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I can only remember a few times as a kid when my mom told us that we didn’t have to go to school because it was closed for snow. Back then, we waded through drifts of freezing flakes. Our feet were armed with a layer of socks, a newspaper bag, and moon boots. We carried […]

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  • Emily - I’ve heard DC can be wimpy with snow, although I’m starting to think NY is not far behind. My kids have had more snow days this year than I had during my whole childhood! Love your snow day activities – especially #2. I’m going to have to try that and duct tape all 3 of my boys, including their mouths.:)
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  • Sandy Ramsey - Good Lord! I’m so glad we don’t get snow in Florida! I have seen so many posts on Facebook lately about schools being closed and moms going crazy.I can’t even imagine. Hang in there, my friend!
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  • Tamara - Today I thought about making a snowman with a raised middle finger! Good, right? It wasn’t a snow day, though.
    I remember them being magical as a kid but can you imagine what it was like for my parents?? My dad still had to drive to work. My mom had to stay home with FIVE annoying kids. Holy cow. I feel claustrophobic just thinking about it.
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  • Lisa @ The Meaning of Me - I thought this was pretty entertaining, but you got me over the edge with pee-writing in the snow. Boy parents are so lucky! :D
    This is great. And yes, snow days are starting to grind my gears a bit, too. I’m with you on that thought that we closed school far less when we were kids…I think we just live in a much more litigious society.
    And now I’m off to finish my post (which pretty much means come up with an idea, bang it out, and go).
    XOXOMarch 5, 2015 – 11:20 pmReplyCancel

  • Mike - Your feelings on snow days seem to echo what a lot of parents say. It’s nice for one or two here and there…but several can really wreak havoc on parents jobs and schedules. Plus, the kids have those darn makeup days at the end when it’s summer. Maybe I’m not supposed to laugh but the duct taping is absolutely hysterical, Kristi!! One of the funniest pictures I accidentally never took because the two of us got caught in the moment. I made a snowman in the backyard. Phoenix just sat there 3 feet away, in the falling snow, staring at it and would not budge LOLOL!! Picture of you in a sun dress…yes please! Happy Friday and have a great weekend! :)
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  • Janine Huldie - Where were you this morning?! Seriously was a snow day here today and got to be honest so over it and just ready for spring already and no more snow.March 6, 2015 – 3:14 amReplyCancel

  • Ruchira Khanna - I hear ya, Kristi. When the kid is home…everything comes to a halt more so since we have to give him the priority!

    Totally get it!!

    Loved those ideas with snow, though!March 6, 2015 – 5:37 amReplyCancel

  • Lizzi Rogers - I like the beach toy snow. That was inspired. I remember once spending several hours making a sled for Neff from cardboard boxes and packing tape. It lasted two days but he LOVED it, and it took FUH EVAR to make.March 6, 2015 – 6:48 amReplyCancel

  • Nicki Gilbert - I think I need to send my 11-year-old to you! He is CRAVING snow (I don’t know why, he’s Californian with South African ancestry) and would LOVE every single activity you have mentioned. Especially writing his name with pee in the snow! (handwriting is difficult for him too). He could also be activity no 8… Sound good? ;)March 6, 2015 – 7:15 amReplyCancel

  • Allie - I love it – and I am playing Spiderman with my kids today!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! But seriously, how many days has it ben? I am so sorry – I would have completely lost it by now. Last year – when Atlanta shut down for a week – I literally put the kids in the car and head south(west). I had to get OUT!March 6, 2015 – 7:19 amReplyCancel

  • Lisa @ Golden Spoons - Ha! Well, I’ve got girls, so I can’t do the pee thing. They did, however, do lots of baking during our snow days/weeks. They also made a snow chair last week. Guess they were tired of snow men – so they went in a different direction!
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  • Elizabeth - Oh, I remember those snow days in D.C. when we would listen to the radio in the morning waiting for them to announce which counties were closing for the day. Even all those decades ago people complained that D.C. was wimpy. ;-)

    I remember we used to read a lot when cooped up at home, and played a lot of board games.

    Good luck my dear!
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  • Chris Carter - “Grinds my gears”… I’m TOTALLY stealing that phrase. LOVE IT!!

    Yes- I am so done with this winter and the snow days too. They throw me completely off and take away any semblence of normalcy, which in turn causes major flustering and flakiness over here too.

    I just can’t do one more. We should all have a “Wear your sundress day” just to bring a bit of FUN to our dreadful winter season that keeps hold on. Seriously- lets DO IT!!

    I suppose we will all have our winter gear on top of the dress, but hey- ;)
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  • Kirstenjill Hudkins Robbins - Your snowman oddly reminds me of Alfred Hitchcock. We had a below 30 day yesterday (south Texas) and it was so funny to watch people freak out over the “severe winter weather.” Texans are wimps. Stay warm!!! XOMarch 6, 2015 – 12:05 pmReplyCancel

  • April G - I’ve never had a snow day and on the few days I’ve been where it snowed, it was celebrated and all the kids went to school late. I’m sorry that you’ve spent so much time indoors. I would never have usd that much duct tape. I’m too cheap. LOL. Have a great weekend.
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  • Kim - I love the duct tape and the writing by peeing in the snow!!
    I hate snow and always deemed snow days as days we didn’t step foot outside. When the boys were little (3 & 5) we had a horrible winter and, of course, Chris was deployed. Luckily friends would come and take the boys out to play in the snow because they knew I wasn’t going to!!!
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  • Allison - You have NO IDEA how absolutely terrible NC is, friend. I mean, terrible. It rained last night and was 37 degrees so we were on a three hour delay this morning. Whuck?
    Anyways, peeing in the snow is so rewarding for my sons, too. In fact, they ask to go outside to pee, then come back in. Whatever. I will stay in and eat cookies.
    xo
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  • Michelle Liew - I wish there was a balance to the seasons….we melt here!March 6, 2015 – 2:16 pmReplyCancel

  • Anna Fitfunner - #8: Cage-Fighting Kids: put all kids in one room, lock the door, and let Nature take its course. Come back in 45 minutes with a mop, squeegee, and gauze bandages. Provides a tea break for 45 minutes, and a subdued mood for the rest of the day. Remember not to answer any follow up calls from CPS.

    #9: Driveway Shoveling Marathon: send kids (particularly overly energetic boys like mine) to elderly neighbors’ houses to shovel their driveway. Invent reason to return to your house. Check on the kids in 30 minute intervals. Usually good for at least 1-2 hours, plus earns you neighborhood brownie points.

    #10: Indoor Olympics: you are the judge and come up with multiple events. Examples: speedy trash pick up, running up and down stairs, put away laundry, eat vegetables (see what I did there!). Overall winner gets to choose favorite dish or dessert to eat (see #4 bake cookies for an idea!). If you make the events aerobic enough, kids may chill for an hour or two afterwards.

    Have fun!!!!March 6, 2015 – 3:46 pmReplyCancel

  • Dana - Peeing in the snow – I love it! I used to walk in the snow and make a huge “I Love Chris” message outside of my bedroom window so I could sit in my room and look at it like the lovesick teenager that I was.

    I made my kids shovel because I can.
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Some days, it’s hard to not bring the feelings from what’s going on outside – freezing rain mixing with piles of partially melted dingy snow – to the inside. Gray skies make Spring feel far away. While I know that it’ll come sooner than I want it to in the weeks that fly by, the […]

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  • Allie - Oh chica, we did it again!!!! Love this post and I agree about the cost of self righteousness. Ugh. I hate it in others, but I especially abhor it in myself! #nomoremommywars!February 26, 2015 – 10:02 pmReplyCancel

  • Kerri - I screwed up the link-up, again. Go figure. BUT I love this post. Serious love to you and the putting it out there that self-righteousness is too costly. Because it bites us in the ass every freaking time!
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  • Sarah - Yup. Exactly.

    You have your story and I have mine.
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  • Kelly L McKenzie - You know I just wish someone had said this to me when I had my first child 21 years ago. And then when I had my second 19 years ago. Honestly, looking back it really isn’t important whether they were breast fed for 2 months or 22 months. But man was it ever important then.
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  • Roshni - I wish people would just go back to the days of ‘if you don’t have anything good to say, don’t say anything’! Parents need support and understanding; they don’t need judgment and unsolicited advice.
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  • Nicki - Love this #Mommitment to end mom wars! Let’s be in it together, help one another, not criticize, judge, turn away from each other. Thank you for getting straight to it with your hugest heart and amazing words.

    And I’m allergic to cats too! :)
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  • Janine Huldie - Kristi, I very much agree that we moms are more alike then we are different in one huge essential way and that is that we absolutely love and adore our kids no matter what. And whatever choices we do make from the beginning and years to come, too is out of that love. So, beautifully said and couldn’t agree more!February 27, 2015 – 2:52 amReplyCancel

  • Christine Carter - Beautiful perspective, as ALWAYS right here. Kristi Rieger Campbell brings it once again…February 27, 2015 – 3:01 amReplyCancel

  • Mike - Obviously I have never been a participant nor “combatant” in mommy wars. But, I HAVE observed it from the sidelines working with females all of my life. And wowee have I learned a ton. On a bit of digression I often just make sure to stay as neutral as possible though still supporting my mommy friends. Remember, this is from a guy’s standpoint. Anyhooooo, that said, you really nailed it with this Kristi – “Being self righteous comes with a price”. Often a very high price. I haven’t walked a mile in anyone else’s shoes but my own. I’m applying that to mommy wars. I’m not being a jerk but women can sometimes be very catty. If that gets a boo-hiss, tomato throwing at me on the fence it was not meant to offend anyone. And in the end…when we/you/me/they are laying in that final bed before saying goodbye…all of that self-righteousness didn’t mean a gosh darn thing. More than likely it only brought on suffering to the self-righteous one. I hope this all came out right. FANTASTIC post or you wouldn’t have had this long response from me. Btw…I’m HIGHLY allergic to cats. And get this…dogs too. Yep! Love you dearest…always :)
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    • Kristi Campbell - Women can be horribly catty and you’re not being a jerk by saying that. At all. And sweets, it all came out just perfectly. Yikes to you being allergic to cats and DOGS! (me too a little bit but cats are worse)
      Thanks too for the reminder that when we’re laying in that final bed… sigh. Yes. You. Love you back times a kajillion.
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  • Kim - I so wish that we could end the Mommy Wars – so silly!!! When I had our fist son and got involved in a moms group I was blown away by the opinions of so many and the fact that they felt justified in “sharing” them with everyone.
    Even with my sister and sis-in-law I keep my opinions on babies and kids to myself unless they specifically ask for my advice/opinion about something.
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    • Kristi Campbell - I so vividly remember one of the early days mommy groups I joined. It was HORRIBLE. I mean seriously awful… People talking about things that should just be a mom’s decision. Like breastfeeding. I have an opinion and it’s strong but it’s based on my life ya know?
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  • Lizzi Rogers - My dear, we ALL have these stupid judgy moments, and they never turn out well. Sometimes all we can do is learn from them.February 27, 2015 – 7:25 amReplyCancel

  • Kenya G. Johnson - GIRL!!!!! You rocked finishing this sentence. This post was the BOMB? We are both off the same generation so I can say bomb right? I don’t know what the new word is. Anyway seriously this was a great post. The breastfeeding training nurses weren’t what I’d call very friendly about my lack of success. I wish I could go back and listen to my mommy intuition that breast feeding didn’t seem to be working for me. Christopher ended up back in the hospital dehydrated. I had no idea he wasn’t getting anything. Poor thing. But they allowed me to stay in the hospital with them to continue to breastfeed him and the supplemented him with a bottle every other time. Long story short he wasn’t getting anything from me. When I went to a check up with him and he had lost some weight only ounces off of 10 lbs but it seem drastic at the time, the nurse asked me how breastfeeding was going. I told her that I quit. No one told me to quit but I knew nothing was happening. But she acted like I should have gotten permission first and that it was so disappointing that I didn’t try harder. Oh I felt SO bad. I know you whole post wasn’t about this but just in general collectively we need to be more sensitive to one another about how we parent. I’m guilty too and you’ve opened my eyes. Maybe that nurse wasn’t trying to hurt my feelings and maybe I was overly sensitive but I wouldn’t ever want to make someone feel that way about anything.

    Speaking of bounce sheets – I couldn’t go down that aisle when I was pregnant. It took me years to be able to use them again without connecting them to the feeling of nausea.
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    • Kristi Campbell - Kenya!!! Really? For real? I felt like I was I dunno… like should have spent more time but your “GIRL!!!!” gave me gigantic grins and happies and um, wait, there’s a new word for BOMB?? Um, ok but I don’t know what it is and since you don’t either, I agree that our votes mean that BOMB is still the word for now and ever. Seriously though I’m so sorry you had those same jerks of the breastfeeding nurses. Between them and my own husband telling me maybe it was too big for the baby’s mouth (OMG because it did seem like it) and all of that??? Horrible!!! Tucker also went back to the hospital at 2 days because he’d lost weight. It did end up working out for us but it wasn’t as natural or whatever that I thought it would be.
      And that sucks about that nurse. For you and for all the new moms who have no clue!!! UGh to that. And bounce sheets are stinky. Here’s to us being nice(ish) because OMG to our son’s wives when they do everything wrong because they WILL ;)
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  • My Inner Chick - “”self righteousness people”

    One of my greatest pet peeves.

    My suggestion: take a long look in the mirror. You may find a many things you do not like.

    Have I told you lately that you are one of my favorite bloggers?

    Well.

    You. Are.

    xxx Kiss and Happy Weekend. Savor.February 27, 2015 – 7:48 amReplyCancel

  • Dana - Mommy wars are pointless, just like any other war. Who could the winner possibly be? Certainly not the children who are the reason we are mothers in the first place.

    I’d like to think I’m becoming less self- righteous as I get older. I’m trying, anyway.February 27, 2015 – 8:16 amReplyCancel

  • Ripped Jeans & Bifocals - This is something I so struggle with, internally. It is so much easier to focus on what someone is doing wrong versus what they are doing right…and to get wrapped up in how someone else is doing things when it really isn’t any of our business. Beautiful words and a beautiful reminder to go forward on this Friday and try to be a little kinder. Big hugs to you!February 27, 2015 – 11:47 amReplyCancel

  • Deb - Truth. xoFebruary 27, 2015 – 2:43 pmReplyCancel

  • Marcia @ Menopausal Mother - Sooooo true! My sister-in-law and I got along fine for years until we had kids. She was a workaholic and I was a stay-at-home mom. She thought breast feeding was disgusting and I breast fed all four of my kids. Needless to say, I really got tired of bring judged by her. We haven’t spoken to each other in three years because even though we both have grown children now, she was STILL judging my choices in parenting. I decided I didn’t need her negativity in my life.
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    • Kristi Campbell - Aw Marcia, I’m so sorry that you and your sister in law had such a disagreement about breast feeding. Such a fundamental part of parenting – the feeding of our kids. How we do it? It’s just up to us. Our lives. Our boobs. Our kids. Sigh. It sounds like you made the right choice to cut her out of your life although I’m sure that was horribly painful… i had to cut somebody out who was mean about Tucker not developing at the same pace as her own kid.
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  • Ruchira Khanna - I understand the eerie voices within you since we all wanna be the BEST parents but nah! we are not perfect, and our kids will not be.
    As we continue to learn and make mistakes, we can’t really say that this is the perfect solution to bringing up kids…since we all are different, and in a way that makes us all unique :)

    hugs!
    xoxoFebruary 27, 2015 – 5:51 pmReplyCancel

  • A. J. Goode - I love this! I remember being so sure about breastfeeding with my first baby and then caving in and using formula because I just couldn’t bear to listen to all of the people who kept telling me I was starving my baby. I got tired of defending myself and gave up.

    When I think back on those first few months of motherhood (tinged with a wee bit of PPD) I still feel so sad; all the pregnancy and “what to expect” books in the world can’t prepare a new mother for the mommy wars. And I don’t think any of those other mommies meant to be cruel. They all just thought they were right. I can only hope that, going forward, we can all remember to be a little more patient, a little more accepting of the fact sometimes different ways work for different people. We mommies need to build a support network, not a war zone.February 28, 2015 – 12:03 amReplyCancel

  • Anna Fitfunner - Yeah. Mommy Wars. I’ve always had problems with this. I’ve felt the aftershocks of the Mommy Wars, and they aren’t pretty. It would be wonderful to eliminate the nastiness that can arise in a community of Moms. I have to admit that I’m not sanguine about being able to completely eliminate it. Not sure why the dismissiveness can seem so pervasive, and not sure why we keep it going generation after generation. Kristi, I’m hoping that you’ll find an answer and be able to explain it to me…..

    (feeling reflective tonight…usually I just blow past these feelings, but not tonight)February 28, 2015 – 3:49 amReplyCancel

  • Bev - Beautiful response to the prompt. I sadly had heard lots about the mommy wars before I even became pregnant. Since I worked with families with young children before having children of my own, I came to understand how hard parenting is. Every day you are faced with a million choices and every day this little person’s (or people’s) life depends on what decisions you make. You will never know what is the “right” decision, but you do know what works for you and your family. Instead of tearing each other down and judging and criticizing, we should be recognizing how hard we all work every day to raise the best children we can. Thank you for sharing!February 28, 2015 – 7:32 amReplyCancel

  • Scott - I’ve never understood the mentality of women who attack other women for simply making different parenting choices. It just doesn’t make any sense.
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  • Elizabeth - Well said! I heard the other day the word “sanctimommy” and it seems like such a great word. It is sad that so many put that fear and doubt into sanctimonious behavior instead of just owning they are scared and not sure what to do.
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  • Tamara - It’s all so bewildering, isn’t it?
    Since Scarlet was a. happy surprise.. I thought I still had years before pregnancy and child-rearing. I knew nothing, and how much can you learn in nine months anyway? You learn all of everything from DOING it, and.. it’s still so exhausting and I know nothing. And I want to bean Cassidy, Des and Scarlet are sick, and oh god. Take me away!
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  • Katia - That feeling that you get when someone else had just expressed everything you were thinking and didn’t know you were and everything you would like to say in the most perfect way and better than you ever could. I love this SO much. The shoe size analogy with the numbers written in different languages was great. And before I even read the post I LOVED where you took this prompt. This was perfect, perfect, perfect. And amen.
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  • Jhanis - You know, what’s funny to me is that I never knew about the “mommy wars” when I was pregnant with my son up until I started reading blogs and became active in social media. I was out of the loop and perhaps that was better? Now, I think a lot if I’m parenting the right/wrong way. Messes me up! LOL
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  • Tarana Khan Siddiqi - Wish I’d heard about this movement sooner. Things rarely go as planned as far as being a mother is concerned, and nobody should be made to feel bad about the choices they made based on the support and resources they had.March 4, 2015 – 7:28 pmReplyCancel

  • Sarah | Thank You Honey - It is so funny looking back at how crazy you can become. I was a freak up till my son was 1 or 2 years old. Too funny.March 5, 2015 – 10:07 amReplyCancel

  • Stephanie Smith Sprenger - How did I miss this amazing post? Holy shit. That was really incredible. You are such an inspiration.March 5, 2015 – 10:13 pmReplyCancel

Today’s Our Land Series post was written by a woman that I think is brave and doing good good things for moms around the world. A few years ago, when my son Tucker was even younger than he is now, my husband Robert and I talked about him going to Afghanistan for six months in […]

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  • Mike - First and foremost, congratulations on parent.guide! I too attempted a long distance relationship/marriage with a flight attendant. Oh, it had all of the movie quality excitement and romance to it in the beginning but that wore thin soon. I share that because I get how you felt being apart from your husband. Those 3 days a month just don’t cut it. I’m trilled the three of you are together now and that you are building a social circle that is rich and rewarding. I know blogging has provided me with a fantastic friendship community to add to my day to face in person friendships. All of my best to you and your family, Jess! Thank you for sharing her with us, Kristi :)
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  • Lizzi Rogers - Oh Jess, I do feel for you, and I’m so glad that the internet, and your site, have managed to save the situation for you. What a wonderful endeavour to channel your expertise and loneliness into. I hope that (as I have) you discover lasting and genuine friendships online, and that they sustain you as you continue to navigate the less prosperous social grounds of your IRL community.

    Carry on, warrior!February 25, 2015 – 7:49 amReplyCancel

  • Nina - I can’t imagine being away from my husband that long! The longest we’ve been apart was seven days and it was rough! I’m glad they’re reunited, and it’s just too unfortunate that they couldn’t all stay together to begin with, but at least they’re in the same place now. I would’ve moved too, even if it meant starting over.
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  • Kim - Oh, such a hard situation! As the wife of a military pilot I have spent lots of time home along while my husband was gone (often in another country). I’m so happy that it worked out for you to move to Australia so y’all could be together again.
    I agree that it is much harder to make close friends as a mom and in certain places.
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  • Elizabeth - An excellent example of making amazing lemonade, lemon meringue pie, lemon curd, lemon cookies, and lemon tea from what life gave you. Well done! :-)
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  • Kenya G. Johnson - Wonderful post. I could relate some to the mini deployments my husband had when we were stationed in Japan. We didn’t have any children when we were there and even though we were stationed on base with other Americans it was still hard to establish a connection and especially when the women had children and I didn’t. Fast forwarding to to when living back in America and we had a four year old, my husband was deployed overseas. I laugh at remembering how many times my son inquired if that man was daddy. Sometimes I had to agree – wow that did look like daddy. But it made me stop going on base. Because we dropped my husband off on base to go to Iraq, my son thought Iraq was somewhere on base. Anyway that has nothing to do with your post – it just triggered a memory. I wished I had thought to blog my way through my experiences back then. I’m glad you made the discovery of your website to keep you sane and connected.
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  • Dana - What a tough decision that must have been for you and your husband – to spend the year apart, and then to move across the globe. I’m glad you are slowly finding friends in Australia, and that you’ve found an outlet through your website. Thanks for sharing your story!
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  • Anna Fitfunner - Hi Jess: it makes a lot of sense for you to reunite your family. Your son will regain his father, but I think that all of you will gain by exposure to a culture outside of the US. Someday you might come home, but for now your family is going through a wonderful adventure. Have fun!!!!February 25, 2015 – 4:59 pmReplyCancel

  • Emily - One of my good friends was in a similar situation. Her husband moved to Brazil for work, but she stayed in NY with her 2 young sons for 2 years. She finally ended up moving there. She thought it was only going to be for one year, but now they are about to embark on Year #5. This is supposed to be their last year there. They have all adjusted and are making the best of it, even though it will never be truly home for them. I think adventures and challenges like that can make a family more bonded and it can also help each person grow individually. The fact that you started Parent Guide is testament to that – I think it’s awesome you started that site!
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  • Sandy Ramsey - I cannot imagine either of those scenarios was an easy choice but I think you are right. The benefits for your son, having his father every day, make it worth it. It sounds like you are making the best of things and have really made something positive for yourself happen with parent.guide. I can’t wait to take a look at your site! Thank you for sharing your wonderful story!
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  • Roshni - Wow! Such a fascinating story! You definitely did the right thing by moving to be with your husband and you also turned your sense of isolation into such a positive venture! I do hope your friends’ circle has expanded or that you at least have some friends who you are close to!
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  • Tamara - So many tough decisions, but always honored by your family. Glad you reunited and found such an awesome outlet too. Before I got to the end I was thinking, “I hope she’s a blogger or other such writer because it really helps.”
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Rushed, always rushed, I stood in the checkout line. Shifting from foot to foot, glancing at the clock while precious seconds slipped away, I was annoyed that I once again chose the slow line. The woman in front of me had given the cashier the wrong brand of formula or something. An employee delivered the […]

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  • Kerri - Oh I love this, I love how you took that moment and made it more, more than it could have been. But not less than it should be. We all get frustrated, run late, get freaking pissed but if we try to balance those moments with understanding in compassion we will change the world. I JUST KNOW IT

    PS–my post is done and I will link up later tonight after I get that precious time with the girls :)
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  • Roshni - I definitely want to work more on my patience and understanding! Thank you for the reminder, Kristi!
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  • Kelly L McKenzie - I know. All it takes it just to place yourself in another person’s shoes. Sometimes it’s easier than other times. I found myself shouting at this poor confused woman crossing the street the other day. She was tottering through the crosswalk and I was running late and trying to turn left. Thank you for the reminder to wait, to be patient, to understand that she could be confused as to her direction, she might be short of breath or she…?February 19, 2015 – 2:42 pmReplyCancel

  • Mike - Terrific post as always, Kristi! I would have to say in the past many years there has only been one circumstance where I felt frantically rushed. That was when I was given 45 minutes to leave work (on my overtime days) to go pick up Phoenix from daycare and take him home on each of those days. This required driving to one opposite end of town to get him, to another opposite end to our house to drop him off and then back another opposite way to return to work. I had it down to a science time- wise but if there were a lot of “kids” being picked up it became a really close call. We can get written up if going over our breaktime on a habitual basis. I never did. So, over those 11 years I learned in all other circumstances to plan ahead time-wise so that I’m never in a hurry. I HATE feeling rushed and/or stressed about feeling rushed. Just this morning I was in the check out line at the grocery store and a very similar thing happened to me as you mentioned above. It was a great opportunity to people watch (I mean duh…all the hot moms shopping at that time..LOL) and talk up people in line about anything. I love your compassion, warmth, caring, sharing and insight always as all of us take something positive away from your posts each time. Love ya, Mike :)
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    • Kristi Campbell - Thanks Mike. Love back at you. I can imagine the stress in trying to get Phoenix home each day and getting back to work… so much of my own stress and lateness is due to my own “I can fit one more thing in” attitude (including 5 more minutes of sleep too often). You’re amazing. Tell me that you’re writing a #1000Speak post too?
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  • My Inner Chick - **I will remember that all of us are more alike than different**

    YES!

    Somebody asked me about what I’ve learned or experienced the most from knowing my African Pen-Pal and that is exactly what I said…

    “We are more alike than different, even from 10,000 miles away. We want the same things. We want & crave creativity. We want to be valued, respected, needed. But most of all, we want LOVE.”

    kisses and lots & lots of love from MN. xx
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  • Dana - You and I had similar approaches to this, Kristi. Compassion happens at the individual level, and we need to remember that we each make a difference. I’ll be linking up later tonight, but I couldn’t wait to start reading.
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  • Kenya G. Johnson - Somewhere along the line I completely missed that Feb 20th was United Nations World Day of Social Justice. I was wondering why that day was chosen. Duh me.

    Ever since this time last year where a too long visit in Walmart tested my patience, while I missed being a part of or witnessing a horrific accident I have slowed down on my attitude.

    It’s interesting how that accident changed me because I thought all the lives that were affected my someone speeding.

    I know that’s not what we are talking about here but your post triggered that thought.

    But yes ultimately I treat people the way I would want them to treat my son. I know someone who is goes out to eat a lot with the family. That person usually reports on Facebook some kind of dissatifaction with the service and “going off” on the wait staff. First of all I just wouldn’t ever do that, but secondly I wouldn’t do that in front of my children. You can’t teach compassion if you don’t have any. I hate to see children being a witness to that kind of behavior.February 19, 2015 – 5:22 pmReplyCancel

    • Kristi Campbell - Wow to the accident last year and it affecting you so much. I can see how that would happen though -it’s like missing the flight that crashes or something. I think about that stuff way too much I guess but hadn’t in a while until I read your comment. It’s that stuff that changes how we are and how we think. Wow.
      Here’s to treating people the way we want them to treat our sons. I think about that a lot too – and the person who goes off on the wait staff? I don’t think I’ve ever done that. I hope I never will. xoxo friend.
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  • Janine Huldie - Kristi, you truly said this so beautifully and perfectly. I have had many moments like this myself at the supermarket of all places and not proud of it, but you just gave me a great reminder for that next time. Seriously, I am so not a patient person by any means, but you just gave me hope that maybe I can be just a bit more. Thanks always, my friend!! ;)February 19, 2015 – 6:50 pmReplyCancel

  • Ruchira Khanna - I agree…gotta slow down and keep away from technology once in a while to be able to study the surroundings. We ought to behave as others would wanna treat us. Those cashier lines can sometimes drive me crazy, but then we all are different and that’s what makes our world spin…lol
    Happy Friday, KristiFebruary 19, 2015 – 7:01 pmReplyCancel

  • Anna Fitfunner - I’m thrilled to be part of #1000Speak, and its outpouring of compassion and support from some truly wonderful and gifted writers! Kristi Rieger Campbell – as always, thanks so much for your warmth and leadership in this community. You’ve grown to embody compassion, and I’ve always appreciated your mentorship but never more than today! Hugsssssss!!!! Lizzi Rogers — big props to you for envisioning this event, and making it into something truly special and newsworthy!February 19, 2015 – 8:10 pmReplyCancel

  • Sarah - Brian was homeless for a brief period during his “troubled youth” as I like to call it. What he learned from it was to always say ‘Hi’ to homeless people holding signs. One of the strongest memories of that time was how demeaning it was to be completely ignored. Make eye contact, say hi. A tiny, tiny action, but a compassionate, important one.
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    • Kristi Campbell - Brian was homeless for a while? Wow. That’s pretty intense although I know as I type those words that each of us live lives more intense than people would realize and that for us, they’re just the way things were. Still. Wow. I’m glad you told me and I’m glad that you said that making eye contact is important. xoxo
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  • Ivy Walker - The tedium of everyday stuff is where I fail in this the most…awesome post my friend!February 19, 2015 – 8:51 pmReplyCancel

  • Emily - My lack of blogging these days (and the fact that my kids are all on school break this week) has prevented me from producing any sort of post for this…I am going to tweet and share though and I hope you all know that I am 100% behind ALL of these compassionate voices!
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    • Kristi Campbell - You’re on school break this week?? I feel that!! We’ve had ONE DAY of school this week – the rest, including tomorrow – cancelled and UGH!!! I know you’re in 100% and if you decide that you do want to participate, the linkie is open until like 7am on Saturday. No pressure or anything though ;)
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  • Rudey - Each day we choose – awesome line! And, I particularly loved this: ” I’ll take the time to smile at a tired mother in a checkout line somewhere, and remember that each of us chooses the wrong brand, forgets our coupons completely, and has a story.” We all have our story and we are all so interconnected. Thank you for starting this wonderful project. I’m excited to be a part of it.

    #1000voices.
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  • Echo - I love this, Kristi! Even the most compassionate person has those moments. Moments like the one in the checkout line, I know I have. We just need to try to have more of our compassionate moments as well!
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  • Lizzi Rogers - Shoot. You made it so beautiful. And you tapped into so, so many of the things which wrench my heartstrings and make me feel as though nothing I ever do will be enough. That’s why I need the Village to grow – I need to know that more and more people are going to look after each other, and the people they meet in the day. My heart hurts too much not to TRY to inspire that.

    And you. You, with Our Land, and your determination to change the world for Tucker, and your beautiful writing, and your gorgeous, gorgeous shinybright soul. I love you :) <3February 20, 2015 – 12:43 amReplyCancel

  • Vidya Sury - Seeing through the eyes of compassion takes a LOT of practice, as I’ve learned the hard way, Kristi. Sometimes, in our own emergencies, everything else around us becomes hazy. One of the phrases my Mom was fond of repeating was “try walking in their shoes” and what hurt sometimes, was the fact that some people had no shoes. Deeply humbling.

    Hugs! Your “pledge” moved me to tears. Yes, I brought enough tissues along. Thank you. So thrilled today is also FTSF.
    Vidya Sury recently posted…Practising Compassion #1000SpeakMy ProfileFebruary 20, 2015 – 3:43 amReplyCancel

    • Kristi Campbell - You’re so right that during our own emergencies that other things become hazy. So right. But yes walking (or imagining) in other’s shoes is so important and yes humbling. Very. I’m so happy that this worked with FTSF as well my friend and that so many people are participating!! THank you!
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  • Christine Carter - This is just beautiful. I love how honest you are, and I could so so so easily picture ME in that check out line frustrated and annoyed. I’ve BEEN THERE. Countless times. I love that we are ALL in this together… and the more we unite under GOOD and things that truly MATTER… the more light will shine and illuminate the darkness. BRAVO for THIS, my precious friend. I love you so so much!! <3February 20, 2015 – 5:14 amReplyCancel

  • Rena McDaniel - Great post! Shared.
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  • Allie - Oh Kristi, I have been in the same line at the grocery store!!!!! And unfortunately, had the same reaction:(. I like myself better when I have compassion.
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  • Ana Lynn - Beautiful post Kristi, that touches on so many things that deserve more attention in today’s world. And we all have moments where compassion escapes us, but I do believe if more of us makes an honest effort to remember to be compassionate, we can slowly start to make a difference!
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  • Sandy Ramsey - Wow Kristi! This one really hits in the heart. I literally have chills right now after reading these words and I think so many people will feel the same way. You nailed it…all the things we think and feel in the rush of our busy days and busy lives. I am guilty of these things. This post makes me want to take a moment and remember that everyone has a story. Thank you so, so much for this. This is going down as one of my favorite posts of all time.
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  • Joy Christi - I’m there. I’m with you and crying through the posts, and struggling to remind myself that even though I cannot string words together in the beautiful manner that you do, my words are enough. My efforts are a start.
    Beautiful!
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  • Tracy Georges - This is the bomb-diggity Kristi. So many feels. :)February 20, 2015 – 11:19 amReplyCancel

  • christine - Seeing that I have 6 bottomless pits in my house, and I usually have the grocery shopping timed just right to get done and to pick up in time, I have been in that checkout line so, so, so many times. I used to get ridiculously frustrated. Now, I just don’t. I’ve learned that the speed of the line will not change because of my irritation. I’ve learned to stop and genuinely smile when the slow person gives me an apologetic look.Or chat with the teller who just likes to talk with her customers, even if it means a dip in her productivity.

    We absolutely choose. Every day, many times a day. I couldn’t agree with you more.
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    • Kristi Campbell - Aw Christine!!! We so do choose and had to chuckle at your six bottomless pits because yeah, my ONE means that my timing at the grocery store is often off. Here’s to realizing that the speed of the checkout line or the speed of life changes based on our lateness or our compassion, and to the giving of compassion.
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  • Dani Heart - Wow… I never thought it would be this big. So exciting. I can’t wait to read all the stories. I love it!February 20, 2015 – 12:53 pmReplyCancel

  • bostoncandylady - Thank you so much for letting us post links to our blogs here – I’ve really been enjoying going through some of these entries. And you inspired me to find some of the posts that didn’t have comments and add my own to them.

    May all beings be well, may all beings know peace.February 20, 2015 – 2:57 pmReplyCancel

  • Stephanie Smith Sprenger - Beautiful job, you. As usual, you managed to produce something beautiful and magical right on time. I think about this stuff all the time– thanks for putting it into words so perfectly. xoFebruary 20, 2015 – 3:10 pmReplyCancel

  • Marcia @ Blogitudes - Your “drop in the bucket” so matters here today, Kristi! Thank you for co-hosting the link-up. :) Thank you for your excellent post. Everything we do matters in one way or another. Your post is a great inspiration to really look around at those we see each day and really see them – to be more understanding of what they might be going through … and then to make a choice to do good and treat them with compassion (as you said). Excellent post … and thank you again for providing this link-up!
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  • Elizabeth - Lovely post as always, Kristi! Thank you for co-hosting this amazing event!
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  • Louise - Ah! Waiting in line at the checkout. The frustration of waiting in line at the checkout.

    And the need for perspective at times while doing so – very true.

    I love how you wrote this. And I love all the drops in the buckets that these posts are all making. So happy to be part of this movement.

    Also – I wanted to let you know I posted one of your pics from a previous #1000Speak post for my post with credit – hope that was okay. I thought it was beautiful (the people and the globe on yellow and how we’re gonna change the world!)
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  • Dani - There’s nothing more refreshing than honesty, transparency and heart, Kristi.

    Thank you for all 3.

    With blessings,
    Dani
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  • Valerie Newman - I had a grocery store experience similar to yours. Checking out the other line, making the wrong choice, waiting, waiting, shifting my weight from foot to foot, and the cashier said to me, “patience is a virtue.” She shut me right up. Your list of the things you’ll do everyday, the small things, are beautifully simple. Not always easy, but simple. So happy to be part of #1000SpeakFebruary 20, 2015 – 10:07 pmReplyCancel

  • Lisa @ The Meaning of Me - As always, I love the words I find here.
    True that we make choices every day about what we will see or not see, do or not do. Sometimes I feel guilty, though, when I want to do more, but simply can’t. In those cases, I at least offer a prayer for the person I’d like to help. Is it bad if I say I don’t get impatient in line? I don’t know why – I used to. Maybe it’s because I’m always the person making it take long for the people behind me. Do you have any idea how long it takes an ADHD mom with an ADHD kid to take care of grocery checkout? LONG. :D Anyway, for some reason, I don’t do it any more. I check out the magazines, I people watch, I play a game with Zilla. It could also be that I don’t feel quite as stressed and impatient since changing my job situation.
    Anyway, I’m exhausted and blathering.
    This is good – and I will make a conscious effort to choose to see more around me. That’s a promise.February 20, 2015 – 10:13 pmReplyCancel

  • Marcia @ Menopausal Mother - It makes my heart swell to see all of the writers in the link-up to share their stories of compassion. And I love your positivity in this post–thank you for helping to spread the word!
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  • Nicki - “…all of us are more alike than different.” YES! This is so perfect, Kristi, thank you. You always say it just right. Love you xx
    Nicki recently posted…A Lack of Compassion Can Be as Vulgar as an Excess of TearsMy ProfileFebruary 21, 2015 – 1:35 amReplyCancel

  • roweeee - Great to read your post on my journey through 1000 posts.
    I have had terrible trouble trying to get just a few items from the supermarket as I have been recovering from chemo and have a severe auto-immune disease. On an afternoon just like the one you described, a man pushed in front of me in the queue and when I spoke to him, he denied it. I then saw a staff member in the queue and told her that I was ill and she quickly ushered me through another checkout and as the man walked passed, he could see me getting with a disability permit. Am I supposed to have compassion for him?
    My post was about the compassion fatigue I’ve experienced trying to pick a topic for my post: https://beyondtheflow.wordpress.com/2015/02/20/compassion-fatigue-a-light-bulb-moment/
    xx RowenaFebruary 21, 2015 – 2:12 amReplyCancel

    • Kristi Campbell - I’m still reading through them and each one fills me with such hope and joy. People’s commitment to showing compassion in the ways that they can is inspiring. Sigh though to the man who pushed ahead of you. I suppose the answer is that you should have compassion for him because who knows what his day is (perhaps he has a loved one in ICU or something) but jeez it’s hard to have compassion for others when they are unkind. I’m sorry you had to deal with that.
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  • Elizabeth - I’ve stood in that checkout line as well. It is difficult to see beyond what is going on inside our own heads at times to see the people around us. I am trying to strengthen my compassion muscles to get better at truly seeing the people around me in my daily life.
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  • Serins - yes, helping is helping. That smile in the check out line may uplift someone. We don’t know their story.
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  • Kate (Shakespeare's Mom) - Beautifully written, Kristi. You continue to inspire me with your dedication to making the world a little bit brighter and a little bit more compassionate. Your passion for supporting and loving and understanding our fellow humans really comes through in your writing, not just in this post, but in so much of your work.
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  • Katia - This is why I love you so much, the ability to walk in the shoes of others, express it so beautifully and write straight into the heart. I loved what you said about treating yourself the way you want the world to treat Tucker. That really struck a chord bwith me. I’m going to remind myself of that sentence the next time I deprive myself of sleep, worry too much or think unkind thoughts of myself. I love you so much, my friend!February 21, 2015 – 6:05 pmReplyCancel

  • Tamara - I SO joined you – #127 and proud!
    I’ve had so many similar thoughts at the grocery store. Depends on the day really. So beautifully written as always. I mean, of course!!
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  • Galit Breen - Love this. Yes, compassion is, for sure, a choice.
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  • Kristi - We are more alike than different. Beautiful post. Here’s my little drop in the ocean: I’m sending good thoughts your way, hoping that everything is going well.
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  • Yvonne - Kristi, most people can relate to that scenario – certainly I can! And you are absolutely right that each day – each moment – we choose whether or not to see others, and what they might be going through. Only last night a friend said something about why a mutual friend of ours might do what he does that I sometimes take personally and I had not seen it the way she described before, but realised it made more sense than the story I was telling.

    I love all the intentions you have, and particularly this one:
    “I’ll treat myself the way that I’d like for people to treat my son.” It does start with us, yet so often we want others to treat us better than we treat ourselves.

    I love your post, your beautiful mind and that you made compassion your Finish the sentence Friday. Thank you!
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    • Kristi Campbell - Yvonne, you are an absolute rock star for getting this movement going and reaching and just YES. And yes – here’s to wanting to treat ourselves with as much kindness as we want the world to show our children. That. All of it. The heart and the beauty. Thank you for #100Speak and thank you for you.
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  • Allison - YES, this is my life. I make up stories all the time for the people I encounter…projecting something on to them. Honestly, it helps humanize the entire experience that is this stressed out, harried thing called life.
    And I am always late, but I always try to share.
    Thank you for this!
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  • Jackie @ The Courage In Me - Loved this so much! So profound and thought-provoking. Thank you! Oh and this: “That all of our stories matter. The ones we tell and the ones we keep to ourselves.” So so true.February 22, 2015 – 9:49 pmReplyCancel

  • jaklumen - Just a small marker to let you know I was here.

    I’m still so impressed by your clip in Tamara’s video. You were rockin’ the camera.
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  • Lisa Moskowitz Sadikman - Lovely and meaningful. All the stories matter and all the little efforts we make do matter. I’m still reading through #1000Speak essays and I swear, they keep lifting me up, these little efforts. xxFebruary 23, 2015 – 5:16 amReplyCancel

  • Jessica - I absolutely love this! These are the things we all need to try to do everyday. I feel like we’re all programmed to judge and compete, but it doesn’t have to be like that. With a little extra effort, we can all make life so much better. Love this compassion initiative! :)
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  • Vinita Bahl - Ah, Kristi, I have been a silent admirer of your writing. I love your style, it is very real to me. And so this post spoke in such a manner, too. It was deja vu, really. I almost pictured myself at the checkout counter. Yes, that would be the way I would have reacted, too. And then again, there are days that I freely give of my time, my compassion and my understanding. I am both, the good and the bad and also the ugly at times. But your words “Today, I’ll know that helping is helping, even when it feels like a drop in an ocean” provide solace. No, it ain’t my ticket to heaven, but all the same I can try to make a difference to a minuscule part of the earth. One of my fav posts for #1000Speak.February 24, 2015 – 3:16 amReplyCancel

  • Nina - Putting ourselves in other people’s shoes is a great way to extend compassion to others. I can’t imagine a world where we only think of ourselves with no regard for others. Every time someone annoys me, I think that that person is loved by someone else just as I love my own family and friends. Helps to bind us together and find something we have in common.
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  • Jhanis - I am so glad to be a part of this movement! I mean my son because he wrote for me for #1000Speak LOL
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  • Sarah | Thank You Honey - I love this & I love this movement! #1000Speak
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Today’s Our Land post was written by my fabulous friend Jill, of Ripped Jeans and Bifocals. Jill is hilarious and amazing. We’ve bonded over being slightly *ah hem* older moms who parent superhero kids and even though she claims to hate Uggs (who hates Uggs???), I still like her.  I’m positive that you will, too. Special […]

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  • Mike - Jill, you are an absolutely brilliant writer and thank you for sharing her with us here, Kristi! Under VERY different circumstances there could be a lot of humor in reading this but not when it’s at (adorably cute) Kyle’s expense. My heart breaks for him to have to go through this as I can not stand to see a child in pain. Re: “there’s my owie doctor” really tugged at my heart strings. From my computer chair reading this I think you are being a rock star mom and doing an absolutely fantastic job with him. Btw…your other son is just as adorable. Many kudos from me to you and a big blogger hug being sent your way! Many blessings for right and perfect improved health to Kyle every day forthcoming! :)
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  • Dana - You’re doing it right, Jill. You may be winging it (aren’t we all?) but you are doing it right. I got home 15 minutes ago from taking my 13 year old for his third HPV vaccination. He whined and moaned but he knows it’s for his own good. But little kids don’t know, and I can imagine how tough it is for you to put your little guy through the jabs and the tears. I feel for you!
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  • Lisa @ Golden Spoons - I’m going to tell you something that might make you fell better – or terrify the crap out of you that this may never stop – I have this same struggle with my 12 year old daughter. She has no special needs, but is terrified of doctors, dentists, and anything that resembles a medical setting. I once took her to get a flu shot, after dragging her out from under the exam table where she was in tornado drill position, it took me and two nurses to hold her down while a third nurse administered the shot. She was 8. More recently, before she started 6th grade, she had to have a state mandated TDAP booster. Full on panic attack!!! She was seriously swatting at the nurse, almost hyperventilating, and I had to practically sit on her so the nurse could give the shot. Oy! It was ridiculous. Long story to say – you are not alone my friend and I feel your pain!!
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  • Emily - I have a friend whose daughter has a huge phobia of needles and shots and she called me the other day asking me if she should lie about going to the doctor the next day because she knew her daughter would refuse to get in the car if she knew. Her daughter had already been to the doctor the day before for tests regarding her growth and it entailed needles and lots of people holding her down. I honestly didn’t know what to tell her. I think she ultimately decided to tell her daughter that they “might” need to go to the doctor tomorrow for a few more tests. It’s all so hard. I think we all need to “wing it” at times because there really is no right answer. I love your sense of humor though – I have found that when going through tough times, especially with our kids, that we need to keep the humor going. It’s the only way to stay sane!
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  • Lisa @ The Meaning of Me - I just discovered Jill’s blog this week and I am in love – because older moms. Duh.
    My Kidzilla doesn’t have a ton of medical issues (lots of others, but that’s another day) and things like shots, and the freaking blood pressure cuff of all things drive her absolutely crazy. I hate it.
    Jill, I love how you mix the honesty with humor – it’s about all we can do to keep on doing what we do.
    Thanks for a great post, ladies!February 17, 2015 – 5:55 pmReplyCancel

  • Elizabeth - An excellent post, telling so well the tension between doing what is right for them and making them miserable. You’re doing great, Mom!
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  • Kathleen O'Donnell - Can I just say how incredibly awesome it is that you’ve adopted a special needs child? I get all kinds of good feels just thinking about that. I’m adopted myself (special needs debatable) so I have a soft spot for those who adopt and those who are adopted. I also have a special needs granddaughter. So, you had me from the get go. I would dare say, you are doing it all so right. You’ve got to tell him. It’s not like blowing Santa’s cover or anything. This post cheered my soul.February 17, 2015 – 7:40 pmReplyCancel

  • Kenya G. Johnson - Me me me *raising hand for hating Uggs.

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    I wish I had some advice for Jill. Honestly for my sanity I’d continue waiting until the last possible moment to say what’s on the agenda. I don’t think that’s right are wrong and our babies still love us at the end of the day just because – it doesn’t matter what kind of day they’ve had, it matter that we’re there at the end of the day.

    Excellent post!
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  • Asd-Dr - I am so sorry you have all have to deal with this. If only there was a way to give inoculations without shots – some kind of nasal spray? I am hopeful that perhaps he is almost caught up on that part and won’t have many more to do. I will keep you all in my prayers.February 17, 2015 – 7:46 pmReplyCancel

  • Anna Fitfunner - Jill, as always I enjoy reading your work. You take what is obviously a difficult and emotionally draining experience for both Kyle and you, and make it seem … well, not amusing but perhaps bearable and human. It’s clear that Kyle is letting you know about his unhappiness, but it is also clear that Kyle trusts you to be a great parent, take care of him, and do what is right for him. Which is exactly what you are doing. “Winging it” looks good on you.February 17, 2015 – 9:19 pmReplyCancel

  • Janine Huldie - I think we moms are all just winging it and was feeling your pain while reading this, because my younger daughter from the time she was about 9 months old hated the doctor. She, literally, would have her whole face drop as soon as we would walk through the door at her pediatrician. It was like stage 5 meltdown once we got there and this would last right through to the end of the visit and the good old lollipop, too. Most recently, she was so very excited about being signed up for kindergarten until she heard she would need one more shot that she was missing. The waterworks came and was told that she wasn’t getting that shot. Still have until the summer for her to get it, but should be interesting when we close in on this though and will keep you posted.February 17, 2015 – 9:31 pmReplyCancel

  • Sandy Ramsey - Oh boy! The age old dilemna of ‘Am I doing it right?’ I’m still raising three out of five kids total and I still don’t have the answer. I will only say that I tell my kids that honesty is ALWAYS better than lying. There are consequences if you tell the truth but they will be far worse if you lie. That’s about the best I can do. I read what you write and I listen to how you talk about your children. Jill, I think you’re doing just fine. I wish it were easier for both of you when it can to the doctor appointments though. My heart goes out to you.
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  • Sarah - The constant conversations I have with my daughter about shots! She, too, has a pile (not nearly as good as plethora) of doctors, and they’re arranged in her mind into categories of ones who give shots and ones who don’t. There’s only one on the do column, but as her birthday is approaching, that visit is also approaching. The conversations, the conversations. Sometimes I think it’s all we ever talk about!
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  • Roshni AaMom - There’s really no good solution, is there?! I feel for him and I feel for you! I would feel like lying too but I also know that that would be a very bad idea.February 17, 2015 – 10:33 pmReplyCancel

  • David Rieger - What is it about Doctors with Kyle? Bad experience??

    I feel sure that not all his recent experiences have be bad – right?
    1. I don’t think kids can think far enough ahead to focus on a reward.
    2. The reward in itself suggests ‘having to endure something bad’ or there would be no necessity for a reward.
    3. The words ‘Doctor’ or ‘Reward’ now are probably automatic triggers for Kyle’s fear and behavior for something bad is about to happen.

    INSTEAD – – Try focusing with Kyle on the Doctor event and what is actually going to happen. Maybe re-live the last ‘good’ or non-eventful experience with a Doctor. How the purpose of a Doctor is to make him feel better, keep him healthy, or helps to avoid really nasty stuff. Recast ‘Doctor’ and don’t mention ‘Rewards’ ever. Maybe the Doc can tell him before each move what he’s going to do, and that he will never hurt him. Also, maybe the Doc can get him to laugh during the visit? Make the ‘treat’ an after-the-visit spontaneous thing between you and Kyle with no mention of what it’s for. Maybe Kyle will begin to think differently, and that ‘Doc visits are really ‘special times’ for Kyle.February 17, 2015 – 10:41 pmReplyCancel

  • Lizzi Rogers - Such a gorgeous, heartbreakingly frank post. Yet he knows that you’re to be trusted and you’re his favourite in the end. I think everyone wings it, and at least he’ll be healthy, even if it’s baffling and painful in the meantime. Rock on, mama :)February 17, 2015 – 11:37 pmReplyCancel

  • Kathleen O'Donnell - Kayla Mead you will relate, and love, this post.February 18, 2015 – 12:41 amReplyCancel

  • Seana Turner - I’m sending much love out to Jill. People who help children with physical and emotional struggles live a very difficult and selfless life. It’s a whole different world from raising a healthy child. It’s expensive, it’s time consuming, it’s draining, and it’s often isolating. Hang in there – you are doing it right!!
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  • Shay from Trashy Blog - It sounds like you’re doing an awesome job. No, scratch that. A fcking amazing job. Keep up the good work, Mom!
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  • Tamara - Yes, you’re doing it right.
    Although I hope you wouldn’t think my outfit is tacky! (it probably is)
    It’s a different world from raising a healthy child, and I have two of those, but the anxious mother side of me can at least see how vast those differences are, and how we all get sucked into the world of worry.
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  • Kerri - First I am so with you on the Uggs. No matter how Tom Brady tries, they will never look right to me.

    Can I say how much I get this post? Thankfully Bridget isn’t aware about the doctors. She just goes with the flow, even when it comes to blood work. BUT I get the winging it. I am surprised every day that this child who I have to physically hold down for tests will immediately jump into my arms for comfort. That she still loves and wants me when I have been a party to her torture is amazing.

    I don’t have the answer, I wish I did, to make it easier for all of you. Just know you are not alone and I hope that helps in some small way
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