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Why I’m Blogging Finding Ninee

When we first realized that my son Tucker has a speech and language delay, and that it may be autism, my heart broke a little bit.  I had to grieve and let go of my Imaginary Tucker.  The son that I’d imagined him to be.  After that initial sadness and grief, I wanted answers.  I wanted support.  I wanted to be part of a community of people like us.  We eventually learned that he’s most likely not autistic but is seriously behind his peers in expressive language.  I got online and looked for communities and blogs about similar situations and didn’t find anything but communities and blogs about autism.  And I didn’t feel like we belonged. I felt alone.

Finding Ninee is what I hope to be the start of our own community.  One where I can share my three-year old boy’s journeys through speech therapy, Applied Behavioral Analysis, school and everyday struggles and triumphs.  One where I can celebrate the beauty and joy of raising a perfect little person (because he is perfect).  Where I can vent my frustrations and where you might find something funny, too.

Tucker’s not typical.  And he’s not autistic.  He’s somewhere in the middle.  But that doesn’t mean that I have to struggle with this alone. We can build our own community, and my hope is that Finding Ninee is helping to do just that.  If my blog’s only result is that somebody laughed at one of my embarrassing stories or remembered to cherish a moment of timeless joy with her son, then it’s a success.

I suppose that most of all, I blog because writing is therapeutic and it helps me to talk about how badly I want Tucker’s gorgeous mouth to someday be able to more clearly form sentences.  Maybe he’ll tell me more about his airplanes. Maybe he’ll tell me about his day.  And maybe I’ll get to more clearly hear the words “I love you, Mommy.”  Wouldn’t that be wonderful.

  • admin - And really, look at that mouth. Is it BEAUTIFUL or what?!!?!?? Tis. Indeed…November 6, 2012 – 10:26 pmReplyCancel

    • Sara - It really IS a gorgeous mouth. He is quite stunning at times…
      (as is his mother, of course)November 8, 2012 – 3:34 pmReplyCancel

      • admin - Aww. Maybe it’s just hormones but I’m totally verklemped. Thank you Sara.
        Is that how to spell verklemped? Hm.November 13, 2012 – 10:47 amReplyCancel

  • Looking for Blue Sky - He is so handsome – wishing you the very best in building your community and I hope it helps him xxNovember 10, 2012 – 4:15 pmReplyCancel

    • admin - Thank you so much! I do, too.November 13, 2012 – 10:48 amReplyCancel

  • mdbc77 - when Patty began preschool, about two weeks after her third birthday, she had a very limited vocabulary. she may have had twenty words, if that. i had no idea what to expect for her in the way of educational gains. but, fast forward to age six and she has amazed us. sure, she’s not talking/socializing as well as the other kids in her class. but, who cares! one of the first graders stopped me in the hall this morning to tell me that she got a new kitten and named it sexy. i am super relieved that Patty does not use the word sexy!November 13, 2012 – 10:29 amReplyCancel

    • admin - HA! That’s too funny about being glad Patty doesn’t use the word sexy (and what little kid names a kitty “Sexy” anyway?
      I’m relieved to hear that your daughter has come so far. Is she in a typical class?
      Thank you so much for visiting the blog! I appreciate it and should mention that I get crazily ecstatic when I see that I have a new comment, and even more so when it’s from a new visitor! 🙂November 13, 2012 – 10:50 amReplyCancel

  • Jen - Stumbled on your blog this evening while googling info about my almost three-year-old little boy who sounds an awful lot like your Tucker. We have been with EI and speech therapy for almost a year now and like you, know that our sweet Logan is not typical, but also doesn’t quite fit the Autism spectrum. He too has language/social/emotional delay and I have felt like we don’t quite fit in anywhere right now. Just wanted to say thanks for your blog–it was just what this mom’s tender heart needed tonight.November 13, 2012 – 10:54 pmReplyCancel

    • admin - Hi Jen, I’m so happy to meet you and thank you HUGE for finding us and commenting. It’s frustrating (to say the least) to not have a diagnosis, but I believe there are probably lots of us…we just don’t know how to find one another.
      I’d love to hear more about your story if you feel like sharing it. When I started this, I thought I’d have a whole section on stories like ours…but then realized how hard it’d be to actually find one another. So thank you huge for the comment. And if we can compare notes on therapy or whatever, I’d love to…November 13, 2012 – 11:47 pmReplyCancel

      • admin - And the fact you found us through Google is awesome news as it means we’re finally a “real” website 😉November 13, 2012 – 11:56 pmReplyCancel

  • Important Site - When someone writes an piece of writing he/she keeps the thought of a user in his/her brain that how a user can be aware of it.
    Therefore that’s why this piece of writing is amazing. Thanks!March 30, 2013 – 2:26 amReplyCancel

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