t it amazing just how totally tuned in we were back in the first days/months? Love this post. Love that he had so much fun at the Easter egg hunt. And his bike is SUPER cool! :)-AshleyApril 22, 2014 – 11:00 amReplyCancel

  • Emily - I too am thankful for the moments, now more than ever. As for Tucker’s smile — adorable and sweet and precious — cherish moment of his beautiful grin!
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  • Gary Sidley - To live in the moment sounds like excellent advice to me; we spend far too much time ruminating about the past, or worrying about the future. Your son looks adorable by the way – although you don’t need me to tell you that!
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  • Kerri - I’m glad Boo wasn’t the only one under dressed for Easter. My mom was horrified when we went to her Mass and Boo was in her jeans. The fact that do to my poor packing Abby and I were in flip flops didn’t help my case.

    Oh that look on Tucker’s face on the swing? LOVE IT. Just went back and looked at it (again).

    I adore that kids just get it: acceptance. that we don’t have to say Boo is XYZ they just ask if they want to swing. Simply awesome

    And I promise next time more than 12 hours notice that I will be within driving distance :)
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  • Kimberly - Hey, what he wants to wear he is going to wear. Kids have a sense of cool that must be upheld no matter how weird. My kid wears toques and sunglasses…together…even on cloudy days.
    And spider man is always cool.
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Our Land- Found: Purpose and Joy

Today’s Our Land was written by the lovely Kerith Stull, from Brielle and Me. I “met” Kerith a while ago and have to say that I love her outlook on life. She’s funny, smart, warm, and shares stories on her blog about her family, herself, and her daughter Brielle (more about her below). Kerith shares insights […]

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  • that cynking feeling - Fabulous attitude, Kerith!
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  • Dana - Brielle has a fabulous smile – it’s contagious! Thanks for sharing a little of your story, Kerith. I hope your book is a huge success!April 16, 2014 – 8:29 pmReplyCancel

  • Tamara - I think I’ve seen Kerith’s blog before.. I know it because I would never forget Brielle’s smile. For sure.
    I want to read so much more now.
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  • Emily - I can see how Brielle’s smile is infectious just by seeing her in these beautiful photos…Thank you for sharing this. For those of us with our own parenting challenges, I know I have moments of “why me” or “why him?” but after reading this, I am inspired by your outlook and will strive to have less of those moments and remember your very insightful observation that transient moments of happiness are quite different from eternal joy.
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  • Lisa @ Golden Spoons - Brielle’s smile is infectious and joyful, even in these pictures. You have a wonderful attitude and outlook. Thanks for sharing your story!
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  • Considerer - I had a measured, considered comment brewing, but I just love her SMILE too much to not just say that – WOW!
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    • Kerith Stull - Haha… Well, maybe if you think of that measured, considered comment you’ll share. But, for now, thanks!
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      • Considerer - The measured and considered comment starts by thanking you for your frankness, Kerith, in sharing all this. It adds to the ‘voices’ of special needs mom bloggers I’ve read, and it helps to hear it.

        It makes me wonder if you need to be a particular brand of unselfish to a)parent at all, and b)parent a child with special needs (though the latter, I guess you never know until you have one, and it becomes a necessity), and whether or not it redeems the mourning for the ‘normal’ child who was expected (I never promised that the considered comment would be easy to take).

        Because for all Brielle’s awesomely gorgeous smile and the joy which just shines out of her, you still say it’s not easy (I know – parenting PERIOD isn’t easy, but I assume (perhaps wrongly) that it is particularly complex in the instance of having a child with special needs).

        So in the end, I guess I’m keen to know, is it worth it? Because given the genetic heritage which might get passed on (if I’m ever lucky enough to manage to hang onto a baby in the first place) I worry that it would end up being disabled somehow, or damaged, and whether or not it’s fair to even pass on. Or whether there’s a good reason we’re unable to have kids, and whether that’s right and appropriate, given the child we might generate.

        Sorry – quite a lot here, but I’ve been mulling.
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        • Kristi Campbell - Lizzi.
          It is always worth it. Even when we grieve and worry and consider and feel bitter and horrible and life isn’t fair, and it’s HARD and it wasn’t supposed to be this HARD and it’s not FAIR and “why me?” and why why why and and and… (deep breath)…
          it is always worth it. There is nothing like it. You do NOT need to be a particular brand of unselfish. It comes with the job and trust me, I was selfish for 40 years before being blessed with Tucker.
          We do mourn the kids we’d dreamed of. We do. For me, how can I not mourn an almost 5 year old who can’t properly say his own name? How can I not feel bitter and sad and and and and and…
          and yet. it’s SO much more than worth it. It’s everything. It’s everything that matters. These kids, they are everything that matters. all of us, are everything that matters, and they are in the all of us.
          Nobody is damaged until the world damages them. And the world damages all of us by not accepting us. Our differences, our needs, our fears, and our import.

          That’s my 2cents. I’ll be interested to see how Kerith chimes in. But it’s so worth it. Every day.
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          • Considerer - Thank you – that helps.

            And now, the slightly Bigger Badder ask…

            …what if you thought they probably might be born with something wrong with them, due to inheritance, and you had them in purpose, anyway. And they were.

            What if it was your own fault, rather than just an accident of birth or a virus or whatever it is which makes these things happen?

            What if you were concerned that your child probably would have some kind of additional needs at some point – would be genetically predisposed to be broken in some way…would you still have them?

            That’s my current sticking point.
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        • Kristi Campbell - Lizzi – to your question on whether to have a child knowing something may be passed to him or her, I suppose that’s up to each individual.

          First, though, I think it’s important to say that none of us are perfect or remotely close to it. All of us have challenges – big and small and most of them are not our fault. If it were me, and I knew that Tucker may be more likely to have delays, I’d have still had him. If I knew he’d have other issues, I’d still have had him. He’s amazing, in his way, as are all of us. I don’t think anybody is genetically broken. Ever. But, that’s me. We’re all just different. Does that help at all?
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          • Considerer - Helps a bit. Thank you :)

            I worry. With this stuff in particular. Could I hold down my child and stick needles in him multiple times a day, knowing it was all because of our choice that he was like it? Dunno.

            Tucker doesn’t need to be hurt to be helped.

            Ack.
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    • Kristi Campbell - I want to hear the measured, considered comment too :D
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  • ALlie - Kerith,

    What a beautiful piece! I strive to have a similar attitude, and as the years progress, I’m happy that I managed to do so most of the time. My special needs child is 13, and I have to provide a similar level of care for him. You are doing an amazing job – it’s evident from the beautiful smile on your daughter’s face.
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    • Kristi Campbell - Allie, I think that some days, it’s easier than others to have a great attitude. It’s hard to watch our kids struggle with things that aren’t “fair” or expected, I think. And I agree that Kerith is doing a great job!
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  • Natalie DeYoung Ricci - Now I’m a little weepy after reading this. What a wonderful smile she has.
    I actually have heard of CMV – they thought I had it for a while (I didn’t, I had another virus).April 17, 2014 – 2:27 pmReplyCancel

  • Michelle @ A Dish of Daily Life - What an inspirational post and Brielle has a beautiful smile. I can’t pretend to know what you go through, Kerith, but I found your post touching. I think having children draw a level of love out of us that we never knew we had…we would do anything for them. Brielle sounds like an amazing kid.
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  • The Dose of Reality - What a beautiful post. Thank you for sharing Brielle and her gorgeous smile with us!!April 18, 2014 – 2:48 pmReplyCancel

  • Out One Ear - Linda Atwell - She does have an awesome outlook on life. And Brielle’s smile does light up a room…and a computer monitor too. Thanks so much for sharing this. I love how you introduce us all to people we may never encounter otherwise. You are all so lucky to have this thing called internet while your kids are young. There is just so much support. I’m a bit jealous that this wasn’t available when Lindsey was young. I felt so alone…but now I don’t.
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  • marcia @ Menopausal Mother - This is so achingly beautiful. Brielle has a gorgeous smile—she is very fortunate to have such an amazing mother!
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  • Kimberly - Life before her was transient….yes…yes…
    I had no idea that it affected so many women. I can tell you that you are a wonderful mom. I love that through your struggles, you’re able to find so much beauty, laughter, happiness, blessings…and that the both of you are helping so many others.
    Absolutely wonderful post.
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Saying goodbye can be hard but music helps

While some goodbyes are more difficultly said than others, I’m of the opinion that all goodbyes are hard. At least, they are for me. Even in the uncomfortable situations in which I find myself counting the minutes until I’m able to leave, there’s always a final question in my mind that maybe, by leaving, I’ll […]

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  • Kenya G. Johnson - I skimmed! I had heart palpitations that you were saying goodbye to blogging with no warning ;-) Whew!
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  • Emily - I am terrible at good-byes too…especially when we are at a party. My husband always tells me to start saying good-bye about 30 minutes before he actually wants to leave because he knows I’m a pro at the “Jewish good-bye.” (which takes forever..). Anyway, great songs and I’ve always enjoyed reading these twisted mix tape posts…maybe when Jen restarts them in the fall, I’ll consider participating once in a while….
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  • Chris Carter - AW!! I know this has been a BIG deal and wonderful link up for so many bloggers!! Sad to see it go, but I’m sure it will come back with a MIGHTY PUNCH in the fall!!
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  • clark - thank you as well, for being one of the hostinae to bring the chance to hang out, musicistically-speaking.

    (shit, that Breakfast Club reference, think it might be a little too… historic? lol)

    (you realize that you have the initial wholesome appeal of Molly with the dark, who-the-hell-would-have-the-nerve-to-dare-you inner clarklike female of Ally)

    see you at the next detention
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  • Quickstepp Melissa - Damn….no you didn’t go The Dance on someone!? Awesome way to end it. Loved the American Pie dad singalong image!
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  • Kir - “The Dance” is one of my favorite songs and I just adore Garth. That song brings me to tears whenever I hear it (DAMN IT, this mascara!)

    and those texts were funny and adorable! Plus your original song was very well written.

    See you in the fall.
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  • Tamara - Oh no! I’ll miss Twisted Mix Tape!
    At least I have your goodbye song to keep me warm at night.
    And cute Tucker cameo!
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  • Twindaddy - I HATE goodbyes….
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  • Kerri - HAHAHAHA I absolutely love Tucker video bombing your goodbye song. Thanks for enjoying my mixed up tapes. BTW they are your fault for inviting me to join. You know what a screw up I am!!! See you on the flip side of the mix tape in the fall
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    • Kristi Campbell - Kerri, he rocked the video bomb, huh? I kept thinking maybe I should redo it, and almost stopped when he started hollering about the lights being off (God forbid ALL the lights are not on ALL the time).
      HAHA to it being my fault that you joined and messed up in the first place. Guess you have a point!
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  • Allie - I am horrible at goodbyes when they are long distance. I love far form people I love and whenever we visit, I’m a total mess when it’s time to say goodbye. And then we he the really tough and sad goodbyes…
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  • Lizzi Rogers - LOVE the Tucker VidBomb at the end. That’s AMAZING :D April 15, 2014 – 5:16 pmReplyCancel

  • Angel The Alien - I tried to listen to the whole American Pie song, but after four hours I had to pause it! My favorite, of course, is the one you sang!
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    • Kristi Campbell - Angel no big deal on not listening to the whole thing! It’s a (even before I was aware of music and likely before you were born thing) about the deaths of rock and roll musicians Buddy Holly, Ritchie Valens, and J. P. They all died in a plane crash, which is why the whole bye bye thing. And YAY to the mine being your favorite of course :D
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  • Louise - Your duet with Tucker is awesome.

    Or you might be a duo. I’ll let Jen be the official last word on that nuance…. She appears to have expertise.

    In unrelated thoughts – could Jen pull of Marilyn for Halloween? Inquiring minds and all that…

    I love your send off. I love that you guys did this hop. I’m sad it’s taking a break. But I get why.

    I’m trying to think of it like high school – in the “Have a Great Summer!!!” yearbook signing kind of way.

    I love your two other musical choices, though sorry that The Dance brings mixed memories.

    As for American Pie – forgive me for not watching the whole video? I love the song; I love the album; I can sing bits of Vincent, so … pass?
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    • Kristi Campbell - Nobody ever has to listen to the entire American Pie. We all get it. It’s really only the best, on a road trip, in like maybe 1992, taken with my dad, and singing along. Because then? 8 minutes seems awesome. :D
      I love that we did this hop, too, and I’m big sad. But also get it. And we will be back. I love the yearbook signing analysis. Here’s to an amazing summer and I know we’ll still connect this fall!! xoxoxo
      F@K yes Jen could do Marilyn for Halloween!!! GAH! :D
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  • Bianca @ Rant Rave Crave - That was the first time I actually listened to the lyrics of The Dance. Now I know why so many people told me I should listen to it when I had a really bad breakup. Also I like your little ditty there. Elton John would be proud :) April 15, 2014 – 9:48 pmReplyCancel

  • Jean Baldridge Yates - Amazing. Amazing I found any one else who likes Garth Brooks. Whom I ADORE. . I know nothing of the twisted mix tapes except from reading Clark this AM, BUT IF IT IS ABOUT MUSIC, I am there!!! jean xox
    love your blog–tried to vote for you and found you on the Mommy Blogs but…how do I vote? April 15, 2014 – 11:25 pmReplyCancel

  • Anna Fitfunner - Nice duet with Tucker! (Duet, not duo, right?) April 16, 2014 – 12:51 amReplyCancel

  • Jessica - This is so awesome, especially your own song! Hi Tucker! :) I have fond memories of singing with my dad in the car to “Chantilly Lace.” “Oooh baby, that’s what I like!” LOL Music is so awesome.
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  • Jen Lauren Schneider Kehl - Yes! I get my own song and get to be photobombed by the awesome Tucker! Also, I can’t believe you still had those texts!! Duets – like Jen & Kristi awwwww…….
    Thank you so much my friend, as you know, I couldn’t have done this without you!April 16, 2014 – 2:40 amReplyCancel

  • Jacqueline Tierney DeMuro - Great. Just great. Literally laughed out loud!April 16, 2014 – 4:41 amReplyCancel

  • Nicole @ Work in Sweats Mama - Sometimes a song says it best. And, that’s the best graphic EVER! And goodbyes suck. Hard.
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  • Kelly L McKenzie - I’m in the throes of goodbyes a lot lately what with my two going to uni across the country. While I’m a quiet mess on the way to the airport I keep it hidden. They are so aware of the impending separation that they don’t need soppy mama in the mix. I always say as we part “This just means it is closer to the time we see each other again.” Helps me – and I think it helps them. BUT. Goodbyes are hell. Yes. Hell. Each and every time.
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  • Cathy Harlow - You are so awesome!!!April 16, 2014 – 12:48 pmReplyCancel

  • Stephanie Smith Sprenger - I want to start every morning listening to you sing original songs with Tucker in the background! I am in a much better mood now… Way to do the TMTT finale proud… :) April 16, 2014 – 2:16 pmReplyCancel

  • Stephanie Smith Sprenger - Oh, and that Garth Brooks angel/devil drawing is one of my all time faves… just so you know. :) April 16, 2014 – 2:17 pmReplyCancel

  • Kimberly - Oh I love you…despite your love of country. It’s ok. We all have those awkward stages. You’ve grown out of it right?
    That song made me smile. I needed that today :)
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  • marcia @ Menopausal Mother - You did a great job with this, Kristi. I always hated saying goodbye too, because it DID feel like forever! Sadly, some of the people I said goodbye to I still haven’t seen in 30 years.
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The time I was abducted by aliens and could change my past

Last night, I was abducted by aliens while I slept.  One minute, I was peacefully slumbering in bed, and the next, I was standing outside, on the sidewalk, looking at two creatures that I knew were from outer space. Whether it was the glass of wine I’d had before bed or that they’d done some […]

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  • Janine Huldie - Love how you ended this and think you are right about just being thankful for the here and now, but also have to share I had my ex in high school stolen by my skanky ex-bff right before our senior prom. So, was totally shaking my head on that experience!!
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  • Dana - Only you could make green alien men profound and heartwarming at the same time. I completely agree with you, Kristi – I wouldn’t change my yesterdays. Except for the one I wrote about for FTSF.
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  • Chris at Hye Thyme Cafe - OK, I’ve set out cookies for Santa and carrots for the Easter Bunny – now I’ve gotta keep beer and Doritos on hand for the little green guys?!? Ummm, just in case … what flavor Doritos was it that they took???
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  • Angel The Alien - Aliens are so smart, aren’t they? Did you tell them I said Hello? ;) April 10, 2014 – 10:59 pmReplyCancel

  • Don - Is it wrong that I was reading this and hoping that there’d be some probing? Yes? Okay then, that didn’t happen then, probably.

    Lol. How cool would it be to be our same selves only younger? Awesome is how!!!
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  • Linda Atwell - Out One Ear - sweet! I was with you all the way. Sorry about the missing Doritos and Beer. :-)
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  • Michelle - That was awesome! Love the drawings! If I could turn back time, I’d probably tell my junior high and high school self that things get better and I’d probably not have worked so ridiculously hard for companies that I didn’t own and in the end, didn’t care how much I put into my job. Then again, I probably would, because that’s just how I roll. I care too much sometimes.
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  • Misty - hillarious as always! i’d so love to be your neighbor!
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  • Real Life Parenting - Those skanky, boyfriend-stealing bitches are everywhere! lol Funny, I actually started my post (but then completely changed it) with funny stuff I wish I could go back and say or do to past boyfriends. …. You and I had a similar wave-length on this one :)

    Loved your little green aliens! And that nosy neighbor? Pretty sure I lived down the street from her as a kid!
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  • karen - LOVE the creativity babe! you are right, everything is as it shoudl be, one change could effect it all and life could be so terribly different.

    terrible aliens for taking your beer.
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  • Jennifer Steck - There are some profound quotes in your post that really resonated with me, Kristi. “If there’s something I want to change, I need to look at the tomorrows instead of the yesterdays”. It was so much fun, but filled with incredible insights that I love. I am who I am because of what I’ve gone through. So are you. :)
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  • Lisa @ The Golden Spoons - Aliens, humor, life lessons, and love all wrapped in to one post – only you, my friend!! I love what you did with this and totally agree – we need to focus on tomorrows, not yesterdays. I have my moments, but, in the end, wouldn’t want anything to change my right now.
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  • Kat - You make a very good point. I’ve been through some shitty things in life but I’ve also had a lot of great things happen too. Getting rid of the crap might mean that the good might go to. Our experiences make us who we are and, for the most part, I pretty much like who I am.

    ps. Any aliens who like Doritos and beer are okay in my book :)
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  • Echo - This was so much fun to read and I love the illustrations! I probably would have offered them Doritos too!
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  • Twindaddy - I’d love to be 10 years younger too!April 11, 2014 – 9:33 amReplyCancel

  • Tarana - We really are who we are because of every little moment in our lives. Those aliens were right! Even if we were to change the slightest thing about our past, we might turn into completely different people.
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  • Tamara - I like your take on it! I like your Metallica shirt.
    I’d like to come to the playground with you, wearing clean clothes, and being oddly buff, and ignore other moms. Can I?
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  • Deb @ Urban Moo Cow - I really loved the sentiment here. It’s something I think about often. There are a couple of things I would definitely change but like you I wonder where that would leave me. Thanks for the profound thoughts and funny drawings today!April 11, 2014 – 11:52 amReplyCancel

  • Chris Carter - Okay- so did you really have this dream? Or are you that creative and witty and brilliant to come up with this one? SO adorable, funny and as always powerful.

    I can’t stop laughing at your neighbor with the binoculars!!! “Harold!!”- Omygosh HILARIOUS!!!!!

    I love this message- ultimately, every single piece of who we are and how our lives unfold is critical and worthy of keeping.

    Oh yes indeed.
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  • Kelly L McKenzie - I’m loving how so far most of the FSTF posts are coming up with the same conclusion – we are today the sum total of our past experiences. So very true. At the same time I am stunned at your revelation about the stock options buyout offer. How could they think anyone would leap at that? Stunning.
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    • Kristi Campbell - Kelly – I really like how so many of us decided that we wouldn’t change anything either! And yeah, the stock options thing – sadly, I know people at other companies who did choose to buy theirs and lost their money. Of course, there were always the stories out there about the one guy who invested $5K and made $100K to make us all at least think about it. Glad I didn’t though, I’d still be bitter!
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  • Nicole @ Work in Sweats Mama - There are definitely things I look back on and wish I’d had the wisdom and experience to know then what I know now. But, I’ve come to the same conclusion as you. I don’t think I’d really change a damn thing because every moment, mistake, and decision has led me to where I am today. And I wouldn’t trade my husband, my daughters, my family, or my friends for the world.
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  • Barb Taub - This was so funny. And touching. And is it weird that I identify with the aliens? It reminds me of the way that I know — really know– what’s best for my kids. And we all agree that I know. Only difference is that they don’t come to see my wisdom (as you did with the aliens) and so they go off and do their own thing anyway. And they’re usually right. I guess that makes me the neighbor instead of the aliens.

    Well, crap.April 11, 2014 – 12:57 pmReplyCancel

    • Kristi Campbell - Barb, it’s not weird at all (ok maybe just a little bit but I’m okay with weird) that you identify with the aliens. Was it the Doritos or the beer that helped? ;)
      HAHA to being the neighbor instead of the aliens. I vote that you get to be the aliens instead of the neighbor!
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  • Rachel - Well, you know I would love to be 10 years younger. It’s fun to think about (George and I were JUST talking about this last night) but you are right. We are exactly where we are supposed to be. As always, beautiful takeaway and kick-ass drawings, Kristi!April 11, 2014 – 1:14 pmReplyCancel

  • That girl ryan - AH! teach me how to draw like this? I love it, especially the aliens, i want to take them home.

    This story could honestly be written in a child’s book. It’s full of morals and good teachings…almost bible like. You could call it, “Ninee’s New Testament”.

    You could probably even take your stock options and use it for publishing. And of course I will be your manager and book you on the Oprah show.

    Yes, this is a great idea, call me when your ready.

    All giggles aside, loved this. The pictures just made it too lol.April 11, 2014 – 2:10 pmReplyCancel

    • Kristi Campbell - Girl Ryan, I’d LOVE to teach you!! And I like the aliens too. I wish they were real, I like them so much. I’d even buy extra beer and Doritos. And I freaking LOVE “Ninee’s New Testament” and thanks for getting me on Oprah. That’ll be awesome fun. Don will be so jealous because we’ll be famous. I’ll get to work on it!
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  • Kenya G. Johnson - Love it when you have illustrations! For a moment I took ten years off my life to be here just as it is but then I realized the last ten years have really been so much more of a learning experience than the first 33! Wow huh? Oh and I would have been so pissed to date the same boy for all of senior year securing him for the prom just to have a skank steal him. So did you get another date?
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    • Kristi Campbell - Thanks, Kenya! And it’s true that we learn more during the “older” years, isn’t it? What’s up with that? And yeah, that dumb boy sucked for dumping me right before prom. For a skanky freshman too! I didn’t get another date, and missed it out of spite which, in hindsight was sortof dumb…sigh.
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  • Jodi Flaherty - Well Since I just visit Don of All Trades, I think he may have your beer & doritos…..

    Kidding, aside this is an awesome #FTSF Loved your illustrations!
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  • clark - “…it is our experiences that make us who we are. That changing a single one creates a ripple throughout time and space, and that, in the end, it’s simply much too risky to change anything.

    way to Time Travel buzzkill, yo

    lol, but I agree with you (yeah, how like is that?)
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  • Sarah Shaw Almond - Hee hee Kristi-you make this thought-provoking, cute and heartwarming all at the same time! Love the alien guys, and I love the message of this post. :-) April 11, 2014 – 3:39 pmReplyCancel

  • Lizzi Rogers - BWAHAHAH I LOVE the little drawings. The small alien is wise. And also, are your neighbours Abner and Gladys Cravitz? Yow!

    SO much to like about this post. But sorry your beer and doritos got ‘gone’dApril 11, 2014 – 4:30 pmReplyCancel

  • Sarah Wilson - How fun is this post?! I love it and the comics to go along with it. Made my morning! Do you live in the Denver area?April 11, 2014 – 5:13 pmReplyCancel

  • Bianca @ Rant Rave Crave - Those are some cute aliens! I know changing the past would affect the future & makes us who we are today. However, I do have to agree with you when you were thinking the playground mamas could suck it. ;) April 11, 2014 – 5:55 pmReplyCancel

  • Stephanie Smith Sprenger - Bwahaha! I I needed a funny drawing fix. And I SO wish I could go back and use all my amazingly clever comebacks. I lay awake at night having confrontational fantasies- is that weird? ;) April 11, 2014 – 6:29 pmReplyCancel

  • Lizzy - Muddle-Headed Mamma - Loving those aliens, Kristi, and Harold’s mum too! You’re such a great artist. Fantastic post – a very good reminder that our tomorrows are more important than our yesterdays :) I’m lucky in that none of the mothers in the playground near where I live are particularly buff or glowing or clean clothed (self included!) xxx
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  • Lisa C Cadigan - Love this, Kristi :) April 12, 2014 – 12:15 pmReplyCancel

  • Sandy Ramsey - It is fun to toss the idea around a little…the thought of changing something in the past? But there’s that whole time/space continuum thing that would change everything else, including the really, really good stuff! I love this and I really love the fact that drawing Kristi is wearing a Metallica tee! XX
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  • Times Squared Humour Blog - Hilarious yet profound. Love it!
    I’m with you on looking to the future instead of the past. To be truthful, I have no interest in going back to high school days, working like a madwoman days, and marriage breakdown days. I can honestly say I’m happy with what I have today, and that’s all I need.April 12, 2014 – 8:53 pmReplyCancel

  • Kimberly - You know that game “Draw Something/This”? I should not be allowed to play that game. But you? You’d nail it.
    I completely agree with you in that our experiences shaped us. I do however wish that I could go back in time and call in sick the day that stupid asshole kid who thought it wasn’t cool to use his inhaler at school so he had a massive asthma attack and he stopped breathing and then I picked his fat ass up and then fucked my back up.
    Yup, someone else could be the hero. Not even lying about that.
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    • Kristi Campbell - Kim, I used to be completely addicted to Draw Something! I used to take screen shots on my phone of my favorites and save them. I think I got bored with it or something though as I stopped playing like a year ago. Maybe time to get re-addicted because it’s much healthier than that stupid bastard Candy Crush.
      Ugh, I didn’t know that’s how you fucked up your back – I don’t blame you at all for wanting to change that one!
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  • Jessica Rapisarda - There’s actually something pretty poignant at the heart of this post. I, too, sometimes wish that I were a younger version of myself, a younger mom. But you’re right, you can’t go back and you can’t change just one thing. And I’m not sure I’d trade my snack chips for youth anyway (I really love my chips). April 13, 2014 – 1:08 pmReplyCancel

  • Michelle AKA Dribbles and Grits - I feel the same way. There’s a lot of things in my past I didn’t like and things in my present I don’t like that I could change going back in time, but I’d be afraid I’d mess things up even more. I’m better off being back in time already for the future if that makes sense. If not, try more wine. If that doesn’t work, it probably doesn’t make sense.
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  • Mytwicebakedpotato - I wish that I could go back and tell my younger self…
    - you aren’t pretty when you drink too much and throw up by train tracks
    - not everyone will like you and that’s okay
    - it’s okay to be different

    Thank you for this ;) April 13, 2014 – 10:34 pmReplyCancel

  • Lana - Hi Kristi- I’m so glad I found your site. My sister has a 15 year old on the autism spectrum – I will be forwarding this on to her. I just started blogging and I’m having so much fun finding other moms in blogland. This post made me laugh AND think, which means it was great! Have a great week!
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    • Kristi Campbell - Hi Lana,
      Thanks so much for finding it and for passing it along to your sister. I’m so glad you’re enjoying finding people in blogland – it’s really an amazing thing. I have made so many great friends and really look forward to getting to know you, too! Thanks again!
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  • Jean Baldridge Yates - came over to say hi and LOVED this!!! You are profound, and funny! jeanApril 15, 2014 – 12:07 pmReplyCancel

  • Kate Hall - I love the ending of this. Great post! I love how you explained why you didn’t think the past should change rather than just saying – I wouldn’t change anything. Love the old lady neighbor too!April 15, 2014 – 10:54 pmReplyCancel

Our Land: Unbreakable

Today’s Our Land was authored by a woman known on the interwebs as Cynk (Cyn K – clever, right?). While I honestly can’t remember where we found one another (Twisted Mixed Tape, maybe?), I’m so glad that we did. She (like me!) assumed she’d be “forever childless,” and, after becoming a mother and seeing how […]

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  • that cynking feeling - Thank you so much for letting me join the ranks of Our Land contributors. I’m honored to be included in this diverse collection of voices.
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    • Kristi Campbell - Thank you so much for sharing your story in Our Land. I love that your husband’s family was so open and accepting of Philip. I hope the whole world reads your words and realizes that it’s time to accept autism. You rock!
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  • Dana - I remember enough about mythology to know that Athena is the goddess of wisdom. Peter’s cousin is aptly named; she’s clearly a wise woman who knows what (or who) is really of value. Thank you for sharing your story, Cyn!
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    • Kristi Campbell - Thanks, Dana and awesome connection to Athena, the goddess of wisdom. Here’s to a bunch of people realizing who is of value!
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  • Kerri - Oh my, I am that parent. The one that is so afraid of my child breaking something. But in truth I am that way with my older child as well, wanting her to be polite, respectful and a good person when it comes to other persons and things. BUT I think the difference is with Abby I can expect her to behave and Boo? Well, I just hope she does.

    I think it is freaking awesome that the aunt/cousin put you at ease. I always tell people when they visit we have nothing unbreakable. I am now going to add except our children cause the Husband can defend himself :)

    Oh and by the way…I always pronounced you “sink” oops I much prefer Sin (o)k(ay) :)
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    • Kristi Campbell - I am too, Kerri. It’s the worst at my dad’s because they have this gigantic mirror on the wall that’s heavy as *%$# and of course Tucker is fascinated by it. Completely. He actually (knock on wood) hasn’t really broken anything though. I think it’s awesome that Aunt Athena put her to ease as well and I’ve always thought of Cyn as pronounced as “sink” too but I think that makes sense because her blog is really “that sinking feeling” just spelled cooler!
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    • that cynking feeling - You can call me sink anytime.
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  • Emily - I like that Aunt Athena…a lot.:)
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  • Sarah - I love when a preconceived notion (or worry) turns out to be wrong in the best way possible. Isn’t it wonderful when you realize this person you are related to, and that you love, is also a genuinely wonderful person?
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  • Janine Huldie - I am totally that parent, too and just so thankful for people like Athena, because I always worry that my kids will break something when I go to a new place with them. So truly is nice when I am somewhere and don’t have to have these types of worries.
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  • Lisa @ Golden Spoons - Such a sweet story and a reminder about how we can be so quick to judge and slap labels on other parents without knowing the full story. Thanks for the reminder and for sharing your story!
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  • don - Hooray, a cyn k siting on Our Land! Lol. I love me some Philip stories. He and Tucker would be great running buddies.

    I think we all worry (well, I don’t, but I thin all normal parents do) about how their kids are going to behave in a new place and around new people. They’re very unpredictable little buggers, aren’t they?
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    • Kristi Campbell - Dude Philip and Tucker would make awesome running buddies. With you as their coach of course. Maybe. Hm. Something like that. And yeah, to the whole thing.
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  • Anita Davis Sullivan - There’s nothing breakable but children… how wise. xoxoApril 9, 2014 – 3:17 pmReplyCancel

  • Twindaddy - I guess this makes me a helicopter parent. I feel like I need to be there to stop Baby C from sticking the next lose object he finds in his mouth. Sigh…
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  • Lizzi Rogers - She sounds like an AMAZING woman. How lovely :D I hope you all had a gorgeous time visiting with her.April 9, 2014 – 6:48 pmReplyCancel

  • Gary Sidley - Touching post (no pun intended!). I know from personal experience how difficult it is to relax when my kids were around other people,or in someone’s house. I guess that discomfort is magnified many times for kids with special needs.
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    • Kristi Campbell - It really is difficult to relax with kids in other people’s houses with young children. When those kids don’t understand boundaries and have issues, it definitely makes it more worrisome. Thanks, Gary.
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  • Tamara - Whoa, I got chills from that quote! And Athena is the best name ever. It’s the name of my new puppy, after The Who song, and I do value her more than things..which is good..because she likes to destroy things.
    Anyway, a beautiful story.
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  • Michelle - There’s nothing breakable in this house except my children and my husband. I LOVE that. Really, what else is important. I have to say I used to worry about “stuff”…no more. I just don’t care anymore. “Stuff” is a distraction from life. This was beautiful! And thanks for helping me out on twitter the other day…I found the answer!!
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    • Kristi Campbell - I used to worry about my stuff too, Michelle, but you’re right – it’s just stuff. And a distraction from life. Thanks, Michelle!!
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  • Athena Kalevas Kovalcik - Wow…i feel like I just won a Nobel Peace Prize. I am humbled by your comments! People are more important than things…things can be replaced….We hope the Kazaroffs come for Easter!April 10, 2014 – 11:45 amReplyCancel

  • K - LOVE this post. So often it feels as though others don’t understand, when in reality there are so many amazing people in this world, and I think oftentimes people “get it” more than we realize. (: My to-do list is exploding but I’m so glad I took a moment to stop by tonight because this is just what I needed. Thanks for sharing!
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  • Sandy Ramsey - Oh, how you must have loved Athena! Good for her and how wonderful that must have been for you. You are so right. More people like that her are needed in this world. I know her words make me want to be better at it all. Great, great, great post!
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  • Rachel - When I was a special education teacher, field trips always had me so on-edge. When we were in familiar places, I could anticipate the things that were not going to go as “expected” for my kids. The same wasn’t true in new environments. One time, we went to the Museum of Modern Art, and one of my kids decided he wanted to step on one of the sculptures. When I pulled him away, he screamed and his voice reverberated against the walls of the gallery. I think people thought I was hurting him! In these situations, you do just want empathy. You want people to see the child like you do, as unique and curious and, sometimes, needing guidance.April 11, 2014 – 1:24 pmReplyCancel

  • Kenya G. Johnson - That WAS awesome. I was feeling tense when you guys changed houses. I love Athena’s words, “Nothing breakable … except my children.” Glad she made you relax Cyn, loved this post.
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  • Kimberly - I don’t think that you should have the label of “helicopter mom” since you are protecting your son from harm. The “helicopter moms” at my son’s school drive me batty. Sure, I don’t know them and I shouldn’t judge but hell, if the kid’s tights are looking like they are sagging a bit or if their hair starts to unravel out of a pony tail, so be it. Don’t yell for them to leave the school yard because you notice it. Those kids get so embarrassed that their moms hover like that. Those things don’t matter, whereas safety does.
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  • Allison McGrath Smith - This was a great post, I have goose bumps. I hover with my son too, especially when it’s a first visit. I’m always told to relax, which is easier said than done. Perhaps is it had been expressed in a manner similar to Aunt Helen, I maybe could relax. But probably not:)…April 16, 2014 – 6:33 pmReplyCancel

10 Reasons I’m Thankful for Other People’s Stories

I’m thankful for other people’s stories. Last night, I had the opportunity to participate in the Listen To Your Mother DC Show rehearsal. Honestly, I wasn’t feeling all that great when I left for it. I was tired, having dealt with my son’s waking up at 1:30am and standing over me whispering “Mommy?” after I’d […]

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  • Lizzi Rogers - Ahhhhh beautiful. And yes – SO much more powerful when read/heard in person. As evidenced previously.

    I’m glad the rehearsal went so well, and that you’ve met such wonderful people through it :) April 7, 2014 – 5:56 amReplyCancel

  • Dana - You already know how I feel, but reading this got me even more excited for the show. When I’m feeling like my writing isn’t good enough, I will remind myself if what you said here. It’s my story to tell, and it’s important. It matters. And in thankful that you always help remember that.April 7, 2014 – 7:00 amReplyCancel

  • clark - there is something about real reality that has a certain quality…not affecting the experience but definitely affecting the …energy/excitement/something-osity of event.
    (the old Latinians had an expression, sine qua non which I think of when trying to reconcile the real world with the ‘sphere. while certainly obvious on one level, the fact is, for many of us, the real world is being made more… realer (at least to the extent of variety and range) by virtue of the virtual world.

    ya know?
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  • christine - Oh Kristi, I am so excited for you! You are a perfect person for this show. (I can say this, since I have seen you “in person” on a vidchat. I can tell, you are a great in person storyteller.)
    And after this raving review, I shall have to look into getting tickets to the show in Indianapolis. I love stories, both the telling of and the listening to.
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    • Kristi Campbell - Christine, you really should go to the show near you and audition next year. I honestly did not realize how amazing it’s going to be until listening to these amazing women share really powerful stories. I felt unworthy of course but am so happy to be able to participate in it!
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  • Lisa C Cadigan - Kristi – I love hearing your stories (and i love your drawings :) ) So honored to have sat at the table with you and everyone else there last night. It’s already been an empowering and beautiful experience. Much love.April 7, 2014 – 7:34 amReplyCancel

  • Kenya G. Johnson - I’m glad you had a good time. Love your end – our stories matter as do we.

    And isn’t it something how stressed out we can get thinking nobody can fill our shoes in our routine and then it goes just fine ;-) April 7, 2014 – 7:39 amReplyCancel

    • Kristi Campbell - So true, Kenya, thinking “no way will husband be able to xyz” and then it’s fine! Ha. And yes, our stories are important, and ours, and they should be shared and documented. I know Christopher’s children will one day cherish his chronicles and your writing. It’s important!
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  • Janine Huldie - I love that you are getting this chance and sounds like you had a great time. On a side note, my girls still look for me to put them to bed, too and I always feel guilty if I have to be out of the house at bedtime for them and rarely am, but still could relate to that.
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  • Misty @ West KY Mom - do people ever complain about your use of swear words? i, for one, find swear words to be a very good means of communication. when someone drops the f-bomb, buddy, you know she’s serious!

    Listen to Your Mother sounds like an awesome experience. if it ends up on youtube, please post a link! and kuddos for having the guts to get up and speak in front of a group! are you going to share with us the story you’re telling for the event??? i’m all ears!

    oh, and i started a new blog. felt like the other one should be mostly about “family” stuff. the new one is my attempt to share what our school experiences are like. did i mention that i’m really starting to dislike public school?
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    • Kristi Campbell - I’ve only had a couple of people complain about the swear words on here, and I’m always a little surprised because I was raised in a house that swore, really. People at work swear, I swear but also don’t want my son to so do watch my language around him.
      And it will be posted on YouTube, so I’ll definitely share the link. We are supposed to keep our stories that we’re telling a secret but it has to do with Tucker ;)
      I love your new blog, Misty!! It’s great! Ugh to starting to dislike public school. I’m really nervous about kindergarten next year already, and have already considered what to do if it doesn’t work out well. Hope you can get things to where they work better for P.
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      • Misty @ West KY Mom - the folks in her school building are great, i don’t always feel like we are on the same page, but it’s a great bunch of people. our schooling options are pretty limited here, so home school is pretty much our only other option. sad, but true. can’t wait to see the performance!
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  • Tamara - I’m so with you on the “f” word. Not sure why I didn’t write it out there, though.
    I’m so thankful for other people’s stories, and other people’s stories of motherhood. I know for a fact it helped shape me into a blogger.
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  • Callie Feyen - I loved reading this, Kristi. And I LOVED meeting you and listening to your story along with the rest of the cast. It was a special evening.
    PS- Those cartoons at the beginning of this post made me laugh so hard I cried a little bit. :)
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  • SArah - Fuck, fuck, fuck, fuck, fuck, fuck, fuck. You’re definitely not the only one! Such emotional relief on one simple word.
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  • Cary Vaughn - Loved the pics. The ‘mommy typing frantically at computer at 1 am’ pic made me smile.April 7, 2014 – 2:10 pmReplyCancel

  • Lori Lavender Luz - What a worthy thing to be thankful for, other people’s stories.

    Also, LTYM can bring other synchronicities and reconnections :-)

    I’ll be cheering for you from out here, and waiting eagerly to see the video when it comes out.
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  • Lanaya | Raising Reagan - Wait .. what? Me time at 1am isn’t acceptable? LOL!
    Isn’t it crazy? Rey has gone through this phase as of late to be up every fucking night at around 1:30am. Of course, Brian is through his REM pattern which makes me want to stab him even more because I have to get out of bed and deal with Rey. Oh the craziness!!!
    I just love you mama!

    xoxo
    Lanaya
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  • KeAnne - Welcome to the LTYM family! I’ve been reading you for a while, but this is my first time commenting. This is my second year co-producing the show in NC, and it has been a wonderful, life-changing experience. I look forward to seeing your show video!April 7, 2014 – 7:16 pmReplyCancel

    • Kristi Campbell - KeAnne, thank you so much. I can’t begin to express how amazingly powerful Saturday night’s read-through was, but as a producer, you must already know what I’m just discovering. I can’t wait to see all of the shows! What an amazing idea and concept.
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  • Parenting Tips - I love reading other stories from other people’s blogs. It helps me realize that we all struggle in one area or another, I can possible brighten someone’s day with a simple comment or virtual hug, or can related to their story and give them words of encouragement.

    I too have been in your situation where I had just drifted off to sleep only to hear my youngest son crying because he was having a bad dream or wanted his mama. I am usually the one to get up no matter how much sleep or lack of sleep that I get because I stay home with him during the day.April 7, 2014 – 7:22 pmReplyCancel

    • Kristi Campbell - We really do all struggle in one way or another, and we share more commonality than differences, I think. The thing is, sometimes, I think bloggers get caught in thinking they need “niches” and while that’s true to an extent, it’s also meaningless because it’s all of our stories – the similar ones, and the different ones – that really bring us together in our uniqueness, in my opinion. Thanks so much for the visit and the comment!
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  • Kristi - Everyone has a story, and we can all learn from the stories of others. It sounds like you had a really great time, and I’m glad that things went well at home in your absence.
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  • Christine Carter - Oh this sounds SO AMAZING!!!!! I am so glad you got out of the house and took that big BIG courageous risk to leave the boys at home and let go of your motherhood job for this experience! SO grateful they did okay without you! I remember those days… and yes, just tonight I was out to dinner with my bestie from college, and Cade wouldn’t let go of me to leave and Cass was all “MOM! Don’t GO!!”- and I thought about them going to bed with my ‘love on me mom” and those nighttime routines that are so significant to them, and me.

    It’s good for us, really. And in the end, good for them too.

    I have heard so much about this… oh how I would LOVE to be a part of something so powerful!!! I am SO glad you are, Kristi. SO glad. XOApril 8, 2014 – 4:53 amReplyCancel

  • karen - Great post and so true…knowing you are not alone, that other mothers are just like you…even if all our kids are different…we are pretty much the same. We love our kids, but need time for ourselves, we need to be connected and feel
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  • Kate Coveny Hood - We’re so thankful for you!!April 8, 2014 – 3:23 pmReplyCancel

  • zoe - weren’t you the one who was so worried they might not want you to swear at this thing? Just Answer f*** yeah.April 8, 2014 – 5:31 pmReplyCancel

  • Lady Lilith - I also really enjoy the community aspect of blogging. I have made so many wonderful friends and contacts.April 9, 2014 – 12:22 amReplyCancel

  • Kimberly - It’s incredible right? You can read the stories, but to hear them from the mouths behind the actual words, you can feel them.
    It’s amazing.
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    • Kristi Campbell - YES YES YES, exactly what you said. I can’t wait to see yours on You Tube. I wish I lived close enough to come see your performance live because you’re going to be amazing.
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  • La Dale Reina Johnson - Saturday was so awesome! I’m still thinking back on the stories that made me laugh, and continue to make me laugh, and I’m so thankful for the stories that made me cry, as they made me feel like I wasn’t alone. That was one huge run on sentence to say I’m blessed, honored, and over the moon to be in the show with you and the other wonderful, awesome ladies!April 9, 2014 – 1:56 pmReplyCancel

  • Denise Farley - ….yeah but how many people say (draw out first syllable) “fuck me”? LOL

    There is power all around us. And you’ve reminded us.
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  • Rachel - I’m so glad you had fun, Kristi! And you got to have a happy ending to this story.April 11, 2014 – 1:27 pmReplyCancel

  • A Morning Grouch - I LOVE THIS. It’s so important to share stories, and to listen to them. Great post.April 18, 2014 – 12:13 amReplyCancel

  • A Morning Grouch - Also – sort of dumb but my jaw dropped a little at your “read them out loud” bit. Hah. SCARY THOUGHT …but yea.. maybe….April 18, 2014 – 12:14 amReplyCancel

What’s the big deal about autism?

What’s the big deal about autism and special needs anyway? Well, for one, according to the CDC, 1 in 68 children are on the autism spectrum, and 1 in 42 of them are boys. They also share data that says one in six (ONE IN SIX, friends!) children have some type of developmental delay. That’s […]

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  • Janine Huldie - Awareness and acceptance is truly what we all need and I think you are truly awesome, as well as amazing for all you have done to promote this. Seriously, Tucker is so lucky to have you and is just an mazing little boy, too! Hugs :)
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  • Sandy Ramsey - Aaaand, she does it again! You are a superhero! Don’t argue.
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  • don - Tucker is lucky to have you on his side!!

    It’ll be interesting to see what becomes of all these great little ones when they grow up, for sure. We all need to figure out a way to make sure their lives are meaningful. You’re a great mom, Kristi. You were given Tucker for a reason. Imagine if he’d been born to somebody who didn’t love him as much. That’s tough to think about I bet. You were made for each other.
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    • Kristi Campbell - It really will be interesting to see what becomes of them and how the world accepts them. I know it’s different now than it was when we were kids and they were all just in homes or whatever which seems really dumb but I guess it was the way it was. And thanks for the great mom and me being given Tucker for a reason stuff. I agree that it’d be awful for him to be born to a family of assholes.
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  • Robin - I just found your blog this week; congrats on your viral post. I was sucked into it. I too wonder what’s the deal? I too have a son, he’s 9 now, and has so many gifts. I was happily going about life aware of his super-strengths and weaknesses (and nut allergy also…), but in a label-less world, until late in 1st grade the school forced a label on us. As with any kid, some things they excel at, some thing are harder for them. But labels appear to be the only way they qualify for help in the US–and like you said, this is more the norm for boys, so why this is the case baffles me. Really look forward to joining your community of like-minded mamas….April 4, 2014 – 6:26 amReplyCancel

    • Kristi Campbell - Thanks huge, Robin!! The labels suck, but you’re right – they do help our kids to receive support so maybe the label doesn’t matter as much as the support? Gah, I don’t know. Tucker actually has an educational diagnosis of autism and his developmental pediatrician has reluctantly given him one so we could get better speech therapy but she’s said she “doesn’t know.” While that’s frustrating, I’m also trying to not let it bother me. If he gets speech and OT for his fine motor stuff, and we’re working on his social things…does the diagnosis matter?
      Thanks so much for the visit and the comment. I look forward to getting to know you better, too!
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  • Misty @ Meet the Cottons - you’re always so awesome!
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  • Tamara - I laughed at “Boob Man” and cried at “My Baby.”
    And he always will be..both, I guess, but the first is too icky to think about?
    Tucker is the luckiest boy in the world! To get you as his mom.
    I’m lucky enough to meet you and call you a friend, even an “in person” friend. Soon.
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    • Kristi Campbell - I’m lucky to call YOU a friend and hahah to him always being a boob man. Not sure how I feel about that but yeah, he’ll always be my baby for sure. Can’t wait to have “real” photos from YOU to put into a collage!!
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  • Michelle AKA Dribbles and Grits - I loved the post. I also love that someone with your attitude is writing for Autism Speaks. Once upon a time, the autistic community wasn’t too fond of them because they made autism look like a terminal disease. They used to at least. I’m glad they are getting with the program to have someone like you writing for them.

    I just had a friend on Facebook tell me that he swears autism is part of our evolution, that it’s making us better people. That the future will hold a society of Aspies as the norm. I honestly think that wouldn’t be a bad thing because most of the issues an Aspie deals with are coping in a world that is unlike them.
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    • Kristi Campbell - Michelle, Thank you – writing for them felt great, and the amount of shares the posts got felt great as well knowing that I’m for acceptance of autism. From what I understand, there is still some controversy about them and I know some people in the autistic community are still not fond of them, but they are the biggest autism organization that I’m aware of so…anyway, thanks! I appreciate the support and your kind words!
      That’s interesting that somebody told you that autism is part of our evolution. I’ve not heard that theory before!
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  • Kate (Shakespeare's Mom) - What an amazing post. I love the way you say that Tucker is your “definition of love.” Just the other day I was talking to a friend whose grandson has been diagnosed with autism, and I said that while of course it would present challenges for his parents and for him, that really what it means is that he just experiences the world differently than we do. And as you say, with the number of children being diagnosed increasing, we are all going to need to learn how to support and interact with them just like we would for anyone, with any life experience or perspective that differs from our own.
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    • Kristi Campbell - Kate – yes! Exactly what you said! An autism diagnosis is not the first thing parents want to hear from a doctor or an evaluator but you’re right – they just experience the world differently from the way we do. It’s not a bad thing and supporting them is so so important. Thanks huge for getting it! And congratulations on Scary Mommy!
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  • Kerri - Here’s what the big deal is about autism….it’s not about the autism it’s about acceptance. And that my friend is what you do so well. You advocate not for Tucker but for every child.
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  • karen - once again I am sobbing…what a beautiful post babe. “definition of love” is when I started crying and “my baby” made it worse.

    every child is so unique and different, every child has special abilities, skills, ways of learning, as a special education teacher and reading specialist it’s my job to learn how to adjust my lessons to fit them, not make them fit my lessons.
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    • Kristi Campbell - Sorry for making you cry, Karen!! You’re right that every child is unique and different and each deserves love and kindness. I adore the fact that you’re a special education teacher and reading specialist. I know I’ve told you that before but truly – such a great calling.
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  • That Girl Ryan - Does Tucker know he has THE BEST MOM ever? I can’t wait until you can show him all these posts one day. You are a rock star.

    I saw the excitement over your posts this week and I am thrilled for you. You deserve the recognition.

    PS: Where can I find the shirt, “Boob Man”? I will make it my life goal to have a boy one day to put him in that shirt.April 4, 2014 – 9:49 amReplyCancel

    • Kristi Campbell - Girl Ryan, Thank you sooo much! And re: the shirt “Boob Man” – I can’t remember where I got that one but I know there are funny ones at tshirthub.com. Tucker also had:
      I’m cuter than other babies
      I still live with my parents
      Lock up your daughters
      I suck, therefore I am
      Sucker
      and a onesie that said Recently Evicted. :D
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  • Kelly L McKenzie - Oh those pictures just say it all. They do. He is one very special little man. Love the “a friend” ones the most.
    Keep on fighting Kristi. Keep on fighting.
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  • Chris Carter - Oh that sweet boy!!!! I adore those pictures!!! Every child is different and has special needs. EVERY child. Truly. And all moms are called to their purpose to embrace not only their own children, but those of other moms- with both honor and respect for their unique place in this world.
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  • Jessica - My question is, why is this so common all of a sudden? Is it because of some environmental/chemical/whatever change or has it always been there and we just didn’t recognize it? If it’s the latter, than yay to people who are starting to figure this out. We should realize people’s brains all work differently, regardless. But if kids are having issues because of the former, I am concerned. I’m not saying these kids aren’t amazing and beautiful and special just like everyone else, but we should be concerned about what’s in our environment and how it affects us. I obviously lack the information to really understand this, but if you have any insight, I’d appreciate it. And either way, education and understanding are key to acceptance. Whatever the reason, we need to accept people as they are and give them the support they need to overcome any sort of hurdle in their lives. Great post, and awesome job keeping the conversations going on this. :)
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    • Kristi Campbell - Jessica,
      I don’t know the answer to that but there are theories of both an environmental change (some people believe vaccines are the problem – I’m not one of them), and ones that people are being diagnosed earlier and better. Honestly, I don’t have a clue why there are so many more being diagnosed, and I agree with you that it’s concerning and that we should – as a society – try to figure out what’s going on AND figure out the best way to support these kids moving forward.
      Thanks so much for all of your awesome sweet comments and encouragement, my friend.
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  • clark - So much of the world is personal and the biggest shame is that more people don’t understand that…really understand it, to the level that your reality is as real as any reality.
    I feel bad for the people who are only able to live in a reality as defined by others, fortunately for Tucker you are one of those people who know that the world that you know is the only important world and while that does not mean that we can wish for a million dollars or fly (without machinery), it does mean that the people in our lives are so, way better for our choice and strength in knowing the best world.
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    • Kristi Campbell - I love your words “your reality is as real as any reality,” Clark. Brilliant as always. Here’s to the worlds that we know being full of import and no doubt due to the Rogers and Scotts!!
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  • Dana - If I could sew, I would make you and Tucker matching super hero capes. Actually, I’d make them for everyone in Our Land – it will be the required uniform.
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  • Piper George - Until I became a mother I never really knew anything about autism – now I seem to know so many parents who have a child who is being/has been assessed. I don’t get why there seems to be more and more kids receiving a diagnosis these days. Is it because in years gone by we didn’t know what to diagnose and they were just labelled differently or because there are factors in our environment that are causing more issues or just because now we can recognise and work with children who need more help in one thing or another? I do know that these are just kids, and thats it. Loved, playful, learning, special, just like any other child.
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    • Kristi Campbell - Piper,
      Honestly, I’m not sure why there are more kids these days. There are differing theories out there, some lead to environment, some to vaccines, some to more appropriate and earlier diagnosis. I have no idea but yes you’re right – they’re just kids. thanks so much!
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  • Ruchira Khanna - Kerri talked about milestones today and I agree that these are just man made. We start each life by putting accelerator on his/her life. Gotta live life on your own terms and if such souls are daring to do that (tucker, boo andmany more) they brand them!

    I don’t agree with the above terms and am with ya!
    TGIF :) April 4, 2014 – 4:44 pmReplyCancel

  • Lisa @ Golden Spoons - I just love you! And Tucker! (Is that weird? – I don’t mean it to be weird!) Even thought I have never met him, I see his beauty and energy and personality through your words. I hope – I wish- that’s what others would see, too.
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    • Kristi Campbell - Lisa, HAHA no not weird. I feel the same way! I’m so grateful for you and the entire blogging community. Many nights it’s you guys who have saved me from sadness and loneliness. xo
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  • Teresa Kander - Awesome….I love the pics of Tucker showing who he REALLY is. And he is blessed to have you there to advocate for him.
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  • Tarana - He looks like an amazing kid, and that’s why we need Autism Awareness. So we can get to know him better. Love those pics!
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  • Stephanie Smith Sprenger - OK, your collage made me cry. In fact, I am having a hard time typing through my tears. xoApril 4, 2014 – 8:59 pmReplyCancel

  • Anna the Flutist - Why do “autism organizations” not listen to autistics? They have the personal experience and are therefore one of the most valuable resources of information.April 4, 2014 – 10:10 pmReplyCancel

  • Marcia @ Menopausal Mother - Tucker is all things beautiful. Such a lucky boy to have such a loving mom. The collage you did here is just amazing. It’s so cool to think one day he will look at all these amazing things you have written and shared about your journey with him, and he will be so proud to have you as his mother! XO
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  • Kat - Those who have never been the parent of a child on the autism spectrum can never truly understand the “big deal” about it. The most we can do is listen, try to understand and, above all, be supportive. You are obviously Tucker’s biggest supporter and trumpet your love for him to the hills. He is such a beautiful, lucky boy :)
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  • Kerith Stull - Love this. Truly touched my heart. And that one idea…. shouldn’t autism in boys be more of the norm now that the rate is so high… Wow. Never thought of it that way. Hate to think about autism being the norm, but it is an interesting thought indeed.
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  • Echo - Kristi, you are truly an inspiration. I don’t know how you do it. Tucker is so lucky to have you in his life, advocating and spreading awareness for him and all of the kids in the world.
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    • Kristi Campbell - Echo – I just read your post and talk about inspiration!! I’m totally inspired to go to the gym now. And honestly, Tucker deserves a world that will love and respect him. I just want to get a few people to not be so freaked out by the word autism, ya know? And thank you!!!
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  • Kenya G. Johnson - Love how you put the pics together. I’ll go share the article again just in case it didn’t take. It’s a new day anyway ;-)
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  • Lisa @ The Meaning of Me - You’re like the best mom ever, Kristi. The pictures are fantastic – Tucker is fantastic.
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  • BB - Seeing a generation of such fantastic parents rise up to confront the issues that developmentally disabled children face has been a true joy to me. Thank you for being an advocate for your son. Thank you for understanding him.

    It will make all the difference in his life.
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  • Katia - Ever since reading your post from last week (or was it a couple of weeks ago) where you’ve mentioned the “what’s your challenge” initiative, I’ve been thinking about autism differently. I think that the terminology “on the spectrum” implies that there’s an “us” and “them” and within “their spectrum” there are different shades and colours whereas “what’s your challenge” groups us all together, the way we should be. This week’s post just further solidifies this in a perfect blend of emotions and statistics.
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  • Kate Hall - I love those pictures – the Boob Man made me laugh. He is so precious. I just think it’s awesome how you’re raising awareness and being a voice for people who need to hear you, who need support. You rock!April 7, 2014 – 11:03 amReplyCancel

  • Kimberly - Boob man…hee hee.
    I had no idea that those statistics were incredibly high especially among the boys. My nephew is on the spectrum. It has taken years to get him tested (his mom was in denial that he had problems in development…which is totally understandable because it is a scary thing). He is such a beautiful soul…who does get a lot of flack for being “different”. No one knows his story or who he is as a person. It’s sad…but the ones who love him know :)
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  • Michelle - Congrats on the viral post – you deserve it! That was a great one! I always love what you write! And Tucker is an amazing kid…great things ahead for him!
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  • Rachel - I know I’ve written this before, but he’s very lucky to have you as his mom. You are such an advocate for him and for all kids with Autism.April 11, 2014 – 1:30 pmReplyCancel

Why spread autism awareness?

Whether you, or your child, have special needs, autism, a differing ability, or are typical in all of the typical ways, you, and your child are important. Worthy. Worthy of love, opinions, outbursts, understanding, empathy, forgiveness, and acceptance. Acceptance. In order to accept those that we may not fully understand, we must first be made […]

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  • Deb @ Urban Moo Cow - Super proud of you.
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  • Emily - Perfectly said and I am so proud of your 40K FB shares! Going to check out your other post right now!
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  • Janine Huldie - Very proud of you indeed and couldn’t agree more you nailed it hitting this one out of the park :)
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  • Jen Kehl - You are amazing. Just so….really breathtaking. I have watched this journey of your go from denial to acceptance so gracefully. And now to being the voice for so many moms who are scared and uncertain. I am so proud to know you, and know so many people are blessed when I share your words.
    TTTxinfinityApril 2, 2014 – 4:44 pmReplyCancel

    • Kristi Campbell - Wow. TTT x infinity right back at you, Jen. Thanks for being there for this journey, and thanks even more for getting it. I’m proud and blessed to know you and call you a friend.
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  • Cheairs - Beautiful….thank you!!April 2, 2014 – 5:04 pmReplyCancel

  • Dana - I am so proud to know you, Kristi – you are moving mountains with your words, my friend.
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  • Debra Cole - Such an important message. #Autism awareness.April 2, 2014 – 7:35 pmReplyCancel

  • Lisa @ Golden Spoons - So happy for you Kristi and so happy that your beautiful words are being shared with so many people. It WILL make a difference – YOU make a difference.
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  • Tamara - Heading there right now, my sweet!
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  • Krista - So happy to see your beautiful words shared with so many! Congratulations! Tucker is so lucky to have such an awesome mom! *hugs*April 2, 2014 – 10:02 pmReplyCancel

  • Angel The Alien - COngratulations on having your writing featured on Autism Speaks! I bet you’ll get lots of new readers now. :D
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  • Angel The Alien - I read your articles on the site just now and was going to comment, but the comments are loading slow as molasses, so I came back here. Great articles! I loved the one about the things you wish you knew about autism. I hope that helps a lot of parents who are first learning that their child may have autism, to realize that it isn’t the end of the world, and that they and their child can still have a great life.
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    • Kristi Campbell - Thanks for reading them both. I’m glad you liked them and I, too, hope that a parent is helped by the reminder that life will be beautiful even if it’s a bit different from what they planned on. And just as well you didn’t comment over there yesterday – something happened to their site and I saw some blog friends comments got “eaten” (and so did some of the FB shares which is such a bummer). Thanks again!
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  • Lizzi Rogers - *dancing with happiness and watching you CHANGE THE WORLD*

    Kid, I’d make you a star, but you ALREADY ARE ONE.April 2, 2014 – 10:16 pmReplyCancel

  • Linda Atwell - Out One Ear - AWESOME! Sharing. :-) April 2, 2014 – 11:04 pmReplyCancel

  • Stephanie Smith Sprenger - I am SO proud of you and thrilled that you’ve accomplished so much this week! Much love to you…April 3, 2014 – 1:28 amReplyCancel

  • Christine Carter - #Autism awareness. Kristi has such a powerful message.April 3, 2014 – 2:22 amReplyCancel

  • Jennifer Steck - I’m so glad that people are more open and willing to share such important information. It can make a difference and you are, Kristi. :)
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    • Kristi Campbell - I think people realizing that autism is different in every person and that, for parents, life will still be amazing would go a long way toward acceptance. Thanks so much for the encouragement, Jennifer!
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  • Jessica Herndon - Beautiful post, Kristi.April 3, 2014 – 7:40 amReplyCancel

  • Sandy Ramsey - Kristi, I never get tired of reading what you write. Your passion and strength are incredible and you know what? People hear you, they listen!! Every word you write is important and the way you do it, in a REAL and approachable way makes so much of a difference.
    I’m so proud of you and all the words you have put out there in the name of autism awareness! XX
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    • Kristi Campbell - Sandy – what an amazing compliment. Wow, thank you. I’m blown away and completely flattered. I hope people listen because Tucker, and everybody, deserves acceptance. Hopefully a few more people will stop and think before assuming something the next time they are in a situation where they may be thinking of judging. XO friend.
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  • Melissa @ Home on Deranged - One of the best parts of this piece for me was the notion that maybe, just maybe, we can lay off each other in the judgy department. If my kids are acting out, I have no doubt people are running a list in their head. I’ve been guilty of it. Doesn’t have to be that way, though.
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    • Kristi Campbell - Thanks Melissa. It’s really easy to judge and I think it’s really natural. However, since having Tucker, and having somebody call him weird, I’m committed to not judging others. Because the truth is, I don’t know their realities. Somebody being rude or bossy may have just found out she’s ill – or something.
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  • Jean Baldridge Yates - this is so exciting for you, congratulations! You are rocking it! Hug your son for me! April 3, 2014 – 11:03 amReplyCancel

  • Jennifer Anzin - Thank you for sharing. Love your blog too.April 3, 2014 – 11:37 amReplyCancel

  • Sarah - Thank you. Off to read now.
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  • Jodi Flaherty - So very proud of you and the spread of this so important message, Kristi! Congrats, and very well said!
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  • The Pink Roller Coaster - 40,000 Facebook shares?! Wow. You are doing important work, my friend. I’m so happy your writing is being shared with soooooooo many people! Congrats!
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  • Kelly L McKenzie - Amazing. Here’s to another 40K shares Kristi! I thank you for the reminder to not be so judgy and the need to say hello to both tired mom and child. Jumbo hugs for both you and the Tuckster.
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  • Jessica - I love these articles, Kristi! You are so right on. Everyone deserves to be heard and understood, especially those who don’t have the kind of voice that many may be able to understand. I bet these kids would be glad to know they have your voice! I was thinking about it the other day, and of my friends with boys, I think about half of them are on the spectrum (and yes, they are all very different). That’s just IRL, so not to mention the kids of parents I have “met” online. No doubt we need to talk about this — for understanding, for treatment, for possible prevention. This is a super important issue. Nice job, girl, and congrats!
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  • Michelle Liew - The world needs to learn to really, truly, embrace people for who they are.April 3, 2014 – 4:26 pmReplyCancel

  • Lizzy - Muddle-Headed Mamma - I totally agree with Lizzi’s comment here, Kristi … you are CHANGING things. Your writing is educating people (I know for a fact your blog has educated me) and helping your readers view things from a different perspective. And in helping your readers view things from a different perspective, in turn they will help their children to do so too so that maybe the next generation will be more empathetic and aware that their reality is not the only reality. That’s so fantastic that your posts got shared so many thousands of times! I’m sure your words will be read many hundreds of thousands of times in the future too. xx
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  • Dan Murphy - A wonderful, heart felt post.

    What really caught my attention? Your phrase, “Today. Tomorrow. This life.”

    That’s right, our understanding, caring, and advocacy needs to be for the long haul. Not just for World Autism Awareness Day.April 3, 2014 – 6:10 pmReplyCancel

  • Courtney Conover - This post was beyond moving, Kristi, and beautiful in every way. (I’ve come to expect nothing less from you. ;-)

    Super congrats on your posts being recognized by Autism Speaks!!

    You go, Girl! <3
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  • Mike - I just read your guest post and it was fantastic as always. As was this post too, Kristi. So very, very proud of you and Tucker always :)
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  • christine - Oh, Kristi. You are doing wonderful, positive, helpful things. I’m so glad your articles are getting such publicity. You have a great way of explaining your world to those of us who aren’t living your life. Rock on, Sister!
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  • Michelle - I have to read the post you wrote for them, I did read the 10 things one. All people are worthy…YES!
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  • A Morning Grouch - 40K??!! ROCKSTAR! Awesome post. Understanding each other’s struggles and stories is critical for less judgement, more connection. Awareness is needed . Thanks for sharing.April 18, 2014 – 12:18 amReplyCancel

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